SIR.

[hypothetically]

Don't ask for opinions if you only want to hear things you agree with.

 

“Bless your heart” is all I have left for you, lol.

[BasketBaller]

i was once asked if i was retired from the service because if used "Sir"

Former military dependent children, of any age, often call other people sir or ma'am out of habit.

[tenderloin]

 

There is a difference between negotiation of a transaction and seeking an opinion. Given your record of posting in this forum one couldn't expect you to understand that.

[hypothetically]

There is a difference between negotiation of a transaction and seeking an opinion. Given your record of posting in this forum one couldn't expect you to understand that.

 

Sure babe. x

[+ quoththeraven]

i disagree with you on this. I use "sir" daily when I am speaking with someone who I am not on a first name only basis. I don't care what color, size or age the individual is.

Everyone responding like this is ignoring that it isn't being used in this context as a politeness to strangers in a face to face encounter but in a response to an escort ad.

 

Similarly, anyone unaware of the dynamics of reverse raceplay has never looked at interracial porn, which is full of this. Or if they have they have not reflected on what this is like and what it says about race relations and stereotypes.

 

This is exactly the kind of thing that makes forums like this a completely different experience for those of us who aren't white than those who are. I don't expect it, but it would be nice if people learned to see things from other people's perspectives and not just their own.

Edited November 4, 2019 by quoththeraven

[Guest]

I've gotten "sir" from (ostensibly) prospective clients, and as far as I can tell it's been a roleplay thing. Not a single one of them has followed through with a booking. One has to wonder if there is a kink being titillated simply by the communication.

 

I find it hard to keep a straight face when it happens. Like, you're gonna construct this identity of authority with me, but then waste that authority's time? Doesn't it break the spell a little bit when you say "will you accept half your normal rate, sir"?

[MrMattBig]

I've gotten "sir" from (ostensibly) prospective clients, and as far as I can tell it's been a roleplay thing. Not a single one of them has followed through with a booking. One has to wonder if there is a kink being titillated simply by the communication.

 

I find it hard to keep a straight face when it happens. Like, you're gonna construct this identity of authority with me, but then waste that authority's time? Doesn't it break the spell a little bit when you say "will you accept half your normal rate, sir"?

In the past with new inquires, this has been exactly experience with "sir" greetings probably 90 percent of the time. Hard to say for sure because j recently deleted a bunch of BS messages in the summer. When I search sir on my phone now, it's mostly witty banter from regulars.

[Rudynate]

A few weeks ago, I went to a manscaping guy for a body shave for my last show. As a matter of course, he called me "Sir." And it was that interesting mix of respect and submission that you encounter in the BDSM world.

[mike carey]

Doesn't it break the spell a little bit when you say "will you accept half your normal rate, sir"?

Lol, it does kind of wreck the image! I must be odd, if I want a meeting with any sort of role-play (of any sort, not just with an escort), I sure as hell don't want to conduct the discussion to set it up 'in character' for the eventual role. (And I also want to turn it off at the end. I'd like to think aftercare with a BDSM meet was a case of turning off the role play rather than pretending to care!) Sorry for veering off topic.

[+ oldNbusted]

Lol, it does kind of wreck the image! I must be odd, if I want a meeting with any sort of role-play (of any sort, not just with an escort), I sure as hell don't want to conduct the discussion to set it up 'in character' for the eventual role. (And I also want to turn it off at the end. I'd like to think aftercare with a BDSM meet was a case of turning off the role play rather than pretending to care!) Sorry for veering off topic.

 

 

I think this is entirely on-topic. It seems to me there are clients who are able to distinguish between the reality of the interaction of setting up a session and the role play of the session. Then there are people who are not, the role play has to extend to all aspects of interaction.

[hypothetically]

I think this is entirely on-topic. It seems to me there are clients who are able to distinguish between the reality of the interaction of setting up a session and the role play of the session. Then there are people who are not, the role play has to extend to all aspects of interaction.

 

100% and I do not know why that is. I have clients whose only method of interacting with me is via that “role play tone” and they will not snap out of it. Not only is it awkward, but then you really begin to feel as if someone is only able to perceive you in one way. And in the instances I’ve brought this to a client’s attention, it usually is the demise of the relationship. So as awkward as it is, and as much as I’m not in the mood for it, it is often something that must be overlooked.

[+ purplekow]

I know all escorts have had time wasters who utilize the phone interaction to get off and move on. I would not be surprised that some of the callers are getting off on calling the OP sir and are hoping for an equally stimulating verbal interaction.

[Geriatric Otter]

..and a black one. And just for clarification I’m not race-baiting nor am I the type to pull the race card or scream “that’s racist,” but I think it’s important for everyone to note that my, our, experience navigating escorting is very different from everyone else’s. That’s why I posed this question. Thanks for the insight everyone.

Usually when an escort calls me Sir it means they forgot my name

[+ oldNbusted]

Usually when an escort calls me Sir it means they forgot my name

 

 

or my pet hate "babe".

[MikeBiDude]

or my pet hate "babe".

OMG yes....especially from someone who doesn’t even know you!

[BaronArtz]

A former EOY who was banned from this forum had a habit to send unsolicited PMs addressing people as 'darling'.

 

I don't know which was more annoying - the unsolicited PMs or the 'darling'.

 

I am NOT 'darling'.

[+ purplekow]

A former EOY who was banned from this forum had a habit to send unsolicited PMs addressing people as 'darling'.

 

I don't know which was more annoying - the unsolicited PMs or the 'darling'.

 

I am NOT 'darling'.

Oh but you are Baron, You are.

[hypothetically]

or my pet hate "babe".

 

Clients I’ve never spoken to messaging me “baby” is a hard-pass also.