Have you ever trusted your gut and been right?

[starman05]

I'm mulling over trying out two new masseurs. While one of them has good reviews (and the others none at all), I've read comments that are telling me to think with my big head, not my little one. 

I can easily lie to myself and ignore the signs to stay away from them, or try them out and live and learn, or try them out and be happily surprised. 

Has anyone ever tried someone they "shouldn't" have and been happily surprised? 

[JamesB]

Trust your instincts. If something doesn't feel right, it's best to walk away.

[BananaBagel]

Great question. I have seen a few guys who were new or not reviewed often on here or RM and had very pleasant reactions. They were guys who are just getting started or coming in and out. On the other hand I also had one very bad experience. So I don’t know how helpful this is - but a little bit of both and always take standard precautions especially with first time meets. 

[starman05]

there's no way of course because they're all anonymous but I'm trying to weigh a several positive reviews on Rent Masseur's site vs. one or two negative/less than stellar on this site. 

Both could be fake or have an agenda 

[Capitano]

2 hours ago, starman05 said:

I'm mulling over trying out two new masseurs. While one of them has good reviews (and the others none at all), I've read comments that are telling me to think with my big head, not my little one. 

I can easily lie to myself and ignore the signs to stay away from them, or try them out and live and learn, or try them out and be happily surprised. 

Has anyone ever tried someone they "shouldn't" have and been happily surprised? 

Reviews on RM and MF tend to be useless garbage. Yeah, there are some honest ones but fake ones prevail IMHO.

Reasons to be extra careful: (1) too many rave reviews obviously written by the same person, especially if the profile is recent and (2) profiles that have been around for a long time and have no reviews.

As far as new profiles, they could be a better bet if they are genuinely new, but there's always the risk of them really being old, just under a new name, and these are toxic. It's always a good idea to ask this forum whether someone recognizes them, but you may not be alerted on time.

Also, avoiding new guys who charge a lot, especially if their pix reveal modeling aspirations, is a good idea. These are the most important "use your big head" situations. 😅

Edited April 14 by Capitano

[starman05]

All good advice; sometimes the least worst thing that can happen is I'm out some money and I live and learn. I try to post fair reviews to spare folks heartache.

Worst case scenario is you run into a bad dude, someone who gets off on hurting you and your safety is at risk. 

 

[Monarchy79]

The “gut” is usually right. 
it’s when we think with our dicks that we wind up saying….. 

“I knew better.” 

[+ nycman]

My gut is always right….. even when it’s not.

Trust your gut.

[starman05]

41 minutes ago, nycman said:

My gut is always right….. even when it’s not.

Trust your gut.

"even when it's not" -- that's a great way to put it! I feel the same way. 

 

[viewing ownly]

Believe reviews of people from here, both good and bad. Pay attention to when the reviews are made, though. So many people are like you pointed out "thinking with the wrong head" and making a terrible decision when MANY people on here gave fair warning to avoid. 

"He shorted me on time", "He wouldn't even kiss", "He kept breaking away to use his phone", etc. Just get that people like this are never going to magically give a complete session with sucking your face and keeping the phone on vibrate. 

[Capitano]

4 hours ago, viewing ownly said:

Believe reviews of people from here, both good and bad. Pay attention to when the reviews are made, though. So many people are like you pointed out "thinking with the wrong head" and making a terrible decision when MANY people on here gave fair warning to avoid. 

"He shorted me on time", "He wouldn't even kiss", "He kept breaking away to use his phone", etc. Just get that people like this are never going to magically give a complete session with sucking your face and keeping the phone on vibrate. 

Caution here too!

This forum is becoming influential, which is great news, but the downside is that it's attracting scammers and "influencers." Always consider the source and his reputation. If you see a new profile praising a masseur or an older profile habitually praising masseurs that get negative reviews from others, that is actually a bad sign.

I recently blocked a recent profile that recommended a scammer that I regretted hiring. I should have checked his activity and reputation, things are pretty obvious in retrospect.

 

Edited April 15 by Capitano

[maninsoma]

One always has to treat reviews with a grain of salt, even those posted here.  That being said, if a forum member praises someone and that forum member has a history of commenting on a variety of providers (a sign it isn't just a shill account set up to hype a specific provider) I will give that more credence. 

I used to take chances on unknown guys all the time 25 years ago.  Guys would post ads on Craigslist and take them down after they got a client. Those guys frequently never ventured into working full time as escorts or masseurs, by which I mean they never advertised on any of the escort or masseur websites outside of Craigslist or Adam4Adam.  I had a lot of success but definitely hired some duds.  Even if I were the same age now as I was then, I'm not sure I'd take the same chances.  I think there are a lot more pure scammers advertising now.

[+ DrownedBoy]

"Guts" is just another way to say intuition ,street smarts, and unconscious desire. Always go with your gut.

 

[soloyo215]

On 4/14/2024 at 5:17 PM, starman05 said:

I'm mulling over trying out two new masseurs. While one of them has good reviews (and the others none at all), I've read comments that are telling me to think with my big head, not my little one. 

I can easily lie to myself and ignore the signs to stay away from them, or try them out and live and learn, or try them out and be happily surprised. 

Has anyone ever tried someone they "shouldn't" have and been happily surprised? 

I have had both types of surprises. As good intuition as I have, as intelligent and independednt-minded that I am, sometimes I am just wrong. The times when I have been pleasantly surprised is when the masseur doesn't look like "my type", and the times when I have been unpleasasntly "surprised" was exactly what you describe, not trusting my own guts or ignoring the signs of the possibility of an dissappointing/unpleasant experience.

I can only speak for myself, so in my case I blame it to haveing "a type", emaning that when I look at a provider that looks right to me, I tent to want to believe that the experience will be perfect, and sometimes it hasn't been.