The Provider/ Client experience... what do you bring to the table?

[ICTJOCK]

So there was a discussion in the "Age Shaving" thread about expectations and what clients may want or expect from providers.   Some mentioned that 
"age shaving"  helps some to fit into the fantasy of what a client may be looking for  in an experience with a provider.

Interesting discussion and this thread goes a little beyond the former.   The reality is,   clients seek very different things from providers.   Sure, many might want the young twink,  but others may seek a more mature provider,  others may appreciate a provider life experience,  confidence and education for conversation.   Some client may even seek out a provider with specialties in certain areas.    So this thread asks two questions.    1)  If you are an escort or provider,  what do you bring to the table that a cleint may find attractive, satisfying or desirable and   2)  If you are a client,  what do you seek from your provider and why would you hire him again?

I'll talk about my own later in the thread.

[+ DrownedBoy]

Client here. I look for providers who:

 

1. Look and act like they show/say in their ad

2. Are gracious and respectful guests

3. Play along with my sexual fantasies to the best of their ability

 

I ask very little, yet these simple things are often too much to ask for.

[maninsoma]

As a client, what I look for beyond the obvious (that the provider looks like his photos and provides the services agreed upon) is that he allows himself to be human enough that I can enjoy the experience.  If someone is too detached, I cannot lose myself in pleasure.  I need to feel some sort of connection. 

[dbar123]

As a client, I look for someone with an above average body, good conversationalist, and someone who is comfortable taking the lead. A comfort dick is a must (not too big, not too small). Good kisser always counts

[tbuzzsaw]

That they can get hard and be into me, or at least pretend hard enough to be. A good listener helps too, I've had a few where I talk to and you can tell they mentally checked out.

[ICTJOCK]

6 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

I bring civility and cleanliness. I respect an escort as a person bringing a service, and I do my utmost to respect their time and space. 

You sound great,  and as a client,  you should expect the same from an escort!

[jawjateck]

I'm an old fashioned client. I expect a provider to find out what I like and make me happy. Seems simple enough, but it's too demanding for alot of the younglings who advertise these days. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

I do wonder what providers expect from clients.

One of my regulars likes getting deep-throated, so I do my best to pleasure him whenever he comes over.

How important is reciprocity in hiring situations?

[soloyo215]

27 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said:

I do wonder what providers expect from clients.

One of my regulars likes getting deep-throated, so I do my best to pleasure him whenever he comes over.

How important is reciprocity in hiring situations?

First, as a client, I echo those who expect a degree of reality and presence. I react negatively to disconnected, checked-out and/or fully detached provider, or the ones with the attitude of getting you off as soon as they can. I expect mutual respect for each other's end of the deal, and I'm also understanding when there isn't chemistry, though the call to end the session should be mine.

About reciprocity, attitude and connection counts. One can reciprocate mechanically and/or with attitude. In terms of actions, that can/should be discussed (at least it saves me headaches to have a clue of what to expect in return).

[Simon Suraci]

4 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

I do wonder what providers expect from clients.

One of my regulars likes getting deep-throated, so I do my best to pleasure him whenever he comes over.

How important is reciprocity in hiring situations?

You’re under no obligation to please the provider or cater to his preferences. This is about YOUR pleasure, not his.

If he wants something from you that you normally wouldn’t be into as much, he shouldn’t be charging. At that point, it’s a hookup based on meeting mutual needs. Not to say he can’t genuinely enjoy the encounter, but I would only do things you enjoy. You’re paying. Get what YOU want - anything you discuss and agree to do beforehand or whatever he consents to doing in the moment.

[Jamie21]

I think as a provider it’s important for me to feel that my clients are enjoying themselves. I bring my 100% focus on giving them a great experience but it helps me to do that if I get visible feedback. Aside from me needing my client to be hygienic and respectful (almost all are!) then the only thing that really helps me is that I can see they’re into it. I find it difficult if he’s totally passive.

It happens very occasionally…as in he just lays there and whatever you do there’s no response. I manage to get him off but it’s kind of sterile. I asked afterwards “did you enjoy it?” and one of the guys said “yes it was great”. I believed him but just wish he showed it more because that spurs me on. That particular guy was very anxious and inexperienced so that’s why I believed him; he was too scared to ‘let go’ but I think most providers would say that what encourages them in the session is to really feel that their client is having fun. That’s why I do it, I love helping clients be themselves sexually and emotionally. 

[DWnyc]

The best interactions have mutual respect where everything falls into place from that.   There are underlying faultlines in the provider-client dynamic for some (not all) - and things can escalate quickly whether directly or indirectly.

 

[pubic_assistance]

For me as the client:

I rarely hire escorts as most don't appeal to me.

I have a niche interest in the college athlete look.

So I am looking for guys who I wouldn't easily guess that they are same-sex-oriented. I am NOT interested in anything remotely romantic. I want pure down-n-dirty sex but I DO find it important that they are turned on too. So I would say that actual attraction to mature men is  must.