Legit Massage Turned Fun?

[Hyattsville]

FYI, Draping is required by law in almost all states. Your legit masseur would know this and be extremely hesitant to put his license in jeopardy. 

[+ Lucky]

23 minutes ago, Hyattsville said:

FYI, Draping is required by law in almost all states. Your legit masseur would know this and be extremely hesitant to put his license in jeopardy. 

I am a lawyer and I find this comment hard to figure. You say that you know draping is required by law in most states. I don't know that. It is often local law that sets issues like that, so a state may not even have such a law.

I am just curious about what facts you have to make such a statement.

(I know, Hyattsville is not a state!) 🙂

EDIT: So I researched the issue and found an article listing the state laws requiring draping. The author could only come up with one- Tennessee. But I wouldn't be surprised if Alabama had restrictions too. Utah too.

https://www.massageschoolnotes.com/draping-laws-state/

Edited February 26, 2024 by Lucky

[bichiguy]

too bad about the draping!

[Guest]

Heck, I’m surprised Alabama, Tennessee and Utah allow massages. 😜 

[Benshugo]

On 2/26/2024 at 2:34 PM, Lucky said:

I am a lawyer and I find this comment hard to figure. You say that you know draping is required by law in most states. I don't know that. It is often local law that sets issues like that, so a state may not even have such a law.

I am just curious about what facts you have to make such a statement.

(I know, Hyattsville is not a state!) 🙂

EDIT: So I researched the issue and found an article listing the state laws requiring draping. The author could only come up with one- Tennessee. But I wouldn't be surprised if Alabama had restrictions too. Utah too.

https://www.massageschoolnotes.com/draping-laws-state/

Idk about all states but in PA, NJ, and NY it's required by state rules afaik. I know Florida doesn't require it but that's the only one I know of personally.

[Benshugo]

On a related note, does anyone know of any way to find legit massage therapists like in this chat, who might do more? E.g. guys who works at the chains rather than independent ones on rentmasseur and masseurfinder and such? Recently a couple friends in different areas not super close to me mentioned going to chains and getting massages that led to good endings, but aside from booking and randomly hoping and probably being let down a lot, I have to wonder if there's any way to try and screen for that in advance, like maybe if there's a private group chat or something somewhere for different areas?

[UncutDad]

49 minutes ago, Benshugo said:

On a related note, does anyone know of any way to find legit massage therapists like in this chat, who might do more? E.g. guys who works at the chains rather than independent ones on rentmasseur and masseurfinder and such? Recently a couple friends in different areas not super close to me mentioned going to chains and getting massages that led to good endings, but aside from booking and randomly hoping and probably being let down a lot, I have to wonder if there's any way to try and screen for that in advance, like maybe if there's a private group chat or something somewhere for different areas?

I don't think that would be something that any massage therapist working at a chain would want known, no matter how private that group might be.  I think things like that unfold based on chemistry and the individuals involved.  I used to go to a guy at M. Envy.  I did not know whether he was gay or straight.  He just gave a great massage.  But I did notice that with the increasing sessions, the draping would get more loose and I would get semi hard.  Then one day he pressed he erection into my face and provided a HE.  It was hot for sure, but I had no expectation of it. 

[Jack Vernon]

This is such a fantasy of mine as well.  A while back I had an independent guy who came to my house about once a month for an amazing therapeutic massage.  He got to know my spots so well that he could really turn me into jello in an hour, but it was always 100% above-board.  I'm a leaker when I even get semi-hard and I'm pretty sure I put a wet spot in his drape every time!  He never even mentioned it and I was too chickenshit to push my agenda.  He was so comfortable with me that one time he got oil on his khakis at my place and we were standing side-by-side at the sink in our underwear trying get him cleaned up for his next appointment which was some public event or something.  Such a nice guy, I really miss him.

[Rob Toronto]

I see a Registered Massage Therapist who is gay, like myself.  I wear underwear - he is clothed.  Draping with sheets - not even close to anything sensual.  He always leaves the room when I change and I get under the sheet.    I hired a masseur from Rentmasseur when the RMT was out of town and I expected something different.  First off, not registered, so no insurance coverage.   I got a sense when talking to him he was trying to maybe figure me out, what I would want.  I just talked about sore back and shoulders.  I wore underwear.  I think he said I could take it off, and I said I would leave it on - no awkwardness or anything.  He massaged me wearing tight boxer brief underwear.   Second massage with him, I thought' what the hey' and I was naked.  So we was naked.  No extra services.     

He was straight, mentioned his girlfriend, and a really nice guy.  Looking back on it, I think I really appreciate his people skills - he knew what I wanted and didn't want. I remember thinking  'I get it.  I wear underwear, he wears underwear.  I get naked, he gets naked.'

 I was very isolated at the time, not active sexually.  I remember when I paid him and he was standing there naked next to me, I thought this is nice.   Didn't need extras it felt good just be around this good looking guy. 

[MassageCommunityMember]

15 minutes ago, Rob Toronto said:

I see a Registered Massage Therapist who is gay, like myself.  I wear underwear - he is clothed.  Draping with sheets - not even close to anything sensual.  He always leaves the room when I change and I get under the sheet.    I hired a masseur from Rentmasseur when the RMT was out of town and I expected something different.  First off, not registered, so no insurance coverage.   I got a sense when talking to him he was trying to maybe figure me out, what I would want.  I just talked about sore back and shoulders.  I wore underwear.  I think he said I could take it off, and I said I would leave it on - no awkwardness or anything.  He massaged me wearing tight boxer brief underwear.   Second massage with him, I thought' what the hey' and I was naked.  So we was naked.  No extra services.     

He was straight, mentioned his girlfriend, and a really nice guy.  Looking back on it, I think I really appreciate his people skills - he knew what I wanted and didn't want. I remember thinking  'I get it.  I wear underwear, he wears underwear.  I get naked, he gets naked.'

 I was very isolated at the time, not active sexually.  I remember when I paid him and he was standing there naked next to me, I thought this is nice.   Didn't need extras it felt good just be around this good looking guy. 

It is nice

[Strosj7]

I love experiences like this. Keep the experience sharing coming fellas!

any experiences like this in NY?

[d.anders]

I used to travel for work, so I have endless stories. I had massage in every town I visited.

5 hours ago, Rob Toronto said:

I wore underwear.  I think he said I could take it off, and I said I would leave it on - no awkwardness or anything.  He massaged me wearing tight boxer brief underwear.   Second massage with him, I thought' what the hey' and I was naked.  So we was naked.  No extra services. 

I never wore underwear for a massage. I love being naked too much, and piriformis work is very important to me. Definitely no underwear for that. But many of the straight guys I visited across the country had interesting reactions to my desire to be naked and uncovered (a must in warmer climates). I loved when the masseur would voluntarily get naked with me. Loved when the masseur would say, "Do you mind if I join you?"

I find many straight masseurs are open-minded about being naked. It's when the horny gay guys go grabby where things go south. Open-minded straight masseurs often have their boundaries. If you respect those boundaries, many guys will surprise you.

[+ poolboy48220]

17 hours ago, d.anders said:

"piriformis work is very important to me"

"It's when the horny gay guys go grabby where things go south."

I learned a new word today!

Agreed.  I worked with a very build and handsome trainer who offered a workout/massage combo. He mentioned one of the other clients was always pushing boundaries with him and it bothered him. I was respectful and took things slow, and got a lot further with him than the other client ever did. 

[Nightowl]

1 hour ago, poolboy48220 said:

 He mentioned one of the other clients was always pushing boundaries with him and it bothered him. I was respectful and took things slow, and got a lot further with him than the other client ever did. 

I have been nude for every massage I’ve had in the last 15 years.  Only once did I leave my underwear on and that was at the direction of the masseur at a spa in a resort town.  Makes we wonder if he’d had some of those boundary-pushing clients you mention and he was trying to avoid another one.  (Either that or he found me so irresistible he didn’t think he could control himself with me lying naked on the table)

[Ali Gator]

On 2/26/2024 at 2:20 PM, Hyattsville said:

FYI, Draping is required by law in almost all states. Your legit masseur would know this and be extremely hesitant to put his license in jeopardy. 

I started another thread about a month ago regarding licensing.  The majority of guys I see who give legit massages have years of schooling and plenty of experience giving an excellent massage. However, they admit up front (when asked) that they never got their licenses / renewed their license due to personal financial reasons. So - bottom line - no license is in jeopardy. 

My advice: Ask your new masseur you find on these sites if they have schooling and are licensed. Most times you will hear yes to schooling but no to license. If schooling matters to you (as it does to me) and licensing doesn't (as it doesn't to me), then you're ok with 'pushing the envelope'. 

[Ali Gator]

On 2/25/2024 at 5:13 PM, DDING said:

I just wanted to share my story, but sort of in the opposite direction:

Went to a spa that I've been going to for the past year now. It's a SF gay men's spa but it is very legit (according to reviews online and on this site). Each time I've gone, I've always gotten a professional and therapeutic massage, so I expected it to always be the case.

I  went there again this past week, this time the masseur was someone new to me. I get into the room, remove my robe and lay under the blanket face down on the table.

This masseur then proceeds to remove the blanket exposing my ass and starts massaging my ass like crazy. As he is massaging my arms and legs, he puts my foot and hand right by or on top of his crotch. I felt so so so uncomfortable. I ended up ending the massage early because I didn't want to be near him anymore.

I'm not a prude by any means. I like the occasional sensual massage, but it has to be on my terms and I always ask for consent before doing anything. And I'm not saying that this masseur should have verbally asked me if it was okay for him to put my hand directly on his junk, but there are ways that you can test the waters by maybe grazing your crotch by the clients hand and seeing if they move their hand at all or watching for any subtle moans or movements to suggest that I was open to more. Instead during the massage, I made an effort to be as stiff as possible and intentionally angled my hand so that it would not touch his junk, or I would pull away at times. He didn't get any of the hints though.

All of this is to say: yes therapeutic turned sensual massages can be fun, but it is not okay if you (the client) or the masseur gives any indications that you are not okay with going further than therapeutic.

Why didn't you forget hinting and actually speak up, and politely say, "I appreciate your gestures of moving this into another territory, but today I only want a therapeutic massage. So let's keep it at that, please." 

If he should feign not understanding, you could spell it out for him - "I'm not sure you're aware, but you keep putting my hand on your crotch. I'm not interested in erotic." 

[traveler09]

Off topic here from above messages:

I went to a masseur who focused on meditation and breathing in his sessions but allowed nudity for both parties. He mentioned he does sensual modality but no sexual activity (especially no penetration)which was fine me since I was looking for a relaxing experience to break up my hectic work life. He was great and we respected our space. After a few sessions, he did nuru one day which I didn’t expect but also didn’t mind. I did feel his cock getting harder as he was sliding against my back and I was getting excited but thought that this was part of the sensual experience and nothing more. 
 

That all changed when I felt his cock against my hole and he started sliding across it while gently probing along the rim. It felt so amazing and I couldn’t tell if it was the oil he was using or his precum. He did kinda see that I was into by my moaning and he was getting harder and he started getting excited and began pushing the head of his cock in. I winced and yelped a bit since I haven’t been fucked in awhile. I told him to stop but I could tell he wanted it and honestly I did too but the pain was getting to me. He told me he’ll be gentle and I said ok and pour some oil down my bum and started sliding up and down. It was so fucking hot that I started precumming a lot and he saw how wet I was he grabbed my ass and started eating it and forced his tongue in and out of my hole. I started cumming and he then went under me and drained me dry and swallowed. I was exhausted afterwards but I can tell he wanted more and we went way beyond our allotted time. 
 

I asked if he wanted to cum and he said yeah. And I asked if wanted to fuck and he agreed by turning me around. This time I was more relaxed and he went in gently with his wet cock. The moment the head went in..I was fucking blown away and he gently slid his head in and out of my hole without pulling out. He pushed in further and fucked me so hard that the sound of sweat and precum between us was so wet and loud. He asked where he can cum and I told him that he cum inside me. He obliged and rammed his cock one last time and I felt cock pulsating his load into me. Everything was a blur after but he was giving me scalp massage and we made out in the end. He cleaned me up and i was a bit horny still and he could tell since I was still kinda hard. He said if I had fun and I said definitely and asked if I was done. I said no and asked if I wanted to do something else. I asked if I can suck on his cock. He agreed and we went to shower and I blew him in the bathroom. His cock and cum tasted sweet which I didn’t expect. I haven’t seen him since and I do want to go back but for his massages but I’m afraid its gonna be full blown sex. 
 

[luvhusky]

This happened to me at a Chinese spa I went to for years. And is what made me so horny now. 
id been going to a therapist there for years. He was good but never got anywhere close to the good parts. One day a new guy was working there. Short beefy and cute. I asked if I could see him. He had good technique and was sweet. 
Inwent to him maybe 4-5 times and then one day he was holding my foot and started rubbing his hard little dick against it 

when I flipped over I pulled the towel to show my rock hard dick and he grabbed it. Made me cum and then again after I had cum.  Every time for a while he did that. He disappeared after a while. But made me want more