Hello to all... (new around here)

[Ltc4415]

I'm in Chicago. I came across this forum a little while back, I'm glad I did. I notice there seems to be a bad vibe about getting service provided here. I can understand how some may feel and why that is so, but I hope this trend will change. I have a good friend (not a service provider) who helps me out from time to time, but I really would like to find somebody I could call on more often. I've searched a number of sites of course and especially since the big fed shake up, things here seems to have just died out. Of the guys I've been able to reach, the responses are more of a send off and cold. I get that nobody wants their time wasted and a person like me asking questions might give that impression, but how else do I find out what I need to know in order to make the right choice in who to hire? Some posts I come across are not clear and so in my initial contact, I ask specific questions (not more than three) at once and the responses determine if I go further trying to hire that person. What, am I doing something wrong? I am certainly open to any suggestions you guys might share, and thank you so much.

[Kinky Boyfriend]

Hey there!

 

I know that for me personally if the questions dive into too explicit a territory or ask for the specific series of actions will take place during our time together - I draw back as that makes me uncomfortable for a multitude of reasons, not the least of which is the legal aspect.

 

 

What sort of questions are you asking / what details do you need to know?

[Ltc4415]

Specifically... "Is your service for males or females, Do you service fetishes, and What's your hourly rate"

 

Most recently, the last two guys I heard from... one replied "yeah" and nothing else and the other one, (even though his ad was on a site under a men seeking men page) said "he was providing service for females"

[Kinky Boyfriend]

Oh - those are pretty normal questions - I'm surprised that you're not receiving a response based on those questions.

[+ azdr0710]

you may want to open the contact with a very brief "hello"/"like the look of your ad"/"thanks for your time with this note"-type greeting.....ask if they are available for a specific date and time (already figured out by you that will work for you), very briefly describe yourself (stats/age/demeanor)......be friendly, professional, and to-the-point......ask if they have questions or requests for you

[Ltc4415]

Thank you. I will make adjustments and give this a shot.

[hypothetically]

Thank you. I will make adjustments and give this a shot.

 

Be specific as possible about what you are looking for and when. I much rather a client lay it all out from the jump vs. being asked a multitude of questions.

 

“Hello,

I’m reaching out because after reviewing your ad you’ve sparked my interest. I am looking for (insert scenario), I prefer to play (insert scenario specifics) specifically on (insert date), I am a (insert age, description if you see fit, but not necessary, nor relevant). If available, may I proceed with a couple more questions? Thank you for your time.”

 

Be polite, clear and transparent.

[+ easygoingpal]

I am certainly open to any suggestions you guys might share, and thank you so much.

 

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All the best...!

[Bearofdistinction]

Hey there!

 

I know that for me personally if the questions dive into too explicit a territory or ask for the specific series of actions will take place during our time together - I draw back as that makes me uncomfortable for a multitude of reasons, not the least of which is the legal aspect.

 

 

What sort of questions are you asking / what details do you need to know?

 

Do you prefer Tupperware or Rubberware?

[KeepItReal]

Do you prefer Tupperware or Rubberware?

If you are suggesting that Rubbermaid is anywhere close to the quality of Tupperware...well, we can no longer be friends!

[Kinky Boyfriend]

Do you prefer Tupperware or Rubberware?

 

Rubberwear is a lot more fun to play with!

[+ FreshFluff]

I found a photo of one of those escorts who only serves women.

[david78nyc]

I've never hired an escort before, so this may be a dumb question: why not just get on the phone instead of doing it by text? With masseurs I'm comfortable with texts because I don't care (that much) about chemistry and the price point isn't that high. if I were spending $250+ for someone I was going to have sex with, I'd want to hear their voice and be able to hear how they answer questions, if only briefly. And that way, there is no paper trail... Am I missing something?

[BluDay]

@david78nyc I'm not an escort, but texting lets you see if the other person is responsive at all. Plus it can be done much more discretely than finding a place to have a conversation.

 

I generally don't call escorts because I know one of the things that happens is that men will contact them hoping to just get the attention of a hot man. In those cases, it's easy to silence the incoming texts, much harder to get off the phone.

[Trick]

I’m want to clarify this. Can we contact providers who are members to ask them about their services in this forum?

[BabyBoomer]

I’m want to clarify this. Can we contact providers who are members to ask them about their services in this forum?

 

No harm in trying. I'm sure some would respond while others may not.

 

~Boomer~

[Deadlift1]

and for some of our oldest members carrier pigeons are still ok to use when asking questions.

[+ JEC]

Most providers and I think clients prefer to txt.

For the provider, they are often responding from "wherever they are" which may be the gym, the grocery store, their day job, etc. and having that type of conversation may not be easy or possible.

There is also the fact that most people under 30/40 txt all day long, it's their default communication

Some providers say explicitly in their ad "no phone calls"

If talking is important to you, I would state that in a txt and see if your provider is willing to accommodate that

[David1024]

When contacting an escort for the first time I start off telling him my name, where I saw his ad and that I’m interested in meeting him; then ask if he’s available on xx day. I’ve already read his ad and seen his pics, so I don’t ask questions at that point. A good escort will respond quickly about his availability, and will often ask if I’m looking for anything in particular. That type of communication is usually the start of a good encounter.