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You cared enough to name drop your height as if that somehow confirms your mouth size and thus this guys dick size.

I Googled it, for fun. The average human's oral cavity from lips to throat is about 4-5 inches. So unless you have a really huge oral cavity, he's not as big as you thought he was.

What is with people on this forum trying to devalue Intel. This isn't the CIA. If you don't believe me IDC. 

Not sure if this is related...
There are masseurs who offer a therapeutic massage which is OK.
For those * IF* I ask (in a very polite manner)  if they are open to anything else some get offended,  Dude you are advertising on a gay massage site.  Those questions should not be a shock to you.  If they offend you maybe either be very clear in their description or not advertise at all.
IMHO !!!

As a client, I always expect to pay the provider’s asked rate, whether we are going out to dinner or just cuddling or fucking. I cover all expenses for the time also. 
 
As a consultant, I charge by the hour, no matter if I’m just sitting in a meeting or building an app. I’m getting paid for my time and my expertise. I see no difference between my situation and providers. 
 
 

Well, the New Year has just past, and already I have hired 3 escorts. One session was an overnight with two guys. The second session also was an overnight but only with one guy. Looks like it is gonna be another busy year.

I’m sorry you went through that. It’s happened to most of us, so welcome to a club none of us really wanted to join. Try to treat it as a learning experience and move on. I’d also recommend searching this forum for threads on “red flags,” as they can be very helpful. And until you develop a solid vetting process of your own, you might want to stick with providers who are recommended here. Having a no deposit, no upfront payment rule is also a good guideline to follow.

Darling, it’s happened to all of us. Or most of us, anyway. Yes, it stinks. But you chalk it up to experience, you move on, and you’re more careful with your choices next time. Take a deep breath, let it out, then let it go. Dwelling on it is not going to make it any better. I’m sorry it happened to you. 

I arrived in Palm Springs in February.  I had two regulars in NJ I saw before I left for a total for 4 visits.     
So in Palm Springs  I have seen only visitors to the area.  No local regular.  This has been replaced by Scruff hook up which have totaled 7.  Two were coffee dates that did not go any further.  The other 5 were all encounters at my home totalling 8 encounters.  Scruff guys seem to be one and done type guys but two of them I have seen more than once but it takes a lot of effort to get them to come over.  
As far as hires go
Two hot Columbians in their late 20s early thirties.  Great fun.  Total of 8 2 hour encounters which stretched out to more like 4 as they are not clock watchers. 
Usually have a meal afterwards which stretches the entire encounter to 6 hours or so.  One was at my home for 5 visits including three days in a row and  the other I meet at his hotel. for three visits.    
One muscle guy from San Diego who was okay but would not  see again.  Similar to the others, 2 hours planned stretching out further.
Porn actor from LA. Saw him twice. Very hot muscle guy.  Vers.  He was two hours on the dot both times.  
Porn Actor Landon Conrad.  Great first encounter.  Tried to repeat but he cancelled trips to PS   Would definitely hire again but only once he was actually in town.
Traveller in from the east coast.  Only saw once.  His hotel.  Usual 2 hours.  Pictures were more favorable than real life but the sex was fun.  
Date with escort from the Pool Party went well.  Too bad he went back to UK but I am hoping to have him for a longer visit if he returns.  This was a good experience with someone I met in DC at a forum event but did not get to see. So it was unfinished business.  We both finished.  
And the ever popular Tristan Baldwin spent a few days in my guest room, as did I.  
So in 10 months.  8 men hired for a total of 16 encounters.  8 men from Scruff  2 of those no goes and 2 of them multiple times to total 8.   One pick up at the grocery story.  4 NJ visits.   Averaging out to one encounter every 10 days but in reality there were weeks with 8 encounters and two months when I had friends and family visiting where there was nothing.  
Considering my senior status, think this is not bad but I definitely could have used more. 
 

Let's face it: unless we are good friends with Geffen, we don't really know why he married the young guy instead of just paying his fee, or why the guy married him, even though we know some hot young guys who have sex with older men purely for the money.. Most of us are reacting based on the stereotypes we are familiar with. If Geffen doesn't care what it is costing him, and the young man doesn't care that he is perceived by most on-lookers as a gold-digger (and I can't believe he doesn't realize that), then we are just watching a story unfold and commenting on what the plot means to us. It is not a story that has anything to teach me, since I will never be in either character's position.

My vote goes to Karl Kang in SF. Never fails to please in every regard. 
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I don’t know why this topic is in the Deli section. It is a generic issue and doesn’t concern an individual provider. IMO it should be in the Lounge.

Can we please respect providers' privacy? Posting their birthdate and city of birth seems way too invasive to me. It sucks that those websites exist that seek to identify porn performers by their real name and other personal details like those that were posted above. I guarantee you that these individuals don't want those details out there. A lot of that info is extracted by using facial recognition software and people-search websites. It's not cool and I hope CoM can at least come to an agreement on respecting these details that should be private.

Fair pricing = cheap ass.
 
try the crack corner
 
in all seriousness, having a paid fuck is not a basic human right or something you can get with your EBT card nor coupons. Let’s start treating sex work as what it is: a luxury service. It will make the entire experience better.
Imagine going to the Four Seasons and asking for “fair pricing”. Get your shit together my dude

So i think this is coming down to different ways people use this forum. It seems you use this forum as your main method of browsing providers. If that's what you're doing then i see how you are coming to this conclusion because you aren't seeing the providers profile first. You are seeing the CoM Deli most recents page, you're using the CoM Deli page kind of like the Online Now and in your city search (which is not it's function, but whatever, that's how people seem to be using it). So I can see a bit more why you are wanting what you want because you're using this as your main place to browse in addition to see reviews. 
However, it's at odds with how another portion of us are using this forum, which is we come here after browsing on RM or other site and then we search a specific provider of interests handle here, because to us, why would we want to sift through a bunch of posts for providers we aren't interested in when we can use the much more robust profile search function on RM or other site first? So we come here already knowing what city they are in at that present moment because that's how we're seeing them come up on RM in the first place. Searching the handle here brings up any new and old posts that often say cities that Provider is likely no longer located in. So that's why we largely see it as useless or redundant info to include in the post title. We are seeing the providers location from the start because we are starting from their listing and not here first.
It's not rocket science, but it is a matter of different use cases and perspectives. To both of us, our way is "easier" cause it's what we're used to doing.

Hence my words, "Not a big issue".  It isn't 'needed', and nor did I suggest it was.

Well I never use this forum as the primary source of browsing page. Instead would go to RM to search for providers in my area, identify providers i am interested in and only then run those providers' RM's handle names using the 'search' feature in this forum simply to check if any thread on those providers posted here for references. 
Seems to me that would be much more efficient than going through this forum to identify providers in my area.

No, it would not be easier. That’s the point. In the example used, it would be necessary to search lots and lots of unnecessary providers to find their location, which they identify on their RM page an OP could use when posting here.
It ain’t rocket science. 🚀🚀🚀

Listing city is meaningless for the huge chunk of providers who are sometimes/always traveling. Even ones who don't travel super often sometimes move. It's outdated info within a matter of days or weeks for traveling providers and sometimes even out of date after X time for fairly static providers if they move or visit somewhere for vacation and take clients where they are visiting.
I don't think there's really any real logical solution for this. The only possible solution is if the developers of the forum added a feature that somehow real time tracks the listed location of a provider in RM and auto updates posts with their name to change location. And i think that'd be very infeasible.
I don't know. This has never really crossed my mind as being an issue personally. Most providers I've hired in the past are traveling providers, and when i came here to look providers up i already had a name to search from browsing RM first. I'm generally not browsing the Deli and looking for my city in the titles because i already had it in my head from the start that many providers move around a lot. So i could be the odd one out in that way and this wouldn't ping as an annoyance for me.

As someone who just recently had their first experience with a man, I will tell you what helped me tremendously. Once I narrowed down my search, with a handful of local providers, who were my type and had a fair amount of good reviews on RM. I checked them with Company of Men, to get some trusted reviews. After they passed that test, I paid for an hour of their regular rate to meet them in person. I only did this with 2 local providers. We had coffee or quick meal, and I was able to ask every imaginable question, and share my concerns about my first experience with a man. It also allowed me to see if we had a connection and real chemistry. I was able to find an awesome provider who has been kind, patient and loving, as I explore my sexuality with a man.This is not a conventional way go, and some of you will disagree with my method, but it sure worked well for me. I wish you the best with your journey. 

Going to bump this up as he currently appears in listings for Denver.  Anyone have any experience with this handsome young man?  

It’s always better to be clear with escorts on your expectations.  If paying for the hotel should get you some additional time then ask for that upfront.  If it’s you wanting to be nice and hoping it gets u additional time, then do not be disappointed if u don’t.  

I have several regulars who are never on time.  However, they are traveling and as long as they put forward an effort when we are together, I am fine with the delay.  I have come to expect it and plan accordingly.  AS they are coming to my home. I always have other things I can do while waiting.  I have one regular who cancels at the last minute more than half the time but more than makes up for it the other half.  I just have back up plans for any time I have an appointment with him and I long ago stopped getting upset about it.  Yes I am disappointed when it happens, but I also know that it is like being edged, eventually the frustration I feel now will result in a bigger explosion of joy later on.   
In this case,  pay for the time you spend together and enjoy that.  Disappointment can be washed away with a great orgasm.  If you have already paid him, on the way out, I would mention that the session was great but you are disappointed that it was less time than you had originally planned and any lost time from your time together makes the difference between a memorable session and one, like today's, merely great.  Big kiss on the way out and perhaps something like:  See what you missed out on.  

Did you pay for his time in advance?  I ask because why not reduce the fee to time spent?
The whole situation is less than ideal and maybe you just try and work things out for something down the road.  I have a great regular that I know has had some family issues and he has bounced my times around a bit lately.  But he has told me what is going on so I work with him because overall he's been really good to me.

Dude … here’s what I’m thinking. Your feelings are your feelings. I think anyone would be annoyed. If I read correctly you said he was visiting his family which is not too far from your location. Family can add an extra layer of complexity. He’s going to be 30 mins late, which, due to your travel situation, would shave 30 mins off your scheduled session. Unfortunately, you didn’t leave a lot of room for error. In my 61 years it has been my experience that if you don’t leave room for error, that is a set up for disappointment. I’d say enjoy the shortened session, get what’s yours, wish him a happy new year, then head home. Yeah, the room cost extra so chalk it up to an expensive lesson learned. Trite but true - no good deed goes unpunished. I’ve had a similar situation - more than once. (I am a slow learner.) Shake it off and move on. And if I have misunderstood the scenario, please correct me. Good night.