Say Your Name

[liubit]

I always use my real first name with providers as well as with non-commercial hookups, and make it clear to them. Whether my partner gives me his name is entirely up to him, I don’t ask because I don’t really think it’s any of my business. 

[Whippoorwill]

I always use my real given and family names, cell phone number, and email. I find most (but not all) providers soon give their real name, age, and other details. I had one long term provider who had his diplomas/certificates hanging on the wall. It establishes a two way level of trust that I really like. I am not ashamed, you have no reason to be, we are both exposing our bodies and the most intimate details of our sex lives to each other, we are engaged in a business relationship involving mutual trust. It definitely increases the level of intimacy for me. 

 

[Kevin Slate]

I recently met with one provider I have seen periodically for over five years.  He's a well known porn star and I've known his real name all along.  I was surprised when he asked me to use his real name when I last saw him. He said that he uses his profile name to meet with people but once he walks in the door he's just himself.  He did say that if I preferred to use his porn and profile name that was fine with him but he invited me to use his real name in our conversations. I don't know how other providers feel about it.  

[Keenan]

On 6/9/2025 at 12:06 AM, FaustOust said:

However, I am not sure why, but after having established what seemed to be a connection with someone, I wanted to call them by their real name — rather than a pseudonym or a screen name.  

Is this a reasonable desire

It depends on the provider.  Some providers have other jobs, some providers don't want their families to know so they go by a pseudonym.  Keep in mind that providers are performers/entertainers providing a fantasy for their clients.  Knowing their real name and knowing more about them could kill the fantasy.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

When sending a gift to an escort (Christmas gift, for example) I'll ask what name he prefers it to be addressed to. 

But by the time we're exchanging Christmas gifts, he's pretty much given me his real name already.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I go with whatever name they’d prefer. If they have a name in their bio, I use that, if not, I ask early on what I should call them. Oddly because I pay electronically I almost always find out their full names. 
 

I use my initials when I reach out. Then once we meet I tell them my name. 

[DMonDude]

With how much more common it is for some of us to do business via CashApp/Venmo and particularly Zelle, which requires your real name and is not screen name based, now. I tend to know an escorts real name, and they mine, right from the first meeting. But we almost never actually call each other by our real names. I usually offer them calling me by my nickname (John instead of Johnathon for example) and i tend to stick with whatever their escort name is.

Some of the guys use their real name or a variation of their real name as their escort name though. I've noticed a lot of guys use their middle name as their escort first name. Some of the guys we kinda just stick to calling each other man/dude/bro and not really use names, kinda just happens naturally, we never make that a rule or anything.

Edited January 21 by DMonDude