Be a little smarter with age shaving

[+ KensingtonHomo]

13 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Would you mind posting your own photo so we can dissect it too?

The OP's comments (and many others) were not only incorrect, but really shitty.

Of course you don't mind the comments: You're safely ensconced in front of your laptop, without any real skin in this game.  

Wake me when those photos get uploaded.

I have to agree with the general point here. One of my frustrations of being a member here is the frequency with which other clients tear apart providers' looks. 

Regardless of what we all look like IRL, we stay anonymous here. I can tell you all that I'm an attractive guy, but you don't have 20 pictures of me to examine and pick apart. Yet lots of guys on here are really harsh about the appearance of providers. 

It's just unnecessary. And you would not say any of this to their faces. So stop it.  

[CuriousByNature]

1 hour ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I have to agree with the general point here. One of my frustrations of being a member here is the frequency with which other clients tear apart providers' looks. 

Regardless of what we all look like IRL, we stay anonymous here. I can tell you all that I'm an attractive guy, but you don't have 20 pictures of me to examine and pick apart. Yet lots of guys on here are really harsh about the appearance of providers. 

It's just unnecessary. And you would not say any of this to their faces. So stop it.  

I wouldn't post a photo of myself because I'd first have to remove the paper bag from my head.  And so many people would be upset with me for that.... 🤣

[nate_sf]

Though there is a lot to like about this site, these kinds of threads are awful. Someone finds a guy on RM that they have an issue with, post some snarky comments, and then the mean girls pile on. All from the safe anonymity behind their screens. As @BenjaminNicholas observes, it's so wonder so few escorts participate here.

I find the dude really sexy, and like @whatdoidowiththisagain noted, to me he looks like a guy in his 20s. Not a twink, but a young man with a killer bod and a sweet smile. And who speaks three languages! I couldn't understand all the age-shaving comments, they just didn't make sense to me.

There was another escort who used to post here regularly, who actually padded his age because people kept telling him he carried himself older and he liked the idea of being considered a bit older and more mature. I believe he was in his early 20s but listed his age as late 20s.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

13 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

We celebrate bodies, but we rarely sit still long enough to celebrate souls. We scroll, we swipe, we perform — but intimacy? Vulnerability? That’s where so many of us flinch.

I think, generally speaking, gay men have developed an aversion to intimacy. Maybe it’s the trauma we carry. The shame we were taught. Or the fear of being truly seen.

But as I get older, I’m realizing I don’t want more sex. I want more truth.

I've been with my husband for over 23 years. Intimacy is the opposite of sexual objectification. A common theme on here is that clients want a hyper-specific look, body, face, etc. I can't help but wonder if that exacting idea of beauty is carried over into their non-hiring lives. 

I have a millennial friend who is very good-looking and in good shape - a very cute otter type. He cannot get past a first date. He can have sex when he wants it, but he cannot find intimacy. When I hear people in their 20s and 30s talk about dating today, I want to run screaming into the streets. The ghosting, the passive-aggressiveness, and just flakiness that I believe is fueled mostly by technology eroding social norms, would be too much for me. 

That's the environment he's operating in. And, he is a 32-year-old man who mostly finds twinks who are 22-25 to be the sexually exciting type. Generally, those people are not ready for an intimate, enduring relationship. 

Men who prize beauty, muscle, and youth above personality, humor, and trust are not only setting themselves up to be dissatisfied with their partners but also to increasingly find themselves wanting as they age. We think we need sexual attraction, and that will lead to intimacy. That can happen. But many guys hit the eject button when the attraction starts to wane. 

For me, and others in multi-decade relationships, what I find to be true is that both attraction waxes and wanes over time, but intimacy grows. Intimacy can make your partner far hotter in their 50s than in their 20s or 30s. 

[LookingAround]

There is such widespread dehumanizing of escorts on this site and this thread, in particular, IMHO, exemplifies it. 

Also, mixed with the dehumanizing of escorts, is the narcissistic preening ("I've ALWAYS looked younger than my age even though I'm now in my 50's"). This kind of self-congratulatory wallowing in narcissism deserves some objective evaluation I suggest. I think people who post such remarks should be the first to have to post their face and body  photos and have the community as a whole comment on them as we have taken apart this escort's photos. I mean, it's only fair, don't you think?

Edited May 17 by LookingAround

[Cretus]

 I’ve come to expect nothing more from certain people on here (whose nasty behavior can be seen in other threads as well).

Edited May 17 by Cretus

[Oakman]

Age shaving in a RM profile probably has much less to do with a provider’s delusion about their actual age, and more to do with gaming the RM filter settings so they’ll show up in more searches. 

I would never expect an RM profile to have truly accurate information regarding age, height, or dick size. I’m perfectly willing to go along with whatever fantasy the provider is attempting to market, assuming they have impressive photos and an intelligent bio. 
 

Personally, I’ve never been impressed by or attracted to men who are obsessed with skincare routines and avoiding the signs of aging. Confidence is sexy.

[MuscSami]

I think to me what was so crazy is that I probably meet 3 or 4 people per week. I have done for about half a year. Not a single one has mentioned my age, they haven’t in passing as an “I can’t believe it”. Neither because they feel lied to. Maybe that’s because the ones who believe I am simply pass over. They say nothing. I also genuinely didn’t think it was an issue, I find age to be somewhat unimportant against how someone looks. If you like younger guy, and like them in a way that can be transported across the screen it must be because of their appearance. If they look 23 but are 33 are you going to pass over? Maybe not. At the end of the day a provider, well provides… if they haven’t provided to you it’s a bit odd to talk about it as though it’s an experience you have had. There is also a difference between saying:

hmm, how old would you say he is?

 And something like:

 wow check out this delusional queen thinks he’s something shaving this many years off his grizzled body, does he think we’re stupid or is he just living in cloud cuckoo land?

 The mean spiritedness is what turns providers away. It’s bad enough being treated like we’re articles in a catalogue book, but this level of cuntitude, really exceeds expectations.

[LookingAround]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

I'm 54.

I genuinely thought he was OLDER than men.

I wasn't just trying to be a bitch...I was serious. I assumed he was, as the conversation started, REALLLLY shaving a LOT from his stated age.

Just goes to show that how you treat your body, is how your body treats you.

I hour ago, MuscSami said:

"The mean spiritedness is what turns providers away. It’s bad enough being treated like we’re articles in a catalogue book, but this level of cuntitude, really exceeds expectations."

I think there is a disconnect here with genuine "mean spiritedness" and the fact that the industry in which you work is a total MEAT MARKET.YES..you are paraded out like cattle to be poked and prodded, visually, emotionally and spiritually. Only the strong survive.  It's a rough industry and those who DO manage to keep their business going deserve respect. I admire that you put yourself out there looking like you do. I would never hire you, but I'm sure plenty of other men will. That's the funny thing about looks. One man's garbage is another man's gold standard. My opinions are just MY opinions..and I never said anything about attractive/not attractive. So to be clear: I didn't say you were UNattractive....Just that you looks MUCH MUCH older than your 25 years. So I don't think making an honest assessment of visuals is "cuntiness". It's an OPINION. Don't like opinions about your looks ? Don't advertise as an escort. It's just part of the business. I'm happy that you're finding men who appreciate a mature look on a young fresh buck.

You just can't stop digging can you. Your posts and opinions are far more unattractive than any photos posted by any escort being discussed. 

Edited May 17 by LookingAround

[MuscSami]

 

1. Civility: Conduct yourself in a way that respects this site and all who come here. Hate speech/hateful speech, name-calling/labelling, inciting or engaging in arguments, publicly shaming, and attacking other members, groups of members, or people who are the topic of discussion is prohibited. Remember: you may criticize a person's opinion but don't attack the person.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

I'm 54.

I genuinely thought he was OLDER than men.

I wasn't just trying to be a bitch...I was serious. I assumed he was, as the conversation started, REALLLLY shaving a LOT from his stated age.

Just goes to show that how you treat your body, is how your body treats you.

How difficult is it to just say 'I was wrong.  I'm sorry about that.'

Be a fucking man.  Own when you're wrong.  It's not difficult.

[MuscSami]

This guy also claims to have a different opinion about whether or not a child was raped. Different thread but same day. 

[Cretus]

Recall - some folks were mad about what I was pointing out in the KaiJohansson thread  😂

Edited May 17 by Cretus

[MuscSami]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

I admire that you put yourself out there looking like you do.

I mean come on… 

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

It's just part of the business.

For you to say this is like saying you’re clued up on the bar business because you drink at your local on a Friday.

[MikeBiDude]

Moderator warning: this is quickly turning into an “not civil” tit-for-tat about other poster’s and their posts. Back to topic on age shaving.

[Cretus]

If I may @MikeBiDude, I think some avenue of reproach was important here. 
 

Going “back to the topic on age shaving” might mean these unrepentant, vile, morally ugly individuals can continue to pile on and insult an innocent provider- something which is not only bad, but as @MuscSami pointed out, against the rules of the forum.

I would suggest closing the topic entirely, if the goal is to prevent a tit-for-tat (which was motivated by uncalled-for, inaccurate, and hurtful statements by longstanding members of CoM).

Edited May 17 by Cretus

[+ ApexNomad]

6 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I've been with my husband for over 23 years. Intimacy is the opposite of sexual objectification. A common theme on here is that clients want a hyper-specific look, body, face, etc. I can't help but wonder if that exacting idea of beauty is carried over into their non-hiring lives. 

I have a millennial friend who is very good-looking and in good shape - a very cute otter type. He cannot get past a first date. He can have sex when he wants it, but he cannot find intimacy. When I hear people in their 20s and 30s talk about dating today, I want to run screaming into the streets. The ghosting, the passive-aggressiveness, and just flakiness that I believe is fueled mostly by technology eroding social norms, would be too much for me. 

That's the environment he's operating in. And, he is a 32-year-old man who mostly finds twinks who are 22-25 to be the sexually exciting type. Generally, those people are not ready for an intimate, enduring relationship. 

Men who prize beauty, muscle, and youth above personality, humor, and trust are not only setting themselves up to be dissatisfied with their partners but also to increasingly find themselves wanting as they age. We think we need sexual attraction, and that will lead to intimacy. That can happen. But many guys hit the eject button when the attraction starts to wane. 

For me, and others in multi-decade relationships, what I find to be true is that both attraction waxes and wanes over time, but intimacy grows. Intimacy can make your partner far hotter in their 50s than in their 20s or 30s. 

Beautifully said. I think you’re spot on about how tech and dating app culture have rewired expectations—turning people into filters, stats, and swipes rather than complex, evolving humans. After losing my husband, I feel completely lost at times in this new tech era. I personally would not want to meet men the way the youth of today appear to be doing so. But that’s a separate topic. It’s heartbreaking to see intimacy treated like a byproduct of physical perfection, rather than something earned through vulnerability, time, and trust.

I’ve also seen how attraction can deepen with emotional connection. You’re right—it requires patience, maturity, and an understanding that beauty shifts over time. The irony is, so many chase youth and “type,” only to find themselves lonelier and more disillusioned the longer they do.

Your friend’s situation reflects a broader cultural problem, not a personal failing. We talk a lot about chemistry, but not enough about compatibility or emotional safety—and those are the foundations of the kind of intimacy I think you’re describing. I wish more people realized that hot fades, but home gets sexier.

[MuscSami]

This thread began uncivilised, it continued to directly take shots at me. Someone who at the time was not part of this forum.

 Those members continued to take digs at me directly even when evidence was presented to the contrary. Even when it is against the rules.

The point of this forum I thought was to share experiences with providers. They never met me to know. So it was off topic in that sense from the beginning. Even if you ignore everything else.

[Dicastri]

1 minute ago, MuscSami said:

This thread began uncivilised, it continued to directly take shots at me. Someone who at the time was not part of this forum.

 Those members continued to take digs at me directly even when evidence was presented to the contrary. Even when it is against the rules.

The point of this forum I thought was to share experiences with providers. They never met me to know. So it was off topic in that sense from the beginning. Even if you ignore everything else.

I have to agree here. There are clearly bad actors who started with nastiness and cruelty .

[MikeBiDude]

6 minutes ago, Cretus said:

Going “back to the topic on age shaving” might mean these unrepentant, vile, morally ugly individuals can continue to pile on and insult an innocent provider-

2 minutes ago, MuscSami said:

Even when it is against the rules

If there is a post that breaks the rules, please feel free to report it. Then all of the moderators are able to review and decide on an action.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

It's telling that the op @Quincy_7 hasn't come back to the discussion. 

Y'know...  The discussion he started with false information.

And neither have a lot of the first-page shit talkers.

Weak.

[Cretus]

I actually hope this thread isn’t deleted. Somebody archive all of this. 
 

I love your body, face, and skin @MuscSami. I’ve buddy listed you in case you’re ever in NYC.

Edited May 17 by Cretus

[+ ApexNomad]

3 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

It's telling that the op @Quincy_7 hasn't come back to the discussion. 

Y'know...  The discussion he started with false information.

And neither have a lot of the first-page shit talkers.

Weak.

You’re so hot and you’re not even trying. 👏

[+ azdr0710]

3.....2.....1.....

[Cretus]

Screen recorded it all- in case the creator of the thread wants to punk out and delete the thread.

 

Edited May 17 by Cretus