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No, it doesn't. It was my first time using Zelle and I was also annoyed at that.
In Venmo I only use my initials, and all transactions are set to private. 

I've been thinking about it. I would like see myself slurping on a nice big tool or munching on peaches or ploughing buns. There are some beautiful guys I've had experiences with I would just like to relive again sometimes.

The casual xenophobia of people in the US will never cease to amaze me. 

Sure, being new to the area and having no reviews is an issue. But the comments about gang membership, jeez. 

My worst experience was being greeted upon arrival with some rant about how people don't do cash anymore (before meeting I have asked whether Zelle or Venmo could work, to which he said yes), followed by him demanding Zelle payment before anything happened.
I wished I had run away. His whole demeanor in those initial 3 minutes were enough red flags to foreshadow the waste of money this was going to be.
I should have left... but didn't. 
I regret it to this day. My worst experience to date. 

My worst experience was being greeted upon arrival with some rant about how people don't do cash anymore (before meeting I have asked whether Zelle or Venmo could work, to which he said yes), followed by him demanding Zelle payment before anything happened.
I wished I had run away. His whole demeanor in those initial 3 minutes were enough red flags to foreshadow the waste of money this was going to be.
I should have left... but didn't. 
I regret it to this day. My worst experience to date. 

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My worst experience was being greeted upon arrival with some rant about how people don't do cash anymore (before meeting I have asked whether Zelle or Venmo could work, to which he said yes), followed by him demanding Zelle payment before anything happened.
I wished I had run away. His whole demeanor in those initial 3 minutes were enough red flags to foreshadow the waste of money this was going to be.
I should have left... but didn't. 
I regret it to this day. My worst experience to date. 

I hired him I San Diego recently (May 2023), a bit expencier than I usually do, but it seems rates have steadily increased recently but that's besides the point. 
It was worth it ever penny I'll definitely will be doing it again next time he is in SD. 

I vote for @Jarrod_Uncut to find a new occupation that might please him a bit.

Dude, the only person who is doing the “gaslighting”, is you. And you’re gaslighting yourself. 
You’re so deluded in your conundrums of “battles”, that you can’t even see your role in being a CONTRIBUTOR in ever single circumstance you’ve mentioned being a “problem” with a client. 
But I will give you your due credit, Barnum & Bailey has nothing on you…. You know how to entertain in these forums and put on the “Greatest Show on Earth!!!” 
 

 
 

If what we are saying is “false”, why are you so triggered by it? 
Only a hit dog hollers….
And you Sir, are howling and hollering. . 
The shoe fits perfectly, you might as well wear it…. 

YOUR reality.
Look up Cognitive Dissonance.
 

I quickly glanced at all what you wrote, in a 5 second time frame. Because that’s all you’re getting from me at this point.
It’s nothing about owning the site or thread, it’s simply me informing you that you have the option to not post or read here if you don’t like it. This thread was not designed to address you, and if you’re not even the type of client I’m referring to: it shouldn’t even apply to you at all. So I don’t understand where your animosity is coming from. You’re inserting your opinion and annoyance where it’s not required.
 
I appreciate wholeheartedly the advice you have given, however if you season it with criticism and abrasive tone: I don’t have to receive it. That’s my choice, just like it’s your choice to leave this particular thread. You can stay on the forum all you want. But what you’re not going to do, is keep coming for me after I told you, I’m not going to agree if you can’t talk to me respectfully ☝️ 
 
If you want to stay here and continue arguing, we can do that too. But, that’s contradictory to the message you’re trying to give to me. And I really don’t have time to do all that. I had the thread hidden for a day, to cool things down. Now you just bringing the heat back. At this point, I’m just not going to respond to you anymore. I’ve said what I had to say: 

Ummmm…..Sir…..
This isn’t your private website, nor do you have any proprietary rights to this forum.  
Therefore, you do not have any leverage to tell me to exit a thread or dictate to anyone  how to comment. 
 
The only thing you own is that sophomoric soapbox you continue to carry around with your redundant rants and complaints on how “bad”, and “wrong” everyone else is. 
 
And guess what? I don’t even care. You can fuss, complain, argue, and type long posts until steam shoots out of your ears. 
 
More power to you. This changes nothing. You proved me right in your posts. Another former escort tried to give you sound well-intended advice (with no sarcasm or ill intent) and you shat on that. 
 
The truth about you is that you live in a microcosm of cognitive dissonance and no solution will ever suit you because you don’t want one. Your pathology is centered on fighting, arguing, drama and problems. You are a repellant of peace. You’ll find issues in every single thing you do.  You are the nucleus of your own misery. 

Because he’s worn out his welcome with complaining. His trajectory of whining, complaining, defensiveness and irate behavior spans YEARS. 
 
if you read the threads over this extended period of time, you’ll see people go from having empathy towards him to full out exasperation. 
 
I’m one of those people. I used to attempt at seeing things through his lens, and trying to give him some type of deference, but no more. He doesn’t deserve it. The moment anyone tries to suggest a solution to his problems in a way that holds him accountable, he throws tantrums. 
 
So to hell with it. Let him do him and just enjoy the messy entertainment. 

Update: decided to request a change to this thread because I didn’t want it to just be passed off as another rant/complaint.
When I think about it, it is an actual epidemic within the industry. There shouldn’t be this expectation that, a provider’s time is less important to that of a client: and trying to speak and think for a provider should not be considered acceptable. 
 
Hopefully we can all leave off on a positive note, with a better understanding of the message 📝 

No more callers please…..we have a WINNER!

I agree with many of the others. It's time for him to find a new profession.
The OP is in his mid-to-late thirties (assuming his stated age is accurate, which often it is not). That's considered old in escort years.  Yeah, I know there are those that prefer "mature" and "seasoned". But that is the exception rather than the rule.
The OP's complaining and whining sends off negative vibes. Those who hire want an uplifting, positive experience for their investment. 
He's not making any friends or new clients here with his bitterness, anger, and constant kvetching.
He needs to find something he enjoys doing..  or at least doesn't seem to hate as much as his current chosen occupation.
BoZo
 

I have no animosity towards you. The only feeling I have towards you is sincere pity. 
And I’m saddened by it. 
Watching you waste precious time fighting with potential clients, members of this forum, (and now me), is troubling. 
I agree with you wholeheartedly…. You have every right to express yourself however you choose. But if you have the same issues over and over and there is never a resolution, yet your approach to them doesn’t change.. What good comes out of that? Absolutely nothing. 
 
 

 
 

Ohhhh… I smell a trigger….
And the reason for this trigger is because deep down in your soul, you know the common demoninator . It’s you. 
 
Not trying to offend you at all,
but you need to hear this. 
This is why other guys in the comments give you snarky remarks. It’s because they know it’s you. And this is why you keep going in circles, being presented with the same drama over and over.. month after month, year after year. The universe is trying to tell you it’s you. 
 
Until you rework your energy, your attitude, your baggage, your past trauma, and jaded parts of your past, you’ll never have peace. 
 
The only person who refuses to see this is you. Helen Keller, Stevie Winder and Ray Charles can all see this. 
 
I’ve defended you when others tire of your consistent ranting and whining, and I’ve even given you grace when others flat out insult you.
But you sir, need a reality check. A hard one. And until you do some introspective work, you’ll be forever angry, forever frustrated, and  perpetually bitter.
I sincerely wish you well. 

That won’t help. 
No matter what one does, or where they go, they will always take themselves with them. 
 
Jerrod needs therapy. 
 
I’m not being sarcastic or facetious when suggesting this either. 
 
Otherwise, no matter what profession he explores, he will always have complaints and issues. 
 

I wasn't being "mean and nasty".
Jarrod has done nothing but complain about his career in escorting for years.
It's a reasonable suggestion that he finally retire and leave all these terrible experience behind him.
No one should suffer daily from his job.
It's unhealthy.

I don't understand the original question.  What was the question?

Some members write you off as a chronic complainer but I do genuinely want to see you to grow and succeed. We sympathize with you, especially other providers. I would love to see a positive post from you one day celebrating how much work you’ve got over the past 12 months explaining how making some key changes, and maybe even a move, has helped you succeed. 
A lot of clients are inconsiderate jerks and wishy washy, but that’s how the industry works. It can be better in some places compared to others, but we will always have flakes and time wasting behavior to deal with. People will lowball us, question our rates and policies. It’s human nature, and there’s no changing it. Add to that the racism component and it’s even worse. You have more years of experience than I, so you know these things even better than I do. That’s what puzzles me about the repeated posts about clients…being clients.
What we can do to cope and improve is focus on the things we can control. We don’t have to explain or justify our policies. We don’t have to get mad at the client for disagreeing with our boundaries. We don’t have to convince the client we are right or fair. We don’t have to change the client’s mind about anything. They either conform to our policies and rates for the services they want, or they don’t. When they don’t, move on.
I agree with the other comments; it’s best not to engage clients demonstrating a lack of respect for you and your work and how you choose to do business. Establish your boundaries and policies and stick to them, even if it means losing some work. That’s time saved not dealing with bad clients. When there are not enough good clients in your market, move to another one. If you can’t do that, maybe pick up some other work temporarily to help you save up for a move.
We have different views on deposits, but you have your reasons. Whatever your policies, the key is to not make exceptions to them. When you do (infrequently, for some compelling reason), make it clear to the client what it is and why you are making the exception so they don’t have the impression they can expect the same thing every time.
You might consider keeping your rates the same regardless of frequency so people don’t have any illusions about being entitled to a “regular client” rate when they only book you months or years apart. Or establish a hard line policy like they have to book you at least once per week/month/quarter or whatever so they know why they aren’t entitled.
A hot tip about that client 50 mins away: People need firm time commitments otherwise they sit and stew in impatience and uncertainty. Every minute that goes by, the more they think that you aren’t coming, or will come way later than they want or expect you to. The uncertainty is what kills them. When you commit to a time you know you can make “I will arrive by 5pm and text you when I park”. That gives the client the freedom to relax and anticipate your arrival and do other things in the meantime other than worry and second guess.