Rudynate Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 a few times a year Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DallasClient Posted October 1, 2019 Author Share Posted October 1, 2019 One weekend with the same guy, once a month. Occasionally add a two hour session or two with a different guy. What I'm more curious about, what income people have in relation to how often they hire. I'm definitely torn sometimes... saving for retirement vs enjoying my current financial situation while I'm still relatively 'young'. One more tangent... I have not had a 'non-hire' hook-up in years. My somewhat pessimistic outlook lately has me wondering - Would anyone fuck me if I didn't pay them? Its definitely putting a negative outlook on me finding a LTR. I'm thinking I should quit hiring for awhile. I have who I call my Sunday boy who comes over each week and he often spends the night and I Uber him back to his parents house. It's not robbing the cradle if you put them back! (He's actually 23). Then there are maybe 1 or 2 others during the week. I'm 51, executive level job, no debt, 1M+ in retirement accts, so I have a good amount of discretionary income. My partner is actually older than me, we spend time in two houses, we have been together for 23 years and encourage each other's dalliances. We don't play together but we do sometimes have our regulars meet us for dinner somewhere so we have faces to place with names. We like different things - I like 18-23ish and he is more into guys 30's-40's. liubit, + Just Sayin, Walker1 and 2 others 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RyanDean Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 I find that I hire in spurts. So to speak. The last several months have been pretty active (about 3 bookings per month) but I can tell that I'm entering a "fallow" period... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newhudson Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 I have who I call my Sunday boy who comes over each week and he often spends the night and I Uber him back to his parents house. It's not robbing the cradle if you put them back! (He's actually 23). Then there are maybe 1 or 2 others during the week. I'm 51, executive level job, no debt, 1M+ in retirement accts, so I have a good amount of discretionary income. My partner is actually older than me, we spend time in two houses, we have been together for 23 years and encourage each other's dalliances. We don't play together but we do sometimes have our regulars meet us for dinner somewhere so we have faces to place with names. We like different things - I like 18-23ish and he is more into guys 30's-40's. TMI ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MidwestCoastal Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 TMI ? I'm sorry.... I'm the one who asked. I should have asked for PVT but just need advice. Not many friends know I 'do' this....really enjoy the community here. Please private me instead of posting here. Sorry and thanks. DallasClient 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chad Constantine Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 If you exclude masseurs than I can go months without. I never really had someone I would consider a regular because I usually just go with how I am feeling plus it takes me a while before I feel sure I want to meet up. I probably avg. maybe 1 every 3-4 weeks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aaron James Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 Two to four times a month on average, although I also go through phases when I get caught up in the possibilities of new guys. Living in London there’s sometimes too much choice... I’ve had a couple of less than stellar meets in the last few weeks so I’ll probably stick to regulars for a bit, so once or twice a month. I probably spend 1k-2k a month. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DallasClient Posted October 1, 2019 Author Share Posted October 1, 2019 TMI ? I'm an open book. liubit, Strafe13 and + Just Sayin 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ JEC Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 Some young guys definitely like daddies, and may not need the money. You could try for a bit and see if they like your daddy-looks. You have to be psychologically ready to be rejected, ignored and blocked, though. I'll echo my friend Tarte, when my profile is "up" on Grindr, I'm amazed at all the Daddy love that comes my way from hot young guys. My circumstances don't allow me to host, and my schedule is really complicated so a pre-scheduled visit is what works best for me (Grindr is very "right now") so I rarely connect on Grindr but the "love" is infectious MikeBiDude 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myophile Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 (edited) Two to four times a month on average, although I also go through phases when I get caught up in the possibilities of new guys. Living in London there’s sometimes too much choice... I’ve had a couple of less than stellar meets in the last few weeks so I’ll probably stick to regulars for a bit, so once or twice a month. I probably spend 1k-2k a month. I’ve only been hiring for a couple of years, but long enough to notice certain patterns. I enjoyed whoring around when I was younger, and after a l-o-o-o-o-ng period of sexual abstinence, hiring seemed a way to recreate the excitement and risk of that life: a new guy every time, and no strings attached. So I was surprised to find myself, within about a year, in a steady twice-a-month “relationship” with a single provider. That’s ongoing, and quite fulfilling; but I still hanker after novelty, and living in New York, the provider selection is enormous and varied and ever-changing. My wants are specific, and I generally research my hires pretty carefully; but I tend to go off the rails a bit in the summertime, and this year’s Pride celebrations nearly did me in, financially and physically! I’m not sure what the fall will bring; I look forward to getting back into a quieter series of regular visits with my guy, but on the other hand, I travel a lot between September and May, and every city has its temptations ... Edited October 1, 2019 by myophile Walker1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caliboy95 Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 I’ve hired at least someone a year. I don’t have much spare money or else I would hire more often. Mind you, I’m still a full time student and have a full time job ?. massageformuscle and DMICS 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ SundayZip Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 How could you let your grade school math teacher down like this? Of course there is an average, it's just that none of us know what it is. :D What the OP probably probably really meant is to ask what is typical and that is where you hit the nail on the head: Yes, there is the mean (aka, average) but there's also median and mode. Seems like the mode would be most meaningful for this exercise. ;) + oldNbusted 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ JEC Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 My "average" is once per month. If I travel for work I have more freedom and might go on a "spree". Boston has a pretty limited talent pool so I tend to wait for visitors or opportunities elsewhere. The train to NY can be as little as $78 RT which opens up some doors. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
studchaser Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 I don't do masseurs, but I am counting Grindr guys in the mix but always pay them about the same as RM guys. I need to cut back though. I love your self awareness its humorous. The escorts got u hooked. Make sure your still investing for retirement and can pay your bills. Dont engage in risky behavior because with increased frequency comes increased probability. However if its not a financial strain n not affecting your regular day to day then no harm no foul. DallasClient 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vaurien Posted October 1, 2019 Share Posted October 1, 2019 i would hire more often if the pickings weren't so slim. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigjsd Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I want to be different, just like everybody else... I *love* that scene... "I'm not!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guy Fawkes Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I don't play "Security Theatre" anymore so it's an easy answer. Zero. This is the equivalent of asking a group of frequent fliers about their yearly mileage + BenjaminNicholas 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strafe13 Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I have who I call my Sunday boy who comes over each week and he often spends the night and I Uber him back to his parents house. It's not robbing the cradle if you put them back! (He's actually 23). Then there are maybe 1 or 2 others during the week. I'm 51, executive level job, no debt, 1M+ in retirement accts, so I have a good amount of discretionary income. My partner is actually older than me, we spend time in two houses, we have been together for 23 years and encourage each other's dalliances. We don't play together but we do sometimes have our regulars meet us for dinner somewhere so we have faces to place with names. We like different things - I like 18-23ish and he is more into guys 30's-40's. I want to be you when I grow up! To the OP’s query, with respect to my home base area, I hire a few times a year, probably closer to a frequency of about every month or two. But I hire much more profusely when I travel. I’d ideally like to hire once or twice a month while at home, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ BenjaminNicholas Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I don't play "Security Theatre" anymore so it's an easy answer. Zero. Would it help if I dressed up in a tight-fitting TSA uniform and told you I needed to do a full pat-down? + Just966 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guy Fawkes Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 There better be a suspicious bulge. Would it help if I dressed up in a tight-fitting TSA uniform and told you I needed to do a full pat-down? Realalist and + Steve yabsley 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Just Sayin Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I'm an open book. I enjoyed reading about @DallasClient 's arrangements; it gives us an idea of possibilities; as my friend the therapist says, we are not heterosexual, so the heteronormative is not necessarily appropriate for each of us Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DallasClient Posted October 2, 2019 Author Share Posted October 2, 2019 I enjoyed reading about @DallasClient 's arrangements; it gives us an idea of possibilities; as my friend the therapist says, we are not heterosexual, so the heteronormative is not necessarily appropriate for each of us We have been masters of non-traditional life styles for decades with our ability for non-monogamy, polyamory, and other types of open relationships. Here was the last time I kept track and I hope it's not TMI or inappropriate: April 1 Hogan April 2 Dillon April 4 Hogan April 6 Tex April 8 Kevin April 13 Jacob April 18 Hogan April 20 Ian April 22 James April 24 Hogan April 28 Tex April 29 Zack May. 1 Hogan May. 5 Brad May 7 James May. 8 Payton May 10 Hogan May 15 George (London) May 16 Maxim (London) May 17 Maxim (London) May 19 Matt (London) May 22 Jacob May 24 Tex May 26 Brad May 28 Payton May 29 Jacob May 31 Corey June 4 Hogan June 7 Alex June 9 Corey June 12 James June 13 Tex June 20 Josh June 22 Hogan June 23 Tex June 24 Josh June 25 James There are a lot of sheets and towels always being washed here liubit 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strafe13 Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 We have been masters of non-traditional life styles for decades with our ability for non-monogamy, polyamory, and other types of open relationships. Here was the last time I kept track and I hope it's not TMI or inappropriate: April 1 Hogan April 2 Dillon April 4 Hogan April 6 Tex April 8 Kevin April 13 Jacob April 18 Hogan April 20 Ian April 22 James April 24 Hogan April 28 Tex April 29 Zack May. 1 Hogan May. 5 Brad May 7 James May. 8 Payton May 10 Hogan May 15 George (London) May 16 Maxim (London) May 17 Maxim (London) May 19 Matt (London) May 22 Jacob May 24 Tex May 26 Brad May 28 Payton May 29 Jacob May 31 Corey June 4 Hogan June 7 Alex June 9 Corey June 12 James June 13 Tex June 20 Josh June 22 Hogan June 23 Tex June 24 Josh June 25 James There are a lot of sheets and towels always being washed here Again, I want to be you when I grow up! + Steve yabsley 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bostonman Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 I don't hire a lot, to be honest. I have one "regular" that I see when he comes through town a few times a year, otherwise I may be tempted to hire here and there, but I'm always careful of my modest budget, so I really can't do that much. I do "window shop" a lot though. There are several guys in my area that I've always wanted to try, though... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ JEC Posted October 2, 2019 Share Posted October 2, 2019 We have been masters of non-traditional life styles for decades with our ability for non-monogamy, polyamory, and other types of open relationships. Here was the last time I kept track and I hope it's not TMI or inappropriate: April 1 Hogan April 2 Dillon April 4 Hogan April 6 Tex April 8 Kevin April 13 Jacob April 18 Hogan April 20 Ian April 22 James April 24 Hogan April 28 Tex April 29 Zack May. 1 Hogan May. 5 Brad May 7 James May. 8 Payton May 10 Hogan May 15 George (London) May 16 Maxim (London) May 17 Maxim (London) May 19 Matt (London) May 22 Jacob May 24 Tex May 26 Brad May 28 Payton May 29 Jacob May 31 Corey June 4 Hogan June 7 Alex June 9 Corey June 12 James June 13 Tex June 20 Josh June 22 Hogan June 23 Tex June 24 Josh June 25 James There are a lot of sheets and towels always being washed here Hogan!!!!! DallasClient 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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