Overly passive non-interactive escorts

[+ Just Chuck]

I need a term for overly passive non-interactive escorts.  I’ve run into a few of them. They’ll let you do whatever, but won’t take an active role.

• Want to fuck them, fine. But don’t expect any participation back from them.
• Want to suck their cock? Okay, but dont expect them to return the favor.
• Kissing, no. Or you might as well kiss a store mannequin.
• A conversation? Absolutely not.

Encounters with these escorts tend to be brief. “I’m here. Do what you want. Get off. And let me go.”

It’s a letter grade D performance in my book.  
I can imagine that these escorts are actually very conflicted about escorting. 

 

[+ JamesB]

3 hours ago, Just Chuck said:

I need a term for overly passive non-interactive escorts.

Unprofessionals?. 

[pubic_assistance]

7 hours ago, Just Chuck said:

I need a term for overly passive non-interactive escorts.  I’ve run into a few of them. They’ll let you do whatever, but won’t take an active role.

I dont think this phenomenon is reserved to escorts. I've actually run across this with hook ups. Dudes that just lay there while you fuck 'em. One was a Calvin Klein model who I always remember as the hottest guy I ever slept with and also simultaneously, the worst hookup I've ever had.

I always refer to these as a "dead lay".

[soloyo215]

13 hours ago, Just Chuck said:

I need a term for overly passive non-interactive escorts.  I’ve run into a few of them. They’ll let you do whatever, but won’t take an active role.

• Want to fuck them, fine. But don’t expect any participation back from them.
• Want to suck their cock? Okay, but dont expect them to return the favor.
• Kissing, no. Or you might as well kiss a store mannequin.
• A conversation? Absolutely not.

Encounters with these escorts tend to be brief. “I’m here. Do what you want. Get off. And let me go.”

It’s a letter grade D performance in my book.  
I can imagine that these escorts are actually very conflicted about escorting. 

 

I don't have a clever name for those, but reading your post makes me wonder if there is a market for that type of "service". What I'm thinking of is when I was young, the way some men approached me (sometimes offering me money, sometimes not) seems like they would have been happy with a person who can't care less because the client can't care less either (about interacting or what/how the person is doing). There are social hookups that seem to be similar, where one person or both don't necessarily have any interest in interacting with the other person.

In a provider/client setting, it's quite unprofessional to act that way if the provider is offering something and not delivering. Now we are stepping into not meeting clients' expectations. If that's the case, I'd also go with "unprofessionals", I like that term.

[+ Just Chuck]

I've read discussions on similar sites to this that cater to men who see female providers where they use an acronym for Illusion-of-Passion (IOP) and write reviews with a one-to-ten score for a provider.  These overly-passive providers would get a super-low IOP score.  It seems like a useful scoring method.

They also use a taking-care-of-business (TOB) score for just how easy it is to book, get to, meet, pay, and move on from a provider.  That also seems useful.

[sky]

On 6/7/2025 at 7:00 AM, Just Chuck said:

I need a term for overly passive non-interactive escorts.  I’ve run into a few of them. They’ll let you do whatever, but won’t take an active role.

• Want to fuck them, fine. But don’t expect any participation back from them.
• Want to suck their cock? Okay, but dont expect them to return the favor.
• Kissing, no. Or you might as well kiss a store mannequin.
• A conversation? Absolutely not.

Encounters with these escorts tend to be brief. “I’m here. Do what you want. Get off. And let me go.”

It’s a letter grade D performance in my book.  
I can imagine that these escorts are actually very conflicted about escorting. 

 

These escorts have a place, if all you want is to get off and go then they are providing that outlet.  With that said I wouldn't pay them as much as an escort wlling to engage in conversation and some reciprocation.  I see these escorts more as a "living sex doll".  Many of them are also high volume.

[Ali Gator]

My friend used to call these guys 'dead tunas'.  He would hire a hot guy, and the experience would go just as you described. He would say, 'It was like having a dead tuna in my bed.' 

I've had a number of incredibly hot escorts like this, and honestly, I don't mind it (usually they identify as straight or 'no speak English'). They are in it for the physical aspect, not the emotional / oral communication between two people - fine with me.

If they just want to lie back and let me pleasure them and enjoy them, I find it erotic in its own way. They're all mine for an hour and I can explore every inch of their body as I please. Verbal communication is brief, but their physical communication is sexy - seeing them lie ther with their head on the pillow and their eyes are closed, but their smile and 'moans and groans' really say so much. Then they will take my head in their hands and 'guide my head' where they want me to 'work on them' (their pecks, their nipples, their dick and balls). At that point, I like to reach up and feel their muscled arms while they're holding my head. That's communication to me. As we're finishing, I guide those hands to my dick to let them know I'm ready - and watching those muscled arms jerking me off sends me over the top.

[viewing ownly]

A provider shutting down conversation? That takes nerve. I only know of one provider that I had an interest in seeing who makes clear up-front to not talk to him, and that's "Adamexplorer" in Texas. He wants his hands (and ass) to do their thing on you, and for you to shut up and enjoy it. 

Who are we to judge the level of passiveness that one we hire has? So long as their undivided attention is with me, I don't care if they lay there like a lump or make blatantly fake sounds of enjoyment like I'm the best thing to them since buttered bread. The time of day you're seeing them might be why you are feeling that these men could offer more than just being a hole. 

[jackcali]

12 hours ago, viewing ownly said:

A provider shutting down conversation? That takes nerve.

I'm a talker by nature, so this would be a complete non-starter for me.  On the other hand, years ago I saw a provider I really liked who couldn't manage even the most basic conversation.  (It wasn't a language thing.  English was his only language.)  I found his attempts at conversation pathetic and annoying, but he was beautiful and the sex was amazing, so I learned not to talk at all.  The unexpected upside was that the sex went longer - thinking about (not talking was like thinking about baseball scores in terms of delaying orgasm.  Why I didn't adopt that as standard practice, I don't know.  At my current age, I need good conversation to fill out the hour.  

[Danny-Darko]

On 6/7/2025 at 7:00 AM, Just Chuck said:

I need a term for overly passive non-interactive escorts.  I’ve run into a few of them. They’ll let you do whatever, but won’t take an active role.

• Want to fuck them, fine. But don’t expect any participation back from them.
• Want to suck their cock? Okay, but dont expect them to return the favor.
• Kissing, no. Or you might as well kiss a store mannequin.
• A conversation? Absolutely not.

Encounters with these escorts tend to be brief. “I’m here. Do what you want. Get off. And let me go.”

It’s a letter grade D performance in my book.  
I can imagine that these escorts are actually very conflicted about escorting. 

 

For some of us, that works out just fine! I've been with several guys that were just like that and that is just how I wanted it! Power bottoms are a turn off for me. Can be hot in a videos, but not in real life. Different stokes for different folks! 

[dbar123]

Corpse-play is not my favorite mode either.

Vetting recommendations is so key when trying someone new

[+ ApexNomad]

Silence can be sexy—but apathy? Not so much. There’s a difference between being passive and being absent. I’m paying for the time spent with a human being, not a doorstop.

And as a bottom, if a provider’s whole vibe is “don’t talk, just take it”—fine. BUT, and this is a big BUT… then make it worth the silence. Dominance isn’t the same as disengagement. Otherwise, it’s not sex—it’s a sleep study.

[Trick]

I was thinking about this today. I was planning on going the opposite way and making a list of providers I’ve met who were interactive.  Those who gave a “sex with a boyfriend” experience as opposed to “sex with a corpse.”

[+ DrownedBoy]

I hired a guy like this once.

His ad said he was "420 friendly". He was way more than that - he just started rolling a blunt the moment he arrived, without asking me (I made him use my balcony).

The weed put him on his back on the floor. He wasn't even in a position to put an arm around me.

[+ Twinkluvr]

Perfect.