+ Coolwave35 Posted July 24, 2023 Author Share Posted July 24, 2023 Ugh. So I just wanna come back and take a little more responsibility. I’m a big boy and I know what I get with him. My wealth power dynamic intimidates him and his beauty power dynamic intimidates me. Neither one of us has an easy time enforcing boundaries or asking for what we want with each other. With me, he can’t price his time and with him, I can’t say I want you to eat my ass. At any point I could have put my foot down and changed all of it. I know I can because I have, many times, with everyone but him. God being gay is tricky. + robear, + nycman, NJF and 3 others 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ tassojunior Posted July 24, 2023 Share Posted July 24, 2023 28 minutes ago, Coolwave35 said: Ugh. So I just wanna come back and take a little more responsibility. I’m a big boy and I know what I get with him. My wealth power dynamic intimidates him and his beauty power dynamic intimidates me. Neither one of us has an easy time enforcing boundaries or asking for what we want with each other. With me, he can’t price his time and with him, I can’t say I want you to eat my ass. At any point I could have put my foot down and changed all of it. I know I can because I have, many times, with everyone but him. God being gay is tricky. when very young it was a disappointment the first time I saw a merry-go-round from a distance and realized what it was (not that i didn't still enjoy the ride). + nycman and + Coolwave35 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted July 24, 2023 Author Share Posted July 24, 2023 19 hours ago, marylander1940 said: I guess you've been unlucky lately! Don't worry it will pass! We're glad you survived both encounters! Thanks for this throwback lol. Also, in more coolwave striking out news, about three weeks ago a guy on sniffies that was in my neighborhood hit me up. I invited him over after extensively talking about what we wanted to do to each other. He comes in, I offer him a drink, he says I’ll take a bottle of water. As I turn around to walk to the kitchen he says “actually I’m gunna go.” I said ok and just like that it was over. The joke is on him because as it turned out I was out of water bottles so there! 😛 Years ago that would have devastated me, but I was really proud of him for not suffering through a hook up with someone he wasn’t feeling. He saved us both a bad experience. marylander1940, + Pensant, + robear and 4 others 4 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted July 24, 2023 Share Posted July 24, 2023 3 hours ago, Coolwave35 said: God being gay is tricky. It’s the price to pay for the gift. There’s always one guy who somehow makes you throw all reason and rationality to the winds. With me it’s a guy I first met when I started making porn films. We were not intended to film together. I was scheduled to film with a different guy. I’d turned up a little early and was waiting for my turn. The guy running the session was talking to me about his bad back (this was a massage porn film, we’d been discussing massage techniques) and in walks one of the models for what it turns out was an earlier session (but he was over an hour late). I looked around just as he walked in. In that moment he looked at me and smiled. As he walked across the room we kept eye contact. I knew in that instant we had to film together (and evidently so did he because he told me so afterwards). Fortunately the director noticed and changed the pairing so that we’d be together. He’s chaotic, has used drugs (not now fortunately) and is totally unsuitable for any sort of relationship. The actual sex is decent but I’ve had better, but the fun with him, all the build up to sex is amazing. There’s something about him that gets me every time. I don’t hire him (he’s stopped sex work) but I have worked with him (seeing clients and doing films / shows) and we come across each other from time to time. Every time we meet something happens that I’d not do normally. We know we are totally unsuited to each other but as soon as we kiss it’s like starting a chemical reaction. 56harrisond, NJF, Simon Suraci and 4 others 3 1 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
top_guy_atl Posted July 24, 2023 Share Posted July 24, 2023 On 7/23/2023 at 10:17 AM, Coolwave35 said: I picked him up and he was filthy from working and had no clothes I'm sorry. I'm having a hard time getting past the first paragraph. You took a filthy stripper who had no clothes into Macy's? To me, this story sounds a little like a scene from Boogie Nights. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted July 24, 2023 Share Posted July 24, 2023 2 hours ago, Coolwave35 said: Thanks for this throwback lol. Also, in more coolwave striking out news, about three weeks ago a guy on sniffies that was in my neighborhood hit me up. I invited him over after extensively talking about what we wanted to do to each other. He comes in, I offer him a drink, he says I’ll take a bottle of water. As I turn around to walk to the kitchen he says “actually I’m gunna go.” I said ok and just like that it was over. The joke is on him because as it turned out I was out of water bottles so there! 😛 Years ago that would have devastated me, but I was really proud of him for not suffering through a hook up with someone he wasn’t feeling. He saved us both a bad experience. It's nothing but temporary bad luck! It will pass! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted July 24, 2023 Author Share Posted July 24, 2023 1 hour ago, top_guy_atl said: I'm sorry. I'm having a hard time getting past the first paragraph. You took a filthy stripper who had no clothes into Macy's? To me, this story sounds a little like a scene from Boogie Nights. Filthy is poor word choice. Disheveled is better. We had 25 minutes before Macy’s closed and no time to shower. It was a beat up stained v neck and really worn jeans with doc Martin boots. marylander1940 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bucky Posted July 24, 2023 Share Posted July 24, 2023 1 hour ago, Coolwave35 said: Filthy is poor word choice. Disheveled is better. We had 25 minutes before Macy’s closed and no time to shower. It was a beat up stained v neck and really worn jeans with doc Martin boots. My kinda guy ! thomas, samhexum, Lookin and 1 other 1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ ThroatCummer Posted July 25, 2023 Share Posted July 25, 2023 I'm going to go the other direction here. Based on the posts by @Coolwave35, I think there can be something more here. Coolwave, you seem like an awesome guy. I'm not sure what you're looking for longer term, but if you truly adore him and he really needs some 'help' perhaps try to offer to bring this past the hiring phase. There is a place to be a mentor and a trusted confidant with people you really like and find attractive. You have to make sure the value exchange is just mutual, no matter what that looks like for you. I'd set some very, very clear boundaries on every future meeting and also sit him down (sober!) and perhaps show him this forum thread. Have him ready it and your text and all the replies. I personally choose to invest not only my money but also my time (as a client) in those escorts who I find worth it. The ROI measure for everyone is different, but it sounds like you may be able to have an impact on this guys life. I don't know him or you, but I wouldn't write him off just yet on strike two. One more, sure. Good luck. + Pensant and HoseMaster 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ BenjaminNicholas Posted July 25, 2023 Share Posted July 25, 2023 (edited) In my head, I was reading the whole original post as Gloria Upson from Auntie Mame and it made the entire thing palatable. Edited July 25, 2023 by BenjaminNicholas TorontoDrew, thomas, marylander1940 and 4 others 1 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ tassojunior Posted July 25, 2023 Share Posted July 25, 2023 21 hours ago, Coolwave35 said: Filthy is poor word choice. Disheveled is better. We had 25 minutes before Macy’s closed and no time to shower. It was a beat up stained v neck and really worn jeans with doc Martin boots. WalMart is open until 10pm and a better place to be seen dressed like that. Also less likely to run into social associates. (Tip for next round.) cany10011 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cany10011 Posted July 25, 2023 Share Posted July 25, 2023 3 minutes ago, tassojunior said: WalMart is open until 10pm and a better place to be seen dressed like that. Also less likely to run into social associates. (Tip for next round.) Agree. Why spend so much if those clothes won't be on him for long..... TorontoDrew and + tassojunior 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NJF Posted July 25, 2023 Share Posted July 25, 2023 1 hour ago, tassojunior said: WalMart is open until 10pm and a better place to be seen dressed like that. Also less likely to run into social associates. (Tip for next round.) Can you actually find a Walmart on Long Island? mike carey 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ tassojunior Posted July 25, 2023 Share Posted July 25, 2023 2 hours ago, NJF said: Can you actually find a Walmart on Long Island? Seems to be 12. And they're all open to 11pm. Long Island's a WalMart kinda place (ie: Where the good-looking guys live). Dink Flamingo picked up all the hot guys in the original Active Duty at WalMarts in Wilmington, NC. MikeBiDude and KeepItReal 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BSR Posted July 26, 2023 Share Posted July 26, 2023 2 hours ago, tassojunior said: Dink Flamingo picked up all the hot guys in the original Active Duty at WalMarts in Wilmington, NC. Wow, I must be too focused on shopping because I've never once seen a hot (or even significantly better than average) guy at Walmart. Costco and Trader Joe's are a very different story, however. + robear 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted July 26, 2023 Author Share Posted July 26, 2023 Walmart is 35 minutes away and Macy’s is 11. Also, he’s a Macy’s kind of body. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted July 26, 2023 Author Share Posted July 26, 2023 14 hours ago, ThroatCummer said: I'm going to go the other direction here. Based on the posts by @Coolwave35, I think there can be something more here. Coolwave, you seem like an awesome guy. I'm not sure what you're looking for longer term, but if you truly adore him and he really needs some 'help' perhaps try to offer to bring this past the hiring phase. There is a place to be a mentor and a trusted confidant with people you really like and find attractive. You have to make sure the value exchange is just mutual, no matter what that looks like for you. I'd set some very, very clear boundaries on every future meeting and also sit him down (sober!) and perhaps show him this forum thread. Have him ready it and your text and all the replies. I personally choose to invest not only my money but also my time (as a client) in those escorts who I find worth it. The ROI measure for everyone is different, but it sounds like you may be able to have an impact on this guys life. I don't know him or you, but I wouldn't write him off just yet on strike two. One more, sure. Good luck. This is all very sweet, but my days of taking on projects are over. My first guy I invested an incredible amount of time and he died after funding his dream of opening a gym. The last guy I helped buy 3 houses. He now owns 11. He got married to a woman who was jealous of our past, and made him stop talking to me. I just hired two dancers for $150,000.00 a year remote positions, and am offering them 33% profit sharing each. They’ll each clear over $350k this year. They’ve committed to investing the profit sharing into building a real estate portfolio that we share. This is my last investment into guys that have proved they’re ready to leave the business behind. If it doesn’t work, I’m going back to just paying for dick. The boy from Saturday is lost at the moment, and I lack the desire to help him be found. TorontoDrew, + nycman, HoseMaster and 1 other 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted July 26, 2023 Author Share Posted July 26, 2023 11 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said: In my head, I was reading the whole original post as Gloria Upson from Auntie Mame and it made the entire thing palatable. I am not old enough or cultured enough to get the reference, but thanks for taking the time to read and respond. I am glad it didn’t go over all of the members head and it made some people chuckle. I don’t understand the reference so I’m not even entirely sure it isn’t at my expense. All in a day though! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted July 26, 2023 Author Share Posted July 26, 2023 10 hours ago, tassojunior said: Also less likely to run into social associates. (Tip for next round.) Being seen with an escort is half the fun no? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ tassojunior Posted July 26, 2023 Share Posted July 26, 2023 3 hours ago, BSR said: Wow, I must be too focused on shopping because I've never once seen a hot (or even significantly better than average) guy at Walmart. Costco and Trader Joe's are a very different story, however. few times I've been in one I've seen a few stunners, often military. All the young guys at my Trader Joes are skinny and have man-buns or pigtails. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ azdr0710 Posted July 26, 2023 Share Posted July 26, 2023 (edited) 1 hour ago, Coolwave35 said: I am not old enough or cultured enough to get the reference, but thanks for taking the time to read and respond. I am glad it didn’t go over all of the members head and it made some people chuckle. I don’t understand the reference so I’m not even entirely sure it isn’t at my expense. All in a day though! from the 1958 movie.......the Locust Valley Lockjaw accent is perfect...... Edited July 26, 2023 by azdr0710 + jeezopete, TruHart1, + robear and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted July 26, 2023 Author Share Posted July 26, 2023 12 minutes ago, azdr0710 said: from the 1958 movie.......the Locust Valley Lockjaw accent is perfect...... Oh!!! He’s saying my story is boring? Thank you for explaining it to me. + azdr0710 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ BenjaminNicholas Posted July 26, 2023 Share Posted July 26, 2023 3 hours ago, Coolwave35 said: I am not old enough or cultured enough to get the reference, but thanks for taking the time to read and respond. I am glad it didn’t go over all of the members head and it made some people chuckle. I don’t understand the reference so I’m not even entirely sure it isn’t at my expense. All in a day though! Considering I'm likely younger than you, it doesn't take being old to know your film history. Culture comes from experience. There's no great secret to it, but it takes an open mind and stepping outside your comfort zone. My reply wasn't a overt slight, but it did have delicate hints of smart-ass Njguy2, + nycman, + Italiano and 8 others 4 1 1 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 26, 2023 Share Posted July 26, 2023 10 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said: Considering I'm likely younger than you... Maybe, but, if so, not by much... 😉 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted July 26, 2023 Author Share Posted July 26, 2023 4 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said: My reply wasn't an overt slight, but it did have delicate hints of smart-ass Those are my favorite types of posts, thank you! + BenjaminNicholas 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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