First time hiring advice

[MadHatter]

I’m new to this, but have long been interested in hiring someone. I made an appointment for someone Labor Day weekend, found his profile on rentmen, and now I’m super nervous. I want to have an enjoyable experience, I want the escort to enjoy it too, but is it natural to fear “what if I get caught?”

The escort will be in my town for a couple days before I meet with him, and I’ll get my own room in the same hotel he is and he’ll come to my room.  But how do I assure myself I’m being intelligent here and not taking unnecessary risk? I hired him for a massage, figured that was a lower risk starting point. He has 5 reviews on file, a popular IG with 60K followers, and an OF with over 100 posts. I'm not on TicToc or Twitter but he's active there as well. 
 

No hard set appointment has been set, just the day and two hours time. He said “that day is perfect, you can have as many hours as you want.” This is feeling like the classic two voices, one on each shoulder speaking. I see so many people on rentmen, I see so many posters on this forum, so how do I keep myself from making mistakes, amateur or otherwise?

I want to hire him for this massage, but I don't want to be paranoid the entire time and therefore not enjoy it.  Any and all advice would be welcomed from those of you who have hired or decided not to hire someone. 

[BuffaloKyle]

A lot to unpack here. First off did you do a search on here to see if there is a thread on the provider? To help put you at ease about making sure they are legit and that they deliver an enjoyable experience. Next never make an appt so early in advance. Wait until a few days just in case something pops up. I know you said no time set in stone but just in case something pops up for you. Next why would you get another room in the hotel he's at. Why not go to his room and save money? Especially for just a massage. You want him to bring all his stuff then to your room?

[MadHatter]

1 minute ago, BuffaloKyle said:

A lot to unpack here. First off did you do a search on here to see if there is a thread on the provider? To help put you at ease about making sure they are legit and that they deliver an enjoyable experience. Next never make an appt so early in advance. Wait until a few days just in case something pops up. I know you said no time set in stone but just in case something pops up for you. Next why would you get another room in the hotel he's at. Why not go to his room and save money? Especially for just a massage. You want him to bring all his stuff then to your room?

Thank you for your prospective. 

 

There is a thread, only one person verfied the person was amazing, no others said they used him. 

My thought on my own room: was paranoid it my be suspicious if a guest or staff sees a lot of people going in or out of one's room. Also, I read on a few threads here and other places never go to the escort's room in case it's a sting. He has rotated through this city a few times, not sure if he uses the same hotel yet or not. So I haven't booked it. If I book this guy again, maybe I'd feel more comfortable going to his room. 

He doesn't use a table, just the bed. 

 

Thank you for your thoughts!

[+ DynamicUno]

If the provider has been advertising for a while and been discussed here, it's pretty unlikely to be a sting.

Also, hotel staff have pretty much seen it all.  As long as you're not engaging in anything disruptive or that looks like trafficking, they won't pay you any mind.

[+ DynamicUno]

I've even met providers at a hotel and asked the front desk to give them a key for my room.  This was great for certain role play scenarios where they could come to the room without me needing to meet them at the door or the lobby.

Never had them even question it.

Edited August 24, 2023 by DynamicUno

[Jamie21]

I had a client drop the key card to his room to me as I stood outside below the window of his 2nd floor hotel room. He didn’t want to be seen with me in the hotel lobby. Nor did he want the hotel staff suspecting that he was my client. I walked in with my massage table…

I told him that no one would care, or notice because hotel employees have seen it all…but he still wanted the utmost secrecy around the hotel entry arrangements. 

@MadHatter I think you should relax a bit about being ‘caught’. It’s a private hotel room, the door is locked. If you picked a good provider (well established, good reviews, etc) and he’s being professional he’ll look after you. Tell him you’re anxious and new and he’ll make sure you’re ok. 

[BuffaloKyle]

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

. @MadHatter I think you should relax a bit about being ‘caught’. It’s a private hotel room, the door is locked. If you picked a good provider (well established, good reviews, etc) and he’s being professional he’ll look after you. Tell him you’re anxious and new and he’ll make sure you’re ok. 

Plus you said he's been verified by one forum member on here as legit. You could always share with us who it is if you need more reassurance from us. That's what a big part of this forum is for.

[liubit]

You have been given excellent advice here, @MadHatter. I understand your jitters, but you shouldn’t let them swamp you. I was very nervous when I first hired about 30 years ago, but my fears vanished with the first kiss. Just remember this is supposed to be great FUN, and it definitely is. Good luck. 

[ICTJOCK]

Some great advice and I would agree.   After the first or 2nd time with a provider,   you will loosen up and be much more comfortable.   Prudent behavior and a thoughtful approach is always wise,  but you get the hang of it and have a great time.

[blck37]

Agree that hotel staff wouldnt care....rather they wont even remember whos in and out (unless you stay at an ultra lux hotel where staffs made a point to remember their customers' name, guest, preference etc).

I can echo to do an outcall out of fear of hidden cams etc.

Would suggest to either have a vid call or meet the provider prior to session so to avoid unwanted last minute surprise. Having a proper sit down conversation with provider in public space (ie hotel cafe or somewhere near) might help soothe your anxiety - also to build connection with him so your session flows natural.

Risks come in hand in this sort of situation. No can avoid them completely, only minimise them. Store your valuable in deposit box. Not oversharing personal information. 

Couples of my personal core learning points to date are maintain your expectation and communicate well with provider. That said, enjoy!

[BuffaloKyle]

Any update @MadHatter? You said you had your appointment set up for Labor Day weekend. Let us know how it goes.

[Guest]

On 8/24/2023 at 10:58 AM, MadHatter said:

I’m new to this, but have long been interested in hiring someone. I made an appointment for someone Labor Day weekend, found his profile on rentmen, and now I’m super nervous. I want to have an enjoyable experience, I want the escort to enjoy it too, but is it natural to fear “what if I get caught?”

The escort will be in my town for a couple days before I meet with him, and I’ll get my own room in the same hotel he is and he’ll come to my room.  But how do I assure myself I’m being intelligent here and not taking unnecessary risk? I hired him for a massage, figured that was a lower risk starting point. He has 5 reviews on file, a popular IG with 60K followers, and an OF with over 100 posts. I'm not on TicToc or Twitter but he's active there as well...

It's not entirely clear what you mean by "what if I get caught". If by that you mean "What if he's with law enforcement, and this is a vice squad sting operation?" then there's absolutely nothing to fear. If he has an OF account with over 100 posts, there's no way he could be a cop (assuming the person who shows up is really the person with the OF account, and not someone who just looks like him). If by getting caught, you mean "What if my spouse has hired a private investigator, and catches this man entering my hotel room?", well that could be a possibility if you have a jealous spouse. Do you have reason to believe you have a spouse who's so jealous as to hire someone to surveille you?

[MadHatter]

@Unicorn

Thank you, all do you guys, for asking. He has an OF and IG, so I’m not concerned about it being a profile set up for that anymore. Using your guys advice, he texted me a photo and then an hour posted it on his social media.  So at the least it’s the same guy, and he’s gorgeous. My concern was having suspicions by the hotel or guests and call the cops. 
 

My appointment is Tuesday, he’ll be at the hotel mon-wed. I got my own room at the hotel so he’ll come to my room as opposed to his.  The thought here was if anyone saw multiple guys going to his room, I didn’t want to be the next one and someone makes a phone call. I don’t want to have a simple noise complaint, and if I do I don’t want it turning into the cops knocking on the door. 

English isn’t his first language and I think he uses a translate app via text. He’s going to model some underwear for me and then a nice long massage, maybe some BFE or fun afterward. I got some nice massage oil for the appointment; looking forward to it. 
 

 

[SouthOfTheBorder]

2 hours ago, MadHatter said:

My appointment is Tuesday, he’ll be at the hotel mon-wed. I got my own room at the hotel so he’ll come to my room as opposed to his.  The thought here was if anyone saw multiple guys going to his room, I didn’t want to be the next one and someone makes a phone call. I don’t want to have a simple noise complaint, and if I do I don’t want it turning into the cops knocking on the door. 

you’re really overthinking this.  
an abundance of caution is always a good idea when meeting someone new, but hotel staff in general, have seen just about everything and you are very unlikely to have a problem with that.  The hotel staff won’t give anyone a second look unless they somehow appear to be entirely out-of-place or some other bizarre behavior.

If I’m meeting someone new at hotel, I always meet them in the lobby or preferably in the bar in full view of hotel staff.  There are two reasons.  First, I want to make sure everything is ok with the provider - meaning he looks his pics, he’s not on drugs or anything else that may cause me to decline the appointment.  If I decline the appointment for any reason at that point, I’d pay half the fee for my decision to cancel without receiving any services.  Second - I want the hotel staff to see me with this person in public.  This creates a situation where the provider knows he has been seen with me & it lessens the probability anything bad could happen.  It’s still possible, but less likely. It’s all about your personal safety.

Noise from hotel rooms is common - kids screaming, TVs very loud, parties in rooms, etc.  Hotel staff will intervene only when a guest complains and then only if it’s at night when people are trying to sleep.  They call the room first and usually politely ask you to curtail the noise - they do not call police as a first step & would only do that in an ongoing egregious situation when you refuse to comply.  The chances of police at your door are just about zero.

If this is your first time, then of course there will be anxiety and some fear of the unknown. Just remember your personal safety comes first always and prioritize that, not what the hotel staff might think.  They do not care.

 

 

[Guest]

12 hours ago, MadHatter said:

...I don’t want to have a simple noise complaint, and if I do I don’t want it turning into the cops knocking on the door. 

...He’s going to model some underwear for me and then a nice long massage...

@SouthOfTheBorder gave you some great advice. I can't imagine how much noise you could possibly make during a "nice, long massage," but if you were to make an inordinate amount of noise, the first response would be a a call from the front desk. If you were to continue with persistent screaming and yelling notwithstanding the phone call, the next step would be a knock on the door by hotel security. Only in the case of willful persistent ignoring of hotel staff requests would the police be called. No way, no how would hotel staff call police simply because someone suspected prostitution was going on (I'm assuming this in't taking place in Uganda). First of all, they know that's none of their business. Secondly, even if some nutty employee were to call the police, the police would have to inform the employee that they couldn't come in because they'd need probable cause and a warrant (from a judge) to enter the room. A mere suspicion does not constitute probable cause. 

If you're really into heavy bondage/S&M activity, there are ways to cut down on the screaming and yelling... 😁

 

 

Edited September 3, 2023 by Unicorn

[MadHatter]

@SouthOfTheBorder thank you for the thoughts. 
 

he’s like 5’6” and I’m 6’3”. He’s in far better shape, Latino, and i’m 39, graying and balding, glasses. Will it look out of place seeing us together, and his speaking English apparently isn’t the best what I’m learning. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

17 hours ago, MadHatter said:

@SouthOfTheBorder thank you for the thoughts. 
 

he’s like 5’6” and I’m 6’3”. He’s in far better shape, Latino, and i’m 39, graying and balding, glasses. Will it look out of place seeing us together, and his speaking English apparently isn’t the best what I’m learning. 

I'm not sure where you're located, but if it's a city of any size or a hotel of any size, seeing two men of different ages and looks is not unusual. We were in Mexico City in July and there were two men who I couldn't decide if they were father and son or a couple. The hotel staff couldn't care less. What to you feels like a scintillating experience is just Monday to them. Particularly if you're not engaged in any public displays of affection, IF they take notice - and that's a big IF - they will likely think your friends or colleagues. 

[blck37]

To majority untrained straight ppl, way way easier to spot MF provider/client than MM ones. And even that, 99% hotel staff wont care apart of some gossips.

To be frank, hotel staffs gain nothing from calling the police....the hotel management would rather not be put in that kind of publication. They hence will turn blind eyes - unless of course you start a gang bang party and making hella noise 🤣 even in that event police escalation is last resort.

[MadHatter]

Great advice from everyone. It was an amazing experience and I lucked out having a provider who was fantastic for first timers. I'd be lying if I said I didn't have first time performance anxiety, but he was patient, kind, enthusiastic, and just drop dead gorgeous.

 

I'd book him again with zero hesitation, largely in part to the advice and perspective of you guys. I can't thank you all enough.