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Wow this is pre internet I guess? With the internet kids these days have access to unlimited porn from very young age, I am not sure if that is a good or bad thing though

I've not thought about this voice effect but feel like a conversation on phone before meeting usually leads to good outcome 😊

Even with prosthethic penises, they look very real and super sexy, I find it more sexy to watch movies/TV series that pepper nudity with a real plot and serious acting than watching porn. I wish they made more products like this, I am sure there will be huge demand! Another series that is very sexy is another grand production TV series "Marco Polos" by Netflix. It is one of the most expensive TV series ever made and was really thrilling, I am so sad when they decided to cancel it half way due to cost!

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A good provider is usually very open minded and weight is not the most concern for him. What more important is personality and hygiene. I personally find bears attractive, especially if they come with friendly smiles 😊

Usually a one-word or abrupt messages such as below are redflags: "Sup?" (100% ignore, I hate this so much!!) "Hey, free?" "What ya rates?" "hi 👋" (100% ignore) "face pics?" "pick up ya phone" These are all real and very common first contacts from clients and most of the time they ended up not the type of client I want to engage. Asking for rates before telling what's your expectation is also a redflag. If you go to any service provider and ask for a quote, they will need to know what exactly do you want first. Even a very simple description such as "I want an hour massage at my place at.... with these requirements: ..." will be enough for providers to give a quote. Be straight to the point and clearly describe what you want is often very welcomed! Requesting for face photo in the first message is also a bit awkward to me. There are reasons why providers chose not to put their face photos in public. They may want some discretion and will only share face photo when feeling comfortable. Usually after chatting with a client and I feel comfortable about him, I would he happy to share my face photos but not at the first contact.

Daddy types are hot everyday and not just today 😊

In certain jurisdictions, this is very risky. For example, in New York, to obtain a license to be a massage therapist, one needs to complete a college degree or equivalent of 1000 hours in training (including biology, physiology and anatomy, etc) from only a few state approved educational institutions where the cost is upward to 80K and as long as 2 years of full time study. Then after completing the education, they need to pass a license exam and then will be issued a license to do massage. Doing sensual/erotic massage is against the rule of their license and if got caught they will lose it. Most massage therapists in New York with a real license can earn a decent living from that job in spa/salon/clinic and because it is so hard to obtain a massage license, they will not risk their career doing sensual/erotic massage. Of course, some will still do it but they do in a private setting and would not advertise openly.

This time it is not an overnight one, client is in another state and we chatted and he likes to meet for a few hours. He thought about travelling to NY but the cost would be even more than inviting me to visit him so he suggested if I could travel to meet him instead. I would be more reluctant if it is an overnight for the first meeting but he assured that it is not and I can fly back the same day if I wish. I have done overnight before and it was really great because I was with someone I have already met a few times. We met early in the afternoon, had a good dinner, went to watch a show together, walking back to the hotel on busy streets and spent the rest of the night chilling. We slept on different beds and in the morning we enjoyed some cuddling and fun before having breakfast together and say goodbye. It was at a nice hotel with spectacular view of the city so we feel like on top of the world. It was a great experience to remember.

You seem like a great client and treat your providers so well. I think for extended trip like this, it would need both parties to be very careful and to make sure that both sides are comfortable spending such a long time together. Ideally, both should have met for a brief time before deciding to do overnight or weekends. However for clients out of state, it would not be an option. Even when dating, people do not see the bad sides of each other until they move in together. As @Simon Suraci mentioned, some providers do not like to do overnight because they don't want client to see the not-so-good side of them such as morning breath, snoring or fighting for blanket at night etc.. People also have different preferences such as room temperature, level of noise, lighting.... and without knowing the other well enough, it would be hard to predict if both would share similar preferences to have a good night sleep. To me I would only spend extended time with a client if I know that it would be a pleasant experience because there is some chemistry. Overnight can be very intimate, very romantic, very passionate but it could also end up in a nightmare situation where both can't sleep and tired the day after because you can't tolerate the other party sharing the bed at night. Staying up all night to play is not really a thing for most people, the goal of an overnight experience is to simulate a bfe experience as much as possible and couples do not stay up all night when they date, do they? I always tell myself that overnight or weekends can be lucrative but at the same time it could be your last contact with a good client if it ends up a bad experience, so proceed with caution.

If it is really oversleeping then I would not have any problem with that. However, anyone can see this is just a lame excuse to get out. Between ending of business dinner and walking back to hotel, there are plenty of time to send a simple text replying my request for update but instead he chose to be radio silence and only send a short message "I fell asleep" the next day. A bit more context, the previous 2 meetings were good but same pattern. Meeting was set in early afternoon but only happened late at night. But they did happen though, unlike this time. I also replied to him that I am not happy he stood me up as I have spent time preparing for it and was also worried if anything happened to him since we texted a lot before the day of appointment but he suddenly stopped. His one word reply "Bummer" shows lack of sympathy and at this point I decided to write him off.

Not a movie but have you watched the TV Series "Spartacus"? Not only there are tons of full frontal muscular men, there are also lots of nude fighting. It is a mainstream TV series but closest to porn ever produced and where male actors are nude more often than female counterparts

You are right, I will have to learn to develop a thick skin and protect myself from these nonsenses. It is also important to have a set of rules for moving on, like I am not waiting for hours, if you do not reply a request for update for more than 30 mins then the meeting is cancelled. If you delay the meeting for more than an hour then it is cancelled. If you miss appointments twice then you are not welcomed any more.

It is a common perception that providers are lowly educated, have no real job or can't do anything else. In mingling with some providers, I found that many of them, however, have extremely accomplished careers or are very highly educated. There are providers who are medical doctor, lawyer, nurse practitioner, college professor, bankers, Phd candidate, just to name a few. Some providers graduated from Harvard, Columbia, Wharton, Oxford, Cambridge, Stanford, UCLA etc. The reasons they became providers are abundant and sometime very personal but all of them do not regret what they do and most are very happy with this gig. Have you ever met a provider that are very successful in real life and scratch your head why on earth they became provider?

If the pics are AI generated then 100% profile is scam, I am wondering how these photos passed the verification of RM? I saw some profiles with verified photos but the pics are obviously AI generated or even like a cartoon. For those who don't know, you need to take a camera selfie photo with your name hand-written on a piece of paper for them to validate!

I actually prefer advanced booking and hate last minute ones. How do you expect someone to be 100% ready in a few minutes, do you expect the same when you date in real life? Providers are human too and they need time to adjust and prepare before a session. I think if someone wants a good experience, advanced booking is still preferrable. I understand that sometime clients only book when the urge is high, in that case it depends if I am in a ready state to take the appointment, if I feel I am not ready then I would politely reject.

I agree wholeheartedly but I value quality than quantity so having a good client that you met before always trump meeting a totally new one. I think what makes me feel bad is that despite having 2 good sessions earlier, this client still behaves like this. Maybe he thinks that all providers are just in for the money and therefore he can treat us whatever he likes as long as he pays. I am sure he will meet with many providers who are in for his deep pocket, but it would be very transactional and mechanical and for him to find someone truly take the effort to make it real fun, he needs to treat them with respect. I always believe in this business, it is to the client benefits to make the providers feel comfortable, you treat him good, and you get better session in return, otherwise you can just play with your toys instead.

How difficult is it to just text back that he cannot make it for the night so the provider can just move on or sleep early. If the client said something to not let me wait in limbo, then I would feel much better. However, I suspect that this client just shopped around providers or Grindr and then decide to move on with a new one instead of repeating with someone he already met. "Fell asleep" is just a lame excuse which makes me feel even worse. I have decided to block such client on RM and unless he texts me to apologize for his behavior, I won't see him again. I am not doing this solely for a living so losing a client like this is no big deal.

That is absolutely needed. He has tons of reviews on his profile so I have personally messaged a couple of providers there to make sure he is legit. All excellent feedbacks on the client so far.

Makes sense, thanks

I will have to take a flight as driving would be 10-12 hours so not practical and will stay at hotel as client cannot host from home. He said he wants to meet for 3-5 hours and not overnight as he wants a good night sleep but agree to pay for the full day expenses. I am thinking of listing out hotel cost, uber to hotel, flight ticket. I may want to stay there for some extra days for my own vacation so perhaps will pay for the extra days myself. Would it be appropriate to ask for meals ' expenses for the day of appointment?

I've never travelled long distance to meet client but recently has an interesting request from someone in another state to come visit him for a day. After chatting and talking on the phone, I feel client is trust worthy and nice so feel tempted to accept his request but a bit nervous at the same time. What are reasonable asks for reimbursement in this kind of request? Anyone has any experience on this that you can share? Do you ask for a deposit to confirm before buying tickets etc. or ask client to buy it for you? Thanks so much!

Both parties are very civilized and treated each other with respect! I applause to both of you! Sometimes things happen and a provider may not perform at his best (many providers have other full time jobs and may have a bad day before meeting you). I would say this is an unfortunate situation, if I were the provider, I would have politely called to explain the situation and ask for postponing the appointment to another time. If that is not possible, at least client does not waste the time and/or money. I would agree that provider should not take the full charge but a token for travel cost would be appropriate and makes both side feel less uneasy in this situation.

I would not ask for a deposit but of course I do not feel like 100% the next time he asks for an appointment which is something he will lose FOREVER. I would take his request as simply an expression of interest and not a firm booking and would not go the extra mile to prepare for the appointment with said client. Once bitten twice shy, if he books me again and if I have nothing on that day, I would meet him, but if I have other thing to do, his will not be prioritized. If this happens again, of course I would not want to see the client any more. I am kind of forgiving person and I understand sometime things happen, but the way he communicated just show that he did not have any respect to my time or me in general.

I am sorry to hear you had such a bad experience. Providers like this will not last long or maybe they are not serious with this gig to begin with. It is frustrating for anyone when last minute cancellation happened. However, a notification of cancellation, even though last minute, is still better than no communication at all. With client ghosting, providers are in a limbo not sure what to do and just waiting in frustration, it is even worse if this is for a repeat client. I have had experience with a client that shops around multiple providers when in the city and make "tentative appointments" with multiple providers before choosing one. I know this because he cancelled on another provider but that provider did not receive the text so still appeared at the hotel room and it was an awkward situation. From the client perspective, I understand why he did this, he properly had a lot of bad experiences with providers who cancel last minute and just want to optimize his chance of finding a good one with limited time in the trip. However, by cancelling on others, he is causing an issue of trust with the providers and I am sure he will not be an ideal client the next time he wants to book them. This gig is only fun when both parties treat each other with respect and not wasting time of each other.