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Also, I think a lot of those entertainers who do find success on the platform built their following on traditional social media platforms like Twitter, Instagram, push their content hard there then extrapolate that into building their success. So, yes, you need to have your head squared on likely trusted colleagues helping you in some way to really have a vision of what you are trying to achieve.

Hahaha, I know exactly the "bondage guy" you mean.
 

 
As an escort looking to get into OnlyFans, it is my perspective that the market is saturated, you are required to drive your own traffic to your content, and it requires a bewildering array of skills (up to and including filmography, lighting, video editing, marketing, business acumen, networking, and so on). As such, success is not guaranteed - not by a long shot. Those who are not business savvy will flounder. Those who are exceptionally poor at managing their business will see limited success followed by a hard crash.
 
Success in user-created porn content does not have a "solved equation" to business solvency. Everyone who attempts it is forging their own path and burning the bridge behind them as they go (so others can't replicate/steal their success and dilute their earnings).
 
Additionally, video content is never going to compare with the act itself. I can film a scene where I'm tied up and gagging on dildos or being fucked or whatever you want to imagine, but it's nothing near the same as you the client getting to engage with me personally to fulfill whatever your fantasy happens to be. And that's completely ignoring the not-so-fantastic. Regular vanilla interactions, human touch, etc. those are priceless in their own way.
 
I don't see RM or escorting going anywhere. It's survived since the birth of humanity, I think it'll last a wee bit longer.

Hahaha, I know exactly the "bondage guy" you mean.
 

 
As an escort looking to get into OnlyFans, it is my perspective that the market is saturated, you are required to drive your own traffic to your content, and it requires a bewildering array of skills (up to and including filmography, lighting, video editing, marketing, business acumen, networking, and so on). As such, success is not guaranteed - not by a long shot. Those who are not business savvy will flounder. Those who are exceptionally poor at managing their business will see limited success followed by a hard crash.
 
Success in user-created porn content does not have a "solved equation" to business solvency. Everyone who attempts it is forging their own path and burning the bridge behind them as they go (so others can't replicate/steal their success and dilute their earnings).
 
Additionally, video content is never going to compare with the act itself. I can film a scene where I'm tied up and gagging on dildos or being fucked or whatever you want to imagine, but it's nothing near the same as you the client getting to engage with me personally to fulfill whatever your fantasy happens to be. And that's completely ignoring the not-so-fantastic. Regular vanilla interactions, human touch, etc. those are priceless in their own way.
 
I don't see RM or escorting going anywhere. It's survived since the birth of humanity, I think it'll last a wee bit longer.

Not much beats a hot, muscled escort with a good attitude and loves what he does!!

That's the problem, even those who aren't going into the traditional porn industry are going exclusive to OnlyFans and Just for Fans. Take Morgxn Thicke for example, he has exclusively been on OF and JF. He's a sweet guy and even reached out to him about meeting and he said, if he's in the area he will.
 
But, when you look at who is doing videos with, they are desirable hot guys that I would also love to hire. So, again, this is just the beginning of a huge change ahead.
 
When I moved to the PNW in 2018, there were a lot of hot guys on RM. But going into 2019, something dramatically changed. I remembered when I showed interest in this guy, Ian, and reached out to him through Friendboy Pro; he seemed receptive at first.
 
Then he canceled at the last minute because he thought something was off. One day, I'm scrolling through Twitter and guess who I came across tied up bondage by some guy in Portland being promoted on their Only Fans page? The same guy.
 
Also, going back to the main point here, there are still a lot of guys, but no necessarily the quality and quantity some of us are looking for. New York, Miami, SF; sometimes its a waste of time going past the first 2 pages, usually the best float to the top. But its very small in comparison to just 2 to 3 years ago.

Good point but usually pornstars are the ones to get famous first and go to Onlyfans.com to own their porno. Some of them have given up on escorting because they make more money and have fun with better looking guys doing onlyfans.com.
 
Of course they might still be available for selectively escorting with those who are big spenders or in shape.

I consider myself pretty good at giving, and for me it's so much hotter going down on a dick while I'm on my knees under the guy and I can look up at him as he unloads on my face or chest or in my mouth. ?

This is an easy question for me to answer... I see guys walking down the street or in public places and often assess their attractiveness by asking myself, Would I blow him? I never ask myself, Would I like him to blow me?

That is some incredible choreography. Holy fuck!

Currently bulking. Can't get out of the grocery store for less than $100. Having to make a trip every 3-5 days. This is the gospel truth.
 
Edit: Healthy calories are expensive.

Currently bulking. Can't get out of the grocery store for less than $100. Having to make a trip every 3-5 days. This is the gospel truth.
 
Edit: Healthy calories are expensive.

Over the years I have had a handful of guys express such interest, and I've never taken any up on such an offer, though the ones I’ve had always felt to me like physical intimacy would not be part of the arrangement. One of them reasoned that ‘you’ll get to see me in my speedo all the time.’ Maybe they assumed that because I hired them for a couple hours at a time I must be lonely? (I’m horny not lonely) No thanks!
 
Honestly I just don’t get some of the posts I see about paying guys to party at your mansion, be a guest on a 5 diamond life changing vacation, or covering their room and board when nothing physical is explicitly expected. I guess we all have our own reasons for doing what we do.

Currently bulking. Can't get out of the grocery store for less than $100. Having to make a trip every 3-5 days. This is the gospel truth.
 
Edit: Healthy calories are expensive.

When I was younger and first bought my home, I had an adjustable mortgage, which actually worked out well for every year fur the first. After the first year, the mortgage went up $500 a month. The day I found this out, my rather handsome and built young landscaper told me he was looking for a place to stay. I offered him the room for $500 and he took it. He was the kind of young man who did walk around the house with only tight bikini underwear and that was a bonus. There was no intimacy and he was rather dull to have around the house. After one year, the mortgage went down considerably and since he did not go down, we decided mutually that our time together had come to an end. If we had come together, our time would not have ended.

There are many threads I see that are similar to prior threads. I realize that many forum members do not check in here often. For that reason, I am not bothered if a new thread repeats similar material previously covered.
 
It is simple to ignore such a thread and move on.

Because of the tattoos I guess.
 
C'mon 202 guys in SF and 570 in NYC... at least 10 must be handsome enough!

I have had similar house-guests in the past @The_Impeccable_G I had great experiences with various young Brazilian models coming to Europe for the first time. Also, I’ve had young Australian, American, Italian, Slovak and Polish house-guests.
 
As @FrankR noted above, it pays to be clear (but not crass) about your expectations. And of course, it’s costly - young men eat lots of good food - and I’d have to buy 2 tickets for trips, concerts etc but I enjoyed their company.
 
I have no problem in being clear and open, but I always resist labels. I was surprised at first at just how readily - without my asking - fit young men (often with girlfriends back home) would join me in bed to express their gratitude for my hospitality in London and Spain.
 
The only times I had problems is when I hadn’t thought to institute a “house-rule” on certain behaviors. I spelled out “no drugs in my house” but I was relaxed about most things. I had to institute a rule of “no female guests overnight” after I encountered one at breakfast. She was the friend of the hot young Brazilian I had staying with me, and after she’d left, I said to him that her presence overnight made me uncomfortable and that he should go to her place for sex in future. He was a thoroughly nice guy and apologized immediately for not asking me first...and that evening as I was reading a book, he came into my room in just his briefs to make sure I was happy with him.

The one time I did this it did not work out well. Mainly my fault as I did not outline clear expectations and I failed to communicate on an ongoing basis. ? Set up clear ground rules. Adjust or add to those ground rules as needed - he must be willing to work with you as long as you are being reasonable.
 
As an example, we agreed to split the chores around the house but we were not specific about what they were and who should take care of them and when. The kitchen floors should be mopped every other day or when you make a mess.
 
Then there were things that came to light as time progressed. It irritated me to walk into the kitchen in the morning to find dirty dishes on the counter - they should be in the dish washer!
 
Be very clear on how long he can stay and if you decide he has to go, what are the terms? Will you give him a week to find a new place?
 
Also make sure you understand the personal cost. Not just the expense of having him live with you, food can be expensive if he is bulking and utilities for two can also be more expensive - but also you will have far less privacy, he may want to have friends over when you need peace and quiet.
 
I don’t regret having the fella stay with me at all - I do regret not managing his stay better. There is a saying in the military: amateurs talk about strategy - professionals talk about logistics. I should have spent more time on logistics. ?

This has been my practice so far.
 
I've jumped on Chaturbate a handful of times, and I open up a handful of the top male models (and a few that are just genuinely hot), and I try and assess what they're doing, why they're doing it, how they're pricing things, why they're pricing certain things certain ways.
 
When I saw a straight guy have a tip menu that included "bicep flex" and "pec flex" I rolled my eyes and left. Nickel and dimeing your customers for every little interaction cannot possibly be a good business model to follow.
 
Randomly, I just bought a prostate toy vibrator-thing because I've been so curious about them for so long and I've been wanting to be a better bottom, and yada, yada, yada. Wellp, I bought it only to realize that I need the special pink one that reacts to tip noises. Bleeeeh. Lesson learned. Market research first, business purchases second (this one will fall under personal research ).

While traveling for work to Boston last November, I had a provider cancel on me at the last minute. To make it up he promised to send a couple videos to me, which he never did. Two days after I returned home he texted me at 5:50AM on a Saturday morning saying he was horny, needed to rub one out, and asked if I’d be interested in a cam show. I wanted to see this guy in action and thought he’d give me a good rate considering he cancelled and knew I was really disappointed. I asked how much and he replied $100. I asked how long of a session and he said probably 10 - 15 minutes. As foggy as I was being awakened at that hour, I was able to quickly calculate that if I extrapolated that out, he’d be getting more for an hour of cam time than he would for the two hour in-person session we had planned. I laughed and blocked his number.

Yeah, cam shows don't do anything for me either. The RM ones are a particular rip off, with each credit worth about a dime, and 60-80 credits giving you 1 minute.
 
I've never been into porn. It lacks the feelings, smells, etc. of a live encounter.

If @BluDay and @VictorPowers do not mind, I will supplement their thoughts:
 
1. Before you think of reaching out:
1.1. Only meet with companions that have been reviewed. Seriously - do your homework or at the very least plan to meet in a public place beforehand if you have doubts.
1.2 Do not waste a companion's time - only reach out if you are serious. Pic collectors and time wasters are rude and disrespectful. Don't do that.
 
2. When you are ready to reach out to a companion:
2.1. Use their preferred method of contact. If they prefer text, text them. Use a burner phone or the "burner" app on your mobile.
2.2. Tell them you saw their post on "RM" (I suggest initials - a lot have day jobs so it obscures a bit) "Hey, I found your profile on RM"
2.3. Say you would like to get together, be specific about city and location and ask when plans could be made. "Are you in San Fran and available this evening for an outcall?"
2.4. Know what you want, go for guys who like the same. If you want kissing, be sure kissing is in the profile. "I enjoy kissing, erotic body contact and generally a top guy"
2.5. When arranging, tell them anything special, such as "this would be my first time with an escort".
2.6. Be concise without being terse.
2.7. Follow the escorts lead if they go for longer conversation. As always, be careful what you say or agree to, remember, electronic communications can be retained and used against you. Never be explicit - the words "pay" and "sex" should never be used. "What is your rate for an hour of your time"
2.8. Agree to reasonable requests, say a phone call. Do not give money before. Skype if you are comfortable.
2.9. After making arrangements, confirm reasonably. The day before, the morning of, and an hour or so before is reasonable. I use "I look forward to visiting tomorrow/this evening/when I arrive in an hour".
2.10. If they confirm to you, reply as soon as you reasonably can.
2.11. Keep the appointment. This is important. Even if you don't go through with it, go meet him, and offer the full fee discreetly. He has invested time in this. He will understand if you get nervous.
2.12. Before the appointment, shower up, if you will bottom, douche. Leave off cologne.
2.13. If it's your first time, tell him you're nervous (if you are), ask him to take the lead.
2.14. Tell him what you're interested in (see 2.4).
 
3. When you meet with the companion:
3.1. Remember he's a person, be polite, and he's doing something very nice for you.
3.2. Honor his time. When it's over, it's over - be respectful. If you want to extend, ask if it is possible and don't be cheap; pay the rate commensurate with your meeting length.
3.3. Never be explicit about payment, consider not counting out bills or using electronic payment unless you have thought it through. Be discreet, when using cash, it is recommended that the rate agreed upon should be left in an envelope in plain sight so your companion can put thoughts of remuneration out of their mind and focus on you, you can always supplement with a tip later if you choose.
3.4. Tell him if you like or don't like something. Communicate with your companion; they will appreciate it and you will enjoy their companionship so much more.
3.5 Always send a discreet follow up text message thanking the companion after the meeting - it is polite and also builds goodwill if you want to see the companion again; like most folks they will move you to the top of the list if they enjoy spending time with you. See 3.1 above.

I didn't find a thread on a quick search, but I can give a few pointers:
 
1. Use their preferred method of contact. If they prefer text, text them.
2. Tell them you saw their post on "RM" (I suggest initials - a lot have day jobs so it obscures a bit)
3. Say you would like to get together, and ask when plans could be made.
4. Know what you want, go for guys who like the same. If you want kissing, be sure kissing is in the profile.
5. When arranging, tell them anything special, such as "this would be my first time with an escort".
6. Be concise without being terse.
7. Follow the escorts lead if they go for longer conversation.
8. Agree to reasonable requests, say a phone call. Do not give money before. Skype if you are comfortable.
9. After making arrangements, confirm reasonably. The day before, the morning of, and an hour or so before is reasonable. I use "I look forward to visiting tomorrow/this evening/when I arrive in an hour".
10. If they confirm to you, reply as soon as you reasonably can.
11. Keep the appointment. This is important. Even if you don't go through with it, go meet him, and offer the full fee. He has invested time in this. He will understand if you get nervous.
12. Before the appointment, shower up, if you will bottom, douche. Leave off cologne.
13. If it's your first time, tell him you're nervous (if you are), ask him to take the lead.
14. Tell him what you're interested in.
15. Tell him if you like or don't like something.
16. Remember he's a person, be polite, and he's doing something very nice for you.
17. Honor his time. When it's over, it's over.
 
I always suggest going to a reviewed escort.
 
Other suggestions?

https://m4m-forum.org/threads/any-tips-for-first-time-booking.158181/
https://m4m-forum.org/threads/seeking-all-of-your-wise-guidance-for-a-newbie.154579/
https://m4m-forum.org/threads/suggestions-advice-for-someone-whos-new-to-hiring-an-escort.145483/

This is why I’m glad I pulled the plug on cable 3 years ago at my main place. Endless shrieking and blaming and hyperbole, interspersed with ads for incontinence and ED aids. Even a snowstorm prediction is filled with alarming chyrons.