Does real penetration sex feel like the dildos?

[socurious]

I have been training myself to start bottoming but it doesn't feel too comfortable in all the positions yet. Lay down in my back is the only way I can feel some pleasure and eventually reach an orgasm by using a dildo myself. But is often a mixture of pain and pleasure (the fastest I do it the more pleasure). I hope I don't come off as silly for asking this question. Real dicks are supposed to feel warm but I've never bottomed before. 

Edited December 15, 2021 by nycboi

[+ FrankR]

26 minutes ago, nycboi said:

I have been training myself to start bottoming but it doesn't feel too comfortable in all the positions yet. Lay down in my back is the only way I can feel some pleasure and eventually reach an orgasm by using a dildo myself. But is often a mixture of pain and pleasure (the fastest I do it the more pleasure). I hope I don't come off as silly for asking this question. Real dicks are supposed to feel warm but I've never bottom before. 

The real thing does feel better, but there are some of the silicone dildos that arent a bad approximation. It goes without saying: get a good training set of various sizes. Start small and work your way up. Be generous with the lube. 🙂

[+ pepa_e_mango]

There is no substitute for the real thing. A real dick will feel much better especially if you are with an experienced top who cares about your pleasure. He should get you so aroused by caressing, kissing, rimming, sucking, that you will want his dick inside you more than anything else; and even if you feel a little pain at first, it will be pleasurable. For the beginner it may be best to start with you on top, that way you have control of how deep and how fast he goes inside you.

I can think of only one time when I didn't enjoy having a real dick inside me. Suffice it to say that I got myself in a (consensual) situation where I was the only bottom in a group of several men who hadn't had sex in a long time. I don't know how many there were total, I stopped counting after six, but I remember laying there wishing it would end.

I hope this helps.

xoxo

 

 

Edited December 18, 2021 by pepa_e_mango
Making it clear that this was 100% consensual!

[+ azdr0710]

slow and deep breathing helps (or so I've heard........😉)

[topunderachiever]

It's completely different.  You relinquish much if not most control.  

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

It depends on the dick.  Each has its own shape and curves.  Some thicker ones actually hurt less than some thin ones.  For me, as they're going in, I mentally try to think about the pleasure I know I'm going to feel after a few minutes when my sphincter will eventually relax

[+ StLouisOct]

I agree with the advice that sitting on top is the best thing for beginners. You can ease it in at your speed, and you’ll find that easing in the real thing is better than any dildo, at least that’s always been my experience.

[jtwalker]

I found the real thing far less painful than a dildo.  The bigger guys usually know how to work what they got.  If there's ever an issue, ample lube makes everything work.  I like Gun Oil for lube; I think that is what Clark Griswold must've used on his sled, because that stuff seems to last forever.

[jeezifonly]

Success (pleasure) with either is dependent on your wanting it. If you are as new to it as you indicate, it’s a question of the right top. Size not the primary requirement - it’s sensitivity. Dildo or dick, you need to learn your own pleasure spots. When something feels really good, ask what he’s doing, and give encouragement. If it hurts, stop. (Getting rimmed and played with is good way to increase your want… 

[HoseMaster]

I've mostly bottomed over the years.  Honestly, the connection feels good.  The foreplay feels good.  However, I've never really felt any pleasure bottoming, especially if the dick is too big.  Maybe it's because I don't have the right nerve endings down there, or I don't know what.  I wish I had the same nerve endings as my penis down there, but I just don't.  Sometimes I've seen porn where the bottom can cum just by being fucked, but I've never even come remotely close to that.  I wish I could, but sometimes I wonder what having a vagina would feel like...lol

[uwsman2]

As with most things having to do with sex, it is more about your brain than your body.  If you really want to surrender control to a man who turns you on, getting fucked is the way to do it.  I savor that root connection, man to man.  Nothing feels more fundamental than that to me.  Foreplay helps, but the hottest fucks I can recall did not necessarily involve lots of foreplay.  It is all about wanting a hot guy to be inside you, deeply connected. 

[dbar123]

Bottoming with different guys never feels quite the same so it is hard to generalize. Lifewise, not all dildos are created equal either. Experimentation is definitely key. As you exercise those muscles down there and stretch them a bit it will become less painful and more enjoyable. 

[+ glutes]

It ain't the meat it's the motion
That makes your daddy wanna rock
It ain't the meat it's the motion
It's the movement it isn't the stock

Maria Muldaur

[+ Tygerscent]

Real dick is the hot ticket~ Real dick with a condom is like a dildo because the material creates a friction~

  Real dick has an amazing temperature fracture~ The skin is soft and the core is hard~ It’s salty, sweet, spicy… It has a scent~ It moves in its own way and doesn’t require assembly or suction cups or your own person to do all the work, (leaving you to enjoy the experience without dividing your concentration on just working the things inside of you~ 

 it’s also easier to clean~ 

 So, it’s a more 3D experience with regard to senses and sensation~ 

 Double headed dildo can be fun and that allows you and a friend to do creative things together~ 

 Dildos in conjunction with real dick can be fun~ It’s like DP when you only have the two of you~ 

[Sunriz]

There is no substitute for real dick, once you become comfortable you can feel pleasure you never knew was possible. 

I started with a butt plug set, if you're patient and use lots of lube it will start to feel good pretty quick.

I also got a dildo with a suction cup, took the top of my toilet and put it on a towel on my bed. Stuck the dildo to it, get on it. Very similar to riding a real cock and you control everything. 

[marylander1940]

On 12/14/2021 at 1:24 PM, Vegas_nw1982 said:

It depends on the dick.  Each has its own shape and curves.  Some thicker ones actually hurt less than some thin ones.  For me, as they're going in, I mentally try to think about the pleasure I know I'm going to feel after a few minutes when my sphincter will eventually relax

Exactly, at the beginning it's always painful sometimes even the top feels some pain at the beginning.

 

On 12/14/2021 at 7:22 AM, nycboi said:

I have been training myself to start bottoming but it doesn't feel too comfortable in all the positions yet. Lay down in my back is the only way I can feel some pleasure and eventually reach an orgasm by using a dildo myself. But is often a mixture of pain and pleasure (the fastest I do it the more pleasure). I hope I don't come off as silly for asking this question. Real dicks are supposed to feel warm but I've never bottomed before. 

Well you're bottoming now.

Cocks feel better than dildos, you're doing the right thing training yourself. 

What kind of lube do you use?

[socurious]

On 12/20/2021 at 4:31 PM, marylander1940 said:

Exactly, at the beginning it's always painful sometimes even the top feels some pain at the beginning.

 

Well you're bottoming now.

Cocks feel better than dildos, you're doing the right thing training yourself. 

What kind of lube do you use?

I haven't taken a real dick yet.

[marylander1940]

Just now, nycboi said:

I haven't taken a real dick yet.

what's stopping you?

Make it happen!

[socurious]

26 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

what's stopping you?

Make it happen!

I feel like I'm not prepared. I haven't used my dildo in months. I heard it gets tigh down there after a while. Also I still don't seem to enjoy it unless I'm laid down in my back touching myself. Now, I have to admit that I don't thrust the dildo in and out for long. Maybe for 30 seconds and that's all about. I can't just take it. The rest of the time I just keep it inside my hole and it can feel good. Any tips?

Edited February 27, 2022 by nycboi

[socurious]

Maybe I just need the real. I am just too afraid it will hurt.

[+ Coolwave35]

3 hours ago, nycboi said:

Maybe I just need the real. I am just too afraid it will hurt.

I’m in the same boat as you. 

[+ Lucky]

45 minutes ago, Coolwave35 said:

I’m in the same boat as you. 

No disrespect of any kind is meant, but I read about the wild times you have with multiple hot guys...and then to think...this?

Oh, no! What you are missing out on!

[Rod Hagen]

On 12/14/2021 at 9:00 PM, HoseMaster said:

I've mostly bottomed over the years.  Honestly, the connection feels good.  The foreplay feels good.  However, I've never really felt any pleasure bottoming, especially if the dick is too big.  Maybe it's because I don't have the right nerve endings down there, or I don't know what.  I wish I had the same nerve endings as my penis down there, but I just don't.  Sometimes I've seen porn where the bottom can cum just by being fucked, but I've never even come remotely close to that.  I wish I could, but sometimes I wonder what having a vagina would feel like...lol

HM, I'm curious  why you mostly bottom if you feel no pleasure down there?

[socurious]

10 hours ago, Rod Hagen said:

HM, I'm curious  why you mostly bottom if you feel no pleasure down there?

To make his partner happy perhaps?

[socurious]

Here is a weird part, when I'm horny I crave to get fuck in the ass. I actually fantasize a bit and everything. However, when I start using a dildo the feeling is so strong that is not pleasurable. It's like it feels so good that it hurts to put it simple and not what I exactly expected when fantasizing. Again, I only mostly leave the toy in my hole and move it in and out during the last minute before I cum laid down on my back. Yes, the orgasm is stronger than when you top. In fact the strongest orgasms I ever I had have been recently. I still remember  that one I had while watching a movie of Ryan Bones and imaging him inside me. It was awesome. That was last year though. In the recent months I haven't been so active honestly. It takes a lot of time to wash yourself  down there every day and I sincerely  not into seeing my own poop, eww. Ps. Ignore the typos.  I'm from my phone. 

Edited March 1, 2022 by nycboi