Texting Providers vs Giving a Cell Phone Call?

[+ Axiom2001]

I'm in a slight dilemma, for I've always made my arrangements with a provider via of calling.  Many of today's providers request/require one to text him vs calling.  

My question is: should I be explicit in what I am desiring from the provider in the first or initial text that I make to him, or should I first text the provider directly  and ask him how he desires to receive my initial appointment request?

I'll patiently await word from providers as well as from clients.  

{Right now there is one man that I am highly desiring to meet.  He and I have written on RMs Chat; in his last message, he requested that I text him.}

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

I would not mention anything sexual in the first text massage, in case you have the wrong number.  You can mention that you are Okay with telephone calls.

Example:

You (1st message):  "Hello.  I'm John.  I saw your ad in XXX City.   Are you available for a 1 hour session this Friday evening?  I can travel or host in XXX neighborhood.  If available, what is the rate you charge?   I am willing to discuss more by phone call if you prefer"

Him:  "Yes, I am available on Friday.  I charge XXX for outcalls. Etc..."

You (2nd message):  "Great!  That rate works for me.  How's 8pm?  I see you are into kissing and water sports, which is what I'm looking for.  Your ad says "Ask Me" about safe sex; so are you okay if I use a condom when I top?  Feel free to call if you prefer to discuss in person"

 

In summary, keep it short and sweet.  Don't specifically mention paying for a sex act when hiring in the United States.  Mention dates and city in the first message (in case he's traveling), but be careful about any more information in case you have the wrong number.  Try to ask your important questions in the 2nd text messages, and keep them simple so he can respond with "Yes, I'm fine with those activities" .  Don't waste his time with open ended questions such as "What do you enjoy to do in bed?" that require too much of his time to answer and may not answer what you really wanted to know.

Happy hiring!

[56harrisond]

 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

Be mindful not to send endless text messages.  Apparently some people send 20-25 messages when 3-5 would do.

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

You're supposed to mention Rentmen (or Friendboy, etc.) when you initially text them.

I'm very careful when using the number given online, but luckily, I was never given a wrong number. I just say "saw your ad on RM," so that if the guy's 80-year-old grandmother sees it, I can make something up.

[Jamie21]

3 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I would not mention anything sexual in the first text massage, in case you have the wrong number.  You can mention that you are Okay with telephone calls.

Example:

You (1st message):  "Hello.  I'm John.  I saw your ad in XXX City.   Are you available for a 1 hour session this Friday evening?  I can travel or host in XXX neighborhood.  If available, what is the rate you charge?   I am willing to discuss more by phone call if you prefer"

Him:  "Yes, I am available on Friday.  I charge XXX for outcalls. Etc..."

You (2nd message):  "Great!  That rate works for me.  How's 8pm?  I see you are into kissing and water sports, which is what I'm looking for.  Your ad says "Ask Me" about safe sex; so are you okay if I use a condom when I top?  Feel free to call if you prefer to discuss in person"

 

In summary, keep it short and sweet.  Don't specifically mention paying for a sex act when hiring in the United States.  Mention dates and city in the first message (in case he's traveling), but be careful about any more information in case you have the wrong number.  Try to ask your important questions in the 2nd text messages, and keep them simple so he can respond with "Yes, I'm fine with those activities" .  Don't waste his time with open ended questions such as "What do you enjoy to do in bed?" that require too much of his time to answer and may not answer what you really wanted to know.

Happy hiring!

This is great advice. 

I prefer text initially. Can’t always take calls and I don’t answer withheld numbers. If my client really wants to talk details then I prefer it if we arrange a time for the call. 

Whatever you do don’t be coy (unless you have to be for legal reasons). I prefer it if clients ask directly. 

 

[BuffaloKyle]

Almost no provider is going to answer a random number phone call. Start with a text. I start even with RM messenger so it's easy to pull the plug if I get a bad vibe from the provider without having them know my phone number.

[rvwnsd]

When my first contact is via text it reads something like this:

"Hi [insert escort name here if they listed it in their ad]. I saw your RM profile and am interested in a potential meeting. LMK when is a good time to text."

When he replies that he can text I tell him what I get into and ask his thoughts.

If he replies affirmatively, I ask if he would share his rate. And then I book or not book.

[+ Axiom2001]

8 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I would not mention anything sexual in the first text massage, in case you have the wrong number.  You can mention that you are Okay with telephone calls.

Example:

You (1st message):  "Hello.  I'm John.  I saw your ad in XXX City.   Are you available for a 1 hour session this Friday evening?  I can travel or host in XXX neighborhood.  If available, what is the rate you charge?   I am willing to discuss more by phone call if you prefer"

Him:  "Yes, I am available on Friday.  I charge XXX for outcalls. Etc..."

You (2nd message):  "Great!  That rate works for me.  How's 8pm?  I see you are into kissing and water sports, which is what I'm looking for.  Your ad says "Ask Me" about safe sex; so are you okay if I use a condom when I top?  Feel free to call if you prefer to discuss in person"

 

In summary, keep it short and sweet.  Don't specifically mention paying for a sex act when hiring in the United States.  Mention dates and city in the first message (in case he's traveling), but be careful about any more information in case you have the wrong number.  Try to ask your important questions in the 2nd text messages, and keep them simple so he can respond with "Yes, I'm fine with those activities" .  Don't waste his time with open ended questions such as "What do you enjoy to do in bed?" that require too much of his time to answer and may not answer what you really wanted to know.

Happy hiring!

Your advice and guidance is quite helpful, and I shall use it thoughtfully.  When the provider shared his fee with me in RM's chat, he advised me to relate how did we first connect.  Those two features were easy for me to begin my first text, but I did not know if I should tell him what I want from him, etc.  

You truly assisted me, and I thank you and others profusely.

[soloyo215]

17 hours ago, Axiom2001 said:

I'm in a slight dilemma, for I've always made my arrangements with a provider via of calling.  Many of today's providers request/require one to text him vs calling.  

My question is: should I be explicit in what I am desiring from the provider in the first or initial text that I make to him, or should I first text the provider directly  and ask him how he desires to receive my initial appointment request?

I'll patiently await word from providers as well as from clients.  

{Right now there is one man that I am highly desiring to meet.  He and I have written on RMs Chat; in his last message, he requested that I text him.}

The communication via text, in my opinion, can easily reflect the way you communicate over the phone. The difference is for the most part, the medium used. At first it might feel a little strange that you are "documenting" things that you normally converse about in voice, but so far, unless you are in a situation where documenting a conversation might become harmful to you, text is as reliable. It's just a different medium.

[marylander1940]

18 hours ago, Axiom2001 said:

I'm in a slight dilemma, for I've always made my arrangements with a provider via of calling.  Many of today's providers request/require one to text him vs calling.  

My question is: should I be explicit in what I am desiring from the provider in the first or initial text that I make to him, or should I first text the provider directly  and ask him how he desires to receive my initial appointment request?

I'll patiently await word from providers as well as from clients.  

{Right now there is one man that I am highly desiring to meet.  He and I have written on RMs Chat; in his last message, he requested that I text him.}

Some even refuse to talk over the phone... they simply dislike it and find it uncomfortable.... 

Yes, just say something like: "I'm gay, I usually like to do X, Y, and Z". Avoid saying "I want to do this or that". 

16 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Be mindful not to send endless text messages.  Apparently some people send 20-25 messages when 3-5 would do.

 

Thank you.

Also no need to text endlessly if it's Monday and the appointment is on Saturday... 

Some escorts require a phone call to avoid endless texting.... and it's usually a good way to get a feeling and test if they client is legitimate or not. You'd be amazed of the answers they get.... some clients just don't have any privacy for a 2 mins call for days to come. 

Edited April 21 by marylander1940

[NYXboy]

I wouldn't even call my parents without texting first. 

 

Always text first.