Music or No Music during sex?

[jeezifonly]

If you have never climaxed to Puccini, I feel sad for you. 

[Stormy]

Must have music.  Beethoven 5th symphony is a good choice 

[KrisParr]

Seriously? This many posts without mentioning Bolero? Or O Fortuna! Libertango! 

[liubit]

Verdi’s Va, pensiero 

[Rod Hagen]

Music during nearly everything, but only my painstakingly curated playlists.

The only thing I feel more strongly about than the music I love, is the music I hate.

Edited February 4 by Rod Hagen

[pubic_assistance]

56 minutes ago, Rod Hagen said:

Music during nearly everything, but only my painstakingly curated playlists.

The only thing I feel more strongly about than the music I love, is the music I hate.

I am in full agreement with this statement.

Bad Music can definitely dampen any good vibes at any occasion.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Music distracts me. I play it loud only when I have to hide the moaning and other noises. 

[LaffingBear]

Somehow, Najee Morning Tenderness became the album of my choice.  Long ago enough that the CD stayed in my bedroom for the clock radio with CD player.

Relevant to the rentguy activity... long ago, my routine at hiring was to start the 60-minute sleep timer music on the clock radio in my hotel room as I started an hour session.   

I hired a Vegas masseur who brought his own music.  He definitely had a routine.  It was a satisfactory experience; I felt as if his massage was timed to his music choice... the music's end and the massage ending were impressively close to simultaneous.

Edited February 4 by LaffingBear

[+ azdr0710]

very sexy music, but try to make your session last longer than 7:44.........

 

Edited February 6 by azdr0710

[Guest]

On 2/4/2025 at 10:49 AM, Rod Hagen said:

Music during nearly everything, but only my painstakingly curated playlists.

The only thing I feel more strongly about than the music I love, is the music I hate.

What kind of playlists?

[Rod Hagen]

2 hours ago, Angel-Ayy said:

What kind of playlists?

Thank you for asking, it was a bit too cute of me to say I have playlists, and then say nothing more.

My crowning achievement (obviously I have a low bar for that expression) is  a Snowboard Playlist, which I've built and curated since the late 90s when .mp3 first became a thing.  I also use it for swimming and mountain biking (but not climbing, the rhythm is wrong for methodical, non-propulsive, sports). 

I have a sleep playlist which I play in the rare instance I wake up and can't fall back to sleep easily or I suspect falling asleep may be a problem (due to intrusive thoughts).

I have a playlist that is nothing but my favorite Godspeed you Black Emperor, Sigur Ros, and Explosions in the Sky songs.  It's something I Shuffle when I'm feeling profound.  It's also something I often feel compelled to absorb while on international flights, I'm not sure why.

As I mentioned above, there is a sex playlist.  I can count on one hand the number of times I've played the play list during sex, my taste doesn't match up well with the musical tastes of other men who enjoy gay sex.  But it's nice to play alone before the act, to amplify my mood.

In the '70s, '80s, and the '90s, my musical tastes aligned well with fellow Gays.  That hasn't been the case since about 2000.

Naturally, a Classical music playlist which is largely Mozart, but also Bach and Rachmaninov and others.

Lastly, 7 years ago I assembled a Dennis Cooper playlist.   I deeply respect his film and music and literature tastes, and I know music is something he takes seriously.  So, I took a deep dive into his blog and found 96 songs he loves.  I love them too!  

There's a small bit of duplication, it's strange that a song can be good for Mountain Biking, yet good for sex too.  Overall, there is very little overlap between my playlists.

In multiple threads I have posted youtube links to many of the songs from several of these lists; they are my babies.

 

Edited February 6 by Rod Hagen

[ICTJOCK]

When I'm with a client,  we do what he prefers.    Most of the time there is little music or something very subtle.  

For me personally, music can enhance or distract from the mood at hand.   The atmosphere and scene also makes a difference.

Music can also help create or advance an intense session if done correctly.    I would never rule it in  or out!

[DznNYC]

I had a client this weekend who had a playlist going called Tantric Sensuality.  It was similar to what you’d hear in a massage room at a spa, just maybe a little sexier.  
 

It was perfect for creating a vibe without dominating the scene or taking you out of it. 

[Nightowl]

Ambient music only.  Anything with words is distracting and anything with a noticeable beat will, like someone else said, get me fucking to the music.  Not always a good thing.

[Tigre_Bigotes]

On 1/22/2025 at 5:33 AM, Guest said:

I was thinking about this... I hooked up with some guys in the past who had their music on in the background. One in particular was playing some angry "fight the power" rap stuff--I've no problem with that normally--but as we were trying to get it on, it was hugely distracting.

However, another guy had some ambient stuff in the background ("Tantric Sexuality" by Llewelyn), and it added to the mood a LOT.

But overall, I still prefer silent sex. I like being fully present for the pleasure 😉

 

What are y'all's preferences or stories?

Ha! This was me. I had an account in the past, then I deleted it (I'm sure it made sense at the time to do so, though I can't remember what my reasons were at the time).

All these opinion-related posts were by yours truly.

[Tigre_Bigotes]

For what it's worth, "Tantric Sexuality" by Llewelyn is still my go-to.

[ICTJOCK]

Well if I'm with a client,  if he wants music,  I certainly have no objection.   I think the vast majority of clients I service prefer no music to music.    While I think music can inhibit conversation,  some clients aren't into talking,  but "doing",  so it all works.

[+ azdr0710]

sexy little instrumental here.......