Jamie21

They’re just doing what the airlines do…lure you in with a fare and then once you’re committed the extra ‘travel cost’ charges come in and because you’re already imagining him servicing you the extra cost is agreed to. One escort I know is a master at upselling extra services when he arrives at the clients place. He tells me that he doesn’t get many repeat clients…I wonder why! It’s not my modus operandi. I have a premium for outcalls depending on travel time and it’s all agreed beforehand. It covers my expense for travel but also the extra time it takes to get to an outcall. I never ask the client to book my Uber! On the other hand, if my client asks me to travel to his private Caribbean island for a weekend session then I would ask him to book the private jet because I don’t think Uber has moved into air travel yet?

Maybe you caught him on a bad day. I have provider friends who party then go to see a client. It’s not the best state to be working. It seems like he was trying but was really just going through the motions, like on autopilot. Doing sex work is demanding, and you need to be extremely mentally strong to make it successful. I’m lucky, I have support and I don’t get involved in any of those drug party scenes which are alluring but ultimately will destroy you. Maybe he is just now realising that and I hope he has some good people around him to support him. I don’t think you could have done any different during the session but I would say that you might have made a better selection before booking him. Ask a few questions of him before you book, try not to be influenced too much by the body (not easy!) because ultimately it’s his personality and demeanour that will influence how well the meeting goes.

Yes, I have clients who cum easily especially during massage. It means they struggle to relax and enjoy the massage. What I do is help them cum immediately before we start (I suck them or wank then off) then they can relax at the start of the massage and build up again to a happy ending. So it’s a happy start and end. Another client of mine just enjoys the massage and seems to cum randomly throughout and he’s not bothered by it so nor am I. When he turns over there’s a pool of cum where his cock was on the table. I’ve no idea how he manages to achieve it (he’s youngish, I guess that helps!). I do play with his balls and rim him etc during the massage but I don’t touch his cock while he’s laying on his front. He says it’s the pressure of him laying on it and my touch that prompts him to cum. However more usual is for the client to tell me if they are getting close and then I back off. I’m experienced at spotting the signs anyway but if they’re getting close I ask them to say “7”. On a scale of 1 to 10 where 10 is you’re cuming and 1 is you’re soft, 7 is the point just before no return so to speak :-). All guys understand that. So if they say 7 I go somewhere else on their body and bring things back to 6….

I’m English, sarcasm is second nature.

3 situations: Bad spelling. ‘Your’ when they mean you’re, ‘of’ when they mean have…that sort of thing. If your going to do that you should of asked someone else. After the conversation transitions from discussion about the meeting to sexting …then I know 100% he’s a Timewaster. If the opening message is a dick pic or one word such as “massage”, or “pic” or “fuck”.

Yes many of my clients like an afternoon booking. It can go in their work diary as a work meeting (networking / training) and then doesn’t interrupt their evening at home with the wife 🙂. First thing in the morning is also a thing; it sets the day up well. I really don’t mind what time of day they want as long as there’s decent notice and then I can make sure I’m ready to give a great service.

Good tops know how to bottom.

Yes, I’m a provider. I think he misunderstood. But the crucial point is that I don’t guarantee or promise (or charge for) more than a naked happy ending massage in my sensual massage service. If more happens (as in sex) then it’s because it feels right for both my client and me. That way there’s no pressures or expectations. My clients get a great sensual massage, they get release, they can it’s erotic and relaxing.

I agree. I participate but I do wonder how useful it is. I guess it’s an insight into what clients are thinking about but it’s probably not very representative. It can be amusing to engage but I agree there are plenty of people just wanting validation of things they’ve already made their mind up about. There’s also some with misconceptions and prejudices about providers that are revealed in their questions. I participate in a forum on a website that’s created by providers for providers (only providers can join) and I find that much more useful to connect with other providers and find out helpful information.

Oh I’m over delivering then 🙂

Same. Everyone has different interpretations of these massages and what they include but I think a minimum requirement of both sensual and erotic is that the masseur is naked for at least part of the massage. Their client will be so it’s only reasonable for the masseur to at least be naked.

It’s false advertising if you promote yourself as a sensual or erotic masseur and don’t even get naked. What I’m selling is a sensual massage, that means I’m naked and so are you. And you’re welcome to interact with me as much or as little as you like.

I’m seeing anyone from anywhere lol.

Just ask. I charge by the inch. If you pay for 7 inches then you get the 8th inch free.

Well you did ask!

Just give your friend the money to pay the escort? Or have I missed something.

Before considering the payment methods I think you may have overlooked that your provider will almost certainly only want to deal directly with the client. I occasionally get guys asking me to service their wives or boyfriends etc and this is fine but the booking and contact has to come from the said wife or boyfriend. There’s no way I’m doing a surprise visit or one where the client is not fully aware and in agreement to the arrangements. I suspect other providers have a similar approach.

I’m going to Mykonos in September. It’s less windy. Still expensive, still very warm and still very gay. Great place but there are better Greek islands I think. It depends what you want. I’m just looking for nudity, sun and yes possibly some cock. But it’s definitely a holiday so I’ll mainly be relaxing with a good book!

One of the personal trainers at my gym knows what I do (I’ve also been to a couple of sex parties with him…off the clock) but he’s never discussed anything with me while I’m there working out and I’ve never interrupted him whilst he’s with his clients there. We’ve had a coffee in the bar area a few times though. I appreciate his discretion and he appreciates mine. That’s what makes me comfortable with him knowing my work. I’m fairly sure some of the gym goers are aware of what I do, there’s links to my website from my hookup apps etc but no one has ever approached me there in person about a booking thankfully. I’d feel uncomfortable discussing it at the gym.

I go to the gym to workout and relax. I really don’t want to be discussing business there. If my Scruff app is active I guess a potential client could see me and contact me via that but I don’t check it very often so it could be weeks later I see his message: “I’m on the bench, come and spot for me!” and it’s rather too late then isn’t it? When I’m working out I’m not giving off vibes that say come and have a chat about a session. I just go there, do my workout and then leave. All that standing around chatting I see some guys doing is a waste of time. I have seen a lot of flirting going on though. And then a few times I see them in the steam room getting to know each other better lol. I guess those chat up lines about supplements, routines and “can I feel your biceps” are effective. Doesn’t work with me though! I’m oblivious to people coming on to me unless they’re blatantly waving their cock in my face. So I guess if you see me in the gym and do want to approach me you’ll have to get your cock out and that might offend some of the clientele.

Yes agree. I’ve a client who books me and always changes the time slightly. It goes like this: Him: “Hi J are you available tomorrow afternoon?” Me: yes I am, say 3pm?” Him “3:30 please”. It happens every time. If I respond with a vague suggestion like “yes anytime between 2 and 6” he’ll ask for 6:30. If I reply with “yes I’m free all afternoon” he’ll say “ok anytime is fine” and then when I suggest a time he’ll move it by half hour. I think it’s his way of saying that he’s in charge and can decide when I’m servicing him. In all other respects the session is fine but his booking time game is amusing. I’m fine with the power play thing; it’s my cock that’s big not my ego 😂

Daytime works best for me. There’s something about fucking at say 2pm in the afternoon when everyone else is working at a desk in an office and I’m working naked in a bed (or bent over the kitchen table) that gets me going. Otherwise anytime is fine, if I’ve enough notice an early morning appointment is ok. The main issue with timing is my schedule fitting in with the client’s requirements. I find people tend to book last minute assuming I’m available and often I have to disappoint because I’m otherwise busy.

So easy to be judgemental, I think we can all slip into those thoughts and make them public in fora like this. As long as he’s not doing anything unlawful it’s his body and life and up to him what he does with it. I wouldn’t take steroids because I’m too worried about side effects but I’d be glad of the body image benefits! Oh well…I just spend more time at the gym. I’m selling an experience and my body is part of that. Another part is my massage skills. I spend time practicing massage and learning what works etc and spending time on my body (at the gym or waxing etc) is just the same thing. It’s all part of the product on sale.

Yes, this is relatable. I’ve had clients tell me they were inspired to explore their sex life more after hiring me which is really great to hear. One guy said he felt much more confident to try different things and enjoy himself without feeling anxious. I think we are all influenced in subtle ways by the people we meet whether we realise it or not. So be careful about the company you keep!

I don’t travel. No need, London is busy enough.