Dustin_NYC

[DMICS]

21 minutes ago, SkyBliss said:

It isn’t professional to be late consistently, and not update the client about it. 

And that's my problem with @savantsav's recent experience. Sleeping in? cool. It happens. But then the provider offers to reschedule the next day and doesn't have the courtesy to give ample heads up that he'll be late? It's the timing of all these changes happening at the very last minute. And he has a history of it. 

(If true) It's unfortunate something happened in his personal life to throw off his schedule the next day. 

[NYXboy]

@savantsav You have spent more time composing this post than the 30 min he was late.  Sad. 

Edited May 30 by NYXboy

[marylander1940]

4 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

🤔 Was he supposed to get over his personal problems faster so you could get off at your scheduled time ? 🤔🤔🤔

Sometimes certain people forget that escorting is a very personal and emotional business. A little sympathy and understanding for providers when they've hit a rough patch in life would be expected. Personally, if a regular provider told me he'd been going through some bad times, I would have offered to take him to dinner, let him vent and paid him for his time without expecting "service" in return.

I fully agree with you, and I've been called an "apologetic for escorts", but 5 minutes before the arriving time he realized he was going to be 30 minutes late or more...  To me that tells me he's a Millennial on steroids and doesn't care about others because he's the center of the world.

@savantsav we have a frequent poster who go stood up by Ryan Rose 3 times in a row, the 3rd one after meeting him in person in Boardwalk .

Let's hope you gave him a lesson! Unfortunately, I doubt he could even understand he did something wrong, and this won't be the last time he behaves like this because other clients have enabled him to act this way and getaway..... 

[pubic_assistance]

16 minutes ago, BaronArtz said:

In the way some of us present themselves in this manner, I understand these people NEED a paid escort, without whom, nothing would ever happen in the bedroom and beyond.

[BaronArtz]

 I said what I wanted to say on this unsavory subject.

If anything, for whatever the reasons are, it looks like Dustin_NYC successfully avoided a most unpleasant client encounter.  If it was his intuition to avoid this client, he has a good one.

[Cretus]

Lateness isn’t the most grave sin in the world of escorting. There are far worse things alleged against providers in these spaces . But it is a tad odd to see people ardently defending being considerably late…

Seems like an appealing provider otherwise, and I wouldn’t shut out the possibility of hiring in the future. The last minute contact is not great though. I hope he is able to get (back) into the habit of being forthright with timing and upfront about potential delays. 

[savantsav]

6 minutes ago, DMICS said:

And that's my problem with @savantsav's recent experience. Sleeping in? cool. It happens. But then the provider offers to reschedule the next day and doesn't have the courtesy to give ample heads up that he'll be late? It's the timing of all these changes happening at the very last minute. And he has a history of it. 

(If true) It's unfortunate something happened in his personal life to throw off his schedule the next day. 

When he told me that on Wednesday that he had overslept I had absolutely no issue and told him “it happens don’t worry about it, I rather have you at full energy so no problem. I’ll be free tomorrow at 7 before a 9pm dinner” and he said Yes. Then at 6:55 messages me again saying he’s 35-40 mins late again. 
 

and according to some of the SIMPS in here I’m not supposed to be upset about this and call his unprofessional behavior rude? Nahhhh

[SkyBliss]

2 minutes ago, BaronArtz said:

 I said what I wanted to say on this unsavory subject.

If anything, for whatever the reasons are, it looks like Dustin_NYC successfully avoided a most unpleasant client encounter.  If it was his intuition to avoid this client, he has a good one.

I think you said what you wanted to say, without having anything substantive to back it up.Just like you’re doing in the last two sentences here. 

I see you don’t have an answer to my question posed on page 2 of this thread.
 

 

[pubic_assistance]

3 minutes ago, Cretus said:

it is a tad odd to see people ardently defending being considerably late…

Personally I dont have a problem with being late by 45 minutes.

But ..I work in a business where I subcontract a LOT of different people and I live in NYC. So the idea of always being on time isn't realistic for a variety of reasons. If I was such a prick to people about being a little late, I wouldn't have anyone left who liked working with me.

[BaronArtz]

1 minute ago, SkyBliss said:

I think you said what you wanted to say, without having anything substantive to back it up.Just like you’re doing in the last two sentences here. 

I see you don’t have an answer to my question posed on page 2 of this thread.
 

 

Friend, you are a Newbie here.  I am a GrandMaster.  The need to answer your question is not immediately obvious.

If anything, your post answers its own question.

[SkyBliss]

1 minute ago, BaronArtz said:

Friend, you are a Newbie here.  I am a GrandMaster.  The need to answer your question is not immediately obvious.

If anything, your post answers its own question.

This is your response- that you are a Grandmaster and I am a Newbie.  Happy to see this response in its full hollowness and insignificance.

Indeed, you’re right that I have answered my own question when I said:  “ I think you said what you wanted to say, without having anything substantive to back it up”.

 

[pubic_assistance]

20 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

5 minutes before the arriving time he realized he was going to be 30 minutes late or more...  To me that tells me he's a Millennial on steroids

I dont know about the "steroids" but totally agree this is very much typical millennial behavior. Thing is...hes over 30 ..so should be more understanding of the concept of being on time. Im guessing its more of a brain-cloud from being depressed and/or substance abuse to self medicate.

Either way, my opinion stands...a little empathy required when dealing with people. Maybe 45 minutes exceeds some limits. Thats fine we all have tolerance levels. But I find the whole attitude of coming here to bash the fellow's business etiquette, while KNOWING hes going though a rough patch to be more than a little selfish and frankly gross.

As @BaronArtz said. It speaks as to why some people NEED to hire to get laid.

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[SkyBliss]

Just now, pubic_assistance said:

I dont know about the "steroids" but totally agree this is very much typical millennial behavior. Thing is...hes over 30' so should be more understanding of the concept of being on time. Im guessing its more of a brain-cloud from being depressed and/or substance abuse to self medicate.

Either way, my opinion stands...a little empathy required when dealing with people. Maybe 45 minutes exceeds some limits. Thats fine we all have tolerance levels. But I find the whole attitude of coming here to bash the fellows business etiquette, while KNOWING hes going though a rough patch to be more than a little selfish and frankly gross.

As @BaronArtz said. It speaks as to why some people NEED to hire to get laid.

LOL. *YOU* have the nerve to talk about selfish and frankly gross?  YOU have the nerve to talk about some people NEEDING to hire to get laid? 
 

 

[Cretus]

I don’t wish to respond to a certain person who quoted me on here, for moral reasons.

But the thread seems to be getting a bit out of hand. 
 

The provider under discussion was late consistently, and was late with more than one person. 45 minutes is a significant time lol. This is not ok, and I assume a survey/poll of clients would show that they wouldn’t be happy with significant lateness + last minute communication twice in a row.

 He should change the habit , and I hope his personal issues become resolved. Perhaps it isn’t even a habit- maybe his rough patch is making him less cognizant of time. It is understandable though, that @savantsav is frustrated.

 

Seems like a hot guy otherwise, and this drawn out conversation should not mark him as completely unhirable.

Edited May 30 by Cretus

[pubic_assistance]

1 minute ago, SkyBliss said:

YOU have the nerve to talk about some people NEEDING to hire to get laid? 

Well...I get laid plenty without hiring. So..there's THAT.

As far as the frankness of my opinions being "gross"..I am aware that some may find it as such. You are free to join in that opinion. I am not everyone's cup of tea..and I dont try to be. But when I DO have a personal relationship with someone ..you will find I am actually far more kind than you may think.

 

[savantsav]

Well if you have a personal relationship with him let him know he’s gotta step it up because he’s blowing his business with his tardiness and if he’s going through personal issues then don’t take in any new clients. It isn’t hard. 

I’m done defending myself for HIS unprofessional behavior. 

[SkyBliss]

Yes @Cretus I understand and agree. I was just pointing out that being consistently late is not likely to be seen as ok by clients. Dustin_NYC is probably a really good provider otherwise.  I also hope these instances don’t happen in the future- he is attractive, and from his reviews on RM, seems kind.

[marylander1940]

53 minutes ago, savantsav said:

Well if you have a personal relationship with him let him know he’s gotta step it up because he’s blowing his business with his tardiness and if he’s going through personal issues then don’t take in any new clients. It isn’t hard. 

I’m done defending myself for HIS unprofessional behavior. 

He lost a potential regular with his behavior and we understand your frustration after being stood up twice. 

 

 

 

Edited May 30 by marylander1940

[Walt]

5 hours ago, SkyBliss said:

If you had a doctors appointment at 9 AM, and it takes 30 minutes to get to the doctors office from your home, would you leave your home at 9 AM?

So one way to fix this situation  at least for you, would be to make more doctors' appointments and stop seeing providers. You might also want to avoid making reservations at very busy, very popular restaurants.