Would you hire an escort who turned you down on Scruff?

[marylander1940]

Never ever look for tops

 

you only look for bottoms who offer basic sex, we know.

[Guest]

@muscmtl Did we ever get an update about your profile picture and the Amazon book cover? Are you an author?

[muscmtl]

@muscmtl Did we ever get an update about your profile picture and the Amazon book cover? Are you an author?

yes, just put my name in amazon

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[marylander1940]

@muscmtl Did we ever get an update about your profile picture and the Amazon book cover? Are you an author?

 

yes, just put my name in amazon

?

 

You'll be a hit for sure in 2 threads at least

 

Silver foxes and DILFs and Daddy issues of course if you're the guy in your picture.

[+ WilliamM]

you only look for bottoms who offer basic sex, we know.

 

As opposed to intermediate sex?

[marylander1940]

As opposed to intermediate sex?

 

It's a phrase he uses, not if you get the meaning.

Edited September 6, 2020 by marylander1940

[asianmusclebttm]

I've contemplated it but like others said it would ruin the fantasy.

I sort of agree with this... theres definitely an "exclusivity" aspect that is very appealing about hiring an escort.

 

Although I have to say, hookups and client sessions are very different for me, even if it was the same person. I can definitely give it "my all" in a session, with regards to intimacy. I try to be a bit more reserved during a regular hookup because, well, people can get attached pretty easily when you don't mean for that to happen. So, I feel like the structure of a session gives me room to really provide a good service.

[+ TylerandAce]

If a guy on Scruff/ Grindr turned ou down, but his RM profile say available, would u try to hire him?

 

My issue is if they're on apps giving it up for free, why pay.

 

So seeing an escort on cruising apps, turn on or turn off?

 

Steve

This has happened to us before...more than once. I think this has everything to do with the guy's ego and self-image. If he feels like he's a catch, then sure, he's going to be self conscious about being given service fees. If he knows that he's probably not our type but is horny and wants to follow through on a fantasy, then it's not an issue. There are as many reasons a guy hires us as there are guys who hire us. However, we try to be kind and respectful to everybody who is kind and respectful to us. Also, and this is just personal, we RARELY hook up for our own extracurricular. Grindr and Scruff are potential connections for a business opportunity. It sounds crass, I know, but we are very transparent about it when connecting.

[rvwnsd]

...Grindr and Scruff are potential connections for a business opportunity. It sounds crass, I know, but we are very transparent about it when connecting.

That's about as crass as saying "I only go to grindr and scruff to find hook-ups." It's not like you are using the comparative literature study groups section of MeetUp for that purpose.

 

?On second thought, if you DID use a comparative literature study group to identify business opportunities I might join one. ?

[JayCeeKy]

To paraphrase what Groucho might say on the subject: "I wouldn't hire an escort who would have me for a boyfriend."

Edited September 8, 2020 by JayCeeKy

[Rudynate]

If a guy on Scruff/ Grindr turned ou down, but his RM profile say available, would u try to hire him?

 

My issue is if they're on apps giving it up for free, why pay.

 

So seeing an escort on cruising apps, turn on or turn off?

 

Steve

 

 

Id say it depends on how bad you want him. If you want him bad enough, you'll pay. If not, you won't. I don't think there's any guiding principle here.

[Rudynate]

If a guy on Scruff/ Grindr turned ou down, but his RM profile say available, would u try to hire him?

 

My issue is if they're on apps giving it up for free, why pay.

 

So seeing an escort on cruising apps, turn on or turn off?

 

Steve

 

I had the opposite happen. Somebody who I've often thought of hiring hit me up on a hookup site. I said no because I'm laying low for the time being. If things ever change, I'll get back in touch with him. If he says no, I wouldn't let that stop me from hiring him.

[+ TylerandAce]

That's about as crass as saying "I only go to grindr and scruff to find hook-ups." It's not like you are using the comparative literature study groups section of MeetUp for that purpose.

 

?On second thought, if you DID use a comparative literature study group to identify business opportunities I might join one. ?

lol...well, my first cousin teaches comparative literature at a liberal school in the Midwest, so I'll bone up on what that might entail! I always did think Faulkner was kinda sexy.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

In essence, we're comparing a hookup/dating app to paid services. It's an odd/slippery slope.

 

I'd advise for guys not to confuse the two: Just because he's on an app, doesn't mean he's into you. Never take it personally.

 

I always encourage taking your shot, but also advise to adjust expectations when you're not in hiring mode.

[marylander1940]

In essence, we're comparing a hookup/dating app to paid services. It's an odd/slippery slope.

 

I'd advise for guys not to confuse the two: Just because he's on an app, doesn't mean he's into you. Never take it personally.

 

I always encourage taking your shot, but also advise to adjust expectations when you're not in hiring mode.

 

Agreed.

 

Unfortunately (or fortunately) guys seem to be more daring to contact someone clearly out of their league online and not so much in person.

 

I'd say get over it! When I was young folks in their 40's look old to me, now they look young.

 

To paraphrase what Groucho might say on the subject: "I wouldn't hire an escort who would have me for a boyfriend."

 

Exactly! We hire those we can't get for free.

[Walker1]

Why not? The whole point of hiring is to get people who would normally not sleep with you.

[muscmtl]

That "you can't get for free" is the problem. I approached this escort on Rentmen and asked if he bb btmed kissed and rim, which he said "safe top only", fair enuf and that was the end of that. Few weeks later I saw him Scruff, unlocked my pics and he ignored me, which is also fine, his prerogative. Then six months later at the bathhouse he enters my room and does everything I wanted, and what gets me is that once I loaded him he stayed to cuddle, chat and even wanted my number. So I went from "not interested", "not interested", to be my boyfriend and for free.

 

My concern is the mechanical limits of sex. If you're an escort and you having tons of sex on Scruff because you're the hottest thing on earth, then you don't have anything left but clients (daily sperm outputs have limits). My issue is with those escorts I see everyday, all the time on Scruff, bbrt.

[Rudynate]

That "you can't get for free" is the problem. I approached this escort on Rentmen and asked if he bb btmed kissed and rim, which he said "safe top only", fair enuf and that was the end of that. Few weeks later I saw him Scruff, unlocked my pics and he ignored me, which is also fine, his prerogative. Then six months later at the bathhouse he enters my room and does everything I wanted, and what gets me is that once I loaded him he stayed to cuddle, chat and even wanted my number. So I went from "not interested", "not interested", to be my boyfriend and for free.

 

My concern is the mechanical limits of sex. If you're an escort and you having tons of sex on Scruff because you're the hottest thing on earth, then you don't have anything left but clients (daily sperm outputs have limits). My issue is with those escorts I see everyday, all the time on Scruff, bbrt.

 

 

Is it worth giving that much thought to?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Is it worth giving that much thought to?

 

This. 100%.

 

People are people. They make snap judgements and split-second attitude changes when it comes to sex.

 

Just be happy you got laid. Keep it simple.

[rvwnsd]

Is it worth giving that much thought to?

I suppose it is when one wishes to make oneself miserable.

[urbanfetish]

I wouldn't even bother to mix business with pleasure, so to speak, in this case. If I'm hiring, I don't want to be distracted by thoughts that the guy isn't into me. The reason I hire is to avoid complications since I already have a partner. I like variety and in the past when I've tried general hook-ups, every once in a while they have gotten too attached even when I specifically look for NSA flings.

[orville]

That "you can't get for free" is the problem. I approached this escort on Rentmen and asked if he bb btmed kissed and rim, which he said "safe top only", fair enuf and that was the end of that. Few weeks later I saw him Scruff, unlocked my pics and he ignored me, which is also fine, his prerogative. Then six months later at the bathhouse he enters my room and does everything I wanted, and what gets me is that once I loaded him he stayed to cuddle, chat and even wanted my number. So I went from "not interested", "not interested", to be my boyfriend and for free.

 

My concern is the mechanical limits of sex. If you're an escort and you having tons of sex on Scruff because you're the hottest thing on earth, then you don't have anything left but clients (daily sperm outputs have limits). My issue is with those escorts I see everyday, all the time on Scruff, bbrt.

I believe I told you once that there is a difference between asking an escort "Do you swallow / bb bottom" via RM (something you could call mechanical) vs. an in-person interaction as it happened in the bathhouse. I'm sure the guy didn't even remember you from RM when you both met at the bathhouse and you showed your charms in the flesh. You had a lucky night, embrace it.

 

Now that you've disclosed this, I'm not sure I understand how is it connected to your post title. Are you troubled by the possibility that if you approach him on RM he'll reject you again? More likely, he thought your profile pic was fake the first time you asked for bb, and might still think it, probably saying "Oh again this troll using the pic of the hot daddy I f*cked in the bathhouse. It's impossible the real guy is a client on RM". You have to remember that many providers on RM are on an always-defensive mode because of trolls, scammers, time-wasters, and rude clients.

 

Be happy that you got that "service for free", enjoy life, and if he doesn't want to connect again then he has too much attitude, better to move on.

[Frankcal]

On 9/5/2020 at 5:21 AM, Woofiecmh said:

It’d a tricky situation. I’ve chatted and flirted with several guys who were interested and then when I mention I saw their RM ad it went from a hook up to a hire situation. Very disappointing and I should have known better.

I made the same mistake. And won’t do that again.