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If they happen to say that they are running late with another client, that’s an automatic cancel.

Any delay for any reason with someone I’ve never seen before is also an automatic cancel.

An escort I’ve already got a track record of on time performance- if they are running late I can normally forgive up to an hour 

3 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

Is that good or bad? 

You can know we're simply ask how much does he charge

 

IME a lot of higher priced guys don’t respond immediately with pricing. If I encounter this I move on. There are plenty of guys out there who are more responsive.

52 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

Most clients hire for 1 hour! 

 

If all of the reviews are for an hour, that’s usually a “tell” that the provider is pricier than average 

51 minutes ago, NYC Curious said:

 

I may not be everybody's cup of tea but I am still some folks' cup of tea. Guess I wasn't for that provider.

You are making an assumption that he ghosted you for reasons that have to do with you. It’s also possible that he ghosted you for his own personal situation- like maybe he’s sick, depressed, fueling an addiction, dealing with family issues etc. I would not take it personally. Shake it off and go elsewhere

Look at it this way- he was an asshole and he saved you the time and money to find that out first hand.

4 hours ago, Archangel said:

I feel like that could be said of any provider in any service profession. Admittedly, it’s nice when the service provider enjoys their work – but I don’t suppose it’s necessary. That’s the difference between a job and a vocation, in some respects.

Some providers who are just going thru the motions will often take extra time to get hard. This may be a problem if you are expecting them to top. It’s often a good “tell” that they’re engaged when they are completely hard almost immediately 

It would be a red flag for me if all of the reviews were for one hour….

I like to see a healthy mix of time durations. If there are multiple reviews from the same person I look to see if the dwell time is increasing with more recent reviews

Some escorts are just going through the motions and that’s ok if you as the client are enjoying the interaction.

Others seem to genuinely enjoy the experience and the chemistry really works. It’s usually pretty easy to distinguish the difference.

I think he’s expired past his Warhol 15 minutes of fame

I’ve noticed that in general, people who live alone have a whole lot more ajita about everything and bring that bandwidth with them when visiting others. Partnered people are more used to toning their excesses. The Celiac thing is her way of expressing her specialness. It’s not you…in the future keep the visits short. 

Why are you willingly subjecting yourself to family on an expensive retreat?  That’s not a vacation by any definition.

Sounds like it’s time for some new family rules .

If you have to do family dwell time, do it somewhere more pedestrian, like a city where you can more easily find ways to separate…like NYC or DC. 

You did a good deed. 
It will someday come back to you in delayed karma, but not from your provider.

Stop banging your head against a fake wall on this one. Give up trying to contact him and move on.  He defines “ingratitude “ and doesn’t deserve your further attention.

I might have responded…”No, just looking for a different kind of asshole.”

Ask him to bring condoms that he is comfortable with. Some people have strong brand and size preferences, especially if he has latex allergy issues

Sounds like you are a victim of sampling error. I’ve met plenty of gay guys who suck at kissing…and plenty of bi guys who were definitely up to code

DoxyPep use will inevitably result in more antibiotic resistant STI’s. It’s a longtime loser.

Im always surprised at how much pushback I get from people when I insist on condom use.

I think it pays to be more direct and convey some sense of urgency if you want an actionable response. 
 

Like “ Looking to get a 90 minute massage on Tuesday evening. Are you available and how much do you charge incall?”

It would be foregivable if his phone went dead but my guess is that’s not what happened. One cancellation without an excuse is a hard pass for me. Two back to back cancellations for any reason is also a hard pass

Here in Portland there are bike lanes and racks everywhere. I bike to restaurants and coffee shops to meet friends several times a week. It’s so much better than mass transit or lugging out the car. Bikes in a downtown city are really the fastest way to go.

I tip my massage guy 25%. Every time I see him he does a little more and adds a little extra time to the session. You get what you pay for.

I prefer either bi providers, or partnered gay providers. I find they have less “baggage” and tend to be less self absorbed.

I used to get massages from him when he would occasionally come to Boston back around 2016 or so. He was a super sweet guy with a great body and he gave a great massage. Somehow I’m not surprised that he got caught up in some weird shit. When I saw him he was into monetizing everything outside of just a basic massage. Still though, just a guy trying to earn money no matter what.

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You are never required to find a strangers family emergency. Huge sign to step away. Chalk it up to charity and forget about it 

12 hours ago, azdr0710 said:

I found a hilarious Ben & Jerry's one....is this it?

 

My bad- that’s the one

LPL has a fantastic channel. His Häagen-Dazs video was a classic.