Request to travel out of state, what to expect?

[AZN_NYC]

I've never travelled long distance to meet client but recently has an interesting request from someone in another state to come visit him for a day. After chatting and talking on the phone, I feel client is trust worthy and nice so feel tempted to accept his request but a bit nervous at the same time. What are reasonable asks for reimbursement in this kind of request? Anyone has any experience on this that you can share? Do you ask for a deposit to confirm before buying tickets etc. or ask client to buy it for you? Thanks so much!

[marylander1940]

28 minutes ago, AZN_NYC said:

I've never travelled long distance to meet client but recently has an interesting request from someone in another state to come visit him for a day. After chatting and talking on the phone, I feel client is trust worthy and nice so feel tempted to accept his request but a bit nervous at the same time. What are reasonable asks for reimbursement in this kind of request? Anyone has any experience on this that you can share? Do you ask for a deposit to confirm before buying tickets etc. or ask client to buy it for you? Thanks so much!

Just ask him to book your ticket or send you the money for you to buy it. That's all! 

Edited June 16, 2023 by marylander1940

[+ DynamicUno]

How far is the client from you?  Do you have to fly to see him?  If you have to stay overnight, are you staying with the client or in a hotel?

The client should pay for the travel expense up front, and any accomodations if you don't stay with the client.  Otherwise it could be a fun excursion for you.

[AZN_NYC]

2 hours ago, DynamicUno said:

How far is the client from you?  Do you have to fly to see him?  If you have to stay overnight, are you staying with the client or in a hotel?

The client should pay for the travel expense up front, and any accomodations if you don't stay with the client.  Otherwise it could be a fun excursion for you.

I will have to take a flight as driving would be 10-12 hours so not practical and will stay at hotel as client cannot host from home. He said he wants to meet for 3-5 hours and not overnight as he wants a good night sleep but agree to pay for the full day expenses. I am thinking of listing out hotel cost, uber to hotel, flight ticket. I may want to stay there for some extra days for my own vacation so perhaps will pay for the extra days myself. Would it be appropriate to ask for meals ' expenses for the day of appointment? 

[+ DynamicUno]

I think round trip plane ticket and hotel room cost for the day you're meeting would be reasonable.  Uber for at least the trip to the hotel, as well.  If you stay extra days without planning to see the client, then the extras nights and return to the airport are at your own cost.

I'd say meals are also on your own unless it's part of the appointment with him.

Edited June 16, 2023 by DynamicUno

[AZN_NYC]

28 minutes ago, DynamicUno said:

I think round trip plane ticket and hotel room cost for the day you're meeting would be reasonable.  Uber for at least the trip to the hotel, as well.  If you stay extra days without planning to see the client, then the extras nights and return to the airport are at your own cost.

I'd say meals are also on your own unless it's part of the appointment with him.

Makes sense, thanks

[+ Lucky]

Make sure that friends know where you are and whom you are with. Personally, I would ask the guy for references from others he has hired in such a fashion.

[AZN_NYC]

6 minutes ago, Lucky said:

Make sure that friends know where you are and whom you are with. Personally, I would ask the guy for references from others he has hired in such a fashion.

That is absolutely needed. He has tons of reviews on his profile so I have personally messaged a couple of providers there to make sure he is legit. All excellent feedbacks on the client so far. 

[KennF]

19 hours ago, AZN_NYC said:

I will have to take a flight as driving would be 10-12 hours so not practical and will stay at hotel as client cannot host from home. He said he wants to meet for 3-5 hours and not overnight as he wants a good night sleep but agree to pay for the full day expenses. I am thinking of listing out hotel cost, uber to hotel, flight ticket. I may want to stay there for some extra days for my own vacation so perhaps will pay for the extra days myself. Would it be appropriate to ask for meals ' expenses for the day of appointment? 

In General, He'd be expected to pay for round trip air,, round trip to the hotel,nd for a reasonable predium meal.  He's booking you for the day even though he's only going to use 3-5 Hours of that time.  If you want to add Anything then that's on you and any cost changes as a result are on you.  As an aside even if hes only using a short portion of your time. He? Is. Paying for the day and if he has an opportunity to call you or make other arrangements with you. I think it's appropriate for you to be available.

[big-n-tall]

Most of the providers I've hired are from other states. I usually bring them to me. Sometimes they visit the area I live in on their own accord or sometimes I visit their state. The furthest place I brought a provider in was from Argentina.

What usually happens if I'm interested in someone from another state is I contact them; introduce myself; tell them what i'm in to; ask their rates for an overnight or weekend; and give a description about myself. If they show interest, I'll give them some meet-up dates and offer to cover travel costs. If we've built a level trust that they'll tell me their real names/info I'll buy their tickets, or offer to reimburse them once they arrive. The vast majority were ok with me buying their tickets. As I mentioned in another forum topic, to me this is my idea of a guaranteed deposit of my seriousness in hiring them. Otherwise, I don't do deposits. 

Sometimes, we discuss expectations before we meet... sometimes the day we meet. Things like, do they need alone time for working out, personal business, etc. I also will sometimes discuss what interests them outside the bedroom. If they stay with me for more than overnight, having things lined up outside the bedroom (i.e. movies, plays, museums, etc.) is always good. On occasion, i've met providers who would prefer to stay in the hotel room almost the entire time together and just fuck. I'm getting old... I can't do that anymore. LOL!

In general, if we're together for extended periods, I feel I'm responsible for travel costs (if they specifically come in to see me); cost of food; and extracurricular activities. For the provider, I expect them to delivery upon whatever we agree upon before the meet up. I know they are only human. So if things don't click, I understand that.  I try my best to make the visit as enjoyable for them as possible. I don't try to plan everything... a little spontaneity is always fun.

Above all, make sure you discuss specifics and expectations before hand. If the client doesn't treat you like a human being... get the hell out of there asap. In turn, don't treat the client like a walking cash register. Well, unless that's what he's into.

[AZN_NYC]

11 minutes ago, big-n-tall said:

Most of the providers I've hired are from other states. I usually bring them to me. Sometimes they visit the area I live in on their own accord or sometimes I visit their state. The furthest place I brought a provider in was from Argentina.

What usually happens if I'm interested in someone from another state is I contact them; introduce myself; tell them what i'm in to; ask their rates for an overnight or weekend; and give a description about myself. If they show interest, I'll give them some meet-up dates and offer to cover travel costs. If we've built a level trust that they'll tell me their real names/info I'll buy their tickets, or offer to reimburse them once they arrive. The vast majority were ok with me buying their tickets. As I mentioned in another forum topic, to me this is my idea of a guaranteed deposit of my seriousness in hiring them. Otherwise, I don't do deposits. 

Sometimes, we discuss expectations before we meet... sometimes the day we meet. Things like, do they need alone time for working out, personal business, etc. I also will sometimes discuss what interests them outside the bedroom. If they stay with me for more than overnight, having things lined up outside the bedroom (i.e. movies, plays, museums, etc.) is always good. On occasion, i've met providers who would prefer to stay in the hotel room almost the entire time together and just fuck. I'm getting old... I can't do that anymore. LOL!

In general, if we're together for extended periods, I feel I'm responsible for travel costs (if they specifically come in to see me); cost of food; and extracurricular activities. For the provider, I expect them to delivery upon whatever we agree upon before the meet up. I know they are only human. So if things don't click, I understand that.  I try my best to make the visit as enjoyable for them as possible. I don't try to plan everything... a little spontaneity is always fun.

Above all, make sure you discuss specifics and expectations before hand. If the client doesn't treat you like a human being... get the hell out of there asap. In turn, don't treat the client like a walking cash register. Well, unless that's what he's into.

You seem like a great client and treat your providers so well. I think for extended trip like this, it would need both parties to be very careful and to make sure that both sides are comfortable spending such a long time together. Ideally, both should have met for a brief time before deciding to do overnight or weekends. However for clients out of state, it would not be an option. Even when dating, people do not see the bad sides of each other until they move in together. As @Simon Suraci mentioned, some providers do not like to do overnight because they don't want client to see the not-so-good side of them such as morning breath, snoring or fighting for blanket at night etc.. People also have different preferences such as room temperature, level of noise, lighting.... and without knowing the other well enough, it would be hard to predict if both would share similar preferences to have a good night sleep. To me I would only spend extended time with a client if I know that it would be a pleasant experience because there is some chemistry.  Overnight can be very intimate, very romantic, very passionate but it could also end up in a nightmare situation where both can't sleep and tired the day after because you can't tolerate the other party sharing the bed at night. Staying up all night to play is not really a thing for most people, the goal of an overnight experience is to simulate a bfe experience as much as possible and couples  do not stay up all night when they date, do they? I always tell myself that overnight or weekends can be lucrative but at the same time it could be your last contact with a good client if it ends up a bad experience, so proceed with caution. 

[big-n-tall]

Thank you. 😊

I understand your apprehension. And i agree for the most part. However, if you don't take a chance once in awhile... how would you ever know what the outcome is.

Honestly, most of the guys I've done overnights with I never met before hand (because I brought them in from out of state). I can count on one hand the ones that didn't work out. Furthermore, most of them, I hadn't even spoken to directly, but did text back and forth before physically meeting. Again the vast majority worked out great.

For the bedroom situation some of your worries can be rectified by having separate beds in the room. If you visit them at their house or (if they can afford it) book a hotel room with separate sleeping quarters. Well that is unless they request you must sleep with them.

If your prospective client doesn't live in the middle of nowhere maybe you can travel to his city and work some time before or after the overnight. So if the overnight doesn't pan out the trip wouldn't be a totally loss.

I get everything you said, but for me personally, if i didn't take a chance I would have missed out on some incredibly kind sexy people. Hell, I built such a rapport with some of these guys, that a select few are now lifelong friends. So I get it, but sometimes the risk is worth it.

[+ DynamicUno]

4 hours ago, AZN_NYC said:

You seem like a great client and treat your providers so well. I think for extended trip like this, it would need both parties to be very careful and to make sure that both sides are comfortable spending such a long time together. Ideally, both should have met for a brief time before deciding to do overnight or weekends. However for clients out of state, it would not be an option. Even when dating, people do not see the bad sides of each other until they move in together. As @Simon Suraci mentioned, some providers do not like to do overnight because they don't want client to see the not-so-good side of them such as morning breath, snoring or fighting for blanket at night etc.. People also have different preferences such as room temperature, level of noise, lighting.... and without knowing the other well enough, it would be hard to predict if both would share similar preferences to have a good night sleep. To me I would only spend extended time with a client if I know that it would be a pleasant experience because there is some chemistry.  Overnight can be very intimate, very romantic, very passionate but it could also end up in a nightmare situation where both can't sleep and tired the day after because you can't tolerate the other party sharing the bed at night. Staying up all night to play is not really a thing for most people, the goal of an overnight experience is to simulate a bfe experience as much as possible and couples  do not stay up all night when they date, do they? I always tell myself that overnight or weekends can be lucrative but at the same time it could be your last contact with a good client if it ends up a bad experience, so proceed with caution. 

Although your original question wasn't about having an overnight with this client, it does seem to have some similar concerns for you to feel comfortable with it.  If you have done overnight sessions before, what has helped make for a successful session that you both enjoyed?  Some of the same things could help in this case, too, since it sounds like you'll spend several hours together.  

[AZN_NYC]

11 minutes ago, DynamicUno said:

Although your original question wasn't about having an overnight with this client, it does seem to have some similar concerns for you to feel comfortable with it.  If you have done overnight sessions before, what has helped make for a successful session that you both enjoyed?  Some of the same things could help in this case, too, since it sounds like you'll spend several hours together.  

This time it is not an overnight one, client is in another state and we chatted and he likes to meet for a few hours. He thought about travelling to NY but the cost would be even more than inviting me to visit him so he suggested if I could travel to meet him instead. I would be more reluctant if it is an overnight for the first meeting but he assured that it is not and I can fly back the same day if I wish. I have done overnight before and it was really great because I was with someone I have already met a few times. We met early in the afternoon, had a good dinner, went to watch a show together, walking back to the hotel on busy streets and spent the rest of the night chilling. We slept on different beds and in the morning we enjoyed some cuddling and fun before having breakfast together and say goodbye. It was at a nice hotel with spectacular view of the city so we feel like on top of the world. It was a great experience to remember. 

[Simon Suraci]

I just had a conversation with a prospective client over the phone today. He wants to book me for a weekend in his city a few months from now. I have family there and was already considering a work trip in his city, so I plan to coordinate around that knowing it won’t be a total loss should anything not work out, and a big plus if all does work out.

I mentioned my “sleeping habits” and not-so-great sides of myself, emphasizing my value is in my waking hours. He didn’t care. I communicated expectations for having an hour or two to myself per day for working out and taking a break. Travel costs are to be reimbursed. All good there. We covered all of his wants and needs and preferences too. All good there. He still wants to book me for the whole weekend. I think the key is being upfront and open in your communication. Phone conversations help. Sometimes clients want you for you, no matter the hassle or cost.

It’s worth taking risks, as @big-n-tallmentioned. 

[Luv2play]

53 minutes ago, AZN_NYC said:

This time it is not an overnight one, client is in another state and we chatted and he likes to meet for a few hours. He thought about travelling to NY but the cost would be even more than inviting me to visit him so he suggested if I could travel to meet him instead. I would be more reluctant if it is an overnight for the first meeting but he assured that it is not and I can fly back the same day if I wish. I have done overnight before and it was really great because I was with someone I have already met a few times. We met early in the afternoon, had a good dinner, went to watch a show together, walking back to the hotel on busy streets and spent the rest of the night chilling. We slept on different beds and in the morning we enjoyed some cuddling and fun before having breakfast together and say goodbye. It was at a nice hotel with spectacular view of the city so we feel like on top of the world. It was a great experience to remember. 

I had more or less the same experience a couple of weeks ago. With an escort I had been with twice before last year. Only diffrence was that we spent the night at his apartment and he only had a double bed in his bedroom, the second bedroom set up as a massage parlour. 

It all went on so well. We played before dinner for around 3 hours then went out to a great restaurant in Montreal where the food is really good. Back to his apartment for another 3 hours of play and only fell asleep in each others arms well after midnight. 

In the morning I confess to waking him up around 630 or 7 and we had another round before going out for breakfast. He did serve me coffee in bed around 8. He was in no rush and I left to drive home around 10.

It was a bfe the way I like it and I will see him again this summer.