savantsav

I’m gonna bump this because since this happened he reached out and apologized. We’ve met 3 times since and can say he’s fantastic. His directness can be considered rude but after meeting him I realized is really more about the language barrier. 
 
He read the menu and his delivery is top notch 

I didn't say I was immune. I'm saying it makes it better to deal with things like jealousy and compartmentalization.

So you could explain your side? That's what we're doing in this forum? We met here. We started chatting here. Did you expect people here wouldn't share the good and the bad? You stood me up, didn't even bother messaging me during the whole day/evening telling me you were sick, a booking we had been talking for months, that we had confirmed, that I had even offered an overnight after. I set up the time, I got the money, I prepared myself and you stood me up in incredibly unprofessional behavior, and I'M the one who fucked up? nahhhh.
Others here should know that even with a confirmed appointment you might blow them off without even telling them. That's what this forum is about, sharing these experiences. If you have an issue with unprofessional behavior being called out... then be a professional?

I had exited this conversation but since you tagged me, Thank you for acknowledging it. Of course it hurt me, I had to prepare physically, biologically, emotionally, financially, etc for us to have a good time and being ghosted is very hurtful. It was uncalled for and very unprofessional. 
 
Yes, I accepted his apology but doesn’t make what happen any less real. I share here these experiences because I am looking out for all of us. We here keep eyes out for the druggies, the scammers, the violent ones and the irresponsible/unprofessional ones. I don’t want any of you to feel the same way. 
 
As for grace, that’s what I was doing this morning when I went to check when he was gonna leave town but he had blocked me 🤷‍♂️ He has my number if he wants to turn the page and restart things, I have changed reviews/opinions before but first impressions are everything in what we do. 

I am actually quite sick and did not have the physical or mental capacity to attend to a lot of things in my life, including confirming plans.
 
once I was able to attend to messages, I realized that in delaying my travel to LA so that I could be evaluated by a doctor and receive treatment, I also missed my first scheduled appointment.
 
once savantsav spoke to me, I profusely apologized, acknowledged that I could have done better, said I would take this as a learning opportunity, and also think of a way to correct a misdeed.
 
you can see the attached text messages. 
 
sometimes people make mistakes/accidents happen. I didn’t ask for forgiveness, I took full responsibility for the failure to communicate, I expressed shame, I did not make excuses but explained that because of a pressing health issue I was extremely preoccupied and unwell so that Savantsav could at least understand why this happened.
 
i respected Savantsav’s pain, acknowledged it, and wished him well.
 
Savantsav was justified in writing his post regarding a failure to communicate. What I did not appreciate was being publicly shamed on the thread and called out after you and I spoke privately by text… totally unnecessary and inflammatory. Consequently I blocked all communication to prevent any further adversarial interactions.

I'm poly so those feelings are different I guess? I can have affection for whomever is my current regular BFE provider but I know it's not love and 100% understand if there were no money involved they would have no reason to even talk to me. I'm hopeful they like me the same way you would like your coffee shop barista at least but I know unless they want coffee we won't be hanging out and chatting.

I saw him once and that's all I needed. On his ad this:
Means he drops G and NEEDS to do G (GHB) to perform. He was drugged and barely could form sentences. Couldn't perform. He's in my do not repeat list.

I'm polyamorous so it's different I guess. I don't experience jealousy, I experience what is called compersion, which is the feeling of joy/happiness you get when the people you care about are doing things that provide them joy and happiness even if they do not include you. My previous BFE provider and I met regularly, did overnights, traveled, etc and when we were not together we still chatted and what not and I knew of their travel schedule and I would tell him "Hope you get tons of good work in X!". IDK, it's not an issue for me jealousy that is. With other providers am more comfortable with and we've arranged a set rate already I always tell them that if we have a booking but someone else is offering more for that time, to let me know and we can move it to another time/day no problem, I want for them all the success in the world.
Maybe I'm just weird 🤷‍♂️

I'm polyamorous so it's different I guess. I don't experience jealousy, I experience what is called compersion, which is the feeling of joy/happiness you get when the people you care about are doing things that provide them joy and happiness even if they do not include you. My previous BFE provider and I met regularly, did overnights, traveled, etc and when we were not together we still chatted and what not and I knew of their travel schedule and I would tell him "Hope you get tons of good work in X!". IDK, it's not an issue for me jealousy that is. With other providers am more comfortable with and we've arranged a set rate already I always tell them that if we have a booking but someone else is offering more for that time, to let me know and we can move it to another time/day no problem, I want for them all the success in the world.
Maybe I'm just weird 🤷‍♂️

Yea I meant weird as in 'not the norm'. 

Which is gross. There's ways to say things that don't involve that kind of language. When I ask for a provider for their info and they say their rate is X and is a mismatch for me I reply with "Thank you so much for the info, I appreciate it, it is over the rate of Y I usually pay but I thank for your time and if anything changes on my side I'll reach out, have a great rest of your day". 7 out of 10 come back "I can do that rate", but if they don't I DO NOT contact them anymore unless I can or am willing to pay their rate. I never say that's too expensive, or tell them they're crazy for asking that much, or what have you, that's a big NO. 

I'm polyamorous so it's different I guess. I don't experience jealousy, I experience what is called compersion, which is the feeling of joy/happiness you get when the people you care about are doing things that provide them joy and happiness even if they do not include you. My previous BFE provider and I met regularly, did overnights, traveled, etc and when we were not together we still chatted and what not and I knew of their travel schedule and I would tell him "Hope you get tons of good work in X!". IDK, it's not an issue for me jealousy that is. With other providers am more comfortable with and we've arranged a set rate already I always tell them that if we have a booking but someone else is offering more for that time, to let me know and we can move it to another time/day no problem, I want for them all the success in the world.
Maybe I'm just weird 🤷‍♂️

I'm Venezuelan.
These guys scammed you. Completely. After you graciously bought for them tons of baby food and formula... they turned around and sold them. Then when they saw you again they told you that SOB story to see if you could buy them some more because you're an easy mark.

Which is gross. There's ways to say things that don't involve that kind of language. When I ask for a provider for their info and they say their rate is X and is a mismatch for me I reply with "Thank you so much for the info, I appreciate it, it is over the rate of Y I usually pay but I thank for your time and if anything changes on my side I'll reach out, have a great rest of your day". 7 out of 10 come back "I can do that rate", but if they don't I DO NOT contact them anymore unless I can or am willing to pay their rate. I never say that's too expensive, or tell them they're crazy for asking that much, or what have you, that's a big NO. 

Which is gross. There's ways to say things that don't involve that kind of language. When I ask for a provider for their info and they say their rate is X and is a mismatch for me I reply with "Thank you so much for the info, I appreciate it, it is over the rate of Y I usually pay but I thank for your time and if anything changes on my side I'll reach out, have a great rest of your day". 7 out of 10 come back "I can do that rate", but if they don't I DO NOT contact them anymore unless I can or am willing to pay their rate. I never say that's too expensive, or tell them they're crazy for asking that much, or what have you, that's a big NO. 

I'm Venezuelan.
These guys scammed you. Completely. After you graciously bought for them tons of baby food and formula... they turned around and sold them. Then when they saw you again they told you that SOB story to see if you could buy them some more because you're an easy mark.

I'm Venezuelan.
These guys scammed you. Completely. After you graciously bought for them tons of baby food and formula... they turned around and sold them. Then when they saw you again they told you that SOB story to see if you could buy them some more because you're an easy mark.

Which is gross. There's ways to say things that don't involve that kind of language. When I ask for a provider for their info and they say their rate is X and is a mismatch for me I reply with "Thank you so much for the info, I appreciate it, it is over the rate of Y I usually pay but I thank for your time and if anything changes on my side I'll reach out, have a great rest of your day". 7 out of 10 come back "I can do that rate", but if they don't I DO NOT contact them anymore unless I can or am willing to pay their rate. I never say that's too expensive, or tell them they're crazy for asking that much, or what have you, that's a big NO. 

Which is gross. There's ways to say things that don't involve that kind of language. When I ask for a provider for their info and they say their rate is X and is a mismatch for me I reply with "Thank you so much for the info, I appreciate it, it is over the rate of Y I usually pay but I thank for your time and if anything changes on my side I'll reach out, have a great rest of your day". 7 out of 10 come back "I can do that rate", but if they don't I DO NOT contact them anymore unless I can or am willing to pay their rate. I never say that's too expensive, or tell them they're crazy for asking that much, or what have you, that's a big NO. 

I always ask the provider their rate. If it is above my budget, I tell them that and thank them for replying. I am always prepared to move on. I don't try to negotiate, but often I find that the provider will ask my budget (which is always reasonable) and they reset to accommodate. Treating people with respect and being flexible goes a long way in my experience. 

Which is gross. There's ways to say things that don't involve that kind of language. When I ask for a provider for their info and they say their rate is X and is a mismatch for me I reply with "Thank you so much for the info, I appreciate it, it is over the rate of Y I usually pay but I thank for your time and if anything changes on my side I'll reach out, have a great rest of your day". 7 out of 10 come back "I can do that rate", but if they don't I DO NOT contact them anymore unless I can or am willing to pay their rate. I never say that's too expensive, or tell them they're crazy for asking that much, or what have you, that's a big NO. 

Which is gross. There's ways to say things that don't involve that kind of language. When I ask for a provider for their info and they say their rate is X and is a mismatch for me I reply with "Thank you so much for the info, I appreciate it, it is over the rate of Y I usually pay but I thank for your time and if anything changes on my side I'll reach out, have a great rest of your day". 7 out of 10 come back "I can do that rate", but if they don't I DO NOT contact them anymore unless I can or am willing to pay their rate. I never say that's too expensive, or tell them they're crazy for asking that much, or what have you, that's a big NO. 

Which is gross. There's ways to say things that don't involve that kind of language. When I ask for a provider for their info and they say their rate is X and is a mismatch for me I reply with "Thank you so much for the info, I appreciate it, it is over the rate of Y I usually pay but I thank for your time and if anything changes on my side I'll reach out, have a great rest of your day". 7 out of 10 come back "I can do that rate", but if they don't I DO NOT contact them anymore unless I can or am willing to pay their rate. I never say that's too expensive, or tell them they're crazy for asking that much, or what have you, that's a big NO. 

Which is gross. There's ways to say things that don't involve that kind of language. When I ask for a provider for their info and they say their rate is X and is a mismatch for me I reply with "Thank you so much for the info, I appreciate it, it is over the rate of Y I usually pay but I thank for your time and if anything changes on my side I'll reach out, have a great rest of your day". 7 out of 10 come back "I can do that rate", but if they don't I DO NOT contact them anymore unless I can or am willing to pay their rate. I never say that's too expensive, or tell them they're crazy for asking that much, or what have you, that's a big NO. 

He blocked me too and I never spoke to him. He was in LA and I was looking at profiles, then a few days later went on the profiles I had short listed including his and realized he had blocked me. 🤷‍♂️