Boys from Grindr, social media, SA, etc.

[wbtravis]

This is fascinating. I guess with gen requests on Grindr I worried more about police stings or extortionists. Am I being naive that the chances are any higher there than on RM?

[MikeBiDude]

This is fascinating. I guess with gen requests on Grindr I worried more about police stings or extortionists. Am I being naive that the chances are any higher there than on RM?

 

You have to decide for yourself the level of risk you’re comfortable with...and as mentioned above:

be fully aware of their surroundings, have an exit strategy and learn to protect yourself.

[Guest]

And your argument can’t be “because there are a lot of fake ads.” My counter argument is “well, there are a lot of fake clients.” And here we are.

And here we are!!

 

I think it is part of the price you have to pay as a service provider. And it IS your responsibility, as the person trying to win the business, to reassure the client of your credibility.

 

In my day job, I am a "service provider," albeit of a different type of service. I am writing proposals all the time, taking prospect calls, and visiting potential clients in far off places at great cost in travel and time. My hit rate is low, but it's enough to keep us in business. I need to pursue a lot of prospects - kiss a lot of frogs - to win a few contracts.

 

.... After those experiences, with the resultant costs in time, money, and frustration, I am going to look for the provider to reassure me of his credibility.

 

 

Sure, you're not just gonna take any ad's word for it. That's why reviews, personal websites, etc; exist. To reassure the client of a provider's credibility, without having to sit at home and take selfies all day.

 

Your analogy to business in general is apt-but I would add one consideration to it: in business, the provider, as well as the client, is free to say "no thanks" if they are not confident of the other's integrity. This responsibility you speak of goes both ways. In all business, sometimes the client wants the services more than the provider wants the money, sometimes it's the other way around. Sometimes they find a meeting point, sometimes they don't. That's the weird and wonderful thing we call the open market.

 

You, a client, are free to decline the services of an escort who doesn't provide the specific form of verification you'd like-and escorts are free to decline the business of clients who ask for it.

[marylander1940]

You have to decide for yourself the level of risk you’re comfortable with...and as mentioned above:

 

Unfortunately after spending hours lurking for the best and cheapest deal with an “amateur guy who escorts”... some might just jump at the first sign of acceptance.

[marylander1940]

This is fascinating. I guess with gen requests on Grindr I worried more about police stings or extortionists. Am I being naive that the chances are any higher there than on RM?

 

I guess cops are not aware yet that this new kind of CL is (allegedly*) going on.

 

* in most cases the stories are nothing but fantasies bragging about who got the freshest, hottest, “newest” guy for the cheapest amount. Don’t buy everything you read on here specially when it sounds like an unaccomplished college fantasy.

Edited April 18, 2019 by marylander1940

[DMICS]

Glad this thread exists.

 

 

 

 

I am not on Grindr, but I have had very substantial success on IG and on ModelMayhem …. hotter guys at better rates than any random guy on RM

 

I've tried IG, usually with gym jocks or around the way guys that are friends of friends. No success yet on there, all my messages are read but usually no responses or laughs. It's also probably because my page is pretty much blank and very direct as to what I'm into.

 

 

Just today I had a Grindr meet with a young man who was a dockworker local to me. Said he was straight but curious. Exactly my type, looks maybe a 6 of 10 but enthusiastic, not “straight” activities at all...he bottomed like a champ, no kissing. Asked for “gas money”.

 

I find many local RM escorts here are also on Grindr. I find with a lot of them (in my little experience) that if you reach out on Grindr (not mentioning you've seen them on RM) that they'll quote you a much lower price. Tuesday night I actually "tapped" one of them on Grindr and a few mins later he messaged me. Within the hour he was at my place and I had a great time. Quote was pretty much 40% lower than his rates on RM.

 

I've also tried it on Grindr when I spent my summer on the U.S. east coast. While I did get messages a lot of the guys were just lazy (especially in NYC). Even if I offered to pay for Uber etc. Annoying.

 

I still need to try the IG route more. I'm guessing a lot of these gym jocks get hit up all the time from women or men so they don't need to go that route for pleasure or $. Another thing I want to do is create "business cards" but I have to spend the time to do research on that (what language can be used, discretion, graphics etc).

[BaronArtz]

Yeah... how does that work on, say, ModelMayhem? What's your approach? Your opening salutation?

 

It is the same approach on IG and on ModelMayhem. I only initiate a conversation if I get a strong gay vibe from a guy and/or he has a lot of nude or semi-nude pictures. I compliment them on their picture portfolio and ask if they are into 'private modelling sessions'.

 

As I said before, many model wannabes and young actors are financially struggling.

[MikeBiDude]

How about Tinder? Probably not as productive but as with any “matchmaker” app there are outliers.

 

I set my “discovery” settings to age group I’m interested in and keep distance away very low. That cuts down number of matches...but works for me. Just recently had a “match” from someone 4 miles away. Similar to seeking.com etc. we messaged back-and-forth for a bit, switched to text messaging as I started to get a feel for the situation, the match wanted to meet right away… I asked what their “allowance“ might be? Was quoted an extremely reasonable amount and was picking them up in my car and hour later for. Starbucks date and more. Back to my place, interactive Good fun, will be a repeat for sure.

[DMICS]

I tried Tinder but got banned. I believe because my profile blurb/description (though it was clean) was sexual and I guess they have no tolerance for that stuff.

[peter831]

I normally prefer to hire guys who have reviews or have been mentioned on here. But I have had success on Grindr in some smaller cities where guys have contacted me and in the conversation have asked me about being generous. I am not always interested, but some have been very hot and sincere. I have had several very good experiences this way.

[MiamiLooker]

One can still find hot guys on Craigslist. Postings only seem to get removed if they're reported.

[hypothetically]

One can still find hot guys on Craigslist. Postings only seem to get removed if they're reported.

 

Where? In the Resumes section? M4M Personals were removed from the site quite awhile ago.

[DMICS]

Where? In the Resumes section? M4M Personals were removed from the site quite awhile ago.

 

Here I've seen the personals shift to the Missed Connections section.

[+ BlueSky]

How about Tinder? Probably not as productive but as with any “matchmaker” app there are outliers.

/QUOTE]

I didn't know Tinder would match men to men. I thought it was just men to women (and vice versa). Has it always been that way?

[MikeBiDude]

@BlueSky ??‍♂️IDK, I’ve only been using it two weeks. When I initially set up it asked and I said both

[MiamiLooker]

Where? In the Resumes section? M4M Personals were removed from the site quite awhile ago.

They can be found in various CL categories, Resumes, Community, Services, Housing, etc.

[kko123]

Curious about success with Instagram guys

[Cajunmc]

Anyone have success with DoubleList? Seems like a wasteland.

[+ Keith30309]

Anyone have success with DoubleList? Seems like a wasteland.

I met someone on A4A who also advertised on DL... but I’ve spotted only a tiny number of paid companions.

[MiamiLooker]

Anyone have success with DoubleList? Seems like a wasteland.

One of the hottest guys I've ever met in my many years of hiring was found on Doublelist.

 

[+ Bryan Dube]

Met a high profile model on one of these sites, but for the sake of discretion, won't publicly share his info. suffice it to say, he was a little pricier, but well worth it.

[marylander1940]

Met a high profile model on one of these sites, but for the sake of discretion, won't publicly share his info. suffice it to say, he was a little pricier, but well worth it.

 

I"m glad to know he wasn't dumb and he asked a reasonable price to have sex with another person.

 

They can be found in various CL categories, Resumes, Community, Services, Housing, etc.

 

All this effort to save $100 or $50 bucks? Let alone the risk to get mugged.

Edited April 22, 2019 by marylander1940

[KeepItReal]

Anyone have success with DoubleList? Seems like a wasteland.

I've met a few guys from DoubleList - but these were not escorts, just horny guys. Only once did the guy reply that he was looking for somebody willing to be 'generous'. The "pro" section on A4A has been a better resource from a hiring perspective; at least in my city.

[down_to_business]

...

All this effort to save $100 or $50 bucks? Let alone the risk to get mugged.

 

It wasn't a craigslist person who attempted to blackmail me and ruin my life. False sense of security if you think where they advertise or what they charge ensures your safety. Only "you" can ensure your own safety.

[down_to_business]

I have also tried the app route for finding an escort lately. Unfortunately, no one I am interested in seems to be interested in me and everyone who I am not interested in, is lol.