guynyc Posted March 25, 2023 Share Posted March 25, 2023 Curious what the norms on tipping are for the various massage offerings are in NYC for 1) the asian massage places 2) private therapist if it's a guy you meet on one of the massage sites (masseurfinder) or 3) an escort. Mainly curious abt the massage storefronts where the massages are $65-$80/hour and a tip is not negotiated. Like is a standard 20% even on those or is it expected to give more if extras are given but not negotiated? Bit of a newbie to those massage store places and the few times i thought I tipped well, the guys always gave looks of disappointment making the exit feel weird. The other day, I have $25 tip for a $65 massage and felt like I got dirty looks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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pubic_assistance Posted March 25, 2023 Share Posted March 25, 2023 Break it down: If you go to a massage place, the practitioner is getting only a portion of the fee. Everyone knows that the $ 65 is a point of entry fee. So if you get more than a basic massage ( Happy ending, bj or more ) you're not really "tipping" you should be PAYING this guy for escort services. If you go see a person privately at his place, then he's getting the entire fee, and tipping is a sliding scale. If you got what you paid for and no added effort to provide exceptional service, the tip is optional. If you got excellent service, a tip, is like a restaurant for excellent service in the range of 20%. If you got more than just a massage, then again you should be paying extra for extras. Same if the session turns to a full-on escort service. You paid for a massage not an ass-fucking. So you're no longer "tipping" you're paying extra for extras. So if the price was not discussed, use your observations of what a good fuck is going to cost you and add that to the price. Simple. + Vegas_Millennial, 56harrisond, thomas and 1 other 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LACoaster Posted March 25, 2023 Share Posted March 25, 2023 Usually tip 20% on private at home masseur; 40-60% for the cheaper massage parlor depending on service. guynyc and Exploritor 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rhh33 Posted March 26, 2023 Share Posted March 26, 2023 16 hours ago, LACoaster said: Usually tip 20% on private at home masseur; 40-60% for the cheaper massage parlor depending on service. IMHO 40-60% at a massage parlor is horrible. I say minimum 100% for average service and up as the service is better. Client1985 and JQ915 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guynyc Posted March 26, 2023 Author Share Posted March 26, 2023 Oh wow. 40%-100% tip is the standard on the Asian massage storefronts? To me, that’s interesting mainly bc that can total an amount that might get you a real professional massage (possibly with a HE). Marc in Calif 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted March 27, 2023 Share Posted March 27, 2023 On 3/26/2023 at 7:54 AM, rhh33 said: IMHO 40-60% at a massage parlor is horrible. I say minimum 100% for average service and up as the service is better. If a massage place charges $ 65 and you get such a crappy massage that you feel you should only tip $ 30, then I am curious why you're going to a crappy place in the first place. Was any of that worth your $ 95 ??? Any decent massage is $ 120 to 150 these days. So if the service was good, you give the place $ 65 for using their bed and the masseur $ 65 for doing the massage rhh33 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Lucky Posted March 27, 2023 Share Posted March 27, 2023 (edited) I would happily end the session with a 100% tip for a great spa massage. Edited March 27, 2023 by Lucky rhh33 and Client1985 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluefin Posted March 27, 2023 Share Posted March 27, 2023 A thread about tipping … ground breaking. + robear, Phil_musc, thomas and 3 others 1 1 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted March 27, 2023 Share Posted March 27, 2023 (edited) On 3/25/2023 at 8:21 AM, guynyc said: Curious what the norms on tipping are for the various massage offerings are in NYC for 1) the asian massage places... I tip the same at Asian establishments as I would an African or European massage establishment in NYC. Seriously though... Any message establishment where the men are employees, I give them a tip for a good massage, plus a generous amount more for sexual services because sex is not part of a massage. For independent providers, they are their own boss and set their own rates, so I pay them what they asked for, and sometimes more if they go out of their way to accommodate some special request. Again, massage is not sex. If you want sex, pay an escort his advertised price. Edited March 27, 2023 by Vegas_nw1982 thomas and pubic_assistance 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guynyc Posted March 27, 2023 Author Share Posted March 27, 2023 21 minutes ago, Vegas_nw1982 said: I tip the same at Asian establishments as I would an African or European massage establishment in NYC. I know you were joking with the above tho I’ve never seen storefront massage places that are African or European. I wasn’t being specific to Asian ones specifically except for the fact I didn’t know others exist. and thanks for letting me know a recommended amount is “generous”. Helpful! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted March 27, 2023 Share Posted March 27, 2023 2 minutes ago, guynyc said: I know you were joking with the above tho I’ve never seen storefront massage places that are African or European. I wasn’t being specific to Asian ones specifically except for the fact I didn’t know others exist... Here's one European massage establishment in Manhattan, I'm sure there are others: Faina European Day Spa (212) 245-6557https://maps.app.goo.gl/oFvQt21aaHzdNXCm9 Marc in Calif 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Suraci Posted March 28, 2023 Share Posted March 28, 2023 20 hours ago, Bluefin said: A thread about tipping … ground breaking. Posting links to existing related posts: helpful. Scrolling past something you’re uninterested in viewing: go for it! Bemoaning someone using the forums for their intended purpose: not helpful. Mustang, Bluefin, Njguy2 and 2 others 1 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike carey Posted March 28, 2023 Share Posted March 28, 2023 9 minutes ago, Simon Suraci said: Posting links to existing related posts: helpful. Scrolling past something you’re uninterested in viewing: go for it! Bemoaning someone using the forums for their intended purpose: not helpful. Simon! Stop posting things that make sense! You'll develop a reputation!! /s/ pubic_assistance, Simon Suraci and ketut 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluefin Posted March 29, 2023 Share Posted March 29, 2023 12 hours ago, Simon Suraci said: Posting links to existing related posts: helpful. Scrolling past something you’re uninterested in viewing: go for it! Bemoaning someone using the forums for their intended purpose: not helpful. It’s not that serious. Marc in Calif 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Suraci Posted March 29, 2023 Share Posted March 29, 2023 2 hours ago, Bluefin said: It’s not that serious. No, not at all 😊 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
x.adam123 Posted March 29, 2023 Share Posted March 29, 2023 I have to say, I’m really surprised that people “tip” anything for private masseurs. How does it make any sense at all for a provider to be tipped if he’s receiving 100% of his self-determined fee? Tipping is supposed to exist for workers who only receiving a portion of the fee for their services, so I really want to push back on this a bit… if private providers want more money, they should just set higher fees, and there shouldn’t be any expectation of receiving a tip, right? pubic_assistance 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ FrankR Posted March 30, 2023 Share Posted March 30, 2023 3 hours ago, x.adam123 said: I have to say, I’m really surprised that people “tip” anything for private masseurs. How does it make any sense at all for a provider to be tipped if he’s receiving 100% of his self-determined fee? Tipping is supposed to exist for workers who only receiving a portion of the fee for their services, so I really want to push back on this a bit… if private providers want more money, they should just set higher fees, and there shouldn’t be any expectation of receiving a tip, right? You are free to do whatever you want. No one is forcing you to tip, right? I choose to tip - I do so at my discretion. Isnt choice a beautiful thing? Simon Suraci and pubic_assistance 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mustang Posted March 30, 2023 Share Posted March 30, 2023 6 hours ago, x.adam123 said: I have to say, I’m really surprised that people “tip” anything for private masseurs. How does it make any sense at all for a provider to be tipped if he’s receiving 100% of his self-determined fee? Tipping is supposed to exist for workers who only receiving a portion of the fee for their services, so I really want to push back on this a bit… if private providers want more money, they should just set higher fees, and there shouldn’t be any expectation of receiving a tip, right? Mostly agree. If the provider goes above and beyond I have no problem with compensating for that effort or consideration as I would anyone else in the service industry. In other words - gratuity. Simon Suraci 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted March 30, 2023 Share Posted March 30, 2023 14 hours ago, x.adam123 said: How does it make any sense at all for a provider to be tipped if he’s receiving 100% of his self-determined fee? If you read the whole thread, this was discussed. Yes, you are correct. The provider is receiving the whole fee so tipping is definitely optional. BUT, American culture would dictate that IF that provider went out of his way to create a superior experience during the service, or provided ANY additional services that weren't a standard definition of either massage or escorting, then showing one's appreciation with a tip, is normal. American culture was based on the idea that people are not slaves. There is an expected reward for going the extra mile. MikeBiDude 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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