Would you give a big discount to a hot/attractive client?

[Aaron_Bauder]

A local escort told me about all the young in shape Asian and SE Asian men who hire him on his trips to San Francisco. Maybe some are closeted and want discretion.

 

Also my experience in SFO, guessing it has to do with a combination of 1) extra disposable income among Asian tech bros and 2) the racialized rejection many Asians face from gays who fit the status quo Sean Cody / Bel Ami litmus test of "hot" that conditions the (American) gay community to value one type of look.

 

So you get these beautiful Asian boys hiring to get a taste of that which normally rejects them.

Edited August 9, 2020 by Aaron_Bauder

[Aaron_Bauder]

How you scorts feel about clients asking for a discount because they are hot/attractive? Would you say no or yes?

 

Yes, obvi. I have on occasion declined a donation from guys I would have hooked up with on my own accord. Usually they've insisted on donating anyway.

 

This has occasionally been problematic and amusing with guys (sometimes other escorts) who assumed, wrongly, that I'd find them super hot. It's like they're waiting for me to agree to meet them no charge, and then get confused and/or bitter when I politely inform them they're not my type. There's a couple of looks in the gay community that nearly everybody swoons over that I'm just not into.

 

I have a super l sexy massage client who I am super into and who I would leave the industry for immediately. Our sessions started as an hour massage and have gotten more and more intense each time, finally culminating July 4th weekend with an entire night of making out, edging, and frottage -- in addition to our usual long conversations. I could tell he was shaken up by it, and he has been radio silent since. Two weeks ago, I refunded every penny he's ever given me with the message "No charge." There is a serious connection there, but I think he's troubled at the thought of seriously dating a (former) sex worker.

Edited August 9, 2020 by Aaron_Bauder

[Pepper Young]

I'm not an escort, but if I was, No Discounts!

[marylander1940]

Also my experience in SFO, guessing it has to do with a combination of 1) extra disposable income among Asian tech bros and 2) the racialized rejection many Asians face from gays who fit the status quo Sean Cody / Bel Ami description of "hot" that conditions the gay community to seek one type of look.

 

Agreed!

 

Corfin Fisher and Sean Cody seem the standard of beauty but at least now we have types like otter, daddy, cub, etc. There's more diversity (believer it or not) among the guys we see as pornstars yet a white face still prevails and is seen as beautiful.

 

Just saying what's out there, not endorsing it!

[xyz48B]

VGL is extremely relative. What one guy considers VGL another might consider a MTO, a major turnoff. I too find VGL in an ad, either to describe an escort or potential clientele, to be an immediate dealbreaker.

[orville]

"Discounts for VGL" ... I find it a turn off when I see this on a provider's ad.

I have not seen this but I think that if I see it, I would immediately discard the provider.

Any provider who filters/treats clients differently, based on looks, is in the wrong business.

We decided to pay escorts cause we were tired of such treatments on Grinder and other apps.

I would not tolerate this coming from a provider.

[+ DrownedBoy]

I have not seen this but I think that if I see it, I would immediately discard the provider.

Any provider who filters/treats clients differently, based on looks, is in the wrong business.

We decided to pay escorts cause we were tired of such treatments on Grinder and other apps.

I would not tolerate this coming from a provider.

 

I think many, if not most, escorts do this informally already, on a case by case basis. They need to get off too, you know.

[marylander1940]

VGL is extremely relative. What one guy considers VGL another might consider a MTO, a major turnoff. I too find VGL in an ad, either to describe an escort or potential clientele, to be an immediate dealbreaker.

 

Agreed!

 

beauty is in the eyes of the beholder but VGL it takes millions of beholder to be determined.

[NikoLeto]

I have been asked this before and it's honestly a touch insulting. Looks don't factor into my services at all. I have no issue providing for bigger guys, smaller guys, first timers, whatever.

 

The reason I demand money for my services is not because the client is ugly, but because of the consistency and convenience I provide.

[PetetKsfo]

No.

I also like Kevin's reply above. My job for the hour that i am together with my client is to focus all of my attention on him.

I provide that same level of respect and focus to every client I am with without regard to age, looks, etc. I look for ways to connect to each guy to make him feel special.

 

A similar comparison - If you own a really hot car, would you say to your mechanic, " I see how much you must enjoy working on my awesome car, so why not give me a discount for the hour of labor you spent working on it."

[xyz48B]

My job for the hour that i am together with my client is to focus all of my attention on him.

One of the reasons I like weekends is that there’s less pressure to fill every second with each other’s attention. I actually appreciate him going to the gym for an hour or whatever. I can’t be with anyone with unbroken attention for that long. An hour I get it. But more time gives a nicer experience but you just can’t expect the escort (or yourself) to be “on” for 48+ hours...

[PetetKsfo]

One of the reasons I like weekends is that there’s less pressure to fill every second with each other’s attention. I actually appreciate him going to the gym for an hour or whatever. I can’t be with anyone with unbroken attention for that long. An hour I get it. But more time gives a nicer experience but you just can’t expect the escort (or yourself) to be “on” for 48+ hours...

 

Certianly - I have not yet done more lenghy appointments - only an hour or two, and so in those cases it is about the client.

But agree - for a longer period of time, both would want some alone time

[xyz48B]

@PeterMxM – I prefer a BFE. I find that’s part of it. I also find extended time with regulars make the BFEs feel more real. Or authentic. There’s even an element of mutuality to a degree with them after a while…

[sexymonk]

How you scorts feel about clients asking for a discount because they are hot/attractive? Would you say no or yes?

I don’t think that is appropriate. If a client thinks that he is too attractive and good looking then why not use grindr? If a client is meeting a person from the sites then they should pay on agreed price. It is about time and etiquette. It supports the livelihood of the men. Agree on price before meeting and pay that on meeting!!!

[TT3690]

I've received the occasional discount for being younger/more attractive than 'most' clients, but I never ask for one.

[MeatHead]

I've received the occasional discount for being younger/more attractive than 'most' clients, but I never ask for one.

 

How old are you?

[TT3690]

How old are you?

 

I'm 30, but with a babyface that makes most people assume I'm younger than that.

[MeatHead]

I'm 30, but with a babyface that makes most people assume I'm younger than that.

 

Why don't you try Grindr then? Not in shape?

[TT3690]

Why don't you try Grindr then? Not in shape?

 

Not as much as some, although I do Grindr sometimes. I've found a lot of guys on hookup sites flaky and things can get kinda complicated sometimes. With escorts it's easier to set expectations for the relationship.

[MeatHead]

Not as much as some, although I do Grindr sometimes. I've found a lot of guys on hookup sites flaky and things can get kinda complicated sometimes. With escorts it's easier to set expectations for the relationship.

 

I find Grindr so annoying. Lots of weirdos sending nudes without you asking and before even starting a conversation. Too sleazy for my taste.

 

Also not many attractive guys... Most of the few ones I remember finding were actually bots, lol.

[Armann]

Absolutely not. I have accross many clients who are absolutely gorgeous and definetely not in need to pay for a service, i dont know their reasons to hire. I am providing a service and refuse to be selective, i do appreciate a hot client but for me all of them pay the same, therefore i provide the same quality of service regardless of their physical appearance.

[marylander1940]

Some masseurs give discounts to students, dancers and bodybuilders. I have seen that in several ads.

 

I'm sure it could work to some but does it mean they prescreen clients asking for stats?

 

Do all students get the discount?

 

Would there be a discount if they young student is way out of shape?

[Erna]

a drop dead gorgeous heir to a multi billion dollar fortune hired us and we could not believe it when we arrived at his Hollywood Hills mansia.

Next day we offered it for free and he said thanks but he was seeing someone at the time.

He hired us several times again in the next few years............

[jtwalker]

Why don't you try Grindr then? Not in shape?

 

Being out of shape or ugly are not the only reasons to hire. Some people are just looking for something that is less complicated than relationships.

[Maximiliam]

Being out of shape or ugly are not the only reasons to hire. Some people are just looking for something that is less complicated than relationships.

Like me I'm hot and good looking but I love the experience ,its different and fun with the right provider .