Providers who are very successful in real life

[AZN_NYC]

It is a common perception that providers are lowly educated, have no real job or can't do anything else.

In mingling with some providers, I found that many of them, however, have extremely accomplished careers or are very highly educated.

There are providers who are medical doctor, lawyer, nurse practitioner, college professor, bankers, Phd candidate, just to name a few. Some providers graduated from Harvard, Columbia, Wharton, Oxford, Cambridge, Stanford, UCLA etc.

The reasons they became providers are abundant and sometime very personal but all of them do not regret what they do and most are very happy with this gig.

Have you ever met a provider that are very successful in real life and scratch your head why on earth they became provider? 

[+ Lucky]

48 minutes ago, AZN_NYC said:

Have you ever met a provider that are very successful in real life and scratch your head why on earth they became provider? 

I won't have had that experience until I meet you!

[dbar123]

One of my providers is a practicing attorney. He just enjoys the escape of escorting. His partner, a therapist, is also an escort. I enjoy seeing them simultaneously. They groove on having 3-somes especially if they can both top.

Another escort I see just got his PhD in neurobiology. He enjoys the diversion as well.

I seen all kinds of guys with day jobs including nursing, flight attendant, gym owner, teacher, programmer, etc. Nothing wrong with a side hustle.

[Jamie21]

All of those I know who do sex work (and this includes me) are doing it because they choose to, not because they have to. They’re intelligent, successful, interesting people. I’ve found that if you’re successful in one field it’s possible to take learnings from that and bring them to sex work and be successful there too.

Similarly with guys I’ve met whilst making porn. They’re invariably intelligent switched on people doing it because they enjoy it and are good at it. If you don’t enjoy the work you really won’t last long doing it. 

[Guest]

There's an escort in SF, whom I hired some 25 years ago, who used to have his law school diploma on his wall. Although he's now in his late 50s, he's been advertising as being 39 years old for many years, with no push-back from the rentmen.eu site where he advertises. Of course, I don't know him enough to know whether he escorts to supplement his income with escorting, or whether he's just an unsuccessful attorney. 

[Jamie21]

48 minutes ago, Unicorn said:

There's an escort in SF, whom I hired some 25 years ago, who used to have his law school diploma on his wall. Although he's now in his late 50s, he's been advertising as being 39 years old for many years, with no push-back from the rentmen.eu site where he advertises. Of course, I don't know him enough to know whether he escorts to supplement his income with escorting, or whether he's just an unsuccessful attorney. 

He’s probably an escort who supplements his income as an attorney. Both jobs involve fucking clients. 

[XIX]

I'm sure a lot of providers who do sensual/erotic massage also do regular massages as well.

Anyone who's doing both a high profile job like nursing, teaching etc and also doing provider work has to have a hectic schedule unless they only do provider work on certain evenings or weekends. 

 

 

[marylander1940]

I know an escort from Uruguay who now is worth 2,000,000 in real estate in his country! He's also well-educated but does not have a degree because he's a college drop out. 

On 6/16/2023 at 9:26 PM, AZN_NYC said:

It is a common perception that providers are lowly educated, have no real job or can't do anything else.

In mingling with some providers, I found that many of them, however, have extremely accomplished careers or are very highly educated.

There are providers who are medical doctor, lawyer, nurse practitioner, college professor, bankers, Phd candidate, just to name a few. Some providers graduated from Harvard, Columbia, Wharton, Oxford, Cambridge, Stanford, UCLA etc.

The reasons they became providers are abundant and sometime very personal but all of them do not regret what they do and most are very happy with this gig.

Have you ever met a provider that are very successful in real life and scratch your head why on earth they became provider? 

I'm not sure if that's a common perception as in something most believe to be true. Is hard to make a generalization about why some guys decide to escort while others would never do such a thing.

I have eyewitness in my years as a client that guys with brains once they decide to escort make a career out of it, while folks who do it because they have NO other choice because they have no education, they can't keep a job or have a criminal record sooner or later miss appointments, can't handle money, etc. 

Edited June 18, 2023 by marylander1940

[AZN_NYC]

3 hours ago, XIX said:

I'm sure a lot of providers who do sensual/erotic massage also do regular massages as well.

In certain jurisdictions, this is very risky. For example, in New York, to obtain a license to be a massage therapist, one needs to complete a college degree or equivalent of 1000 hours in training (including biology, physiology and anatomy, etc) from only a few state approved educational institutions where the cost is upward to 80K and as long as 2 years of full time study. Then after completing the education, they need to pass a license exam and then will be issued a license to do massage. Doing sensual/erotic massage is against the rule of their license and if got caught they will lose it. Most massage therapists in New York with a real license can earn a decent living from that job in spa/salon/clinic and because it is so hard to obtain a massage license, they will not risk their career doing sensual/erotic massage. Of course, some will still do it but they do in a private setting and would not advertise openly.  

[+ José Soplanucas]

On 6/16/2023 at 10:26 PM, AZN_NYC said:

It is a common perception that providers are lowly educated, have no real job or can't do anything else.

In mingling with some providers, I found that many of them, however, have extremely accomplished careers or are very highly educated.

There are providers who are medical doctor, lawyer, nurse practitioner, college professor, bankers, Phd candidate, just to name a few. Some providers graduated from Harvard, Columbia, Wharton, Oxford, Cambridge, Stanford, UCLA etc.

The reasons they became providers are abundant and sometime very personal but all of them do not regret what they do and most are very happy with this gig.

Have you ever met a provider that are very successful in real life and scratch your head why on earth they became provider? 

I am appalled that in a forum for sex work fans, someone would still opposed "real jobs" and "real life" to sex work.

[Jamie21]

On 6/18/2023 at 12:05 AM, XIX said:

I'm sure a lot of providers who do sensual/erotic massage also do regular massages as well.

Anyone who's doing both a high profile job like nursing, teaching etc and also doing provider work has to have a hectic schedule unless they only do provider work on certain evenings or weekends. 

 

 

You’d think so wouldn’t you, but I believe it’s much less common than you’d expect. In the first instance it’s very difficult to separate the two different styles. If you’re offering strictly therapeutic style massage you definitely can’t blur the lines with clients without risking your license. I know that therapeutic masseurs can also be quite critical of sensual masseurs because they think we demean their profession, by association. 

Also the techniques are quite different, so sensual or erotic massage requires skills that you’d never learn from doing therapeutic massage. 

There’s also the question of advertising and having a separate number etc for therapeutic clients vs sensual clients and a different pricing structure. I think you’d begin to question why you’re doing a therapeutic massage for less than half the money you’d earn doing a sensual massage. 

So I believe that the parallel career of a sensual masseur is more likely to be escort or an Onlyfans performer rather than a therapeutic masseur. Certainly that’s what I do and I know many other masseurs who are similar. 
 

 

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I find the premise of this thread to be misguided.  Full-time sex work is real life.   It would be akin to saying that actors are not successful in real life.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

4 hours ago, sam.fitzpatrick said:

I find the premise of this thread to be misguided.  Full-time sex work is real life.   It would be akin to saying that actors are not successful in real life.

One hundred fucking percent this.  Couldn't have said it any better myself.

This IS a career if you do it right.  A career that can be more rewarding than many 'professional' jobs out there.

The op has this strange view that this isn't real life for many of us who have made it a very real, very successful choice of living.

[+ ThroatCummer]

I think there should be a distinction between full-time escort work and work on the side. The word "full-time" didn't come into play until @sam.fitzpatrick mentioned it above. 

Yes, you can make it your career, your identity, and your job. That's awesome. But there are also those who do it just because. The one escort I live and die by does this on the side. Money isn't the primary factor in their motivations. Sure it helps, and it's nice, but they genuinely like to make connections with people and are one of those "people-pleaser" types we have all heard about. He has a full-time professional job in a fairly high-profile industry where this is a hobby. He has over 100+ reviews on RM that are all 5.0 across the board (not 4.8 or 4.9) and obviously, it shows.  

So in this context, this isn't their "real life" but sure, at this point we are just playing with semantics. Here's a hint: those who do it for the connections are the absolute best out there. Find someone like that and make them your regular. It's completely worth it.  

[Jamie21]

9 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

One hundred fucking percent this.  Couldn't have said it any better myself.

This IS a career if you do it right.  A career that can be more rewarding than many 'professional' jobs out there.

The op has this strange view that this isn't real life for many of us who have made it a very real, very successful choice of living.

Agree, doing it part time is also real life, and I mean as a source of income not as a bit of a side hustle. The important thing is that sex work is a clear choice and it is approached professionally by the guy. Maybe the OP meant ‘providers who are very successful in a more mainstream field’ rather than ‘in real life’? 

[XIX]

I don't object to anyone having a side hustle but I do wonder how someone balances something like sex work with an equally stressful job like being a nurse, lawyer, doctor etc especially a doctor where depending on your experience it can be very intensive in terms of hours.