KensingtonHomo

38 minutes ago, FewBricksShy said:

@KensingtonHomo, even such texts can be met with tepid, unprofessional, seemingly uninterested responses from providers from the get-go. If that happens, I figure this guy’s a waste of MY time. And most definitely my money. 

My feeling is that if I reach out in the manner that Liam outlined, a providers response is very indicative. If they answer my questions, and ask their own, we're on. If I get "sup", then it's not going anywhere. 

On 7/3/2022 at 11:06 PM, Romani said:

Try something along the lines of:

Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.

I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].

I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.

This is almost exactly what my initial texts to a provide are like. I'm a little less explicit and I'm also scanning to see if the provider is open to working with a couple, and has experience doing so. 

3 minutes ago, MscleLovr said:

Do you feel that might be because the pounding is painful? Or is it for some other reason such as wanting to pee?

No, it's not usually painful. I think it's just that the prostate has being stimulated and the nerves are all activated so there's probably more blood flowing to that area, which is highly pleasurable for me. Occasionally it will make me feel like i have pee, but not usually. 

It's hit or miss for me. Sometimes I am rock hard when getting fucked, and other times I lose my erection. But the erection isn't an indication of whether or not I'm enjoying it. Also, I am more likely to get hard and cum when I'm on top. My general sense (and I've heard this from sex therapists) that sometimes having your prostate pounded can make you lose your erection. 

Don't let the name dissuade you, Dominus is a total doll: https://rent.men/Dominus

I don't enjoy doggy style or facedown for more than a few minutes. I definitely prefer missionary, being on top or being on my side. I have a fairly large ass and thick thighs which can get in the way. I am very flexible - can almost do a full side split, which definitely helps. 

I think ideally fucking goes through multiple positions, so I think stretching really helps as does having a strong core. I have a belly, which annoys me mostly when I'm fucking, so I will usually start in doggy or on top, depending on how hung the guy is, once we get going I like to move into missionary or side, which does involve me and the guy taking turns holding my legs up and back. Really, being flexible here is really key because I don't have my hamstrings resisting me or the guy. 

I've used slings recently with a couple of guys and that was really great. They also sell travel sex slings, which you can get for yourself. I've used it with a guy and it was good. https://www.bol.com/nl/nl/p/misterb-leather-travel-sling/9200000052173549/

I would say that you don't want to be in it for too long (more than 15 minutes) because it made my legs wobbly after.

2 hours ago, FewBricksShy said:

@Enronnja, when I first started hiring, I was stupid. I trusted an escort before we met. Paid him a lot of money up front and wrote a review on RM before meeting. I’ve since learned, of course. But the point is that the scams are real. And they’re more common than many want to accept. That’s why I still come back to insisting that a minimal exchange of some substance happen between me and any escort. If he thinks it’s time wasting, he’s losing out on my money. Maybe he can get other money easier, but it’s not going to be mine. Just like escorts will hedge bets to not waste their time, I’m heading bets to not waste my money. I was burnt once and it’s not happening to me again. 

I think this is fair. It's a bit of a dance. The client wants to be sure they will have a good experience and the provider wants to minimize time wasters. I imagine it's very difficult to differentiate between genuine clients reaching out to get a feel for the provider, and those who will waste their time. I do think if escort work was legal in the US, it would be easier. 

14 hours ago, guru68 said:

And by the bag, not the packet, I imagine. 

Who knows, some rich guy might give him everything he wants.

I doubt it. I don't find him remotely appealing. He's average looking, zero charisma, seems like an entitled Gen Z XXX. 

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1 hour ago, jtwalker said:

o apparently he is MMV.

That sucks. What does MMV mean? 

It seems my experience is different than yours. When I read the reviews I look for similarities between the reviews to see if there's a pattern in what the clients are saying. That can be helpful. 

Can you say more about how the people you hired were a "waste of time?" 

7 hours ago, Kevin Slater said:

And boy, I hope he cums soon!

Kevin Slater

Ya got me gal! 

34 minutes ago, 7829V said:

Have you ever had an accident when you don’t douche?  

Once when I was like 19 or 20 and was with someone who was VERY hung. But I'm also very "in touch" with my GI system and what it feels like when I'm ready to go. I douche as a precaution or because I want to play on a different schedule than when my rectum will be clear. I should also be clear that I'm not getting fisted or using toys that larger than a decently hung penis. 

On 6/24/2022 at 11:34 AM, 7829V said:

I've bottomed less than 8 times in my life. And since I don't know how to prepare to bottom, I'm always worried about that. But I guess I've been lucky or it's my diet, but I've never had an accident. And I don't do anything special. Even after having dinner and fucking before and after dinner and the next morning...  I guess beginner's luck? But I'd like to learn how to douche, but reading @Jamie21 experience I dont' know if that's the best idea now... 😰

I've been bottoming for three decades and douching a lot of that time and that's never happened to me. But I imagine it's possible if you douche too high (above the rectum) or too soon to the act. 

13 hours ago, FewBricksShy said:

I don’t need your unacceptance negatively impacting my life. Your life. Your choices. My life. My choices. “We” are past the point of compelling behavior. “We” need to learn to live with COVID because “we” all know the risks. “We” don’t need people continuing to bombard us for the umpteenth time about the facts. “We” are informed now and possess the means to protect ourselves from death-dealing sickness. “We” therefore have at our disposal the tools to make individual choices that are right for us.

There are no "individual" responses to a communicable pandemic. That's the kind of thinking that prevents society-wide response. And YOU are contributing to 300+ deaths per day because you're happy to accept it. 

1 minute ago, FewBricksShy said:

@KensingtonHomo– No sense litigating all that now. And God forbid we make the flu association, but the flu shot doesn’t prevent the flu either. And it’s updated every year. As we learn more, we’ll get better at dealing with COVID. But we can’t simply live masked, socially distant lives for decades. I speak as one whose mother died from COVID.

My mother died from a different infectious disease, and lots more can be done to mitigate COVID and other infections. We simply do a terrible job of infection prevention, control and public health because we don't spend any money on it. You can choose to accept it, but I do not. 

54 minutes ago, Vegas_nw1982 said:

😂Good one!

You can be glib about COVID-19 as much as you want. 350 Americans are still dying every day from it. It's disrupting supply chains, air travel, schools, etc. And the vaccines minimize but do not prevent transmission. So enjoy a country that never recovers from a pandemic that could have been prevented or eliminated with different leaders and choices. 

4 hours ago, sniper said:

That last two sentences there have no logical connection whatsoever. The fatality rate of COVID for people who are vaccinated is far less than 1%.

That's simply not true. 

Nick Halden  gives a nice massage and is an absolute delight sexually 

38 minutes ago, Chancealot said:

You can’t help yourself can you.  I agree that sending someone home w/o some comp if something was not discussed prior is awful.  But you’ve spent this entire thread branching out from this individual poster bad move - hiring then sending one away without consideration is not a reasonable thing - into something much bigger and have denigrated others who don’t see things as dramatic as you 

So reread your posts perhaps before you play the victim or attempt to victimize 

 

This is just another example of masculine fragility. You can't handle someone pointing out that your "preferences" are socially constructed and feed into larger cultural prohibitions against femininity in men. So you've spent this thread lashing out of me for pointing out the facts. 

The reality is that the OP could have left that provider alone, or failing that, not posted about it here in a desire to have his shitty, anti-femme, heterosexist behavior propped up other cis men. All along providers and femmes have been dehumanized and treated like chattel because some people believe they have a right to demand physical changes because their sexual palate is in inch wide. 

35 minutes ago, maninsoma said:

The rest of it is just intellectual nonsense.  Unless we're going to start arguing that all sexual preferences are wrong, that we should all find every person potentially sexy, then just accept that people have their likes and dislikes and that sometimes those are congruent with dominant culture messaging but other times they are not. 

I have to disagree that it's "just intellectual nonsense." I never claimed everyone should be attracted to everyone else. I take exception when a gay man (or men) shame or belittle each other based on gender presentation. If the OP isn't interested in men with nail polish he can just move on from a provider he sees wearing it. Making a post about it, saying he'd send someone away without compensation, all based on a perceived gender transgression is shitty to the provider and it also reinforces heteronormative binary gender in a way that harms other queer people. 

20 minutes ago, Chancealot said:

You keep attempting to put people down and instead you’re the one looking like an incessant boor 

I’m not “trying to put people down.” I’m pointing out that some of you feel entitled in ways that are inappropriate and dehumanizing to providers. 

54 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

A person's sexual preferences are built of many components. Patriarchial society would be a factor if you've grown up in a patriarchial society. Same way your sexual preference might be different were you raised in a matriarchal society.  So what ? It's still ALL going to give you personal preferences one way or another.

 

We've all grown up in a patriarchal, heterosexist society. There are no matriarchal society outside of a few hunter gatherer societies. It's not a "personal preference" then, it's something you've been propagandized to believe. 

4 hours ago, maninsoma said:

I don't understand the notion of "fragility" on either person's part here.  The client is a client, spending money for an experience of his choosing.  The provider is marketing a service.  Surely both parties can simply accept that not all clients are going to be compatible with all escorts.  There's no reason to get upset that someone isn't interested unless the person is a jerk about it.

The OP started off by saying if he set a date and the provider shows up with nail polish he's sending the guy on his way without a cent. The fragility is that if Chris Evans (or the hot guy of your choice) shows up looking every bit as sexy and hot as you'd imagined. Then you notice he has on nail polish, and that's the deal breaker?

Why? Considering you're going to be horizontal shortly, kissing, blowing, fucking, whatever, how much would you even notice the nail polish? I hooked up with a guy in P Town last summer and it was only after the deed was done, and we were dressing that he noticed my fingers and toes were painted with bright red polish. Which he complimented me on. 

So the only reason to be SO opposed to nail polish is due to a rigid understanding of gender. @pubic_assistance equates a guy wearing nail polish with being gender queer or non-binary. For some that may be true, but for others it's just something they enjoy. But what most of those opposed seem to be reacting to is that nail polish = femininity. And rejecting feminine guys is just reactionary misogynistic bullshit. No, it's not your "personal preference", it's a bias you've been socialized to have because of patriarchy and heterosexism. 

15 minutes ago, nycman said:

What’s old…is new again!

You know, I'm not that young. I'm a Gen Xer and parts of this conversation feel like they're taking place in the 1980s. 

6 minutes ago, Chancealot said:

Totally NOT into nail polish on guys as it relates to sexual attraction 

I was chatting with a guy on RM who on one of his pics and had it and I asked him if he had currently cuz I’m not into it.  He said yes and I asked him to remove and he started selling me on how it’s flesh tone etc - I politely said I hear you but it’s not what I prefer.  He got upset which immediately made my antenna go up.  I was tired of apologizing for my preferences and essentially said ya let’s move on 

The fragile masculinity on display in this thread is too much. If the provider isn’t to your taste, hire someone else. Why are you asking people to change themselves?
 

Getting a manicure and pedicure costs about $100 at a decent, not high-end,  salon. Are you going to give him the extra money to have it redone?