jtwalker

If I don't know the number, I don't answer. If they don't leave a message or text, I guess we didn't need to talk. If they keep it up, I block them.

Except your IP address. Even using a VPN doesn't really do that.

Not true, a good VPN will disguise your IP without issue. My IP is typically in Germany, but I travel all over the world virtually. Besides, they have your IP whether you login or not.

Following that thought, why do you think there are plenty of review sites where service providers are reviewed in the general business world ( i.e. lawyers, doctors, restaurants, lawn services, plumbers etc.) but not of businesses publishing reviews of their customers.

In the commercial sector, there would also be some legal challenges with reviewing customers. I know some businesses have even threatened lawsuits based on bad reviews they felt were inaccurate. It's just not a good model from a marketing perspective.

This would definitely encourage me to cut back on this hobby as I value my anonymity. I expect many are like me and this would hurt your business more than you might expect.

Is it ridiculous that I'm too paranoid to pay for a RM account? I'm worried authorities might use it as evidence in a right wing regime. I know it's crazy and a possibly totally bogus paranoia but as much as I desire to see those private photos and videos something just stops me.

If you use Bitcoin to pay, you can make up everything else.

I realize that different guys have differing opinions on this, but I'm curious what is more common.

Is it better to make contact well in advance, or when I'm getting ready to jump in the car?

Why is that?

Why do I find they lack credibility? My primary issue is the lack of reviews. The majority of the ads sound more amateur and the ones that don't have tend to also have a RM ad.

Why am I cautious? I don't like getting scammed or picking up diseases, lol.

Thanks everyone for the great advice.

I really only trust RentMen or RentMasseur. The other sites don't seem to have any real mechanism to verify the legitimacy of their "actors". I realize RM reviews are positive-biased, but you can still get some sense of legitimacy from the numbers. IE, someone with 50 positive reviews is probably not faking every one.

Get an iPad or other Tablet. Digital Paper

I don't really trust this site or mintboys. To me, these have the same credibility as Grindr, and I'm too cautious for that.

Oh how I wish being shy was something that I could just shut off, lol.

It's not hard for me to talk prior to the meet, but when we're in the same room I sometimes forget how to talk.

So far, communication has been very difficult for me. First off, I'm a bit shy so its a challenge to talk to sexy men anyway. I am also not sure when and what to say.

A couple of times, the one-word answer, how much and where conversations have actually worked out.

Many other times, the lack of clarity has lead to very boring encounters. I've found that many profiles are not accurate in terms of likes.

Saying too much ahead of time seems risky, but its frustrating playing escort-roulette. From what I understand, escorts are frequently inundated with pointless conversation from time-wasters, so I also understand the one word answers and reluctance to invest much into a conversation.

What is the protocol for effective communication?

Get a VPN like ExpressVPN, change your location to something like Germany and the reviews magically reappear.