Clients/Providers: Have either side ever "fallen" for someone?

[+ sniper]

I had a thing going about 10-12 years ago with a masseur. He worked out of his apt and gave nice sensual massages. After a few sessions, the massages always led to us having sex. That went on for a year or so. I gave him an inexpensive Christmas present (it maybe cost about $30). While every session was paid for, I don't think he considered the sex part of the session. (I booked an hour and got an hour's massage; the sex was always afterwards, for example.) Towards the end, I started getting lots of "I want to see you again soon" texts from him, and several times those texts happened when I was in his neighborhood. Maybe it was just a coincidence, but I would always be a little startled and look around to see if he was nearby. I was not looking for anything more than FWB at most, but he seemed to be getting more clingy so I stopped seeing him all together.

Is it possible you had Grindr or the like running in the background on your phone and that's how he knew where you were?

[+ sniper]

Over the years I think I only met one who I considered asking out on a real date, but then Club 20 shut down suddenly and I was saved from making a fool of myself. Generally I was most attracted to the ones I understood were definitely not available in that context.

[urbanfetish]

Is it possible you had Grindr or the like running in the background on your phone and that's how he knew where you were?

It's possible. Not sure if this was pre-Grindr or not though. This would have been around 2008-2010ish?

[+ sniper]

Grindr started early 2009.

[+ augustus]

Well I had a stud I saw at least 100 times over a 4 year period. I saw us as close friends. And I was an easy client and he told me so many times. The guy just turned on me over politics. I told him many times lets not talk about politics but he couldn't control himself. Then one night he made a scene in a crowded Diner over politics and that was it. The majority of escorts are self-absorbed and immature. This is just a business with very very few long term relationships ever forming.

[D21howie]

Yes I believe an escort and provider can fall in love with each other. Love is love. My boyfriend is an escort along with other jobs he does. We are ten years strong. I love a lot escorts I had work with as friends. A lot that I use are not working right now because of COVID.

[+ outlaer]

Yep. I thought he was the most amazing escort/actor because he was so passionate and did a great job of convincing me he was into it. After our 3rd time he said he wanted me to stop being a client. We dated fir a bit. I was so into him and not just because the sex was mind blowing. It petered out after a few months. I still send him birthday greetings.

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

'Fell for' may be a little strong but I've dated two providers in the past... both were driven by personal chemistries.

[+ Italiano]

Well I had a stud I saw at least 100 times over a 4 year period. I saw us as close friends. And I was an easy client and he told me so many times. The guy just turned on me over politics. I told him many times lets not talk about politics but he couldn't control himself. Then one night he made a scene in a crowded Diner over politics and that was it. The majority of escorts are self-absorbed and immature. This is just a business with very very few long term relationships ever forming.

 

Well, with that pic on yr profile, it must be VERY hard not to turn on you over politics. ?

[Rod Hagen]

The majority of escorts are self-absorbed and immature.

 

You've conducted a comprehensive study?

[mike carey]

You've conducted a comprehensive study?

When you know everything there's no need for that.

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

The majority of escorts are self-absorbed and immature.

Ugg... not my experience.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Then one night he made a scene in a crowded Diner over politics and that was it.

 

For me, the trigger would have been the crowded diner

[+ augustus]

For me, the trigger would have been the crowded diner

 

And when we were in the parking lot he got so upset when I said we are done. Upset over the lost money of course. A total meathead swaggering hunk. I do miss him sometimes lol.

[+ Lucky]

And when we were in the parking lot he got so upset when I said we are done. Upset over the lost money of course. A total meathead swaggering hunk. I do miss him sometimes lol.

It's sad to see politics interfere with relationships.

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

For me, the trigger would have been the crowded diner

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