What do you think about escorts who message you first?

[Quincy_7]

It's happened to me on RM on a number of occasions. It honestly comes off as a bit desperate, which is a real boner kill.

[+ Keith30309]

Doesn’t bother me a bit. I’ve hired a couple of guys I might not have otherwise engaged who messaged me first.

[+ azdr0710]

are they contacting you out of the blue or is it because you took a look at their profile?....providers can see who checks out their profile and some will then reply (marketing follow-up)......if it's something you really don't like, you can set your RM preferences to more private settings....

 

otherwise, I don't care who contacts me.....some don't appeal to me, but I chalk it up to normal sales and marketing.....definitely not a "boner killer"!

[rvwnsd]

I don't mind escorts contacting me. To me it is not a sign of desperation, it is a sign that someone thinks we might be a match.

[woodworker]

Never bothers me and I appreciate being treated like a valued customer.

[+ Axiom2001]

I don't mind escorts contacting me. To me it is not a sign of desperation, it is a sign that someone thinks we might be a match.

 

I take it in stride and usually respond. I don't live in San Francisco although my RM account states this. All of my play sessions over the years, excepting two, have been in that great city vs my home in Monterey. ...don't believe in escorts traveling to me.

 

Right now I am owing a call to a well-known escort who asked that I contact him via phone after I'd sent him an email. He and I have known each other for some time and have communicated via e previously; we have yet to meet and play and enjoy each other's company! :)

 

A very popular escort who lives in the SF Bay area and works in the internet/computer business had seen me for some time; after he retired from escorting, he would periodically send me emails to meet him. This bothered me tremendously, for my sense is if I wanted to play, I'd initiate. I wrote him similar but much more tactful words. ...saw him twice after that; the last time he DID NOTHING for me, for he was too regimented; I aborted his once fantastic fucking of me and discontinued. ...haven't heard from his since. Great! I remember him fondly without any malice!

Edited August 7, 2019 by Axiom2001

[+ ArVaGuy]

It doesn’t bother me much, however, there was one NYC escort who pinged me at least every couple of weeks. He’s got close to 100 reviews and has been Coverboy numerous times. When his RM ad indicated he was going to visit DC I reached out. Turned out he was measuring market demand and had no firm plans to visit. That was frustrating. I simply removed him from my wishlist. He still pings me from time to time which I just delete the message.

[mike carey]

I'm happy with escorts reaching out to me unprompted. It prompts me to look at them, and I can ignore them of reply to decline if that's what I want to do. It's not difficult.

[+ poolboy48220]

For me, it's usually when I've viewed an escort's profile. I don't mind it, until it hits the second time they've messaged me and obviously have forgotten the first time.

[+ José Soplanucas]

If I do not find the provider attractive...

 

 

I get agitated. What an invasion of my privacy. How he dares. I am going to build a wall and block the motherfucker.

 

If I do find the provider attractive...

 

 

Why did you wait so long? You can hit me whenever you want, papi.

[BabyBoomer]

It doesn’t bother me much, however, there was one NYC escort who pinged me at least every couple of weeks. He’s got close to 100 reviews and has been Coverboy numerous times. When his RM ad indicated he was going to visit DC I reached out. Turned out he was measuring market demand and had no firm plans to visit. That was frustrating. I simply removed him from my wishlist. He still pings me from time to time which I just delete the message.

 

I get a text from him every other month, I Simply delete it.

 

~Boomer~

[+ ArVaGuy]

I get a text from him every other month, I Simply delete it.

 

~Boomer~

 

I agree, it’s Simply better to delete the message without reading it.

[+ keroscenefire]

It's been a mixed bag for me. I had one provider contact me when I changed my travel location to Las Vegas. He was very aggressive with several messages even though I hadn't even looked at his page. When I did, he messaged me several more and then blocked my as a "time waster" for simply asking a few basic questions.

 

But I've had a couple contact me in Denver and it's been generally okay. Hooked up with some, passed on others. Oddly, I had one do so recently only to not reach me after messaging him back. Maybe he got busy.

[MikeBiDude]

I get irritated in this case (and other social media platforms ) when someone reaches out to me first, I reply back “no thanks, I don’t think we’re a match“ or something similar. I don’t appreciate the next from them “why not?“

[+ purplekow]

I did have a Las Vegas escort come to my hotel room uninvited. I was not there and the friend that I with whom I was travelling was taken aback. When he asked my about him, I told him that I was looking for property in Vegat (true) and that he was interested in showing me a place that I had never been (also kinda true but mostly false) I had hired him during the trip and used another hotel for our rendezvous and I am not sure how he got my name or where I was staying. It was a bit creepy.

[RyanDean]

I was just reminded that one "cold calling" technique that definitely gets my attention is when a gent sends me a message that includes "something extra." Moments ago, one gent who I don't remember noticing before sent a message with the code for his private pics. Earned not just a click but a buddylisting from me, even though he's not exactly my usual type. I also appreciate it when gents attach pics or links not posted in their public profile. Or include language that indicates they've looked at my Rentmen profile. I may be an easy mark but such little "something extra" touches actually go quite far in stoking my serious interest...

Edited August 6, 2019 by RyanDean

[hypothetically]

It's happened to me on RM on a number of occasions. It honestly comes off as a bit desperate, which is a real boner kill.

 

..while it gets others’ dick hard.

You have to remember that your fellow clients are not always as forward or assertive as you are (per what they want from a potential provider). Clients are oftentimes shy or intimidated and will deliberate with no contact being made after several profile views. It is smart (not desperate) for an escort to gauge interest in meeting. My most monetary arrangements and longest running client relationships are a result of me making contact first. If one’s business relies solely on clients contacting them, one is severely limiting their earning potential. That goes with ANY business.

Edited August 6, 2019 by hypothetically

[KeepItReal]

I get a text from him every other month, I Simply delete it.

 

~Boomer~

 

I agree, it’s Simply better to delete the message without reading it.

Some people Simply can't take no for an answer. We are talking about the same guy, right? lol

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Some people Simply can't take no for an answer. We are talking about the same guy, right? lol

 

It could be my Kreskin-like abilities, but I'm sensing a repeat vibe here.

 

... Let me put on my gigantic, thick glasses real quick just to be sure.

[+ oldNbusted]

I don't mind it all but I also don't feel obligated to reply if I'm not interested.

[Trick]

I don’t mind providers whom I’ve met before texting me to tell me they’re in town. I take it as them wanting to meet me again which somehow raises my low self-esteem. They wouldn’t contact me if they hated our previous meeting, would they?

[RM]

I'd think they'd get over their hate for a paying customer.

[rvwnsd]

I get a text from him every other month, I Simply delete it.

 

~Boomer~

I agree, it’s Simply better to delete the message without reading it.

Some people Simply can't take no for an answer. We are talking about the same guy, right? lol

You can always block the number to prevent unwanted texts.

[MikeBiDude]

It could be my Kreskin-like abilities, but I'm sensing a repeat vibe here.

 

... Let me put on my gigantic, thick glasses real quick just to be sure.

You can borrow mine...

[DallasClient]

I'll tell you what I really like is when a previous provider sends a sexy or cute picture in a text just to say hi and they're thinking of me. That's just good customer service and I appreciate it.