Rude? Or I'm overthinking?

[kevininsa]

Escort: https://rentmen.eu/Kevinlatinosteel

Looks good. Has mostly decent reviews.  Says to text for same day. I sent a RM message to ask for his rate, if he kissed, and something off one of his pictures.  I used Messenger because I wasn't in a rush and it was 1am.  He responds back with "Random questions".

??? Seriously?  I messaged back this afternoon and asked, "Rate and kissing are random questions?"  He messaged back to text for information.

He could have answered me twice by now.  And you'll probably say to move on.  That's fine. I am. But I still want to know if he's rude or I'm overreacting. 

[+ StLouisOct]

He’s a good looking guy with good reviews. He probably gets all sorts of random questions from guys who never follow up. Send him more details: who you are. When you’d like to meet with him and for how long. What you look like. What you like to do with an escort. Providing such details is an act of a guy who’s really interested.

[+ keroscenefire]

I actually met with Kevin and found him to be a pretty great escort. But I did get a sense that he was getting a bit tired of all the flakes and questions. 

I agree that he was being a bit rude, but I also get that he could have been answering so many questions all day he was just kind of over it. 

We all could use a little grace here.

[kevininsa]

11 hours ago, StLouisOct said:

He’s a good looking guy with good reviews. He probably gets all sorts of random questions from guys who never follow up. Send him more details: who you are. When you’d like to meet with him and for how long. What you look like. What you like to do with an escort. Providing such details is an act of a guy who’s really interested.

I did that for a year or two, but most of the time it got me a one word response:  "300".  So I figured they didn't want that much interaction and stopped. I successfully hire several times a year, but that was the first time I got that kind of response. It just caught me off guard. 

 

[Guest]

12 hours ago, StLouisOct said:

He’s a good looking guy with good reviews. He probably gets all sorts of random questions from guys who never follow up. Send him more details: who you are. When you’d like to meet with him and for how long. What you look like. What you like to do with an escort. Providing such details is an act of a guy who’s really interested.

@StLouisOct This is perfect. 

I think you should at least introduce yourself and give them specifics about what you are looking for, along with the questions that are important of your meeting. Texting minimal questions at 1am comes off as you are not serious and probably jerking off while online. Being courteous while treating the provider as a human vs just a piece of meat will go a long way (in my opinion). 

[ChasingGirth]

Move on to another guy. He clearly doesn’t want to work. His loss not yours. The last thing you want is give your money to someone that has an attitude. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

What others said. Success breeds attitude. What others might jump at, another doesn't pay much attention to. 

[DWnyc]

Just as clients sometimes forget they’re with someone who is only with them because of the transaction, I think some providers can blur lines between a paid engagement and a hookup in real life in their

Providers are typically at the top end of the desirability scale (a key criteria for being in the business) and can sometimes act like they’re being approached by someone way beneath them (as they define it) at a club or online when the potential client questions start. And this can continue after the session, where they may lose potential recurring revenue because of the pattern repeating. 

[Mo Mason]

I think providers who request "same day" appointments are completely unreasonable.  Some of us like to plan everything (including sex) days, weeks, and sometimes months in advance.  It's not just a preference; it is ingrained into our personalities.  We are not all Myers-Briggs (P)erceiving types, who are known to be much more spontaneous.  I happen to be an INTJ, so I prefer to spend about six weeks (at least) planning out every detail of every possible human interaction that I'm going to have during a vacation.  

For Christ's sake, I repeatedly go on Google Maps months before a trip just to memorize the street view so that I know every highway entrance/exit ramp, intersection, parking lot, even the sides of buildings the doors are on, so that i know where I'm going every second of the way.  A lot of these providers then expect me to wait until the day I want to meet them to plan something?

Nope.

[Mo Mason]

Don't roll your eyes at me, Lazarus - Jesus wept for your namesake.  That's probably the best post I've ever contributed to this forum and I only wish every provider would read it and understand how difficult it is for some of us to be spontaneous in the kind of interaction that we prefer to plan out.

[Jamie21]

2 hours ago, Mo Mason said:

Don't roll your eyes at me, Lazarus - Jesus wept for your namesake.  That's probably the best post I've ever contributed to this forum and I only wish every provider would read it and understand how difficult it is for some of us to be spontaneous in the kind of interaction that we prefer to plan out.

Unfortunately so many guys working in this industry don’t like to commit time in advance. They think there will be something more interesting come up on the day, so committing time in advance prevents them from taking up  those other opportunities. It’s very opportunistic. 

I do take ‘on the day’ clients but I think I must end up declining at least half of the ‘are you free today?’ clients because either I’m not available or because they are drunk/high/got nothing off Grindr and are horny. Those clients are not my market.

Most of my clients book a couple of days in advance, and a few book months in advance. I’m fine with that and almost always it’s possible to find a time that works for them. Many from overseas plan visits to London and schedule their booking with me during that time. 

I saw you said you were INTJ on that Myers Briggs test. I think I’m INTP and I generally don’t like to plan things in advance. I like the fact that for at least 50% of the time I have no idea what I’ll be doing next week. It could be anything. The trouble with that kind of thing though is it’s often nothing 😂. 
 

[BtmBearDad]

I don’t know - yes, he was a bit curt in his reply, but I have to wonder if messaging at 1AM in the morning contributed to how he responded 🤷🏼‍♂️ 

Regarding one word replies- most of these gents get absolutely inundated with messages/texts, so one word, short replies that can come across as lacking interest, are just the result of the need to be efficient. One semi regular I engage showed me the number of texts he gets in a day - it’s insane. So try not to be excessively judgey.  

Anyway, this and more happens with this hobby. Don’t overthink and don’t be sensitive about any of it. Either continue to engage with the provider, or move on. 
 

Good luck! 
BBD 

[maninsoma]

I was prepared to side with the escort, thinking that you were just wasting time asking about things that were already addressed in his profile.  Then I clicked the link and saw that he doesn't list what he's into and only says he's available for "modeling."  Maybe he's chosen to market himself that way to minimize legal risks, but he should be smart enough to know that not saying much in his ad is going to result in more random contacts from potential clients trying to figure out if they are a match.

[Intoyvr]

10 hours ago, maninsoma said:

I was prepared to side with the escort, thinking that you were just wasting time asking about things that were already addressed in his profile.  Then I clicked the link and saw that he doesn't list what he's into and only says he's available for "modeling."  Maybe he's chosen to market himself that way to minimize legal risks, but he should be smart enough to know that not saying much in his ad is going to result in more random contacts from potential clients trying to figure out if they are a match.

I am often frustrated when providers list nothing in the preferences section. Most of these "random" questions would be answered if they told us what they will and won't do. Kissing is a non-negotiable with me. If it is not listed I move on.

Having said that, unfortunately many providers check all the boxes in Preferences. Maybe it's true or maybe they didn't want to decided amongst the options. I have had men who checked kissing in preferences and as we chat about the meeting they say they don't kiss.

Along this line, if you know a provider who lists safe sex only, let them know that at least half of the "safe sex" men I've asked reply "No, but...." or Yes, if..."

[+ DrownedBoy]

On 2/2/2023 at 10:56 PM, kevininsa said:

Escort: https://rentmen.eu/Kevinlatinosteel

 He responds back with "Random questions".

And that's when you should have dropped him.