How to tell if a scort is really into you/enjoying his work or if he's just a really good performer

[thetruth]

Tell me y'all.

Edited December 7, 2020 by thetruth

[stop]

I hired a scort who cum very early. But again, the dude is known for being a good performer. I truly wanted to know if was really into me.

 

its best to not debate that it will mess with your head. If you feel you both had a good time be happy with that. A lot of guys love sex and are good at it. Most good escorts find a way to connect with the guys that hire them.

While i have become friends with some escorts when all is said and done they are conducting a business transaction. Trying to make something more of it can lead to heartbreak

[Cliff]

its best to not debate that it will mess with your head. If you feel you both had a good time be happy with that. A lot of guys love sex and are good at it. Most good escorts find a way to connect with the guys that hire them.

While i have become friends with some escorts when all is said and done they are conducting a business transaction. Trying to make something more of it can lead to heartbreak

Totally agree with this.

[Mustang]

If you're paying them; they are performing.

[MmM]

Take it the way you want it. You are paying to fulfill a fantasy. If you feel wanted and desired, then the escort has done a great job and delivered. Trying to figure out if it's real or not will just take away from the experience, and may lead to disappointment. GIve yourself compassion, and consider it very possible that the guy is into you.

[+ DERRIK]

Does it matter?

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

I couldn't care less...

[Gymowner]

The answer can be both. I can go to my job and LOVE it.... but at the end of the day it's where I get my money to pay the bills.

[+ nycman]

You’re thinking too hard.

If you had fun, it was worth it to you.

If he got paid, it was worth it to him.

Any thinking beyond that is delusional.

[+ bigjoey]

When the “transactional relationship” ends and you become “friends with benefits”, then you’ll know?

[Jarrod_Uncut]

Trying to make something more of it can lead to heartbreak

 

Exactly. But not just escort situations either. Even your day to day hookups can be that way. There’s a lot of people out there having sex just to get off...being “into” someone may only go as far as the moment in the bedroom. Maybe they were perfectly into the sex, but perhaps not the person themselves.

 

That’s why I’ve stepped back from the hookup circuit a bit. You can ride the conveyor belt of hookups, without getting a 2nd or 3rd encounter out of it. Nothing bad or sad about it, but after awhile it starts feeling pointless, unless it’s someone you really into like that...but you have to then separate real from fantasy. . If I do that, I much rather do it with a client who’s atleast apparent in investing in my time.

 

Unfortunately, I’ve also come to see many clients are either happily married...or chronically single, and for apparent reason. If anything “more” comes of it, has to be with considerate understanding.

Edited December 6, 2020 by Jarrod_Uncut

[jjkrkwood]

If he's truly a good escort, you shouldn't be able to tell ? He should be able to make you believe "you're the only girl in the world" !

[thetruth]

If he's truly a good escort, you shouldn't be able to tell ? He should be able to make you believe "you're the only girl in the world" !

 

I like your avatar.

[sexymonk]

Exactly. But not just escort situations either. Even your day to day hookups can be that way. There’s a lot of people out there having sex just to get off...being “into” someone may only go as far as the moment in the bedroom. Maybe they were perfectly into the sex, but perhaps not the person themselves.

 

That’s why I’ve stepped back from the hookup circuit a bit. You can ride the conveyor belt of hookups, without getting a 2nd or 3rd encounter out of it. Nothing bad or sad about it, but after awhile it starts feeling pointless, unless it’s someone you really into like that...but you have to then separate real from fantasy. . If I do that, I much rather do it with a client who’s atleast apparent in investing in my time.

 

Unfortunately, I’ve also come to see many clients are either happily married...or chronically single, and for apparent reason. If anything “more” comes of it, has to be with considerate understanding.

Tell you guys one incident in my work place. There was a technician and he left job. Before leaving he wrote a mail that in his 16 years of work at the place he thought he made good friends. But he was wrong. They were just good co-worker and were never friends. He was disheartened! Same goes in this line of work too! Keep calm and carry on. Control your heart and you will be happy.

[Gymowner]

i have always said with co-workers... be friendly but rarely friends!

[+ poolboy48220]

I've made good friends at some jobs. I'm annoyed by some places attitudes that you HAVE to be friends with your co-workers. My boss plans a picnic at his house in the summer for his team, I was dreading it this year; don't really consider any of them friends, and with the drive time to his house, it would've been a full day affair for me. Luckily, COVID cancelled this year's picnic.

[jawjateck]

If a provider accepts a mutually agreed stipend, he's a performer.

If that provider creates a satisfying encounter for me, he's a damn good one.

[MscleLovr]

Like @poolboy48220 I too made friends at work.

 

That was before I started my own firm. I reckoned that only 2 work-friends would stay in touch with me, and indeed they proved to be true friends. When I sold my firm years later, I thought only 1 work-friend would stay in touch after I retired and he did prove to be a good friend.

 

To answer the OP, you’ll know when an escort is truly into you…not only will the love-making be passionate but no money will change hands, and he will pick up the check when you go out to dinner afterwards.

[+ bigjoey]

Like @poolboy48220 I too made friends at work.

 

That was before I started my own firm. I reckoned that only 2 work-friends would stay in touch with me, and indeed they proved to be true friends. When I sold my firm years later, I thought only 1 work-friend would stay in touch after I retired and he did prove to be a good friend.

 

To answer the OP, you’ll know when an escort is truly into you…not only will the love-making be passionate but no money will change hands, and he will pick up the check when you go out to dinner afterwards.

Exactly. See my post #10 above.

 

For example, one escort and I became close friends and he treated me to a getaway weekend where he paid the bills??. We have remained friends and I was even invited to his wedding (to a man). We are very close friends.

 

Yes, such friendships can happen.