Is it normal to have to Uber providers if client hosts?

[Rod Hagen]

On 9/17/2024 at 12:44 PM, Jamie21 said:

Not for sex (tbh it rather ruins your sex life) but it meets other needs that go beyond the need to earn 

I'm not on this site as much as I used to be :-(    So you and i haven't interacted much.  Hi Jamie!  What on earth do you mean escorting ruins one's sex life?

[BrklynNYC]

I don't like paying for Uber for anonymity. 

If I can take a train to the escort, why not the other way?

If you really want to to take an Uber, build it into the price and quote me one price. 

Keep it simple. 

[+ Jamie21]

2 hours ago, Rod Hagen said:

I'm not on this site as much as I used to be 😞   So you and i haven't interacted much.  Hi Jamie!  What on earth do you mean escorting ruins one's sex life?

Hello @Rod Hagen! Yes I’d better explain that one ha ha. Maybe ‘ruin’ is a bit misleading. ‘Impacts in unexpected ways’ is my experience.

It makes me less spontaneous with my partners (not clients) either because I’ve been busy with clients or they book last minute and I change my plans to accommodate them because it’s business and that impacts on my sex life with partners. The work is so random it makes it difficult to have a relationship.

Other impacts are the expectations people have. I find they expect me to be a certain role which in ‘non work’ sex which I don’t necessarily want to do.

I guess I hadn’t anticipated these things, having not thought about it deeply before starting this kind of work. There’s upsides too! Like all the practice helps 🙂
 

[Rod Hagen]

19 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Hello @Rod Hagen! Yes I’d better explain that one ha ha. Maybe ‘ruin’ is a bit misleading. ‘Impacts in unexpected ways’ is my experience.

It makes me less spontaneous with my partners (not clients) either because I’ve been busy with clients or they book last minute and I change my plans to accommodate them because it’s business and that impacts on my sex life with partners. The work is so random it makes it difficult to have a relationship.

Other impacts are the expectations people have. I find they expect me to be a certain role which in ‘non work’ sex which I don’t necessarily want to do.

I guess I hadn’t anticipated these things, having not thought about it deeply before starting this kind of work. There’s upsides too! Like all the practice helps 🙂
 

Everyone with a successful business has reduced free time for anything spontaneous, including sex and dating, so congratulations! and also, I'm sorry to hear that. 

Consider starting a relationship with a client.  It's not for everyone, but you seem to have a big heart and a high sex drive--Two birds, one stone. 

Regarding the second impact, are you saying that off-the-clock partners want you to do what you do (top? bottom?) in work? You can always insist :-)

 

 

 

 

[+ Jamie21]

3 hours ago, Rod Hagen said:

Everyone with a successful business has reduced free time for anything spontaneous, including sex and dating, so congratulations! and also, I'm sorry to hear that. 

Consider starting a relationship with a client.  It's not for everyone, but you seem to have a big heart and a high sex drive--Two birds, one stone. 

Regarding the second impact, are you saying that off-the-clock partners want you to do what you do (top? bottom?) in work? You can always insist 🙂

 

 

 

 

Thank you. I do have a relationship with a client, although it is more of a friendship and we have a lot less sex now that he’s no longer a client!! But actually I really value the friendship. 

Yes, I’m mostly a top for clients (if it comes to that) and generally I prefer that role. I think it’s a result of being large; guys kind of assume you’re always a top. But I like to be versatile and bottom sometimes. The thing with doing sex work is you tend to be a people pleaser…you don’t prioritise your needs. 

 

[Cooper]

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[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

On 9/20/2024 at 2:15 PM, MmM said:

.....If I can take a train to the escort, why not the other way?

Absolutely! There is no legitimate reason for them not to take a train/bus/trolley/subway, etc. If they refuse, and insist on an UBER,  they should pay for it themselves. Period. End of story.
After reading thru some of the responses on this thread, it makes one wonder in what alternate universe do some of these masseurs/escorts reside?
Only in the bizarro world of entitlement and privilege would one of these pampered prima donnas have the chutzpah to expect the client to provide an UBER..... especially in a big city with all kinds of public transportation options available.
To quote Duke Ellington: 

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BTC

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Edited September 22, 2024 by BOZO T CLOWN

[BrooklynIrish]

I just declined to hire someone who wanted Ubers both ways. It increased the cost by 30%, which in a city where his taking the train would cost $6 and would take half the time makes no sense. I would happily send part of the fee as a deposit, but I wouldn't take a car if I went to his neighborhood because it's expensive and slower than the train. 

[pubic_assistance]

On 9/21/2024 at 3:25 PM, Jamie21 said:

it is more of a friendship and we have a lot less sex

Well...that sounds like every long term relationship ! 🤣

But, in all seriousness...the comfort of reliable companionship and loyalty is golden.