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Okay, you know I’m going to have to go in on you..so, just put your seat 💺 belt on because I’m about to give it to you straight 😂  
First of all, idk what the conversation was like prior to what you started with. I don’t imagine that it went from getting dressed to “on your way” in such short notice, how much notice did you actually give him? And even if you did get dressed in 2 minutes, that’s not a time frame. Y’all should have set a time frame, and if it was less than 1 hours notice, it’s no wonder it didn’t work out. Clients and escorts need to discard this idea that we can meet at fast as an Uber can arrive: plan ahead and avoid miscommunication. It doesn’t have to be days ahead…just 2 to 4 hours can make a difference.
This is why I stress clearly I require at least 2 hours notice for all bookings. I don’t care if you’re at the hotel room next door to me…or should I say, UNLESS you’re at the hotel room next door to me lol. Even yesterday I had to tell a client: The earliest I can get to you is, two hours from now (would have been 9:30 p.m.). 
Reason why I ask two hours notice is because: it gives time for both people to figure out location and time of arrival. It also limits rushing and leaves time for unexpected time delays. The other day, a client of mine went to the wrong hotel which had a similar room number as mine. Since it was less than two hours notice, he forgot to get the actual name of the hotel 😂 
 
You seemed spur of moment, he seemed unexpected…It was just an unnecessary dumpster fire that could have been avoided.
 

I don’t think it’s just the young generation. I have seen older guys blow up my phones texting…asking ETA, here yet, etc etc. almost like they’re clutching their phones in anxiety. It doesn’t need to be that way.
When I’m doing non-business hookups, I don’t rush the guy. I just make sure everything is okay and chill if they coming to me. Worked just fine the other night. Sex is a privilege, not a right. Patience is key. It’s funny how people always want it fast when THEY want it, but when I want it: they want to drag it out and take days, weeks, YEARS to return a text. 
 
I often see a common issue where clients try to plan too much other stuff around booking a date, non of which involves the escort: but expects the escort to drop their whole life and rush to their beck. Ah, no. If they can plan this and that and everything else, they can plan time with us too. Not some last minute, spur of the moment, now or never type of interaction..

Gentlemen, take note.
This is how a man responds to someone who’s being a cun-t
Bravo, Little bro.

Oh I've had young providers say they're ready for an Uber. Then once it arrives they say they still need 10 minutes. 
The last time someone did thay, I told him if he didn't catch the Uber, the session was cancelled. He got in, then he gave me a shitty attitude because he had a massive ego.
I need more filters on who I hire.
 

I'll give the guy the benefit of the doubt in only one respect: maybe he's not familiar with the area and has no idea how long it takes to walk 7 blocks.  According to Google maps it takes 13 minutes, and I suppose you could have just told him that you'd be there in 15 minutes instead of expecting that he would be intelligent enough to figure out how long it would take you to get there.  That being said, you clearly told him you were walking and then he asked if you were taking a ride share, so he apparently isn't an attentive fellow.  I probably wouldn't have asked him if he was high, but I understand the impetus to cancel.

Younger generation is def over the top with constant texting and often no sense of time. It’s crazy.  If a client is coming to you, the masseur is not running around or inconvenienced.   Just chilling in his room.  I cannot tolerate a lack of common courtesy either. I so appreciate when a younger guy is professional and acts accordingly.  That’s why I prefer to go to respectful masseurs  I have seen previously, rather than  deal with such nonsense. 

Last night I made arrangements to see a provider I've met before just 7 blocks away. I'm at 16th and T NW and he was staying at 11th and U NW.
He asked: "How long will it take you to get here?"
"Whatever it takes me to get dressed and walk 7 blocks" I said to him. I got dressed in less than 2 minutes, walked out of my place and texted him: "I'm on my way at 11:02 PM.
I asked him at 11:04 PM: "What's your apartment number and the code for you to let me in?" 
He replied at 11:05 PM: "Are you here?" I said "NO" and he asked "Are you on Uber?', I once again told him I was walking 7 blocks to get to him. "What's your ETA?". 
I replied: "Are you high?". I had to cancelled, I can't handle this goldfish / microwave mindset they have when it comes to others. I might have overreacted but I had enough. 

he's 100% right! 
Pushiness for hookups (paid or free) is never a good sign! 

Communication is key and certainly many ways to get confused.    I agree,  the aim is to be on time and that may mean being early.   A prompt arrival always leaves a good impression on a client.       Conversely,   if the client is late,  I try and be patient and flexible.   

Yup, that's the reason I don't hire younger escorts anymore.
I recently cancelled an appointment with a Latino boy because he was going to be 90 minutes late.
Even worse, he got huffy with me when I told him I was cancelling, since it "wasn't his fault" he was late (of course, his phone "accidentally" ran out of power while he was lying on the beach). I don't need that, and I'm sure as hell not going to pay for that kind of sh!tty attitude.
After 10 minutes, I ask for an ETA. If it's going to be 30 minutes or longer, time to cancel.

Since uber mandatory question of "What's your ETA?'.... I usually walk downtown, and I'm 14 blocks away from the White House. Do escorts have to know a precise ETA? When I say 20 to 30 minutes, they get confused and sometimes annoyed? 
A few days ago, a provider kept me waiting 30 minutes because he was still dining at his room. I patiently waited. After that he jumped in the shower, which added a few more minutes. He was finally ready. I took the elevator of the Grand Hyatt on H street which is an atrium style hotel and after I got out I made the mistake of not reading the directions about where the rooms were, and turned left instead of right which made me walk around the atrium of the hotel to his room. My phone was silent... he kept on texting me "Why it was taking me so long?', it was a 2 minutes delay, that's all. Why are younger folks so pushy with others when it comes to time and so relaxed their own time and the way they treat others? 

Well, you’re entitled to your opinion but please be respectful. I am 30 and I’m a furry man and guys my page tend to not be hairy.  A lot of my clients say u look better than my pictures in person. 

As an uncut person with Latin background who isn’t a bottom but, depending on the situation…I say SUCK IT, you might like it 😂 

As an uncut person with Latin background who isn’t a bottom but, depending on the situation…I say SUCK IT, you might like it 😂 

Whether you like intact or circumcised, there is no need to call the other one gross or mutilated or less-than or ‘other’. It’s mean and unnecessary. It serves no purpose except to put others down. 
Same goes for kinks and fetishes. Everyone has a yum. Everyone has a yuk. There is no need to emphasize the yuk. Share what you DO like and celebrate those things. 
At the same time, I agree it’s fair to inquire as to what you are potentially paying for. Someone’s body should have features important to you since you’re paying for the privilege of access to said body. Quite all right to pass on a provider that doesn’t align with your range of ‘yums’.
Remember, a lot of this is based on culture, traditions, and personal preferences. Circumcised men here in the US, by and large, did not choose to be circumcised. In the latter half of the 20th century, it was the default practice based on cultural norms, peer pressure, and claims about health benefits.
Some of the claims have a basis in science, but many of them are exaggerated and a means to justify imposing personal preferences on others and society at large.
Circumcision doesn’t excuse us from teaching our kids good hygiene habits and sex ed. There is no opt-out option for babies. We (society) imposed this on our newborns without their consent. Too bad if you don’t want an altered body as an adult. In my mind, baby circumcision is akin to piercings and tattoos without one’s consent.
To Jews, it’s a sacred practice of expressing outwardly with one’s body that he is set apart and chosen. That’s beautiful, but it still decides something permanently for the kid without his consent, whether he wants to practice his family’s tradition or not. It kind of defeats the set-apart symbolism purpose when the vast majority of gentiles in a given place are circumcised.

You seem to be completely misunderstanding my point.
I said we shouldn't judge others for their turn on's. I equally believe you shouldn't be judged for your turn OFFS
We go around this wheel all the time here. Only you have ownership of your sexual preferences. As long as you're not a child molester or a rapist it's no one's place to judge what you like ( or dislike ) or  make negative comments about one's right to express said likes (or dislikes)

In one single post, you stated how one shouldn’t judge others…. 

Then you did exactly that… judged others.
You not liking an uncut penis, doesn’t make that uncut penis “gross”. You just don’t like it. 
 

Those are purposeful acts and adaptations that someone chose to perform and implement: 
One’s uncircumcised penis is something that they are born with. And one’s circumcised penis is something that they more than likely did not choose. 
This is why using pejorative terms to the latter is considered offensive and inappropriate. 
You don’t have to like it, but you don’t need to verbally describe your disgust for it in an insulting manner either. 
 

In the words of my father…..
 
"Son, two wrongs don’t make a right".

“Mutilated” strikes me as unnecessary as “gross” 🤷🏻‍♂️

Thank you for saying that. As someone who grew up too embarrassed to shower with the other boys in gym class because I was uncut, I appreciate you calling out the inappropriate word choice. If they don't like an intact penis, that's their prerogative but there's no need for call it 'gross' simply because it hasn't been mutilated. It took a long time but I'm actually proud of the fact that I'm uncut and a lot of the guys I have fooled around with find it a turn on. 

In fact, I am surprised that the topic has not devolved to that of thread count investment considerations given prospective sperm counts deposited on bed sheets relative to the variable of booking deposits. 

Example solicitation:

“Hi Mr. Provider, this is Mr. Client, I saw your profile on RM 🤩 (attach photo of myself). It looks like you are in town this weekend and I am interested in setting up some time to hang out with ya on Saturday or Sunday afternoon. 
 
I’m 46, 5’11”, 200 lbs, bald, fit, muscular. I like to be submissive with big men. I’m a pleaser, so am pretty open to you being in control and doing whatever gets you off. I’m also affectionate. 
 
I think your photos are amazing. If this sounds like a good match, please let me know if you’re up for an outcall to my place at (provide Goggle map link to my location). I’ll cover the ride and your travel time. What’s your rate for an hour?”
 
😘
 
I’m open to feedback. This tends to work.

I do it because I want the provider to get a clear picture of what he’s working with. If I was a provider, it’s definitely what I’d want to know. 

I may not do that in the initial text but I definitely provide my stats and send a photo. As I say to them "I know a lot about you so it's only fair for you to know some about me." I think it's only fair, that way it eliminates an element of Surprise! Surprise!

Reason for this is: in the states at least, you simply can’t get use the word “deposit” on RentMen. They will delete it just like they deleted rates. I can’t say deposit in my ad, but I’ve been able to use other code that is quite clear on the deposit asked.
Also, I checked your search results: good idea however, that is only pulling up results within the area you are in, what city are you looking in? 
 
I’ll tell you why (I know that’s probably not what you want). Because one particular person went from stating an opinion, to then recommending others not to do something. That’s where the problem lies. Agree or disagree, but don’t start telling others not to do it and then further reference other guys who don’t. Other guys/escorts aren’t going to pay my bills or my hotel/gas if a client cancels. Period. So, nobody should talk about what other escorts do and don’t do. It’s not about that. 
 
In addition, each time it comes up…someone adds “but I won’t do it”. So then the discussion continues. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the back and forth. It takes a bit of communication to come to an understanding, and also getting to the nitty gritty behind why some do and don’t. I think this is probably the most in depth it’s ever gotten. 
 
I seen one escort in his ad claim, “I don’t accept pay app payments, the federal government is watching our transactions.” Which is not true. I don’t think it should have ever even been approved, but…once again people have their reasonings. I know many clients, even the non-deposit guys, will still use a pay app to settle up. 
Now, with everything said: it does make me question if I want to continue deposits…however at this particular point in my life, I’m not sure its the right timing to get rid of it, even with business being slow. Maybe at some point this year when I have a full time in-call back up and running, and most of my bookings are within 30 minutes away.
 
But even still: I service a sketchy market. Kansas City. The vast majority of guys offering to pay here: want us to host. And often on short notice. Even outcalls are same day requested, and it’s just too much trying to do those without deposits. Imagine how stupid and foolish it feels to leave a friend/family member/event to meet a client and he flakes? Do that a few times, over the course of a few months and you hopefully learn to do deposits. 
However it’s not just here, just about every city in the country has its flakes…persistent flakes who are dismissive, and then come around 6 months later like it never happened. Like wait: aren’t you the same MoFo who said “nevermind/you’ll pass/no I don’t do deposits” and now you’re trying to get with me again? If I’m such a scammer, or my rates are too high, why are you still trying to get in contact with me 🤔 
But as stated: I’ve been in the industry without deposits, longer than I have been with. The only difference is, I’m not going extra miles hoping the client is real; nor taking last minute or advanced bookings at a loss.