So, I'll speak in the minority (maybe).
You are giving your power away. You are turning yourself into a victim and you should take a breath for a moment. Regardless of the fact that we don't have all the details, that's not important. We aren't involved and can only respond to the details you've shared. We are neither judge nor jury. My opinion is only based on your current information.
You need to accept that you are giving him your power. Sorry. And I know it is scary. It is probably because you are 'embarrassed', 'ashamed', 'afraid', <fill-in-the-blank> of him revealing or outing you. This is really about him stalking you and taking advantage of your giving him your voice and power. That doesn't mean ignore it and hope it goes away. You do need to take your power back.
Three possible suggestions:
Suggestion 1: Tell him you owe him nothing and that if he continues to harass you, you will go to authorities. You consider his behavior bullying, abusive, and harassment, and unacceptable. You are ceasing all communication and further attempts by him will result in you going to the police.
Suggestion 2: Stop ALL communication. If he calls, hang-up without saying anything. If he texts, block the texts. However he communicates, do NOT respond. You're reaction is a lever for him to control you. If you don't get riled, then he has no control.
Suggestion 3: Go ahead and report it to the authorities. Talk to an attorney and listen to their advice. You do not have to lie about it. You don't have to obfuscate. If need be, tell them the truth. The issue here is about escalating behavior and stalking.
Just my tuppence.
Just for the record, I am not a lawyer, nor do I play one on TV.
