KensingtonHomo

Sir, that's lighting.

I don't have time to review your posts and provide a detailed assessment but it's 1,000% true.

But your comments are often unnecessarily unkind, shaming of providers bodies and so on. People can share their experiences and ask questions without calling the provider fat, ugly, or old. I don't find most of the guys you fawn over attractive so I keep it to myself.

The comments create an atmosphere of nasty bitterness. It's not just providers who have tattoos or nose rings or are feminine, fat or thin. Clients also present a wide range and are, very likely, less conventionally attractive than providers. What offends my sensibilities is that it assumes all clients are shallow, abs-obsessed, judgmental A-holes. We saw a provider over the weekend. On paper, he's "too short" for me. He also lacks abs but is otherwise attractive and quite fit. We initially saw him with another provider who had recommended him. The other provider (B) is more conventionally attractive than the one we fired this weekend (A). But, we ended up hiring provider (A) solo this weekend because it fits Dan Savages three Gs of a good sex partner: Good, Giving, and Game. Meanwhile, Provider B was decent in terms of sexual technique but not particularly giving or game.

And we all know who they are. My question is, why do the moderators tolerate this behavior?

There are probably two things happening here. First, RentMasseur used to have an "Erotic" option in addition to "Sensual." That made it easier to distinguish. Second, maybe some providers are worried about being seen as escorts - not by clients - but by law enforcement.

Eh... Saying someone's vehement denial of a false accusation without any evidence is gaslighting. I've been sober or 27 years and do not hire people with PNP in their profile but I also realize it doesn't necessarily mean "I'm a crystal meth" addict. Like many things on the Internet, people are overreacting and making leaps based on little evidence.

Did he look 17?

Honestly, he might as well be a mannequin. No distinguishing characteristics.

The distinction is that most providers say they're tops or total tops (or vers, bottoms, etc.) in their profiles. I have seen maybe two or three profiles where the guy is explicit that he doesn't want overweight or older clients. People are objecting to what feels like a bait-and-switch. A "provider" who seems to take all comers and then says, "Send me a photo," so he can accept or reject based on attractiveness. I'm in a top/bottom couple. When we're perusing, we're generally looking for top-vers or vers guys. If someone lists themselves as a "total top" (usually meaning they don't give oral, may or may not rim, may not kiss, etc.), we don't even bother. Now, if a provider listed themselves as a "vers top" and then as we're chatting or worse once we meet up, they say "I don't kiss, rim or give head," I'd be furious.

I'm dating myself but getting past Kenny Kenny at Limelight was always a trip. My fellow gays (late teens, early 20s) and I were always picked immediately. But occasionally we'd have a girlfriend who wasn't completely stunning and they'd turn her away.

I have to go with @DznNYC and @Jamie21 here. Providers who are asking for face pics are not actual sex workers; they're guys who think they're hot enough to get paid for sex that they would likely have done for free. I don't recall ever being asked for a face pic as a condition of meeting. If someone is asking that, let's take the advice of our professional advisors here and move on. A provider asking to FaceTime sounds more like he's checking that you're real and not a serial killer. I'd do that no problem. Thankfully, I am not attracted to my brothers-in-law.

Whatever your comfort level is - is fine. I feel like if you're an out gay person, either single or have an understanding with your partner, and don't have a job where some random person claiming your hired them for sex would get you fired - using your own phone is fine. I do use the Burner app because I don't want my phone number getting out there. But once someone is a regular, I'll use my actual phone number.

Given his inability to perform when with a man and that most of his sex scenes on X are with women, it sounds to me like this provider is heterosexual. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Please make this a T-shirt.

This is just silly. You don't pay a deposit, but then the provider takes your watch. Life is not without risk.

As someone who has lived my entire life in a city often considered the most "crime-ridden," people selectively pick muggings or assaults without context (e.g., 3 people were mugged in a city of 8.5 million people last year) to smear our city. Meanwhile, per capita, NYC is safer than nearly any city in the South. We've been hiring for around seven years. Have made probably 60-70 deposits and only two were "stolen" by which I mean we didn't meet. Both of the men who kept our money are clean-cut looking white guys who have good reviews on RM and here. So having a less than 1% chance of our deposit being stolen is extremely low risk.

It's funny because I used to have this dichotomy. But as I've gotten older, I care less about abs (which I never cared about) than I do about fucking someone who I enjoy spending time with and is really good at sex. In general, those attributes will tend to be present in men 35 and up.

Yes, conventional attractiveness exists but perfection did not. It's a superlative. If someone tells me they've met the "perfect" guy, I take that as perfect for them. I joke that my husband is perfect (especially relative to me) but no one takes me to mean a) that he's actually perfect or b) that they would also find him perfect.

As a bottom, when things are getting started or going slow you can feel the difference between skin and a condom. The skin feels more tactile, different men have different textures, you can sense the head and so on. But if you're just getting pounded out, it doesn't make much difference. I used condoms from 14 until nearly 30 when me and husband, then monogamous, ditched them. I take PreP so I'm fine to go bareback but also fine if a guy wants to use condoms. In my experience, outside of the US a lot of providers use condoms.

The kids are wild these days. Between PreP and Doxy-Prep, they have no fears of infection. But the joke will be on them eventually because a lot of STIs are becoming treatment-resistant. Oh, and we're not developing new antibiotics.

My husband and I are quite selective, actually. I mean, we'd never fuck you because we require the men we sleep with to be kind. The issue with some clients on here is that they have a very narrow, white, Eurocentric perception of beauty that has been further narrowed by everything from steroids to HGH to plastic surgery. And the Internet doesn't help because it dehumanizes people. So you not only have extremely narrow tastes, but you find anything that varies from them to be actually disturbing. I doubt any of you would tell this guy he's a "plump-a-saurus" to his face. Because, feminine voice aside, he might smack the shit out of you. You certainly wouldn't speak to me IRL the way you do here. Not more than once anyway.

This is an average body, with perhaps slightly more muscle than that of the average man. Not pudgy. You're used to looking at men who are literally starving themselves to have abs.

Girl, it's a stereotype for a reason. And if you behave IRL the way you do here, I doubt you know hundreds of any kind of person.

I didn't yuck anyone's yum. My opinion is that he's "meh," which is actually the same as my view on the other guy. But notice I expressed that without picking apart this provider's physical appearance or telling BTC he has weird taste.