Getting to Know Other Members

[dentjusay]

Sorry if this has been discussed in a previous thread already, but are there ways to get to know other forum members here from similar cities?

 

It seems like many of us are on dating/hookup apps and share some annoyance with flakes, catfishing, etc. Perhaps long-time members have established connections with others already through events like the PS weekend, but as a newbie, I don't really know anyone here.

 

Just wondering if I have to stalk member's profiles to see if we live in the same city, or if there is a better way.

[+ Hoover42]

It might be helpful to have a forum channel specifically for members who are interested in meeting up. You could then start a thread for your city or region of the country and keep everyone updated on scheduled get-togethers that way.

 

Not sure if that's something management would be interested in supporting.

 

Folks interested in the DC and Palm Springs meetups (and the NYC meetup back in the day) would just post a new thread in The Lounge when there was sufficient built up interest.

[rvwnsd]

No, it is impossible. Can't be done! Nope, never, ever!!!

 

Of course, I am being facetious.

 

Like any venue, there will be members to whom you gravitate and others you don't. Simply send a private message. See where it goes. Don't be creepy and don't be pushy/stalkerish and you will be fine.

 

There are gatherings in Palm Springs and Washington, DC in years when we are not facing down a global pandemic.

[Quincy_7]

No, it is impossible. Can't be done! Nope, never, ever!!!

 

Of course, I am being facetious.

 

Like any venue, there will be members to whom you gravitate and others you don't. Simply send a private message. See where it goes. Don't be creepy and don't be pushy/stalkerish and you will be fine.

 

There are gatherings in Palm Springs and Washington, DC in years when we are not facing down a global pandemic.

 

Is there "entertainment" provided at the Palm Springs and DC gatherings?

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Is there "entertainment" provided at the Palm Springs and DC gatherings?

 

No entertainment is provided (excluding the eye candy of the participants); however, some members make arrangements for private performances while at these events. While some arrangements are made prior to arrival in town, spontaneous arrangements have also been known to be made.

[+ Lucky]

Is there "entertainment" provided at the Palm Springs and DC gatherings?

There's actually a whole thread on the Palm Springs Weekend. It is pinned at the top of this forum. But I will mention one thing at a previous Weekend that entertained me...Jason Carter rising nude from the hot tub in full glory! That alone was worth the trip!

[+ Charlie]

You could also post a thread in the Lounge asking if there are other members who are interested in meeting in your area, and ask them to either post an answer or contact you privately through the "conversation" mode (the little blue envelope next to your name at the top of this screen).

 

I don't remember exactly how we got the Palm Springs Weekend started sixteen years ago, but I think Lucky posted something in the Lounge inviting members in SoCal to a social get-together.

[+ Lucky]

You could also post a thread in the Lounge asking if there are other members who are interested in meeting in your area, and ask them to either post an answer or contact you privately through the "conversation" mode (the little blue envelope next to your name at the top of this screen).

 

I don't remember exactly how we got the Palm Springs Weekend started sixteen years ago, but I think Lucky posted something in the Lounge inviting members in SoCal to a social get-together.

You mean to say that the details are not in your journal? I'm surprised. Yes, I did set up what I called a Hooville Weekend back when it was Hooboy's site. The purpose was for members to meet each other, but we recognized that eye candy would help get them here. The first weekend there were 14 attendees. Oliver has raised that amount considerably. But then, I don't have a pool!

[KeepItReal]

Sorry if this has been discussed in a previous thread already, but are there ways to get to know other forum members here from similar cities?

 

It seems like many of us are on dating/hookup apps and share some annoyance with flakes, catfishing, etc. Perhaps long-time members have established connections with others already through events like the PS weekend, but as a newbie, I don't really know anyone here.

 

Just wondering if I have to stalk member's profiles to see if we live in the same city, or if there is a better way.

Some members do arrange to meet up at public events - for example if you take a look at the "Male Strip Clubs" section of the forum you will see members announcing that they will be at a specific event and asking if others will be there as well. (One would presume they won't be participating in the stripping, but I try not to judge... ? )

[+ WilliamM]

@quoththeraven attended the Washington event and then met individual members on her own. She was very successful without the Palm Springs event.

 

There are other options for those of us on the East Coast.

[+ DERRIK]

I joined the guys at the DC Luncheon 2016 winter. Had a great time putting faces:) with the name here. Subsequently hired two of the professionals I met there.

[+ Charlie]

You mean to say that the details are not in your journal? I'm surprised. Yes, I did set up what I called a Hooville Weekend back when it was Hooboy's site. The purpose was for members to meet each other, but we recognized that eye candy would help get them here. The first weekend there were 14 attendees. Oliver has raised that amount considerably. But then, I don't have a pool!

Well, yes, but when I pulled out the volume for 2005, I couldn't find anything in the index about how you made the invitation. The meeting took place on Saturday, Feb. 12th, and we all congregated at Blue Coyote, where you had made a group reservation for dinner. There were nine other people besides us and our spouses, and Oliver stopped by later to meet all of us (he had a previous dinner engagement). TomCal brought along a cute young Filipino escort named Ben, whom we never saw or heard of again. I met Jackhammer and Bigguyinpasadena for the first time there. After dinner we made a toast to Hooboy, who had brought us all together. Then we went as a group to the Palm Canyon Theater for a performance of Sordid Lives, for which you had bought tickets for everyone. The next afternoon you had a party at your house, at which several more people showed up. Harold even drove all the way from New Mexico to make the party. The weather was cold and wet all weekend, and we decided that future get-togethers should probably be a little later in the season.

[+ Pensant]

There's actually a whole thread on the Palm Springs Weekend. It is pinned at the top of this forum. But I will mention one thing at a previous Weekend that entertained me...Jason Carter rising nude from the hot tub in full glory! That alone was worth the trip!

Oh Jason Carter! About 16 years ago I met him in Dallas. He apologized that he had been at Pride all day and was sweaty and perhaps needed to go home and shower first. I said “no way”!. Get over here now and let me savor you! When he visited SoCal the following January he spent a night at my house. Smart, hung and a great conversationalist. I hope he’s thriving.

[+ Lucky]

TomCal brought along a cute young Filipino escort named Ben, whom we never saw or heard of again.

I did! ?

[+ Charlie]

I did! ?

You kept him for yourself?!!

[+ Lucky]

He came to me! Very nice guy. I wonder what happened with him.

You kept him for yourself?!!

[MikeBiDude]

Oh Jason Carter! About 16 years ago I met him in Dallas. He apologized that he had been at Pride all day and was sweaty and perhaps needed to go home and shower first. I said “no way”!. Get over here now and let me savor you! When he visited SoCal the following January he spent a night at my house. Smart, hung and a great conversationalist. I hope he’s thriving.

I had a fun meeting with Jason Carter and Scott Adler together, many moons ago. Was great fun!

[nate_sf]

And don’t forget the dinners at Numbers all those years ago. I went to one of them, my first time meeting other forum members.

[+ Charlie]

He came to me! Very nice guy. I wonder what happened with him.

Did you dissuade him from a career in escorting? My notes say he was a Columbia grad with a degree in urban economy; we had a very interesting conversation at dinner.

[+ Charlie]

I had a fun meeting with Jason Carter and Scott Adler together, many moons ago. Was great fun!

Now there is an interesting combo. Both of them came to some of the early weekends.

[+ Lucky]

Did you dissuade him from a career in escorting? My notes say he was a Columbia grad with a degree in urban economy; we had a very interesting conversation at dinner.

He didn't need me to do that. In fact, he approached me with an offer of free sex. I accepted.

BTW, are you sure he came with tomcal? Tomcal came to the dinner, but skipped the rest of the events. I thought funseeker (RIP) was the guy who brought Ben.

[+ Charlie]

He didn't need me to do that. In fact, he approached me with an offer of free sex. I accepted.

BTW, are you sure he came with tomcal? Tomcal came to the dinner, but skipped the rest of the events. I thought funseeker (RIP) was the guy who brought Ben.

You may be right. I was sitting between Ben and TomCal at dinner, which would have been a violation of proper client etiquette at a Hooboy social event, like cutting in on a dating couple who are dancing.

[+ Pensant]

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I had a fun meeting with Jason Carter and Scott Adler together, many moons ago. Was great fun!

Never met Scott, but he was quite smitten with “Hayden” who shared my bed many a night!

[OCClient]

I met one member a few times. He hasn't posted for a long time and hasn't been in touch either.

 

Hope to meet members in PS.

[+ honcho]

I didn't think of it as stalking to check a member's profile to find out more about them if I enjoyed their posts,

and suggested meeting with a couple of them on neutral turf just for a platonic get-to-know-you-better.

 

I think it would be an invasion of their privacy for me to name names without permission, but if they recognize themselves, I would be honored by their acknowledging it [and grant my blanket permission!]

 

Friend of Sheila suggested group coffee low key events in San Francisco that I would have attended had I not had conflicting musical obligations ...