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On 11/15/2022 at 10:35 PM, Emir said:

Testimonial: 

 

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CiZ5VhkAPdP/

Facial recognition scanners don't work with 2D photos.

It's called the oldest profession for a reason.  If they haven't managed to legislate it away yet, seems like it is time to throw in the towel.  Looks like people are going to continue to pay for sex for the foreseeable future.

The other thing that irritates me about this is that there is such a fine line.  If I hooked up with someone at a bar, had sex, and then gave my new lover some kind of a gift that's completely OK, but if it is prearranged there is a problem.  Sex is often involved in an equity trade anyway.  A girl looks for a successful guy to have babies with, but being a gold digger is legal?  The whole thing is crazy.

On 11/8/2022 at 4:10 PM, Jamie21 said:

Never pay full charge in advance of the service if you don’t know the guy. I think you did the right thing. 

Every time I have paid up front, I have regretted it.

$400/hour for a massage?

RiuMelo - Male Escort - Orlando, FL | Rent.Men

Very friendly, but his pictures are at least 5-10 years old.  I'd put him in his mid to late 30's and he is even skinnier than the photos.  Really kind, so I didn't leave a review on RM, but I'd avoid all the same.

1 hour ago, arnie said:

Who is responsible for keeping tack of the time of a session?   I recently hired a guy.  When I booked and gave him a 30 minute time of my arrival, he said no problem as long as we were set on the duration, so I figured he would watch the time closely, OK.   I have hired many and some do keep more closely to the agreed to time than others, more in the time before and after the action starts, like 5-10 minutes of chat while getting ready,  dressing after etc.   I don't know about others but I have always felt that the escort was more in charge of the pacing of the session, particularly the 60 to 90 minute sessions that I book where the action will generally follow the usual sequence.    I saw him adjust his cell phone and place it bedside.  When it went off, at what I thought was probably but I was not sure,  the end of the 90 minutes, he turned it off and continued to aggressively play.   I did shortly end the play mainly because my time schedule did not allow for longer, but I got the feeling that he would have played even longer.  When somehow time came up , he said it was when the phone went off.  For me this is a luxury that I can barely afford and did not plan on and could not tip him.    

Now I have booked him again and while I do plan on giving him a few extra bucks if we go over    But what do you do when the escort obviously and knowingly is just giving you extra time without mentioning it?  It is not like he said our time had ended,  what do you want to do?   Am I really supposed to pay him the rate for the unasked for extra time, not that I do not appreciate it.  It's not hours, but maybe 15 or 20 minutes.  

I think the notion that you can accurately plan a session down to the minute is insane and it ruins the mood.  I find the best escorts and clients understand that there's a +/- 10-15 minutes that just comes with the territory.  If I have a great time and it's 50 minutes, why would I whine about that?  Some escorts will cuddle it out, which is nice and all, but at this point I've got what I came for.  However, if there's an abrupt ending at 60 minutes, that's not going to lead to repeat business.  If an escort runs over, I'll tip extra for their courtesy; however, a good escort would be more interested in the repeat business or positive experience than getting paid for every single minute.

I really enjoyed my time with https://rentmasseur.com/Bodywhisperer

Not yet, but he's on my radar.

10 hours ago, vasudev said:

Very helpful, thank you! Top, I'm guessing?

 

Any other takers of other gentlemen listed?

He was a great top.

My favorite masseur in SF is https://rentmasseur.com/Bodywhisperer

I ended up meeting https://app.rent.men/MaxValentino  while in Boston.  Not a kisser, but a great time otherwise.

On 8/27/2022 at 10:31 AM, purplekow said:

It seems to me that I have been seeing more and more very good looking men.  Just yesterday for example, the new security person at my job, my waiter at lunch and several shoppers at the supermarket. all caught my eye and increased by heart rate.  So is it just that as I age I appreciate men more or am I just a dirty old man.  Of course those two things are not mutually exclusive.  

Honestly, I'm waiting for the beard fad to die.  I miss the clean shaven faces.

8 hours ago, Trick said:

I’m upfront with what I’m into.  But some guys just don’t deliver on what they’ve promised to do during the meet.

My city is a wasteland so it’s not easy to find the passionate, interactive guys.

I agree and I have noticed the same.  Many seem in a hurry To get it over with.

There are still some that provide great service.

Orlando really is a wasteland most of the time.

On 7/13/2022 at 11:06 PM, FewBricksShy said:

My. I lead a boring life. No one ever messages me on Grindr. I feel sort of shorted! 

Why not message them?

On 9/30/2022 at 8:49 PM, ThroatCummer said:

But that last 10% are fucking amazing in bed. All you really have to do is not be a creep and show a genuine interest in getting to know someone. It really does work. 

 

 

How do you get these young guys out of the hey, how you doing, hbu, pics, looking?, into?, where? sequence.  Is it me, or is it really hard to get someone to say something else?

Also, do you bother with ad copy?  If so, what do you say in your title and copy?

Finally, do you bother with the blank or faceless profiles?

On 9/26/2022 at 6:27 PM, pubic_assistance said:

Ah...ok. Got it.

You should have said so !

You just have a bit of a learning curve ahead of you.  I just went through this recently, mentoring one of my old wrestling buddies from high school who left his wife of 25 years and finally admitted to himself he was gay.  He didn't know where to start, to meet cute young guys, because he's now a 50 year old beefy man.

So....I can say that if you're an older man who likes younger men, you aren't necessarily out of luck. There's someone for everyone, as they say.

We all know that most men are very visual, and so the Instagram hotties look for other Instagram hotties. But not every gay man is wired the same, and there is definitely a community of young pleasant looking guys who want more than a quick hook up / don't feel they can attract Instagram models  either & find "dad bods" sexy.

I had an older client many years ago (gay man) who used to flirt with the waiter when we'd be out at dinner. He was in his 60s ( me in my late 20s) and I always marveled at the number of times he's get the young handsome waiter's digits.  I asked him once how he gets up the nerve...his answer was iconic: "What's the worst that can happen ?...they just say no".  *classic*

He was so right.  NEVER assume you can't attract someone until you try.

 

 

Awesome advice! Thank you

8 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Why would hooking up with someone from Grindr be "awkward" ?

Do you ONLY have experience with transactional sexual encounters ?

Unless you're a monster...there's someone for everyone on Grindr.

 

 

I was 100% "straight" until about 4 years ago when I finally let myself admit I wasn't.  So my guy relationships have all been paid, not so on the female side.  I'm like a nervous schoolboy with some of these hot guys, so again... it is me.

8 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Who said their guard is UP ?

Not sure what your asking about .

 

Maybe it's a false assumption.  I assumed it would be more awkward than an escort.

I probably had a dozen or so reach out to me over the weekend.  I have only been reaching out if they indicate older or bear.

Most of the time, I've been pulling the plug, so there is far more potential than I would've guessed.

3 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Definitely it's you

I'm 51 and young guys flock to my Grindr profile.

There are TONS of young guys who have daddy issues who crave the attention of an older man.

The only advice I might give is that you will occasionally find guys looking for a sugar daddy. So be clear about the nature of the hook up. I find the more muscular beauty-boy types will engage in flattery, tell me I'm hot and then ask for cash after they have me setting up a meet. 

Otherwise there are tons of average Joe's and skinny twinks who like to be ripped apart sexually and cuddled afterward and told they were a "good boy" for being such a whore.😉

What's your approach at the meetup to help them let their guard down?

Awesome!  Looking forward to my first grindr meet then.

I appreciate the feedback.

I got bored and decided to give Grindr a go.  50 and “beefy”, I’m well past my prime and didn’t figure I would get any hits from fit younger guys <35, which is what I’ve hired in the past.

However, one such guy was advertising that he liked big old guys, so I reached out and we are theoretically meeting in a few days.

Is it my low self esteem, or is it a red flag for a young fit guy to be into older bears?  What are the warning signs that someone should look for on Grindr?

Traveling to Boston soon.  I like passionate kissers who top, and I'm considering the following:

https://app.rent.men/Brazilian_beefXL

https://app.rent.men/Jay_Boss

https://app.rent.men/latin_Boy

https://app.rent.men/MaxValentino

https://app.rent.men/Rickyyboy

Any recommendations?

I tried to meet him, but he required a 2-hour commitment at $300/hour, and he didn't host, and he wasn't clear about what he would and wouldn't do, and he was easily offended, so I moved on.  I really think he'll end up being a waste of time.

I developed feelings for a provider once, so I just cut him off.  Deep down, I know he is an actor, and I need to keep my head straight.