Tips for new client

[Guest]

Hey guys! 

I'm a mid thirties bi guy. I decided I wanted to hire a gay male escort because I'm tired of Grindr/Sniffies but I'm also looking for some specific things (mostly guys into certain acts). I've hired female escorts before and had great experiences, so I thought this would be a breeze. However, it isn't working out and it seems that the practices in the straight escort industry don't translate. Most times I reach out I get no response. I was able to hire two guys on different occasions, but they seemed to be straight guys and not really into the things they said they'd be into. Not a great match So I figured I should start from scratch.

I think part of this comes from my location. I'm in the suburbs of NYC, I think I should stop searching locally and try to find guys in NYC. But here are my problems/questions, and any solutions/answers would be greatly appreciated.

I guess first thing is, where are good places to search? I'm looking for an escort, basically BFE (does this mean the same thing as GFE, except with a B instead of a G?) Should I mostly look in NYC? I've been using Rent.Men and filtering but it gets kind of dead out here on LI. Are there other sites?

How should I go about my initial contact? I have reached out on the Rent.Men messenger and texted directly. I have also tried a4a. I even text I get very little responses, and in general it takes a while for guys to get back. Sometimes they'll text me back 8 hours later asking if I am ready Right Now. Is there a good protocol to follow to get a guys interest and show him I am a good, respectful, kind and serious client? Are there ways I can filter out some guys so I only connect with guys who are a bit more professional, serious and customer service focused? Am I just spoiled by women sex workers and have to adjust to the reality there are fewer options this way?

I'm willing to build up trust with an escort over time too, I understand if some of the things I want (groups with two or more escorts) may take time and chemistry to develop. 

Any help or feedback would be appreciated. Also, if you're interested in taking on a tall vers/vers-bottom guy as a client maybe just reach out on here.

 

[blck37]

27 minutes ago, BiDude420 said:

Hey guys! 

I'm a mid thirties bi guy. I decided I wanted to hire a gay male escort because I'm tired of Grindr/Sniffies but I'm also looking for some specific things (mostly guys into certain acts). I've hired female escorts before and had great experiences, so I thought this would be a breeze. However, it isn't working out and it seems that the practices in the straight escort industry don't translate. Most times I reach out I get no response. I was able to hire two guys on different occasions, but they seemed to be straight guys and not really into the things they said they'd be into. Not a great match So I figured I should start from scratch.

I think part of this comes from my location. I'm in the suburbs of NYC, I think I should stop searching locally and try to find guys in NYC. But here are my problems/questions, and any solutions/answers would be greatly appreciated.

I guess first thing is, where are good places to search? I'm looking for an escort, basically BFE (does this mean the same thing as GFE, except with a B instead of a G?) Should I mostly look in NYC? I've been using Rent.Men and filtering but it gets kind of dead out here on LI. Are there other sites?

How should I go about my initial contact? I have reached out on the Rent.Men messenger and texted directly. I have also tried a4a. I even text I get very little responses, and in general it takes a while for guys to get back. Sometimes they'll text me back 8 hours later asking if I am ready Right Now. Is there a good protocol to follow to get a guys interest and show him I am a good, respectful, kind and serious client? Are there ways I can filter out some guys so I only connect with guys who are a bit more professional, serious and customer service focused? Am I just spoiled by women sex workers and have to adjust to the reality there are fewer options this way?

I'm willing to build up trust with an escort over time too, I understand if some of the things I want (groups with two or more escorts) may take time and chemistry to develop. 

Any help or feedback would be appreciated. Also, if you're interested in taking on a tall vers/vers-bottom guy as a client maybe just reach out on here.

 

I have so so many queries. Firstly though, there are ~1k provider ads in NYC, bout ~300 identified as top. So not one of them interest you?

If yoy cant find anyone interest  you in NYC....this gonna take bit more effort. NYC is literally melting pot in the US. Well other than Vegas and LA i guess.

As far as means of communication, not sure what went wrong. Being polite and direct works wonder for me, bout 90%. Got ignored 10%, i think because those providers are just using RM to promote their OF. And also, read said provider' ads before text them on their mobile.

[Guest]

1 minute ago, blck37 said:

I have so so many queries. Firstly though, there are ~1k provider ads in NYC, bout ~300 identified as top. So not one of them interest you?

If yoy cant find anyone interest  you in NYC....this gonna take bit more effort. NYC is literally melting pot in the US. Well other than Vegas and LA i guess.

As far as means of communication, not sure what went wrong. Being polite and direct works wonder for me, bout 90%. Got ignored 10%, i think because those providers are just using RM to promote their OF. And also, read said provider' ads before text them on their mobile.

Well, I live about two hours outside of NYC. There isn't much out here but was hoping I could find something but I guess that answers one question.

[blck37]

3 minutes ago, BiDude420 said:

Well, I live about two hours outside of NYC. There isn't much out here but was hoping I could find something but I guess that answers one question.

In that case, go the old way, grindr....

[Guest]

1 minute ago, blck37 said:

In that case, go the old way, grindr....

As per my initial post, I am tired of grindr.

Out here Grindr is filled with closeted dl "straight" dudes who are married and flakey. 

Thank you for your input.

[Jamie21]

I can’t speak for your location…you might need to travel to find what you’re looking for but I’m sure it exists…it doesn’t appear that you’re looking for a unicorn.

Yes BFE stands for boyfriend experience.

My suggestion is to contact those you like, but only if their profile looks professional: quality pics, well written bio, they might have a website, rates are not too cheap, their RM profile has some recommendations, they’ve been around a while etc. Contact them directly and be clear about what you want and when. Don’t assume a lack of instant response is disinterest. It’s likely he’s busy. And beware of the guys who are only interested in talking to you if you’re booking for ‘now’. A decent guy will engage if you’re looking for tomorrow or next week. 

If you want a group session find a guy you like, see him on his own first and if that goes well ask him if he works with others. You’ll probably get a better session and it will be easier to schedule if you let him work with someone he knows. 
 

[+ DynamicUno]

You are asking some good questions about how to get started.  You're already using RM, which is your best bet for finding reputable guys to hire.  While you can probably find some guys close to you by using the "Near me" function, you're a short ride on the LIRR to NYC which has the biggest variety of providers in a single city in the country.  I'll try to answer some of the questions you posted:

• How should I go about my initial contact?  If the provider says he has a preferred contact method (i.e. RM Chat, Text, Call, etc), do that first!  A lot of guys prefer text these days, because it's less intrusive than a call and more reliable than RM chat.  If they don't give a preferred method, text messages are usually the safest bet.  That said, while the RM chat feature is hit or miss depending on the provider, using it does enable you to post a review if you're a premium RM member.   

 

• Is there a good protocol to follow to get a guys interest and show him I am a good, respectful, kind and serious client?  Good question!  The best way to show him you're a good, respectful, kind, and serious client is to send messages that are respectful, kind, and serious.  A solid first message would be something like "Hi <name>, I saw your ad on RM.  I'm planning to come into the city this weekend and would love to meet you.  Are you available Saturday around 7?"  Be patient and know that some guys are going to be more responsive than others for any number of reasons.  If a guy doesn't get back to you in a reasonable timeframe, move on to antother or try again another time.

 

• Are there ways I can filter out some guys so I only connect with guys who are a bit more professional, serious and customer service focused?  Some of  biggest indicators would be a well written profile that has been active for some time, with good reviews (using a proxy to see RM from a non US based IP will let you read review text which can be very enlightening).  Posting questions here about guys who catch your interest is also good way to weed out flakes (though not a guarantee).

 

• Am I just spoiled by women sex workers and have to adjust to the reality there are fewer options this way?  Maybe.  Sex work in the heterosexual world is orders of magnitude larger.  Still, there's plenty of great guys in the business, just take your time and do what you can to check a guy out before trying to set up a meeting.

[Shawn Monroe]

hey! so i’m in a facebook group with female escorts in australia. and though some things are the same, the biggest difference does indeed seem to be the initial point of contact. that being said the initial point of contact practices should translate well between male and female escorts. you don’t need the references or to fill out the forms!

as was said above most of us (though not all) prefer communication via text. phone calls are intrusive (and some people are not as good at the phone as they think they are), and the RM app is buggy. a good initial text (no “hey”) stating what you’re looking for and potential time to meet will work wonders. 

you’re also looking in the best place. at this point, i’d cut a4a out - it’s about as good as grindr. RM will be your best bet. that being said, getting a feel for a guy through his profile can be hit or miss; communication (and actually stating what you want) are the best ways to go about it. and sometimes it really is just trying until you find a (few) good guy(s) and sticking to them.  

i can’t speak for everyone, but the less texts to set up a meeting are usually better. trying to build up a rapport (if you haven’t hired yet) can make you seem like you’re looking for a texting buddy vs trying to set an appointment. so get it all out initially. 

oh and also, GFE or BFE means something different to everyone. every client and every provider has a different idea of what that is - is it an actual date to an event, is it talking, is it passionate sex? i wouldn’t even go about describing your experience as that and just communicating what you want, asking if they can provide it, and go from there.  

this was a lot, and some don’t like to read. but you’re on the right track!

[+ Coolwave35]

6 hours ago, BiDude420 said:

Hey guys! 

I'm a mid thirties bi guy. I decided I wanted to hire a gay male escort because I'm tired of Grindr/Sniffies but I'm also looking for some specific things (mostly guys into certain acts). I've hired female escorts before and had great experiences, so I thought this would be a breeze. However, it isn't working out and it seems that the practices in the straight escort industry don't translate. Most times I reach out I get no response. I was able to hire two guys on different occasions, but they seemed to be straight guys and not really into the things they said they'd be into. Not a great match So I figured I should start from scratch.

I think part of this comes from my location. I'm in the suburbs of NYC, I think I should stop searching locally and try to find guys in NYC. But here are my problems/questions, and any solutions/answers would be greatly appreciated.

I guess first thing is, where are good places to search? I'm looking for an escort, basically BFE (does this mean the same thing as GFE, except with a B instead of a G?) Should I mostly look in NYC? I've been using Rent.Men and filtering but it gets kind of dead out here on LI. Are there other sites?

How should I go about my initial contact? I have reached out on the Rent.Men messenger and texted directly. I have also tried a4a. I even text I get very little responses, and in general it takes a while for guys to get back. Sometimes they'll text me back 8 hours later asking if I am ready Right Now. Is there a good protocol to follow to get a guys interest and show him I am a good, respectful, kind and serious client? Are there ways I can filter out some guys so I only connect with guys who are a bit more professional, serious and customer service focused? Am I just spoiled by women sex workers and have to adjust to the reality there are fewer options this way?

I'm willing to build up trust with an escort over time too, I understand if some of the things I want (groups with two or more escorts) may take time and chemistry to develop. 

Any help or feedback would be appreciated. Also, if you're interested in taking on a tall vers/vers-bottom guy as a client maybe just reach out on here.

 

I’m on Long Island. I know many boys. Pm me if you wanna get together and go through the Rolodex. 

[Guest]

12 hours ago, Shawn Monroe said:

hey! so i’m in a facebook group with female escorts in australia. and though some things are the same, the biggest difference does indeed seem to be the initial point of contact. that being said the initial point of contact practices should translate well between male and female escorts. you don’t need the references or to fill out the forms!

as was said above most of us (though not all) prefer communication via text. phone calls are intrusive (and some people are not as good at the phone as they think they are), and the RM app is buggy. a good initial text (no “hey”) stating what you’re looking for and potential time to meet will work wonders. 

you’re also looking in the best place. at this point, i’d cut a4a out - it’s about as good as grindr. RM will be your best bet. that being said, getting a feel for a guy through his profile can be hit or miss; communication (and actually stating what you want) are the best ways to go about it. and sometimes it really is just trying until you find a (few) good guy(s) and sticking to them.  

i can’t speak for everyone, but the less texts to set up a meeting are usually better. trying to build up a rapport (if you haven’t hired yet) can make you seem like you’re looking for a texting buddy vs trying to set an appointment. so get it all out initially. 

oh and also, GFE or BFE means something different to everyone. every client and every provider has a different idea of what that is - is it an actual date to an event, is it talking, is it passionate sex? i wouldn’t even go about describing your experience as that and just communicating what you want, asking if they can provide it, and go from there.  

this was a lot, and some don’t like to read. but you’re on the right track!

I appreciate the feedback and consideration given. Wish you were a bit closer tbh lol.

[KennF]

22 hours ago, BiDude420 said:

Hey guys! 

I'm a mid thirties bi guy. I decided I wanted to hire a gay male escort because I'm tired of Grindr/Sniffies but I'm also looking for some specific things (mostly guys into certain acts). I've hired female escorts before and had great experiences, so I thought this would be a breeze. However, it isn't working out and it seems that the practices in the straight escort industry don't translate. Most times I reach out I get no response. I was able to hire two guys on different occasions, but they seemed to be straight guys and not really into the things they said they'd be into. Not a great match So I figured I should start from scratch.

I think part of this comes from my location. I'm in the suburbs of NYC, I think I should stop searching locally and try to find guys in NYC. But here are my problems/questions, and any solutions/answers would be greatly appreciated.

I guess first thing is, where are good places to search? I'm looking for an escort, basically BFE (does this mean the same thing as GFE, except with a B instead of a G?) Should I mostly look in NYC? I've been using Rent.Men and filtering but it gets kind of dead out here on LI. Are there other sites?

How should I go about my initial contact? I have reached out on the Rent.Men messenger and texted directly. I have also tried a4a. I even text I get very little responses, and in general it takes a while for guys to get back. Sometimes they'll text me back 8 hours later asking if I am ready Right Now. Is there a good protocol to follow to get a guys interest and show him I am a good, respectful, kind and serious client? Are there ways I can filter out some guys so I only connect with guys who are a bit more professional, serious and customer service focused? Am I just spoiled by women sex workers and have to adjust to the reality there are fewer options this way?

I'm willing to build up trust with an escort over time too, I understand if some of the things I want (groups with two or more escorts) may take time and chemistry to develop. 

Any help or feedback would be appreciated. Also, if you're interested in taking on a tall vers/vers-bottom guy as a client maybe just reach out on here.

 

You have already gotten a bunch of good advice.  Sounds like you're in mid-Suffolk, so that could be the biggest obstacle.  We both know that people in NYC'ers are not likely to have cars.  They see someone from Suffolk County and don't bother. 

To overcome this, you may want to consider changing your approach and in your original contact let them know you'd like to bring them out to Long Island for a visit/day/trip/weekend.  Or, let them know you're willing to meet them in NYC.  Or, let them know you're arranging for car service.  

As for finding the right one or filtering... I leave as many filters off as possible.  Many guys skip over certain settings.  If you filter in Body Type: Jock, and a nice jock-type doesn't check the "Jock" box, then you'll miss them.  Look for guys that have had longer term active profiles by looking at the Member Since or Joined On dates.  Also, the number of profile visits will give you an idea on how long they've been around.  New profiles tend to be chancy and if you want a serious professional, you want someone who knows the industry.

But as for the which app... RM is probably the best place.  Just don't limit the area or distance.  At least half of the guys are traveling around the country.  In the hetero market, there are lots of choices next door, no matter where you live.  In our market, the guys are willing to travel more, but they need to see you as serious and direct.

 

Just my tuppence.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

There's lots of good advice here. I'm in NYC and there's lots of great guys here. However, they are highly concentrated in Manhattan. 

So as @KennF suggested, offering to get them to you is great. I live in a borough that is not Manhattan and it can be hard to get guys to come here (like 30 minutes by train). However, we have found guys who do outcalls and live in our borough, much closer to us. Sometimes they'll take an inexpensive cab over. Some ride their bikes. 

Another option would be to come to Manhattan for an evening, maybe check out a show, get a hotel for the night and set it up with an escort in advance. If you're looking for a BFE experience, it could be like a fun date night. My caution there would be to make sure you're dealing with a solid pro, who is not going to flake on you. I definitely have guys I would recommend for such a situation. 

[nate_sf]

I’m curious, what’s involved in hiring a female escort? This is just out of curiosity more than anything, but might also highlight how things might be different with a guy. 

I’m guessing that there may be female providers out where you live, but probably not a lot of male providers. The guys tend to concentrate in the cities, at least in my experience, and don’t tend to be located in the ‘burbs. 

My suggestion along the lines that others have suggested is to travel to NYC to meet a guy you’re interested in, and if you hit it off you can invite him out to see you at your place the next time. 

Another thought is to describe what you want in your RM profile, including BFE and your location. Who knows, there may be a guy who has reason to go out your direction, maybe he has family or friends there so would be amenable. When guys contact me through RM I check out their profile, and it’s really helpful to have that kind of info. 

And/or see who @Coolwave35 has in his Rolodex! I’d trust his judgment. 

[Guest]

49 minutes ago, nate_sf said:

I’m curious, what’s involved in hiring a female escort? This is just out of curiosity more than anything, but might also highlight how things might be different with a guy. 

I’m guessing that there may be female providers out where you live, but probably not a lot of male providers. The guys tend to concentrate in the cities, at least in my experience, and don’t tend to be located in the ‘burbs. 

My suggestion along the lines that others have suggested is to travel to NYC to meet a guy you’re interested in, and if you hit it off you can invite him out to see you at your place the next time. 

Another thought is to describe what you want in your RM profile, including BFE and your location. Who knows, there may be a guy who has reason to go out your direction, maybe he has family or friends there so would be amenable. When guys contact me through RM I check out their profile, and it’s really helpful to have that kind of info. 

And/or see who @Coolwave35 has in his Rolodex! I’d trust his judgment. 

Women escorts are much more up-front about their demands/protocol for initial contact/communication. In their ad they will be up front about their preferred method of contact (text/call/e-mail/website form), their availability, how to talk to them, and any screening requirements and background checks. If you follow their instructions and communicate clearly they usually get back in a very timely manner. Things like rates are disclosed in the ad, and there is a sort of language used between clients and escorts that make it fairly easy for everyone to know what to expect. As a result, the whole process is smoother. There are fewer questions to ask up front. 

The initial message is basically "Hello I am so and so, I saw your ad on this website. I want to see you on this date and time for this many hours, are you free."  Things usually proceed pretty smoothly from there. 

I think some of this is just differences between men and women. As someone who dates both, women are in general better at scheduling and communicating. They also tend to be much more accommodating.

I don't know maybe it is just something I have to get used to and maybe I am just a bit spoiled. It just gets annoying, it seems like some of these guys forget they are supposed to be the ones convincing me to hand over hundreds, if not a few thousand, dollars.

[+ ThroatCummer]

@BiDude420 if you can provide us with a couple of links to guys who are your "type" and you are willing to do what @KensingtonHomo mentioned above about making it a date night, I have someone to refer that will completely blow you out of the water. 100% reliable, awesome, and everything you're looking for.  He will be in New York City a lot next month, but that isn't his home base. 

[Guest]

4 hours ago, ThroatCummer said:

@BiDude420 if you can provide us with a couple of links to guys who are your "type" and you are willing to do what @KensingtonHomo mentioned above about making it a date night, I have someone to refer that will completely blow you out of the water. 100% reliable, awesome, and everything you're looking for.  He will be in New York City a lot next month, but that isn't his home base. 

The thing is, its not really about physical looks, more about chemistry. The hottest guys and girls aren't always the best sexual partners. I like a variety of types. Its mostly about attitude, trust, and if we enjoy doing the same things together. I saw two male escorts so far. One kept pounding away when I was asking him to stop or slow down, the other just wasn't into it. Both kind of mislead me about what they were into, and I think both guys were straight dudes doing gay 4 pay. I guess these are my list of attributes I want the most.

1) Has to really into guys and gay sex. I think I mostly have to stay with gay guys, avoid straight guys, be suspicious and wary of bi guys. I wish it wasn't this way since I am a bi guy but lots of bi guys have internalized homophobia. So I want a man who likes having sex with men and has no hang ups or issues about it.

2) Preference is for a Boyfriend Experience. Basically intimate/passionate experience with lots of making out. Ok with meeting for dinner before if it helps the right guy get into a good mindset. A guy who is vers or vers-top, since my preferences are usually flipping or bottoming. He is ok with using condoms for penetration. He likes to rim and get rimmed.  He would preferably also be into groups and maybe have a guy or two he knows he can work with. Experience with kink/bondage/bdsm a plus.

3) I find a variety of men attractive. I don't care about looks. Guys from any race or ethnicity. I tend to like guys who are skinny, toned or muscular. Just want someone with a great cock (7" or more I guess?) and a nice ass.

4) Its more about personality. If a guy is going to have a tons of rules, hang-ups and attitude I probably won't want to deal with him. If a guy comes off as "alpha" or aggressive in any way I'm out. Great if his profile is welcoming, communication style is friendly and making a plan with him isn't hard work.

[KennF]

On 6/21/2023 at 9:24 PM, BiDude420 said:

Women escorts are much more up-front about their demands/protocol for initial contact/communication. In their ad they will be up front about their preferred method of contact (text/call/e-mail/website form), their availability, how to talk to them, and any screening requirements and background checks. If you follow their instructions and communicate clearly they usually get back in a very timely manner. Things like rates are disclosed in the ad, and there is a sort of language used between clients and escorts that make it fairly easy for everyone to know what to expect. As a result, the whole process is smoother. There are fewer questions to ask up front. 

The initial message is basically "Hello I am so and so, I saw your ad on this website. I want to see you on this date and time for this many hours, are you free."  Things usually proceed pretty smoothly from there. 

I think some of this is just differences between men and women. As someone who dates both, women are in general better at scheduling and communicating. They also tend to be much more accommodating.

I don't know maybe it is just something I have to get used to and maybe I am just a bit spoiled. It just gets annoying, it seems like some of these guys forget they are supposed to be the ones convincing me to hand over hundreds, if not a few thousand, dollars.

I think I start to see why you wanted to a difference between male and female escorts.  It is strictly supply and demand versus expectations. 

With women, there are more options.  So they have to be more attentive to trying trying to convince to give up your money but with guys there are fewer and they tend to be traveling from city to city..  As a result the supply is lower and it's equally on both the provider and the cliento make sure it works.

But you are also right in that there are a lot more gay 4 pay.  It sounds like you really want to be with someone who enjoys gay sex.

Just be careful with the filters because there are a lot of gay guys who don't list gay and instead or marketing towards guys who wanna be with str8 men.

[Shawn Monroe]

14 hours ago, KennF said:

I think I start to see why you wanted to a difference between male and female escorts.  It is strictly supply and demand versus expectations. 

With women, there are more options.  So they have to be more attentive to trying trying to convince to give up your money but with guys there are fewer and they tend to be traveling from city to city..  As a result the supply is lower and it's equally on both the provider and the cliento make sure it works.

But you are also right in that there are a lot more gay 4 pay.  It sounds like you really want to be with someone who enjoys gay sex.

Just be careful with the filters because there are a lot of gay guys who don't list gay and instead or marketing towards guys who wanna be with str8 men.

While not wrong, I think it more stems from the (warranted) fear of assault. Not to say that won’t happen to male escorts as well, but ensuring a male client has been vetted by other female providers, can fill out a form and can communicate well, puts them less in danger. 

[italianboyph]

Just be upfront and open with what you're looking for and make sure you tell the provider everything. It's also okay to be nervous at first, as a lot of clients have been in your same shoes. 🥰

[pubic_assistance]

My two cents:

Heterosexual escorts are everywhere because heterosexual people are everywhere.

Gay escorts tend to cling to major metropolitan areas because gay men prefer major metropolitan areas (to live and to travel to party).

So....Suffolk county is going to be limited in it gay population and therefore even fewer gay escorts.

Very nice of @Coolwave35 to share some of his contacts !!

NYC is a train ride away. So your best bet is to meet up at a hotel in Manhattan. Dayuse.com has good rates on hotel rooms during the day for a few hours.

As far as arranging your dream encounter...it's a matter of trial and error. Every provider is going to have a different style. If you want the intimacy of the boyfriend experience you're looking for a specific kind of provider, which might not always be available along with the look you're going for. So again...it's trial and error.

There is no single method to arranging your dream date. But as others here said...Rent.men is always your best resource. Most all of the other sites are dead zones of old, stale profiles that aren't going to get back to you.

[+ Coolwave35]

I’d be happy to bring you to the Adonis nude party next month in nyc. Since we live 15 minutes from each other, I’ll drive you and then give you the low down on who would fit your bill. Surely there is someone you’ll like and I’ll tell you if they’re a hustler or legit. 

[Anthony]

Long Island is totally dead. I've searched for very long time and there is nothing on Long Island. If you're located in Nassau there are probably a few escorts compared to Suffolk that travel in from NYC from time to time. However, once again, the escorts on Long Island lack quality. They aren't worth the time/money. I've tried rentmen and grindr but no luck. There is a Long Island thread on this forum that you can check out but it never helped me. 

On the other note, about traveling to NYC, I am on edge about that because that immediately drives up the cost to travel into the city and also takes time and on top of that escorts charge more in NYC. Also, NYC is massive and not really sure where to look and there's also a safety issue I'm worried about. I almost think its more affordable, safer and better to travel to a different state and find something there than to travel, book a hotel and find an escort in NYC but that's my opinion 

[cany10011]

2 hours (or 4 hours to and fro) is a long travel time for a first time encounter unless the escort were heavily incentivized. Would probably think of investing in a hotel room in midtown and booking one or two guys for the day/night. 

[+ Coolwave35]

2 hours ago, Anthony said:

Long Island is totally dead. I've searched for very long time and there is nothing on Long Island. If you're located in Nassau there are probably a few escorts compared to Suffolk that travel in from NYC from time to time. However, once again, the escorts on Long Island lack quality. They aren't worth the time/money. I've tried rentmen and grindr but no luck. There is a Long Island thread on this forum that you can check out but it never helped me. 

On the other note, about traveling to NYC, I am on edge about that because that immediately drives up the cost to travel into the city and also takes time and on top of that escorts charge more in NYC. Also, NYC is massive and not really sure where to look and there's also a safety issue I'm worried about. I almost think its more affordable, safer and better to travel to a different state and find something there than to travel, book a hotel and find an escort in NYC but that's my opinion 

It’s not you it’s them. 

[Xavitv]

4 hours ago, Anthony said:

 

On the other note, about traveling to NYC, I am on edge about that because that immediately drives up the cost to travel into the city and also takes time and on top of that escorts charge more in NYC. Also, NYC is massive and not really sure where to look and there's also a safety issue I'm worried about. I almost think its more affordable, safer and better to travel to a different state and find something there than to travel, book a hotel and find an escort in NYC but that's my opinion 

Nah