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Perhaps a Socialist could explain why people don't save, if they really could, or perhaps a priest

I think you have a point. I've been acquainted with people (my own mother and my oldest brother being among them) who seemed to have the ability to save weaved into their character. It seemed to be so natural and comfortable for them. I have always envied that.

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@Jarrod_Uncut You have difficulty getting along with 80-90% of the population?? Nope, don’t buy it. You are already capable of faking sexual attraction for a couple of hours.There are lots of jobs out there that do not require getting along... just “faking” being civil and respectful.

You’ve turned to this forum for advice (I’d hate to think you just come here to whine) and lots have offered it. Validation? You’ve gotten lots of that as well.

Pity? Sorry, Love.

ps Have you thought about studying acting?

 

? I should have been more specific: it’s not that I don’t get along with “women” and “straight men”, it’s just in the “workplace” environment where I have had friction. Straight guys in the workplace tend to act all cool with me, until they find out I’m not married with kids or have a “girl”. I met a guy at the track like that over the summer. He was all cool, until he started noticing ?️‍? on my Instagram.

 

Women in the workplace tend to be super cool too, but can turn at the drop of a dime.

 

Life is about choices, you also complained about wanting to go to they gym at noon and so many guys who wanted to see you at noon.

 

okay, if you’re going to be on my side: don’t say complain. Just because I discuss or make an observation about something, doesn’t mean it’s a complaint.

 

But it is very true: Many, many times I’ll sit around with availability today on, and nobody contacts. Then, the moment I decide to get up and do something with my day, someone wants to meet right away. And then, when I take the opportunity to do it, they bail out; or say the time I can be ready by is going to be too late, or where I am is too far for them, etc, etc.

 

I decided 1 way to to resolve this going forward...but I think I’m going to make a new thread of it instead. I was In my feelings when I did this post, but I so I’m kinda in a different mind frame now.

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read in your Rentmen bio information that you are thirty-three years old. The clock is ticking for a firm decision about your future financial security. If being a personal services provider is proving to be more disappointing than satisfying, emotionally and/or monetarily, it is time to consider another field of employment or supplemental employment that will ensure a financially stable future for yourself. What I know is there is no planning too early for one's senior years.

 

I hear what you’re saying, but have you ever heard the phrase tomorrow isn’t promised? I’m not saying disregard your advice or not be prepared for the future...but how many people have we known, young people...get all the career ducks in a row, and suddenly, tragically pass away? You’re talking about senior years...what’s the ratio of gay men who ACTUALLY make it to senior years? I mean, let’s just be real. I can tell you the truth: I’ve lost about 2 or 3 over the years. 2 of my closest best friends: GONE. Dead. Lives on the right track. 1 just became a flight attendant. Never even got to say goodbye. So I’m living for today, When it’s time it’s time, but by his grace I’m thankful for the time being.

 

But since you’re concerned, I do have an exit strategy that I can go into if and when it’s time to make an exit. However, for right now this is what I’m doing. I get tired of people acting like escorting is the only type of business where someone can be “stuck”, but yet we’re supposed to just be able to stop, drop and roll anytime we have an issue or expect better from people.

 

How many people do you know who are business owners, stuck in the business (and yes, maybe they’re successful financially) but struggling health wise because they’re so overwhelmed and stressed? But they can’t leave the business because their stake is in it, and it’s all they can do to support themselves? They can’t just stop, pack up, and “get a job”.

 

I met a client couple months ago who owned a successful restaurant. Beautiful home, beautiful sports car...but he was so overweight that his tummy engulfed the steering wheel. He was admittedly conscious and proactive about his weight loss, but he said eating was his only way to de-stress over the years. He showed me an older picture, he was once a fitness model.

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okay, if you’re going to be on my side: don’t say complain. Just because I discuss or make an observation about something, doesn’t mean it’s a complaint.

@marylander1940 is right though. You do complain. Objectively speaking you expressed your dissatisfaction and annoyance about client expectations (specifically the gym) and their behavior.

 

complain- v. express dissatisfaction or annoyance about something

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I hear what you’re saying, but have you ever heard the phrase tomorrow isn’t promised? I’m not saying disregard your advice or not be prepared for the future...but how many people have we known, young people...get all the career ducks in a row, and suddenly, tragically pass away? You’re talking about senior years...what’s the ratio of gay men who ACTUALLY make it to senior years? I mean, let’s just be real. I can tell you the truth: I’ve lost about 2 or 3 over the years. 2 of my closest best friends: GONE. Dead. Lives on the right track. 1 just became a flight attendant. Never even got to say goodbye. So I’m living for today, When it’s time it’s time, but by his grace I’m thankful for the time being.

 

But since you’re concerned, I do have an exit strategy that I can go into if and when it’s time to make an exit. However, for right now this is what I’m doing. I get tired of people acting like escorting is the only type of business where someone can be “stuck”, but yet we’re supposed to just be able to stop, drop and roll anytime we have an issue or expect better from people.

 

How many people do you know who are business owners, stuck in the business (and yes, maybe they’re successful financially) but struggling health wise because they’re so overwhelmed and stressed? But they can’t leave the business because their stake is in it, and it’s all they can do to support themselves? They can’t just stop, pack up, and “get a job”.

 

I met a client couple months ago who owned a successful restaurant. Beautiful home, beautiful sports car...but he was so overweight that his tummy engulfed the steering wheel. He was admittedly conscious and proactive about his weight loss, but he said eating was his only way to de-stress over the years. He showed me an older picture, he was once a fitness model.

Good for you that you have an exit strategy for when you are ready to leave escorting, and you make excellent points about the risks in other professions, but that's life, there is no way to know what circumstances are just around the corner. The balance is that, while some people are defeated by stress, others thrive on it.

 

My condolences for the loss of your friends. I can understand your feelings, but I don't believe you should live your life dwelling on the possibility that because your friends passed at young ages that you will also.

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well, hopefully you'll stop quoting me and getting mad by my posts.

 

 

 

 

 

Will you follow the advice and start ignoring @Jarrod_Uncut ?

 

The ignore button is a true blessing for both sides, at least that has been my experience.

 

 

I said that like a week ago.

 

@marylander1940 is right though. You do complain. Objectively speaking you expressed your dissatisfaction and annoyance about client expectations (specifically the gym) and their behavior.

 

complain- v. express dissatisfaction or annoyance about something

 

Whatever happened to ignoring @Jarrod_Uncut ?

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Good for you that you have an exit strategy for when you are ready to leave escorting, and you make excellent points about the risks in other professions, but that's life, there is no way to know what circumstances are just around the corner. The balance is that, while some people are defeated by stress, others thrive on it.

 

My condolences for the loss of your friends. I can understand your feelings, but I don't believe you should live your life dwelling on the possibility that because your friends passed at young ages that you will also.

 

Thanks for the wisdom. However, I should clarify: it’s not that I feel I’m dwelling on the possibility (by his grace of course). But I’m just saying, people talk so much about, “what are you going to do 50 years from now, are you still going to be sex working?? But fact is, there’s no guarantee of 50 years from now for any individual person. I think people (maybe particularly affluent Americans) seem obsessed with “the future”. Who would have thought 20 years ago, that the whole world would come to wear masks, and businesses of all types would be forced to make concessions? Did every valet guy working at the Ritz consider his future? Did every gay bar bartender consider their future? Can’t always predict the future.

 

Even if we take it less heavy, my question is always: who is going to do what they are doing now, 10-20-30 years from now? And...so what if they do. When the time comes, they can choose to continue or stop.

 

I think it only adds to the ambivalence for me, when there’s this outside pressure to “do something else”, versus brainstorming on what ways to improve what I’m already doing. Since this thread, I’ve gone ahead and did a selfie photo shoot (many of the pro photographers are on limited schedules), did a new JFF video, and decided not to take anymore same day appointments. It has helped take the edge off. But the suggestions here have gotten my creative juices flowing, and refreshed on things I already knew...but haven’t been motivated to do (namely due to the things mentioned in the 1st post)

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I think it only adds to the ambivalence for me, when there’s this outside pressure to “do something else”, versus brainstorming on what ways to improve what I’m already doing. Since this thread, I’ve gone ahead and did a selfie photo shoot (many of the pro photographers are on limited schedules), did a new JFF video, and decided not to take anymore same day appointments. It has helped take the edge off. But the suggestions here have gotten my creative juices flowing, and refreshed on things I already knew...but haven’t been motivated to do (namely due to the things mentioned in the 1st post)

I would say you are doing well for yourself in that you have "gone ahead" since this thread. Some feel their circumstances demand that they plan long-term (children/grandchildren/investments/whatever) while others "live for the day", and the rest fall somewhere in between. There is no "one size fits all" Wherever we are, as long as we don't give in or give up, we're good. :)

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@marylander1940 is right though. You do complain. Objectively speaking you expressed your dissatisfaction and annoyance about client expectations (specifically the gym) and their behavior.

 

complain- v. express dissatisfaction or annoyance about something

He can complain as much as he chooses, just as you can troll as much as you choose.

 

And why shouldn’t he? He obviously has a fan....

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