Provider with picture giving the finger

[DMonDude]

1 hour ago, NYXboy said:

there is a difference between being old and showing your age.

1,000%. It's a mindset, not an age range.

49 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Why not just say you want a polite, smooth twink/jock who wears tighty whiteys? 

I don't understand the need to point out all the things one dislikes. It makes folks sound dull and close-minded. 

Soooo true. I've noticed this on hookup/dating apps, and even here. Just a lot of "no this, not that, don't look like that, don't act like this!" rather than "i like this this and that". The latter is both usually a shorter list and actually communicates to the target demographic you're trying to reach, where as the "no this, no that" list just makes someone come off like an unpleasant person to be around. @Mark_fl's comment, hopefully inadvertently, really makes him come off like a prude who has a lot of judgements about people who are sexually free (Which likely isn't the case, but that's how it reads), versus someone who simply appreciates subdued/subtle sexual aura.

1 hour ago, DunwoodyGuy said:

I AM old--and I'm STILL ALIVE--which means I've earned the right to tell you I don't give a flying f*ck if you think I'm "showing my age." It's my money, I've earned it, and I can spend it however I want. If I choose NOT to spend it on someone who thinks it's cool to stick his middle finger out, then to quote Miss Bessie Smith (I told you I was old!), "T'AINT NOBODY'S BIZNESS IF I DO." 

Go for it man. Literally no one said you can't or aren't allowed to spend your money how you like. But that doesn't change that i think it's a "Boomer" (this is a mindset more so than an age range) thing to be put off by and you have the right to do that, but i retain my right to poke fun at you for it 🤷‍♂️.

Edited 9 hours ago by DMonDude

[NYXboy]

59 minutes ago, DunwoodyGuy said:

Your comments and cartoon are ageist and offensive and I'm pretty sure a violation of board rules against personal attacks.

I would appreciate an apology and the deletion of your offensive personal attacks.

I didn't say "you are grandpa Simpson."

I said "you sound like grandpa Simpson". 

there is a difference between those two statements and you'd do well to learn it.  You also sound like you have ZERO sense of humor so must be great fun at parties! 

here is my apology: 

 

[Mark_fl]

16 minutes ago, DMonDude said:

 and actually communicates to the target demographic you're trying to reach, where as the "no this, no that" list just makes someone come off like an unpleasant person to be around. @Mark_fl's comment, hopefully inadvertently, really makes him come off like a prude who has a lot of judgements about people who are sexually free (Which likely isn't the case, but that's how it reads), versus someone who simply appreciates subdued/subtle sexual aura.

If showing preferences on a thread that was specifically about an online ad about what was a turnoff makes me a prude, fine.  I'll own it. I'll also make a notation. If I ever want my preferences judged by an internet stranger,  you'll be my first call. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

42 minutes ago, Mark_fl said:

But if being judgemental about other people's turn ons and offs makes you happy,  have at it.

You didn't list any "turn-ons;" only turn-offs. And you're far from the only one. 

Some guys on here want to hire a 23-year-old and then are scandalized when they portray themselves as a young person by sticking out their tongue or giving the finger. Then there's the constant harping about tattoos as if we're debating whether someone can be buried in a Jewish cemetery rather than fucking. Almost 50% of people under 50 have at least one tattoo - so they've dismissed half the providers based on something arbitrary and widespread.

I have four tattoos, none of which are visible when I'm dressed. I imagine meeting these guys, having a drink, they're into me and vice versa and then we start taking clothes off and they're horrified by my tattoos. It's funny to consider. It's also never happened. I see guys with tattoos that I find to be too much or ill-conceived, and that may play a role in my decision-making. But it's not a primary driver. 

[DunwoodyGuy]

[Danny-Darko]

For me, I've eventually come to terms with that for these younger generations, it really doesn't mean the insult it was for us in my and my parents days. Other things I've learned to accept and even fetishize are tattoos, which were taboo in my upbringing. I still struggle with things like piercings and draw the line at genital piercings. But I realize these are different times and these younger people have different values. Even word meanings have changed or don't carry the weight they once did. I still am offended by how younger gay men refer to themselves and the community as "Queer" and how some men get off on being called the F-slur "Fa@@ot"! But that is me. And though I'll never completely accept just whatever these younger generations make up or embrace, I am learning that things change even if I don't and can still keep my values and like what I like. 

Edited 3 hours ago by Danny-Darko

[NYXboy]

2 hours ago, Danny-Darko said:

For me, I've eventually come to terms with that for these younger generations, it really doesn't mean the insult it was for us in my and my parents days. Other things I've learned to accept and even fetishize are tattoos, which were taboo in my upbringing. I still struggle with things like piercings and draw the line at genital piercings. But I realize these are different times and these younger people have different values. Even word meanings have changed or don't carry the weight they once did. I still am offended by how younger gay men refer to themselves and the community as "Queer" and how some men get off on being called the F-slur "Fa@@ot"! But that is me. And though I'll never completely accept just whatever these younger generations make up or embrace, I am learning that things change even if I don't and can still keep my values and like what I like. 

id take all three, everything, everywhere, all at once.