Providers, do you prefer your work be brought up if you hooked up...

[Newtdad]

Providers, do you prefer your work be brought up if you hooked up with someone, and then saw that person again?

Long story short: I hooked up with someone. We hit it off and exchanged info. Today, I was just browsing a provider website, and saw his pics on there and I now found out that he does escorting. Thinking of texting him again to see what's up and maybe if he'd want to hang again.

Edited April 15, 2024 by newdad

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

In most walks of life, if the other person doesn't bring it up, you shouldn't either.

[Newtdad]

33 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

In most walks of life, if the other person doesn't bring it up, you shouldn't either.

Yes, that makes sense. Not gonna lie, he's become more interesting now after finding that out about him.

[+ APPLE1]

Good god NO!!! He could have turned into one of those providers that wants a deposit to even talk to him.

Assume he was honest when he expressed that he enjoyed the hookup, and try to schedule another hookup.

If that doesn't pan out, you can always arrange a paid session. But, why on earth would you want to broach the subject of buying the cow, when you have a chance to get the milk for free!

Edited April 15, 2024 by APPLE1

[Newtdad]

17 minutes ago, APPLE1 said:

But, why on earth would you want to broach the subject of buying the cow, when you have a chance to get the milk for free!

I cackled at this! LOL. Yes, you are right. That is the right way to do things. That is what a sane person would do, my emotions and excitement are getting the best of me right now.

The guy was charming. We chatted after hooking up and exchanged info, and he even gave me a ride home. So we "kind of" know each other, and I like the guy as a person. It feels like I'm hiding vital information from him.

But like the other poster said, he has to bring it up first. I guess, in a way, it's like "he has to come out of the closet" on his own terms.

 

[+ JamesB]

Everyone deserves a degree of privacy. If someone chooses not to disclose their occupation, it's important to respect their decision.

[Newtdad]

21 minutes ago, JamesB said:

Everyone deserves a degree of privacy. If someone chooses not to disclose their occupation, it's important to respect their decision.

i agree!

[Luv2play]

On 4/15/2024 at 7:20 PM, DrownedBoy said:

He was playing games with you, pretending to take 350 or 400, but then pretending it was for 2 hours. Cheap tricks for a cheap person.

I think the best play here would be to say, "no haggling," and if the client tries again, say, "Okay, I'm ending this conversation until you want to discuss a serious transaction."

You appear to be responding to the wrong thread. 

[DWnyc]

On 4/15/2024 at 3:18 PM, APPLE1 said:

 

If that doesn't pan out, you can always arrange a paid session. But, why on earth would you want to broach the subject of buying the cow, when you have a chance to get the milk for free!

Maybe he just keeps different aspects of his life separate. Providers are entitled to their intimacy in situations they choose just like everyone else. Maybe he wouldn’t even accept the OP as a client - or indeed as a repeat hookup if he tried hiring him in the way described. 

 

[ICTJOCK]

I think it all depends on how well you get to know him.   In the beginning,   I wouldn't feel any need to bring it up.     If you get to know him and develop a friendship and a certain amount of trust  (and talk about a variety of personal things),    I'd probably mention that you saw his photos.   As a provider,   I don't have a problem talking with friends who ask about my escorting.    I think it all depends on you and the kind of friendship you may have with this individual.

[soloyo215]

On 4/15/2024 at 2:06 PM, newdad said:

Providers, do you prefer your work be brought up if you hooked up with someone, and then saw that person again?

Long story short: I hooked up with someone. We hit it off and exchanged info. Today, I was just browsing a provider website, and saw his pics on there and I now found out that he does escorting. Thinking of texting him again to see what's up and maybe if he'd want to hang again.

I'm not a provider, but I'm a gay man who hooks up with other people. I don't see the point of you bringing that up to him. If there's any interest in you on his part, he will mention it at the time when he feels ready and appropriate. It could be a different situation if he lies about it, or sustains a position against escorting while you know that he escorts. But if it's just a person that you met and hooked up with, if you have a real inteterest in that person, let him disclose at his pace. If otherwise you get a cheap thrill by brining people's information (not exactly secrets if he advertises), then act accordingly. Just keep in mind that who knows how many things we hide when we hook up with others. We all have our own things to tell or keep quiet. The fact that he's a provider doesn't make him any less of a human being. Just my thoughts, not law.

[DWnyc]

I think most of us have likely seen profiles online of people we know - friends, colleagues etc - and we’ve probably also chuckled or raised eyebrows at things they list - age being the obvious one.
 

And we’ve likely come across someone who reveals something when we actually meet or some time after that which might give pause. 
 

Multiple personas and a sign this person can’t be trusted? Or how they choose to be in certain contexts with certain goals in mind … who cares, live and let live.

You clearly are engaged in the hobby if on this forum so you are presumably at peace with ethics, risks etc. Is it really different from if you found out he was a saxophone player and it never came up until you discovered it and then only after your first meeting …

 

[+ ThroatCummer]

Whatever you do, deal lord just don't do it through text. This is something that will naturally come up during in-person conversations if you get to know him more/better. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

All I can say is:

I was young in the days before social media or cell phones, but all the (gay) guys I hung out with always knew which guys were selling it, or had a sugar daddy, or who had a sugar boy.

So it won't stay unspoken long.