Questions

[Massageguy99]

Hi. 

So is it unreasonable to expect questions to be answered when I contact a masseur? 

So most people I find on rentmasseur do not have other details. 

I contact and ask a set of questions. 

Can you tell me about your massage? 

Table or bed? Lotion or oil? 

Are you ok with heavy guys and I list my height and weight. 

I usually get responses that will not answer anything and just send me their rate and time period and answer maybe 1 question. 

 

I get that providers are busy and maybe can't answer now that is fine. But just have a comment that says with a client touch base later or anything. 

I am not sure why people will not answer basic questions if you fail to provide any form of info on your ad. Like I am not even asking grey area questions just basic info. 

[jeezifonly]

If they want to not make income, ya can’t stop’em 

[Jamie21]

They’re probably getting enough business by just being available. No need to do much in the way of customer service. You can assume that if that’s their attitude to the enquiry process their attitude to the massage will be equally diffident. If that’s the case you saved yourself some money and time. Hire guys who answer your questions and who have a professional advert that provides the necessary information. 

[blck37]

Its not unreasonable from customer's perspective but also cant fault those providers. If their standard of customer service does not match your expectation, then move on.

[blck37]

3 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

They’re probably getting enough business by just being available. No need to do much in the way of customer service. You can assume that if that’s their attitude to the enquiry process their attitude to the massage will be equally diffident. If that’s the case you saved yourself some money and time. Hire guys who answer your questions and who have a professional advert that provides the necessary information. 

This is a reasonable and practical take. Many providers told me they would more often than not take this approach as they have sufficient existing loyal customers basis and do not mind the posibbility of losing new businesses due to lack of engagement on their end. On that note, i found that they are actually not arrogant and are nice guys irl, their reason to not engage simply driven by business reasonings - they do not care for new clients, whilst they treat their existing clients well.

[soloyo215]

Either they have a large clientele, enough to afford the luxury of not replying or takling new clients, they might not know how to answer the questions, they are not interested in accommodating for specific requests, or they are full of it and have no clue/interest about giving massages (hint: some are not certified and also have a profile in the escorting website, probalbly emphasizing other services).

There might be other reasons, but those are the most common that I have found. Since there is a growing pool of masseurs to choose from, I'd just move on to the next, especially since I'm the paying customer.

I have found some who actually schedule a call before booking, where they aske similar questions. Some provide choices during the appointment. But you're not doing anything wrong with asking. Not only you are the client and entitled to have a clear idea of what service you will receive, but also seems like that questions that you are asking are not about unreasonable things.

[Simon Suraci]

Your questions are fine. Masseurs that don’t answer specific questions don’t really need/want the work. Best to move on when that happens. 

I concur with the points from others above. A good masseur will answer all your questions, even if he’s delayed in doing so. Never hurts for him to say “I can respond after x time”. Sometimes a text comes in and I have literally 2 mins or less until my next client is at my door and so I can’t actually respond right away, but text the client I will get back to them later, with an approximate time, and then follow up later. If I am already with a client, I respond as soon as the session is over. 

The only question you mentioned I might change is the open ended “Tell me about your massage”. I have stock answers saved on my phone to copy/paste, so it doesn’t really bother me. For other masseurs, this might be asking for a lot, for a number of reasons.

They don’t know what exactly you are asking. They may send you a long general description, but it might not cover things you want to know. Are you inquiring about their modalities? Stretching? Pressure? Tools they use? All of those are easier to answer individually, in the same way you ask about the bed vs table or oil/lotion questions.

When I get the vague “Tell me about your massage”, or worse, “What’s included with your massage?”, I am left to wonder: is this client asking me to tell him about extras? If I tell him about extras but he really was only wanting to know about things like pressure and style, it makes me seem like I don’t take my work seriously, like it’s just a rub and tug.

When I tell him only about style and pressure and whatnot, he’s frustrated because he may really only be interested in the extras info. It’s a catch 22. Also, not everyone offers extras, and those that do are sometimes uncomfortable putting it in writing. That’s why a lot of masseurs might avoid the question. Often I will ask the client to be more specific with their questions so my answers will be more direct and relevant to what they want to know.

You might consider asking more pointed questions or yes/no questions about things you care about, especially regarding anything erotic or sensual. Is x included? Do you allow y? Are you nude during the massage? What pressure do you use? Do you offer deep tissue?

It’s uncommon, but I like it when a client tells me exactly what they want. It makes it easy for me to say “yes, no problem, I offer all of what you described.”  And then I know what to do to make that client happy. Occasionally, I may have to say “I offer everything you want, but I charge differently for xyz. Here is my rate structure: … ___”

[ICTJOCK]

I think a consultation is appropriate,  even if it is something as simple as an exchange of messages.    I realize some clients may want to discuss by phone,  text or even in person.    I've had several face to face discussions with potential clients in person (one via zoom) about my work as a provider.   I should not have any objection and take the time to make sure the client is comfortable and all reasonable questions are addressed.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

21 hours ago, Massageguy99 said:

Hi. 

So is it unreasonable to expect questions to be answered when I contact a masseur? 

So most people I find on rentmasseur do not have other details. 

I contact and ask a set of questions. 

Can you tell me about your massage? 

Table or bed? Lotion or oil? 

Are you ok with heavy guys and I list my height and weight. 

I usually get responses that will not answer anything and just send me their rate and time period and answer maybe 1 question. 

 

I get that providers are busy and maybe can't answer now that is fine. But just have a comment that says with a client touch base later or anything. 

I am not sure why people will not answer basic questions if you fail to provide any form of info on your ad. Like I am not even asking grey area questions just basic info. 

You may get a better response rate if you change the phrasing of your questions.  For example:

"Hello, I am looking for a massage on a table with massage lotion (not oil).  I am a big guy at over 6ft tall and 300 pounds.  Do you have the table and lotion to accommodate a man of my size?"

See what I did?  It's just one question he can answer "yes" to without back and forth.