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So a recent encounter that was, at best, so so turn a sudden turn for the horrible when, as we were about to transact last minute business the escort said to me "We've gone 10 minutes over..." and when I asked what he wanted (my first mistake) he said that I should decide.

Without going into further details because that is not the most important part here, I was caught like the deer in the headlights. I acquiesced (please don't flame me, I didn't know what else to do), and my anger only grew as I took more time to reflect on what had just happened.

To add to it, the escort contacts me frequently to make small talk. 

Am I wrong to feel that I had been wronged? Additional info: the guy in question was not worth even the initially agreed upon fee and if we did go over time, it was probably because he wouldn't shut up.

 

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23 minutes ago, TumYum said:

So a recent encounter that was, at best, so so turn a sudden turn for the horrible when, as we were about to transact last minute business the escort said to me "We've gone 10 minutes over..." and when I asked what he wanted (my first mistake) he said that I should decide.

Without going into further details because that is not the most important part here, I was caught like the deer in the headlights. I acquiesced (please don't flame me, I didn't know what else to do), and my anger only grew as I took more time to reflect on what had just happened.

To add to it, the escort contacts me frequently to make small talk. 

Am I wrong to feel that I had been wronged? Additional info: the guy in question was not worth even the initially agreed upon fee and if we did go over time, it was probably because he wouldn't shut up.

 

Wow. That takes huge brass balls. I'm surprised he didn't use a timer.  It takes nickle and diming to a whole new level.

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I agree that the escort was behaving unprofessionally. He should be tracking the time if it's that important to him. But really 10 minutes over is nothing and I've gone over that long with many guys and have never been asked to pay more for that. If I have a good time, I usually tip an extra $20 or so anyway, but I would not in this case. I would've just said. Well we agreed to $X for X and I think we should keep to that.

Definitely would not rehire either.

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Major short-sightedness on his part.  Even if the session was extraordinary, that would discourage me from repeating.  It could've been the start of having a repeat client which would net him much more than the few bucks for the extra 10 minutes.    

My first meeting with my first hire, who has turned into my regular "go-to" was for two hours.  We were still in bed at the two hour mark.  Even though the time was up, we still showered together, dressed, and had a pleasant 20 minute conversation before he left.  He's not a clock watcher and no mention was ever made of additional compensation.  I had such a great time and he made such a good first impression, that all subsequent sessions (and there have been several) have been overnight.  We even start a bit earlier than he normally does and he has left my place as late as 11:30 the following day.  He started calling our evenings together "date nights."  He wants to be sure I have a good time and makes me feel valued. On our last date night, we went out to a local diner the next morning and enjoyed breakfast together.  He never once looked at his phone or watch or made it appear spending time with me was an imposition.  That's how you succeed and have repeat clients.   

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1 minute ago, RJD said:

Major short-sightedness on his part.  Even if the session was extraordinary, that would discourage me from repeating.  It could've been the start of having a repeat client which would net him much more than the few bucks for the extra 10 minutes.    

My first meeting with my first hire, who has turned into my regular "go-to" was for two hours.  We were still in bed at the two hour mark.  Even though the time was up, we still showered together, dressed, and had a pleasant 20 minute conversation before he left.  He's not a clock watcher and no mention was ever made of additional compensation.  I had such a great time and he made such a good first impression, that all subsequent sessions (and there have been several) have been overnight.  We even start a bit earlier than he normally does and he has left my place as late as 11:30 the following day.  He started calling our evenings together "date nights."  He wants to be sure I have a good time and makes me feel valued. On our last date night, we went out to a local diner the next morning and enjoyed breakfast together.  He never once looked at his phone or watch or made it appear spending time with me was an imposition.  That's how you succeed and have repeat clients.   

Chemistry is equally valuable to client and provider. No substitute available. 

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3 minutes ago, RJD said:

Major short-sightedness on his part.  Even if the session was extraordinary, that would discourage me from repeating.  It could've been the start of having a repeat client which would net him much more than the few bucks for the extra 10 minutes.    

My first meeting with my first hire, who has turned into my regular "go-to" was for two hours.  We were still in bed at the two hour mark.  Even though the time was up, we still showered together, dressed, and had a pleasant 20 minute conversation before he left.  He's not a clock watcher and no mention was ever made of additional compensation.  I had such a great time and he made such a good first impression, that all subsequent sessions (and there have been several) have been overnight.  We even start a bit earlier than he normally does and he has left my place as late as 11:30 the following day.  He started calling our evenings together "date nights."  He wants to be sure I have a good time and makes me feel valued. On our last date night, we went out to a local diner the next morning and enjoyed breakfast together.  He never once looked at his phone or watch or made it appear spending time with me was an imposition.  That's how you succeed and have repeat clients.   

You speak the truth!

I even told the gentleman that I was hoping to find a new regular to replace my former regular who had just rippled me off, moved away, and ghosted me (a long story, haha)

But I guess the extra $50 in his pocket was really really important to him. Needless to say, I have not seen him since.

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10 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

Chemistry is equally valuable to client and provider. No substitute available. 

Completely agree, but how you treat each other is a major contributor to that chemistry.  If my guy did to me what @TumYum 's guy did, there wouldn't have been a second session.  

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58 minutes ago, TumYum said:

You speak the truth!

I even told the gentleman that I was hoping to find a new regular to replace my former regular who had just rippled me off, moved away, and ghosted me (a long story, haha)

But I guess the extra $50 in his pocket was really really important to him. Needless to say, I have not seen him since.

I kinda want to hear the story of your old regular, and how it went off the rails. 🤗

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4 hours ago, TumYum said:

So a recent encounter that was, at best, so so turn a sudden turn for the horrible when, as we were about to transact last minute business the escort said to me "We've gone 10 minutes over..." and when I asked what he wanted (my first mistake) he said that I should decide.

Without going into further details because that is not the most important part here, I was caught like the deer in the headlights. I acquiesced (please don't flame me, I didn't know what else to do), and my anger only grew as I took more time to reflect on what had just happened.

To add to it, the escort contacts me frequently to make small talk. 

Am I wrong to feel that I had been wronged? Additional info: the guy in question was not worth even the initially agreed upon fee and if we did go over time, it was probably because he wouldn't shut up.

 

In the circumstances you describe I would have replied, " your 15 minutes of fame are also up".

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When one of my long-term regular providers went over by 10-15 minutes, I sort of awkwardly grabbed some 20s from my wallet and gave them to him.

I did so without him asking, as I have a good business relationship with said provider, and try to keep him happy. Plus, I don't like being in the position of owing someone something.

However, if it was a situation like described here - first meeting, not very good, only 10 minutes and at the end - @excelntsvc is correct - I'm sorry, I thought you were watching the time" ... end of discussion." You have no motivation to pay more, since you'll never see the guy again.

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As a rule I never pay if we go overtime.  It's his responsibility to watch the time.  I certainly do not take advantage, but five, 10, or 15 minutes over is to be expected expecially if both of you are having a good time. A good rule of thumb if it were ever to come up is $5 for every minute over ($300/60=$5.)

I have gone over a couple of times and never has anyone asked for additional compensation.  I'm just that good of a cock sucker I guess.  :)

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3 hours ago, RJD said:

Major short-sightedness on his part.  Even if the session was extraordinary, that would discourage me from repeating.  It could've been the start of having a repeat client which would net him much more than the few bucks for the extra 10 minutes.    

My first meeting with my first hire, who has turned into my regular "go-to" was for two hours.  We were still in bed at the two hour mark.  Even though the time was up, we still showered together, dressed, and had a pleasant 20 minute conversation before he left.  He's not a clock watcher and no mention was ever made of additional compensation.  I had such a great time and he made such a good first impression, that all subsequent sessions (and there have been several) have been overnight.  We even start a bit earlier than he normally does and he has left my place as late as 11:30 the following day.  He started calling our evenings together "date nights."  He wants to be sure I have a good time and makes me feel valued. On our last date night, we went out to a local diner the next morning and enjoyed breakfast together.  He never once looked at his phone or watch or made it appear spending time with me was an imposition.  That's how you succeed and have repeat clients.   

I'm reminded of the escort who shares his income every year and how a surprisingly large percentage comes from just a handful of regulars. I'm very similar. There was this couple that were regulars of mine that I hired several times including overnights and longer sessions. We had just such amazing chemistry and fun together and I realize over the course of about three years I had actually spent more than $10,000 with them. But they were always generous with their time, which was why I was generous with my money to show appreciation for their time. 

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45 minutes ago, keroscenefire said:

I'm reminded of the escort who shares his income every year and how a surprisingly large percentage comes from just a handful of regulars. I'm very similar. There was this couple that were regulars of mine that I hired several times including overnights and longer sessions. We had just such amazing chemistry and fun together and I realize over the course of about three years I had actually spent more than $10,000 with them. But they were always generous with their time, which was why I was generous with my money to show appreciation for their time. 

I just started hiring at the very end of 2019 (the first hire I mentioned in my earlier post). Earlier this year I went through and calculated how much I spent on my sessions with him and it's close to your total. He knows me, we're very comfortable with each other.  Hell, he has his own toothbrush in my bathroom for when he's here.  It's a mutually beneficial arrangement for both of us, however, he had no idea at our first meet that it would develop into repeated extended sessions.  Yet, he still was generous with his time, ensured I had a great experience, and valued me as a person during that initial session.  It would've been a completely different story if he acted like the meter was running.  You don't get a second chance to make a first impression.

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I definitely agree with the majority 

That escort was ridiculous for wanting compensation for 10 extra minutes 

I had a "regular" that I had seen at least 10 previous times and we had a meeting setup in AC at OceanCasino 

He was keeping me updated that he was on his way very professional and polite 

All of a sudden he says that's there's an accident or construction and his arrival time jumped from 40 minutes to 2 and a half hours so he would be turning around and he apologized and said our next meeting would be on him (free of charge) because he canceled the appointment 

So we meet up a week later and I end up giving him a $100 anyway because he travels from Central Jersey to AC and he takes the envelope leaves and the next day sends me a PayPal account link asking why I shorted him his usual fee!!!! With a frowny face emoji I might add 

I got very angry at this and pointed out that he promised a meetup at his expense and I thought that $100 was more than generous  

Well he was very upset with my response and kept asking about getting more compensation so I had to drop him as a regular and blocked him 

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8 hours ago, TumYum said:

So a recent encounter that was, at best, so so turn a sudden turn for the horrible when, as we were about to transact last minute business the escort said to me "We've gone 10 minutes over..." and when I asked what he wanted (my first mistake) he said that I should decide.

Without going into further details because that is not the most important part here, I was caught like the deer in the headlights. I acquiesced (please don't flame me, I didn't know what else to do), and my anger only grew as I took more time to reflect on what had just happened.

To add to it, the escort contacts me frequently to make small talk. 

Am I wrong to feel that I had been wronged? Additional info: the guy in question was not worth even the initially agreed upon fee and if we did go over time, it was probably because he wouldn't shut up.

 

I hope you met the guy off of rentmen.  If so, you can leave a rentmen review.  

Even though the narrative of a rentmen review is supposedly blocked for U.S. viewers, the escort and others with VPN will be able to read your review.  The escort will then know why you do not call him back for a repeat.  

It is inconceivable how dumb the escort was (is and remains) to ask to be paid for an additional ten minutes.  

 

 

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