straight guys vs gay guys

[studchaser]

I know this is weird to ask but does anyone have a preference for one over the other? What would you guys identify as the pros and cons in both scenario. I know the boundaries are not actually clear as there is alot of self identification that doesn't align with real life so for the sake of argument for the former category I am referring to men that would probably not have erotic contact with men outside of situations where there is a rewarding economic incentive. Thoughts?

[+ harey]

Hi. I think the question is very broad and really depends on the individuals. Trade has major appeal for some clients. I suppose the big pro for Gay escorts is fewer limits. In real life I look for balance. When hiring I look for bi, straight, or straight acting. Different is appealing, and I want what I can’t usually have for free.

[adventurous old guy]

I don't hire guys who post as straight. Its a prejudice based on the assumption that gay guys will be more comfortable with gay sex. I see comments from some here who see it differently, and wonder from time to time whether my view is too narrow. Keep thinking about a friend of mine in college who maintained that he was straight but was completely open to any and all sexual experiences because, to quote, "it all feels good." Would have sworn he would have ended up bi (or pan) but nope, he's been happily married to a woman for 35 years. He was out there in many, many ways but at least stands for the premise that some who see themselves as straight but can be very into how gay sex feels good, or is fun, etc.

[John]

You don't always know, and you can only judge him by what he does with you and how he does it. Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies.

[LivingnLA]

I've written about sexual orientation and sexual activity orientation before. So, I'm not going to get into that aspect of this scenario. Instead, I'm going to touch on the perception aspect, since that's what this is really all about. In other words, many of us have a thing for "straight guys" because of cultural and social expectations around masculinity.

 

For me, I have a thing for "straight guys" because my preference is for a masculine guy with a confident cocky attitude. I like "bros" and grew up around many military guys, so that kind of buttoned up yet intense confidence coupled with "guy" attitude.

 

That leads me to guys who market themselves as "straight," "bi," or "ask me." I'm slowly branching out, but haven't found a "gay" professional who pushes my buttons. I'm sure I'll get there one day.

 

Please remember, I'm talking about how a provider markets themselves because it's entirely possible for guys who identify as straight to engage in same-sex activity, depending on their sexual activity orientation and the incentives/pressures involved.

Edited October 18, 2018 by LivingnLA

[Epigonos]

This is very much an individual thing.

I prefer to keep my money in the family thus I am almost exclusively interested in guys who identify themselves as GAY. I don't even like to hire escorts who self identify as bisexual, however, if the guy really races my motor I will. Now if I see an ad in which the escort self identifies as straight I move on immediately and don't even bother to look at his additional photos.

This is my way of operating and I like it but I certainly don't think everybody else should follow it. In the end it amounts to whatever floats your boat.

[marylander1940]

I know this is weird to ask but does anyone have a preference for one over the other? What would you guys identify as the pros and cons in both scenario. I know the boundaries are not actually clear as there is alot of self identification that doesn't align with real life so for the sake of argument for the former category I am referring to men that would probably not have erotic contact with men outside of situations where there is a rewarding economic incentive. Thoughts?

 

I'd rather gay men... I don't want to hire someone who'll be thinking of a woman while performing, it's a turn off...

[Man Crush Morris]

No preference really as long as they do what I need done well.

 

The best guy I've ever hired was very straight and he would completely wreck me, though my needs are fairly easy to satisfy.

 

The guy hit a homerun every time, and he's still the only guy that always made me ejaculate.

 

Very straight guy. So you never know.

[studchaser]

Hi. I think the question is very broad and really depends on the individuals. Trade has major appeal for some clients. I suppose the big pro for Gay escorts is fewer limits. In real life I look for balance. When hiring I look for bi, straight, or straight acting. Different is appealing, and I want what I can’t usually have for free.

 

 

I def get that appeal of trade and many people do like that. Like your honesty.

[caramelsub]

I like the take charge type of guys. Any orientation. Just be dominant, masculine, and well hung.

[myophile]

Hi. I think the question is very broad and really depends on the individuals. Trade has major appeal for some clients. I suppose the big pro for Gay escorts is fewer limits. In real life I look for balance. When hiring I look for bi, straight, or straight acting. Different is appealing, and I want what I can’t usually have for free.

 

All this. The one guy I see regularly presents as a big, straight gym bro-type, but he’s actually quite versatile—perfect combo for me. I didn’t connect with him on rent.men, so I had (and have) no idea what his real orientation might be, or what he claims to other clients, but what little he says about his private life leads me to believe he’s straight. I love not knowing this for sure—I find the ambiguity erotic, and it sustains the fantasy.

[down_to_business]

No real preference as long as "real" kissing is on the table. I can't see really caring about how an individual identifies and it in no way has made any difference with my hires in the past (had good and bad with both).

 

While the norm would probably say an escort who identifies as gay might be more "into it" with another dude, it could just as easily be argued that a straight escort might be less judgmental (like he truly wouldn't care how attractive you are because he isn't into other guys).

[Gymowner]

I'd rather gay men... I don't want to hire someone who'll be thinking of a woman while performing, it's a turn off...

 

Marylander... do you really think he is thinking about YOU when doing the do?

 

At least if he is thinking about a woman it doesn't matter if you are the hottest 24 year old guy getting banged. He is still thinking about a woman and not passing judgement on how he is going to get thru the session.

 

Just recently someone said they had a session with a hot well known gay porn star. The session was ok but the customer "really wasn't the escorts type".

 

Give me straight boys any day!

[marylander1940]

Marylander... do you really think he is thinking about YOU when doing the do?

 

At least if he is thinking about a woman it doesn't matter if you are the hottest 24 year old guy getting banged. He is still thinking about a woman and not passing judgement on how he is going to get thru the session.

 

Just recently someone said they had a session with a hot well known gay porn star. The session was ok but the customer "really wasn't the escorts type".

 

Give me straight boys any day!

 

no but at least he knows he's with a man.

 

Don't you worry I served plenty of straight guys (truly straight) in the Navy. I'm done with that now I want the BFE.

[Gymowner]

To each there own! Makes the world go round!

[marylander1940]

Ro each there own! Makes the world go round!

 

I couldn't agree more!

[Philly50]

Emily, let me tell you a story. (Yes, I've been re-watching a classic sitcom.)

 

When I was much younger and still going to the bars, one evening I saw a very butch number -- very butch and very hot. I forget his name, so I'll just call him Bill. Well, Bill probably could have picked up just about anyone he wanted, but as the evening drew to a close he settled on me. Bill took me back to his place and we had some of the hottest sex I had ever had. I did things I had never done before. It was great.

 

The next day I called up a friend to tell him about it. As soon as I mentioned Bill's name, my friend laughed and said, "Oh, was Bill pulling a butch act?"

 

As it turned out, "butch" was not the word one would normally use to describe Bill. And the next time I saw him, he was behaving the way he normally behaved, which was much closer to the nellie end of the spectrum. And actually when I thought it over there had been several clues during our encounter that he really wasn't all that masculine, but I wanted him to be, so in a sense I was just as complicit as he was in the "deception."

 

My point is it really doesn't matter whether an escort is gay, straight, bi, or whatever. What matters is your desires and expectations, and how good the escort is at meeting those expectations.

[LivingnLA]

And actually when I thought it over there had been several clues during our encounter that he really wasn't all that masculine, but I wanted him to be, so in a sense I was just as complicit as he was in the "deception."

 

My point is it really doesn't matter whether an escort is gay, straight, bi, or whatever. What matters is your desires and expectations, and how good the escort is at meeting those expectations.

 

Indeed. That's why I mentioned perception. When we're talking about professional escorts, their sexual orientation is part of their branding. They'll say whatever they think best appeals to the customers they're trying to attract.

[Chelo]

Regardless of orientation and before entering the world of this business. Trades needs to know the true definition of escorting first. Do your part well and we’ll do our part.

[Beancounter]

Emily, let me tell you a story. (Yes, I've been re-watching a classic sitcom.)

 

When I was much younger and still going to the bars, one evening I saw a very butch number -- very butch and very hot. I forget his name, so I'll just call him Bill. Well, Bill probably could have picked up just about anyone he wanted, but as the evening drew to a close he settled on me. Bill took me back to his place and we had some of the hottest sex I had ever had. I did things I had never done before. It was great.

 

The next day I called up a friend to tell him about it. As soon as I mentioned Bill's name, my friend laughed and said, "Oh, was Bill pulling a butch act?"

 

As it turned out, "butch" was not the word one would normally use to describe Bill. And the next time I saw him, he was behaving the way he normally behaved, which was much closer to the nellie end of the spectrum. And actually when I thought it over there had been several clues during our encounter that he really wasn't all that masculine, but I wanted him to be, so in a sense I was just as complicit as he was in the "deception."

 

My point is it really doesn't matter whether an escort is gay, straight, bi, or whatever. What matters is your desires and expectations, and how good the escort is at meeting those expectations.

Sophia couldn’t have told the story any better than you did...

 

Picture this.....

[lanyc]

Any links to any of these hot straight guys lying around...?

[tenderloin]

Whether they call themselves Gay, straight, bi, or omni, I just make sure that they kiss. Without deep, sincere kissing, it just doesn't work for me. It's one of the things that I make sure to check in advance, and I find (just my experience mind you) that guys who identify as straight, and a higher proportion of men of color (ie, Latin and Black) are unwilling to kiss.

[rmike]

I like the take charge type of guys. Any orientation. Just be dominant, masculine, and well hung.

 

Feel free to post recommendations @caramelsub

[LivingnLA]

My longest term "regular" is a guy I met at a professional networking event years ago. He identifies as straight and I've met his girlfriends--including the woman who's pregnant with his kid--and he's been very versatile over the years. I'm the only guy he's had sex with and we've done everything. He's an incredible kisser and it's been quite "eye opening" for me to learn how much I enjoy being kissed by him as he fucks me or I fuck him. I still identify as bi and he identifies as straight. Sexual orientation isn't all there is to human sexuality.

[+ harey]

Sexual orientation isn't all there is to human sexuality.

...says the man with the chimp avatar. Srs, very cool that you have that regular guy.