In Calls vs. Out Calls

[littlenut]

Do you prefer in Calls (seeing the escort in his home/hotel) or Out Calls (seeing the escort in your home/hotel)? What do you like or dislike about each scenario, or does it not matter to you?

 

I'm just curious if others have a preference and if so which. Typically, I've done Out Calls, meeting in my hotel room, although I've met traveling guys in their hotels. But I feel a bit awkward visiting an escort in his actual home. Am I alone in this? I can't even put my finger on why exactly I find it unsettling.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I've seen a several of masseurs in their homes; it makes the whole massage a better experience. They often have rooms that are set up to provide the massage with a good table, appropriate lighting, and music available to set a relaxing mood. Those sessions have been great.

 

I've only had two escorts invite me to an in call their residences.

 

Two things that would make me uncomfortable with in calls to a provider's residence: cats (I have an allergy) and someone else (roommate/spouse) being present during my session.

[phildallas]

I've done incall with the roommate (who also did massage) in the apt at the same time. i kept hoping he'd open the door and watch or join in. Didn't happen.

[+ Pensant]

I tend to stick with regulars so I like hosting at my hotel or house.

[Guest buffwolverine]

I prefer traveling to the providers home. They tend to have a better set up and in my opinion feel more comfortable because they’re in their own element. I’ve never had the issue with a roommate being there but wouldn’t mind. The thrill of them spying or joining in would be run.

 

I usually can’t host and when I’m traveling I’m often with colleagues so I think twice inviting someone back to my hotel room where others may notice.

[Ryan Roman]

I've always preferred doing outcalls; the clients always seem more relaxed in their own element than an environment they're not familiar with.

[DaveOrDavid]

Always out calls in my hotel room, but a couple of exceptions where I went to the guy's apartment for repeat sessions where we had already been together twice before - two separate situations/guys.

[alexslaveboy]

Have never met an escort at his place or his hotel

 

I've always met with my hires at a hotel I've booked and once I got to know several guys and became more comfortable with "regulars" I saw many at my home until I moved to extreme South Jersey

 

Now all meetups are in a casino hotel in AC as I have comped rooms....

[cmennow]

I prefer meeting at my house because I have the set up the way I want it. I do have "regular-out-of-towners" that I meet at their hotels and it works just as well.

[liubit]

I always prefer hosting, as I feel more comfortable in my own environment. Happy to say that in my 25+ years of hiring, I’ve never had any problem, not even with first-timers.

[big-n-tall]

I have relatives living with me. I mainly have never seen an escort in my home. It's usually at a hotel I or the escort booked.

 

However, a well-known escort on this forum has invited me to stay at his home if I ever get to his area.

 

The escort I currently see the most, I have been to his home (multiple times)... and once with one of his relatives downstairs. LOL!!!

He has been to my home, but we just talked inside and he used my bathroom.

[JayCeeKy]

Outcall because, to calm my nerves a bit, I often (okay, always) have a swig (or two) of bourbon - and I don't want to get pulled over with etoh on my breath. However, I almost always do outcalls at a hotel. I'm very uneasy about bringing a stranger into my home since I read of a case in our city where a gay guy was stabbed to death by an escort who took the man's car and then ditched it in a bad part of town. The escort wasn't caught for a couple of years until the escort, like a lot of criminals, blabbed about his crime to friends. I realize you can get murdered in a hotel room just as well but at least they probably have a video of the perp entering/leaving, which may be a deterrent.

 

One of the few times I did incall was in L.A. circa 1989 - I picked up a hot young Latino on the "Boulevard" and he said his apartment was only a few blocks away. When we entered his apartment I discovered his entire family (mom, dad, and about six sibs) sitting at their dining room table ready to eat dinner. They barely took notice and we did our thing in his bedroom. But it certainly was awkward.

[+ FrankR]

When we entered his apartment I discovered his entire family (mom, dad, and about six sibs) sitting at their dining room table ready to eat dinner. They barely took notice and we did our thing in his bedroom. But it certainly was awkward.

LOL Waaaaayyyyy to soon to meet the parents!!

[thickornotatall]

Do you prefer in Calls (seeing the escort in his home/hotel) or Out Calls (seeing the escort in your home/hotel)? What do you like or dislike about each scenario, or does it not matter to you?

 

I'm just curious if others have a preference and if so which. Typically, I've done Out Calls, meeting in my hotel room, although I've met traveling guys in their hotels. But I feel a bit awkward visiting an escort in his actual home. Am I alone in this? I can't even put my finger on why exactly I find it unsettling.

[Gadfly22]

I've done incall with the roommate (who also did massage) in the apt at the same time. i kept hoping he'd open the door and watch or join in. Didn't happen.

A guy I used to see regularly always stayed with friends when visiting NYC so I got used to people being in the next room. But the most recent time I saw him (about 2 years ago) his buddy only had a studio. I was expecting the guy would go out but instead he went in the bathroom. Very weird experience.

[Rudynate]

I always do incalls because hosting is a problem for me. I would rather do outcalls, but it hasn't happened yet. I hire less and less. I might be just about done with it. My partner and I have great sex. Also, there just doesn't seem to be a shortage of people wanting to have sex without charging for it.

[rvwnsd]

If you drive your VW Bus or Chevy Van to the guy's place and meet in there is that an in-call, an out-call, or just plain weird?

 

But seriously...I don't have a preference. Living alone makes it easy to have escorts over, but it is also fine to travel to a guy's place. My rule of thumb is if I don't feel comfortable having a guy over to my place I probably should not hire him. Of course, this rule would not work if I had other people living with me.

[+ Axiom2001]

During my (far too many years to remember now)-- I've met one escort at my townhouse; the rest of the time I've met escorts in my hotel room or theirs OR at their house/apartment .

 

Because I don't live in the Bay area, the area from which most of the men I've seen reside, I have to go to them and see them in my hotel room or perhaps in their apartment/house. There have only been a few occasions when we've met at their place of residence.

 

[in response to your initial query, I don't have a preference.]

[DMICS]

I usually book for outcalls (I host). I don't feel comfortable being in someone else's place. I've had no issues so far.

 

 

 

If you drive your VW Bus or Chevy Van to the guy's place and meet in there is that an in-call, an out-call, or just plain weird?

 

When it comes to pleasure, I actually get bored sometimes playing inside my home. I love encounters in safe, odd locations. A former regular hire was into the same so that was great. I'm in the suburbs and pretty much a lot of the local escorts are in the downtown core and don't drive. I drive an suv truck and there's been times I've wanted to hire with my tinted car being the host location when I'm in the city. But, I don't want to make it difficult to an escort thats used to a certain format (hotel, indoors, bedroom etc) so I've never asked.