No Response in 24 Hours

[acaressandakiss]

I will be traveling to Atlanta this Memorial Day weekend. I became interested in spending time with DeAngelo Jackson. His ad states that he does not accept same day appointments so I texted him last night asking to set an appointment for my trip. He has not responded. How long should I wait before I send him another text. I don't want to be a pest.

[Kevin Slater]

As Memorial Day is a ways off, I’d give him a few days before texting again.

I suspect your best shot would be like just a week before, then again I don’t really understand the whole ‘no same-day’ methodology. 

Kevin Slater 

[+ José Soplanucas]

46 minutes ago, acaressandakiss said:

I will be traveling to Atlanta this Memorial Day weekend. I became interested in spending time with DeAngelo Jackson. His ad states that he does not accept same day appointments so I texted him last night asking to set an appointment for my trip. He has not responded. How long should I wait before I send him another text. I don't want to be a pest.

Are you subscribed to his fans pages? If you are, a tip would get his attention.

[italianboyph]

I'd say give it a bit before texting him again. I do think though busy or not, he should still reply to you to say something so you're not left hanging.

[BuffaloKyle]

I think that is way too far off to text someone for an appointment. He might not even know at this point if he himself will be in town that weekend.

[John]

Don't think about it for a while and try a week, 10 days, at most two weeks before Memorial Day.  This is not a business that lends itself to long-term planning.  Be ready for this response: "contact me when you get to town."

If you are determined to meet someone, find alternatives.  Or sit back and enjoy the thought of keeping your money.

 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

21 hours ago, Kevin Slater said:

As Memorial Day is a ways off, I’d give him a few days before texting again.

I suspect your best shot would be like just a week before, then again I don’t really understand the whole ‘no same-day’ methodology. 

Kevin Slater 

I’m surprised you don’t.

Same day appointments tend to require a provider to stop what he/she is doing and see someone who previously: was not expected just hours earlier. 
 

Also, same day appointment clients tend to be less flexible (the ones who want to squeeze in a session between the 12 and 3 lunch hour). You end up often times left bending over backwards to accommodate someone, who may end up being a flake or no show in the process. Not cool. I take same day visits when traveling, but when at home base: I stopped doing them awhile ago. It’s like: if you have a narrow window of time to meet, have the courtesy to give a little notice. Like I said before: would a client be available “right away” if I called them for a booking? Usually not.
 

So the easier method is to just schedule stuff ahead of time or not on the same day. And if someone wanted to book me for Memorial Day couple months ahead of time, I’d probably want to secure a deposit…

Edited April 3, 2022 by Jarrod_Uncut

[acaressandakiss]

28 minutes ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

So the easier method is to just schedule stuff ahead of time or not on the same day. And if someone wanted to book me for Memorial Day couple months ahead of time, I’d probably want to secure a deposit…

So same days are bad and a few months in advance are bad. Evidently you never win when it comes to scheduling. 

[Kevin Slater]

1 hour ago, acaressandakiss said:

So same days are bad and a few months in advance are bad. Evidently you never win when it comes to scheduling. 

To be fair, there’s a great deal of latitude between those two extremes. 
Kevin Slater

[jeezifonly]

It’s a holiday weekend and I agree, wait. If he’s popular he may be hoping to book an overnight, and may be reluctant to commit. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

10 hours ago, acaressandakiss said:

So same days are bad and a few months in advance are bad. Evidently you never win when it comes to scheduling. 

I’m just trying to help you out. You came with a question, and now you’re insulting me (unless by “you” you meant “you”) That’s a bad move and if your approach to said provider was the same…I can see why you wouldn’t get an immediate response. 
 

All I’m trying to say is, you (you as in, everyone else too) have to use common sense when arranging things. You automatically assume #1, that this person hasn’t already made Memorial Day plans and #2 assume he’s going to even be in Atlanta during Memorial Day (when most people in Atlanta probably go to somewhere with a beach to escape the heat). 
 

And I would ask for a deposit because if someone expects to see me 2 months down the line, that means I have to modify and/or close a portion of my schedule to accommodate said request which means not taking other plans. So what if the client doesn’t pan out, then what?  
 

I think what happens: some clients take the “normalcy” out of contacting escorts. We are people too. You don’t just call your Uncle and be like, “hey I wanna see you for Memorial Day” and expect a yes without a chance of “I already have plans” unless it’s something that was already previously discussed tentatively. I don’t know what your approach was, but something like, “I’m coming to Atlanta Memorial Day weekend, will you be taking bookings then” may be better than going into it with “I want to book you for Memorial Day weekend”. 

I’m not saying there’s anything problematic with same day appointments. Or booking out in advance. I’ve been on tour now for a month, and almost all of my bookings were scheduled a day or 2 prior to the meet. Some may have been a few days, but not longer than a week. I can probably count on 2 hands 🙌🏾 the number of same day bookings I’ve taken. I was happy to accommodate them when I could, but it wasn’t my usual routine.

Edited April 4, 2022 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Jarrod_Uncut]

While I’m at it: might as throw this in here. I guess 24 hours is a bit longer than seconds…

 

[acaressandakiss]

4 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

I’m just trying to help you out. You came with a question, and now you’re insulting me (unless by “you” you meant “you”) That’s a bad move and if your approach to said provider was the same…I can see why you wouldn’t get an immediate response. 
 

All I’m trying to say is, you (you as in, everyone else too) have to use common sense when arranging things. You automatically assume #1, that this person hasn’t already made Memorial Day plans and #2 assume he’s going to even be in Atlanta during Memorial Day (when most people in Atlanta probably go to somewhere with a beach to escape the heat). 
 

And I would ask for a deposit because if someone expects to see me 2 months down the line, that means I have to modify and/or close a portion of my schedule to accommodate said request which means not taking other plans. So what if the client doesn’t pan out, then what?  
 

I think what happens: some clients take the “normalcy” out of contacting escorts. We are people too. You don’t just call your Uncle and be like, “hey I wanna see you for Memorial Day” and expect a yes without a chance of “I already have plans” unless it’s something that was already previously discussed tentatively. I don’t know what your approach was, but something like, “I’m coming to Atlanta Memorial Day weekend, will you be taking bookings then” may be better than going into it with “I want to book you for Memorial Day weekend”. 

I’m not saying there’s anything problematic with same day appointments. Or booking out in advance. I’ve been on tour now for a month, and almost all of my bookings were scheduled a day or 2 prior to the meet. Some may have been a few days, but not longer than a week. I can probably count on 2 hands 🙌🏾 the number of same day bookings I’ve taken. I was happy to accommodate them when I could, but it wasn’t my usual routine.

I was just talking generally. Sorry you felt it was a personal slight towards you.

[The Dude]

On 4/2/2022 at 7:08 PM, acaressandakiss said:

I will be traveling to Atlanta this Memorial Day weekend. I became interested in spending time with DeAngelo Jackson. His ad states that he does not accept same day appointments so I texted him last night asking to set an appointment for my trip. He has not responded. How long should I wait before I send him another text. I don't want to be a pest.

DeAngelo was recently in my city and I texted him about a week out.  No reply.  Tried again two days later.  Nothing. I think he’s just terrible at communication.

[MiamiLooker]

2 hours ago, acaressandakiss said:

I was just talking generally. Sorry you felt it was a personal slight towards you.

Apologies accepted if a $25 fee is included. 🙃

[+ Tygerscent]

There are many reasons he hasn’t responded… he might be flying, traveling abroad or in a different time zone, with a multiple day or long term Client…   
 You might also check your profile to see where you are listed… I notice many newer ads default to New York City when Clients actually are not based there. For example: A Client living in LA posts a profile on RM but doesn’t check to see where his profile is defaulting to, he sees a Provider coming to LA and contacts him. the provider sees the inquiry that says: “I’d like to arrange time with you” BUT, also sees that the Client’s profile appears to be in New York City. The provider might not respond at all because it looks like you are 1,000 miles away in a different city. The provider may only respond to inquiries where the profile shows the Client being located in the city the Provider is traveling to. 
 I’ve never done same day appointments and always schedule in advance.  
 Since I travel globally and from city to city and also travel with Clients, it’s not unusual for me to schedule two to four months in advance and up to 6 months or even beyond a year in advance for longer trips abroad. It takes that kind of planning. It’s not practical to try and buy airline tickets and accommodations day or week of when you are planning to be in italy, London, Iceland or India~ This is especially true when holidays are involved.
 I’ve already scheduled things for May, June, July, November and Jan 2023~ 
 If he’s on an event circuit, (gay pride, working at clubs where he’s doing public appearances, fund raisers or shows, busy with only Fans stuff etc), it may be more difficult for him to respond~   
 Sometimes people just have personal Life things going on as well.  
 Many providers are a one person show… not the company or multi employee situation other businesses have. 
  24 to 48 hours response time is a reasonable expectation but, I know that it’s not always a realistic one for either providers or Clients~  Client’s response times vary due to their own jobs, free time, family structures, health, travel…   
 Neither a Client nor Provider wants to wait for a response but, the reality is that it happens at times and for different reasons~ It’s not always a matter of irresponsibility or disinterest. 
  
  

Edited April 4, 2022 by Tygerscent

[+ Tygerscent]

37 minutes ago, The Dude said:

DeAngelo was recently in my city and I texted him about a week out.  No reply.  Tried again two days later.  Nothing. I think he’s just terrible at communication.

Or terribly busy:in demand~?🤷‍♂️

[Jamie21]

I appreciate clients booking in advance. I get messages like, ‘I’m coming to London first week of September (this is in say June) are you available for booking?’ and I will say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ if I’m planning to be away then.

The client might leave booking an actual time until nearer the first week in September and that’s fine but it could be that I’m all booked up for the times he wants. That’s just tough luck so I’d always say to book in advance if possible. I’ve no problem with clients booking 2 or 3 months hence. 

I’m always surprised when clients ask for bookings on the day or for say ‘3pm tomorrow’ when they’re planned their visit months in advance yet they’re somehow expecting I’ll be free at the drop of a hat. Then they’re disappointed because I couldn’t see them on their visit, and so am I because I feel sorry for them.

If you definitely want a session then please book it in advance! I’m not just hanging around all day on the chance someone wants to book. 

I must get about 4 or 5 requests a week for ‘are you free in the next hour or so’ and 99% of the time I have to say no. Think about it…if he’s free in the next hour is he likely to be any good? Will he be focused and prepared for you? It’s unlikely. I think the chances of having a good experience are greatest if you have booked in advance. 

Edited April 4, 2022 by Jamie21

[Guest leftbench23]

What happens when the provider asks to meet with you in an hour's notice? Mike Gaite was in DC last weekend and texted him before he got to town about meeting up. He didn't respond within a dayso I assumed he was all booked up. On his last day he finally responded to me asking if I wanted to meet up in 45 minutes. I had to turn him down since I had made other plans. 

[BuffaloKyle]

32 minutes ago, leftbench23 said:

What happens when the provider asks to meet with you in an hour's notice? Mike Gaite was in DC last weekend and texted him before he got to town about meeting up. He didn't respond within a dayso I assumed he was all booked up. On his last day he finally responded to me asking if I wanted to meet up in 45 minutes. I had to turn him down since I had made other plans. 

Sounds like he was indeed booked all up and either had a last minute no show or cancel or decided he had time to fit one more appt in.

[+ DrownedBoy]

In terms of response time - I was wondering.

If some guy was a regular who you knew well and trusted, would you be willing to do an outcall "immediately" if they asked?

[+ Tygerscent]

11 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

Sounds like he was indeed booked all up and either had a last minute no show or cancel or decided he had time to fit one more appt in.

Yes… that can be the case as well~ I generally book priority with existing Clients as a respect and courtesy for their loyalty and dedication to me~ In order to provide options for new inquiries and interests, I leave one , two or three days open on either the front or back end of my trip to accommodate them. 
 This also allows for infrequent schedule changes that might come up with already scheduled appointments and provides me with time to rest and reorganize should I need that~ If I’m feeling in good form, I’ll contact one of the inquiries that I’ve notified of the potential opening. If the time doesn’t work out, I extend the option to schedule something for my next upcoming trip and generally can provide the general dates I should be available. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

19 hours ago, acaressandakiss said:

I was just talking generally. Sorry you felt it was a personal slight towards you.

My bad. Initially I did think you were just talking generally, but when you said “you”…it sounded like it referred to me in the context. 

17 hours ago, The Dude said:

DeAngelo was recently in my city and I texted him about a week out.  No reply.  Tried again two days later.  Nothing. I think he’s just terrible at communication.

What exactly was in your reply that you sent? Sometimes people send vague messages that I often filter out. No introduction, or something that doesn’t sound like there was attention paid to my ad. It’s crazy how many messages I get that are just very vague, and I have to “work” them. I’m getting to a point that I don’t want to do that anymore, hence why having a pre-deposit upfront. The average new inquiry takes an hour of my time. Whether they book or not. Considering I don’t sell big “cases” like a lawyer at hundreds and thousands of dollars, I can’t keep offering free consultations…
 

I can’t speak for anyone, but I also think some “advertisers” may not necessarily be escorting to clients like that. It’s possible they may just be only wanting to drive traffic to their brand. Or they probably only see “fans”. Which is actually the route I’ve been steering towards.

8 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

In terms of response time - I was wondering.

If some guy was a regular who you knew well and trusted, would you be willing to do an outcall "immediately" if they asked?

I would, if I was able to accommodated. However I wouldn’t want it to become regularly expected

2 hours ago, Tygerscent said:

Yes… that can be the case as well~ I generally book priority with existing Clients as a respect and courtesy for their loyalty and dedication to me~ In order to provide options for new inquiries and interests, I leave one , two or three days open on either the front or back end of my trip to accommodate them. 
 This also allows for infrequent schedule changes that might come up with already scheduled appointments and provides me with time to rest and reorganize should I need that~ If I’m feeling in good form, I’ll contact one of the inquiries that I’ve notified of the potential opening. If the time doesn’t work out, I extend the option to schedule something for my next upcoming trip and generally can provide the general dates I should be available. 

That’s a good way of going about it. 
 

Sometimes though, I’m reluctant to “press” my schedule and availability too much though. I feel if they can’t make room for me when I’m already visiting, they might not come around the 2nd visit or “return route” either. 
 

Reason I say is because, clients may sometimes cancel a session and be like, “let’s meet next time you’re in town”. I’ve heard that more than I cared to at times. I have to remind them that, I don’t always get to their area often, and if waiting for “next time I’m in town” that could be 5-10 years from now…because there’s some cities I’ve not been to in that long (Houston, Boston, Minneapolis). 
 

My philosophy is sometimes: if I’m in town, and he’s in town…and he can’t meet: it tells me he doesn’t view me much important, or that he’s preoccupied playing the field with other escorts/grinderites (similar to how a client in other thread said he “seen someone else in Portland”. And if it’s who I think it is: that client has been blacklisted for wasting my time, considering I sent my location when he asked, only to be told “a friend just showed up*)
 

I also find myself getting annoyed chasing client’s unavailability…I had that unfortunate situation with a guy in one of my previous travel cities. I wanted to see him because he sent a couple pics and was a sexy potential client. We’d been in contact a few weeks before I even started my tour.
 

But I couldn’t make it the initial days we discussed because a snow storm was blocking travel on my route, and this winter alone: I’ve already had a couple of trips where I was almost stranded in the middle of nowhere when going to my destination due to ice/snow. So I asked to move it. 1st time he’s like, “I’m going to LA”. 2nd time it was like, “my ass has been fucked enough I need a break”. But…we were scheduled mainly for a MASSAGE. Which is what annoyed me. 
 

If the client has a pretty plausible reason why he can’t meet and doesn’t on short notice, or I left town before we could connect: I will reach out to connect. But, guys who cancel last minute or can’t seem to come around when I’m there: I don’t like to give extra openings to. Because guess what: when they come to town and I can’t meet, do I ever get 2nd chances? Nope. I never hear from them again.
 

I had a guy do that to me, and it really offended me. He came to Kansas City last minute “with a friend” and was trying to meet me at some odd time of night with short notice. I actually met him before in another city. I couldn’t until the next day, and then he’s like: “I’m flying out tomorrow, just here for the night”. Then when I came to his city later, he couldn’t even be bothered. 
 

I had to write off a lot of clients lately and I hate to do that, because I do believe in “next time”. But many clients cancel or flake at the wrong time, and once that happens, it’s hard for me to want to extend another offer to them.

Edited April 5, 2022 by Jarrod_Uncut

[+ Tygerscent]

9 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

In terms of response time - I was wondering.

If some guy was a regular who you knew well and trusted, would you be willing to do an outcall "immediately" if they asked?

Probably not because more than likely I would already have something going on~ I’d offer my availability for the next month or two and set something up then when we both have time~ 

[+ Tygerscent]

15 hours ago, leftbench23 said:

What happens when the provider asks to meet with you in an hour's notice? Mike Gaite was in DC last weekend and texted him before he got to town about meeting up. He didn't respond within a dayso I assumed he was all booked up. On his last day he finally responded to me asking if I wanted to meet up in 45 minutes. I had to turn him down since I had made other plans. 

That happens… ask when he is in town next and schedule something with him on his future return~ Jump in ahead to reserve your spot.