Jamie21

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I send nude pics if a client asks. There’s lots of nudes on my website too. But I don’t include my face. If this guy is selling a sexual service (which a sensual massage is because often the masseur is naked and will allow touch) then I think he ought to provide pictures of himself naked. They don’t need to show him hard or include his face, just a nice naked picture because effectively his body is part of the service with a sensual massage. His reticence may be due to him being new, or perhaps because he’s aware there’s a lot of ‘picture collectors’ who have no intention of booking. They waste your time by asking for ever more explicit pictures.

Don’t mention this in the ‘law enforcement’ thread!!! 😱

Tell me you’re from England without telling me you’re from England: Starting a sentence with ‘mind you…’ 😂. That’s so English. My dear old thing you are quite correct, it’s perfectly legal to sell or buy sex here, within certain parameters - for example it’s not legal to do so from the street or in a brothel but then neither of those are my cup of tea…I prefer to work independently in a more salubrious environment for discerning gentlemen of good character.

The endless debate about rates 🙄. “I won’t pay more than x”….”he’s asking too much” etc. If a guy wants to work at a rate of $500 per hour that’s entirely his prerogative. You don’t have to pay it, no one is forcing you. Just move on to someone who’s charging what you’re prepared to pay. His price is his estimation of his worth, not yours.

Yep, but if the event is mostly celebs of people with a reputation to lose those people don’t get asked to sign an NDA. It’s the guys that are there working who sign.

I guess the provider could have got himself delivered by Amazon.

It’s a deterrent and a signal. Plus, an anonymous leaker wouldn’t be believed in the same way that someone identifiable leaking the identity of a party goer would. The NDA deters such an on the record disclosure, because these things are usually done for a payout in the press and the press would be reluctant to publish an anonymous leaker. Even if they did the name would come out eventually.

He should have told you it would be a requirement. But the reason he’s doing it is because it means you’re not a time waster. I’ve done out calls where the client is all keen and seems legitimate but when you arrive he goes silent and you don’t have the correct address (or it’s incomplete). You’re left with no booking, you’ve travelled and wasted your time. Now I’m much more careful with out calls. I never bother with the Uber request (because I prefer to be in charge of the travel) but I will ask for a deposit if he seems flaky and I’ll use google maps to research the location (and do other checks). I’ll include the cost of travel in my overall rate. Clients don’t like surprise extra charges, and I agree with them. It’s unprofessional to throw in extra charges late in the day.

I used to combine sex work with a demanding full time job, plus other commitments. It was too much and I had to decide what to let go. I liked the regular income from my conventional job (which was extremely well paid) and I liked the excitement and variety of the sex work. I wanted it all but it was so challenging and I was ending up short changing both careers. I didn’t like having to compromise on either job but events resolved things for me. Covid happened, I had the opportunity to leave the conventional job with a lump sum, and it enabled me to focus fully on sex work (including making films). I now mix the sex work with other work that is very flexible and I can enjoy the variety and independence that this model brings. If you’re going to do sex work properly you’ll find it’s extremely difficult to do that around a 9 to 5 job. You need to be extremely flexible with time when doing sex work otherwise you’ll find yourself turning away a lot of business and that will be irritating at best. Now I can be available at the times clients want (within reason) and fit my other work around that. I’d say once you’ve built up regular clients you’ll probably need to carve out more time from your 9 to 5. Of course these days with flexible work hours and WFH it is a bit easier to fit other commitments around that.

For an escort session I’ll never promise a client he’ll be bred, it’s too much pressure. If I’m bottoming then I don’t have any problem with the client breeding me though. On the subject of the nudes and texting, I’m fine to share nudes but one does get picture collectors. A line gets drawn once it becomes evident he has no intention of booking.

I’d say it’s probably more to find collab partners than subscribers. Plus he may pick up the occasional client who wants to hire him to model for them.

I absolutely love rimming (clean holes only). I notice though that after rimming some clients they’re not keen to kiss. They like being rimmed but kissing after my tongue has been in their hole is a step too far for them. Everyone has their limits and it’s important to understand and respect them.

I use that and get it free at my sexual health clinic. I use it if I’ve been at a sex party or club and had multiple partners there.

I think around 500 would be statistically significant. Report back when you have reached that number. I look forward to hearing the results. Next Thursday.

Those 4 letter Anglo Saxon words are so descriptive and pithy aren’t they!!

One guys pleasure points won’t be the same as another. Cocks can come in all shapes and sizes - cut, uncut, tight foreskins, big, small, micro….The same thing that gets you off doesn’t work on everyone. It’s very nuanced. Ok some provider tricks here 😉: if you’re working his cock and it doesn’t seem to be getting him close - what you do is stop, whisper in his ear ‘I love to see guys wank themselves’ < an aside….apologies to non Brits for using ‘wank’…do I need to translate? > and then watch him wank himself. Watch both hands (guys will have points of their body they touch that get them there). What he will show you, without realising it, is his technique to get himself off. You can then take over and copy him or even let him carry on whilst helping. Works every time 🙂. Same applies to yourself, some clients love to watch me get myself off especially if the load is on their face. Of course I know the best way to do it so I let them get me close (if they’re able to) and then finish the job myself while they expectantly wait for the cum on their face. I usually do that before finishing the client off. I was interested that @Simon Suraciprefers to cum after the client. Of course I prefer most not to cum atall because it’s the client’s session but if the client wants it then I do cum and it really doesn’t matter to me if that is before the client. I’ve a few that like the ‘cum on my face thing’ and then kiss. If I tried that after they’ve cum they’d no way want to kiss 😂. If you prefer to finish the guy yourself and you’re not sure the technique on his cock is right watch his breathing and his toes. Breathing gives lots of clues as it gets faster and deeper as he gets close, and as his climax builds his toes will stretch out. When you see them starting to stretch out he’s close…keep going. Free advice from someone who has given thousands of hand jobs 😂

Exactly that. It’s like they think of it as a game and it’s all about who can get one over the other. It’s very transactional. That’s the antithesis of a sensual massage which is all about building intimacy and trust.

I’d never be critical of how a provider chooses to price his service. I have a very strict no discount policy even if clients ask, it’s a ‘no’ and if clients say ‘that’s more than I was expecting or more than I’m used to paying’ I just say ‘good luck’. But I’m fortunate to be in a position to turn down business. Many guys aren’t, or will accept something over nothing because they need to earn. So if those guys choose that policy that’s good for them. It might give some clients the impression that all guys are open to negotiating but that’s not a problem. I don’t mind clients asking just as long as they don’t mind getting a negative response. I think asking for a discount does however make me think of the client differently: those who have booked at full price after having asked for a discount are often the clients who are most difficult.

Hmmm now there’s a question. It might slip in a bit further and tbh sometimes the bottom pushes back so yeah I might end up balls deep.

Average size dick in sex work (for tops or vers top) is 8 inches 😂. I’m average. If you don’t like 8 inches in you I’m fine to just use the first 5 (but there’s no discount sorry).

I’ve been in the same place for 7 years and have seen an increase in business every year (even during Covid). I wouldn't say that I’m especially mainstream in look (I’m over 45 for example). I’ve regulars who come every few months. Some are regular for a while and then disappear, some are once a year kind of regular. I have 3 blocked numbers. This all works fine for me most of the time. I get very few time wasters or no shows.

Humpty Dumpty tells Alice, "When I use a word... it means just what I choose it to mean—neither more nor less". That’s what tantric massage means. So I suggest you ask the masseur to explain what’s included, in simple words. If there’s a lot of references to Lingam, energy, chakras and sacred stuff you might want to ask him to translate it to more plain language. It will include breathing work, massage on and around your genitals and other intimate areas and will most likely be done naked. It doesn’t necessarily include a happy ending…

Ah yes ok, it’s high for therapeutic although I’d say if he’s advertising on Masseurfinder he won’t make any reference to anything sensual anyway. If you pay under £100 for an hour then don’t expect or request anything other than a therapeutic massage.

My advice is find a guy you like, and then ask him to arrange the other provider. It’s a big risk putting two together yourself because then you risk that there’s no chemistry between the two guys you hired and that’s kind of missing the whole point of the exercise. If you find a guy who fits your preference and then you tell him you’d like another guy with whatever attributes/skills/role that you want you can ask him to find a match that he’s also comfortable with. That way you maximise chances the two guys you hire will be aligned and can focus on you. You’ll enjoy their chemistry. I’ve got a selection of guys who I know I work well with and if a client asks me for a group session then I can arrange it all for him. I’ll never accept a booking where the client has chosen the other guy. His style or values might not align with mine and then the whole session will be awkward.