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Like others have already said, I have a couple of traveling providers that will text me when they are planning to be in my area.  I really appreciate that, and will certainly arrange my schedule so we can meet when they are in town.  I also appreciate the 'thank you' text after seeing a provider...something short and simple.  That lets me know they had a good time as well, and that they appreciate my business.  Other than that, I have never received random texts from any providers, even regulars, and don't think I would personally care for that.  I am sort of old school when it comes to messaging.  As a retired educator, I was very careful to keep my professional life and personal life separate and avoided social media in general.  I have seen too many new teachers in the field cross the line via social media and texting and lose their jobs.  They clearly did not understand the need to establish some clear boundaries.  

Like others have already said, I have a couple of traveling providers that will text me when they are planning to be in my area.  I really appreciate that, and will certainly arrange my schedule so we can meet when they are in town.  I also appreciate the 'thank you' text after seeing a provider...something short and simple.  That lets me know they had a good time as well, and that they appreciate my business.  Other than that, I have never received random texts from any providers, even regulars, and don't think I would personally care for that.  I am sort of old school when it comes to messaging.  As a retired educator, I was very careful to keep my professional life and personal life separate and avoided social media in general.  I have seen too many new teachers in the field cross the line via social media and texting and lose their jobs.  They clearly did not understand the need to establish some clear boundaries.  

I really don't like only fans.  Tried them for years and then finally bought myself an air conditioner. 

I’m not a fan of the totally bare genital look.  It may make one’s attributes look bigger without the surrounding forest, but to me it’s off-putting.  I prefer a moderately trimmed forest, on myself and the guys I’m with, preferably with a smooth/near-smooth sac…Never had any professional manscaping done myself.  I’m not even sure where to find it.  The idea of it sounds intriguing…

Just made my first one.  Having the site down last week was a wake-up call for me.  Appreciate all RadioRob does for us and needed to show that with a donation.  

Just made my first one.  Having the site down last week was a wake-up call for me.  Appreciate all RadioRob does for us and needed to show that with a donation.  

Just made my first one.  Having the site down last week was a wake-up call for me.  Appreciate all RadioRob does for us and needed to show that with a donation.  

Just made my first one.  Having the site down last week was a wake-up call for me.  Appreciate all RadioRob does for us and needed to show that with a donation.  

The search feature is your friend. 
 

That’s a bad sign. Providers should stick with their name unless there are extenuating circumstances. 

I’m so old my middle finger’s got arthritis, it’s retired from photo ops.
 

I can barely think of a Brazilian acompanhante whose socials' profiles don’t describe ‘'god & family 1st", a biblical passage reference, and whose chained crucifix doesn’t dangle in my face while he has his way with me. They may not lose their religion but I def lose my ass.

You do You, but...
Why would you travel to Egypt lusting after a Blonde Scandinavian or Korean Twink?  😉

From missionary position to missionary work in under 30 seconds.
 

As long as his rod and staff comfort you. 🤷🏼

Well, it was a couple and they would occasionally recruit someone new to the business to join them so they would advertise 2-hand, 4-hand or 6-hand.  I decided to be adventuresome and try the 6-hand.  They still advertise.  Here is the link:
PlsTxtToBookUs - Male Massage & Bodywork in San Francisco, CA | RentMasseur
RENTMASSEUR.COM Gay Masseur PlsTxtToBookUs in San Francisco, CA offering a wide range of massages ⭐ experienced in therapeutic, sensual, swedish, hotStone, deepTissue. I saw them 15 years ago when I was still living in the Bay Area.  Back then they would travel with what seemed to be a home base in San Francisco and also somewhere in Canada.  At the time, I really was interested in the third person, and after the 6-hand I scheduled an appointment with him 1:1.  He no longer advertises and returned Thailand.  Keep in mind their current ad claims they are 30...which was the same when I saw them 15 years ago! lol. Just a tad bit of age shaving going on, me thinks!  

Well, it was a couple and they would occasionally recruit someone new to the business to join them so they would advertise 2-hand, 4-hand or 6-hand.  I decided to be adventuresome and try the 6-hand.  They still advertise.  Here is the link:
PlsTxtToBookUs - Male Massage & Bodywork in San Francisco, CA | RentMasseur
RENTMASSEUR.COM Gay Masseur PlsTxtToBookUs in San Francisco, CA offering a wide range of massages ⭐ experienced in therapeutic, sensual, swedish, hotStone, deepTissue. I saw them 15 years ago when I was still living in the Bay Area.  Back then they would travel with what seemed to be a home base in San Francisco and also somewhere in Canada.  At the time, I really was interested in the third person, and after the 6-hand I scheduled an appointment with him 1:1.  He no longer advertises and returned Thailand.  Keep in mind their current ad claims they are 30...which was the same when I saw them 15 years ago! lol. Just a tad bit of age shaving going on, me thinks!  

finally getting around to saying that @Jamie21 's posts are consistently savvy, to-the-point, practical, and fun to read.......very grateful to have you here in the forum....appreciate your advice and comments.......  

You are crazy to even consider it.
No. 👏  Deposits.  👏  Ever.  👏

IMO, it gives the harassed a context to have a voice, the harasser a warning, and the employer some insulation against liability.  That doesn’t mean I like spending my time being treated as the lowest common denominator of human being  
I don’t like it anymore than you do.  Before I retired, when I had to do these things, I can assure you that I was done in 15 minutes.  I simply fast forward the videos, quickly hit the tabs, and answer the questions based on decades of experience and insight.  And BTW, in my business, it wasn’t just harrassment training, it was about the equivalent of 42 hours of various compliance mandates - I still knocked through it all in about 2 hours.  

The Ignore button is a godsend. 

Actor John Leguizamo provided Dean Cain with a healthy dose of Kryptonite.  Leguizamo is a Tony and Emmy winning actor and comedian.  He posted the following response to Cain on Instagram Friday:
“What kind of loser volunteers to be an ICE officer?  What a moron. Dean Cain, your pronouns are Has/Been.”

I love this description of Pennsylvania:  “Philadelphia on one side, Pittsburgh on the other, with Alabama in the middle.”

There may be tough days ahead of you @SomethingFun but for what it’s worth, I feel you’ve made the right decision.
Now get yourself a good (aka aggressive) lawyer to handle the divorce.
In the future, you and he might be friends as @PhileasFogg suggested but give yourself plenty of time and space first. And don’t rush into a second marriage even if you suddenly meet a great-seeming man.

To answer the OP, I’d avoid. It’s just me: I’m cautious.
I always wear the seatbelt in cars (survived one car crash, shaken but unhurt).
In hotels, I always check the fire exits nearest to the room before I unpack (experienced 2 hotel fires, got out quickly and unhurt).
In commercial aircraft, I pay attention to safety briefings and check location of the exits (been in one incident, hard landing on foam, unhurt)
I know everyone deserves a second chance but I never had “convicted felons OK” on my Seeking ad/profile